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That's what i wished to think when the males i feel attracted to do not cold approach even when i send some subtle signal do so (i sue to cold approach sometimes )

It's a mind issue definately I got a stunning body but still i felt the most miserable person in the world due to personal reasons. I just focused on survival so i did not give a five about flirting or showing attractive. Curiously i managed to still stick to my gym and diet so i maintain my health and physique and even feeling lonely and desperate shows a over average look. Now i realized i got random approaches by males but i was SO IMMERSED in my pain that I did not noticed them at all plus I WAS NOT EVEN CAPABLE OF LOOKING PEOPLE INTO THEIR EYES. It's scary thing isn't it @Leo Gura Now..in these pandemic era i realized all that i've missed and all that have kept me forward Still...I acknowledge it's a mind thing and i feel unattractive sometimes when i realize i got no social circle or a mega social abilities that would make it all easier

@Valach You got so much work already done!!!! I am still struggling with my no so big circle plus age issues (when all ur female friends are either married w/kids or into long term commitments, and so on.. kinda it's me the one who is out ff any "normal" social circle for my age due to X reasons ofc) Social circle is important Does not matter if they are into enlightenment or no and you are. I know it feels weird when no one around you does not bring up these actualized topics but you can enjoy social interactions swell (OK...I need to moderate my bringing up these topics because random ppl get scared :DD). SO! good luck with any option u decide. Sure all of them will bring u advance

@Leo Gura Definately! I support working on urself/ur career/ your schedules/ life issues more consistently during these times for when the right times arrives. It's a plus getting all that kinda sorted out before commiting to a new relationship or just enrolling in picking up. If it's of any help sometime in the past I was especially good at focusing on myself and my goals and keeping away all social distractions. I made way a lot of those times giving up social life when all of my age invested in socializing...but it got a cost that i am currently paying and nowadays i am struggling with. I feel I have to "rush"...that time goes by and i am missing a lot in my life, but lesson learnt...a pandemic showed me ALL the work i should have done and that i got ahead to schedule...but later on, when this all it's kinda gone. Btw..masks can look nice on some ppl

I wish we could go out an approach 1000x times or interact ppl face to face. Female here. I am way too lazy to show off a decent online profile. I 'd definitely list the requirements i ask for in a male and also which i am to offer...that's all I still don't get the point of trusting a profile by it's manipulated pictures or copied quotes. Boring stuff!!! Btw my IG profile is way too intelectual for 99.9% of my followers. My aim is to socialize via IG and get to know all sort of ppl from different backgrounds. Being so into these personal growth stuff journey I still questions how is it that i still got followers that "have not already been scared of my content..or bored" My mantra is that the person or persons to engage with me should feel some curiosity of support this stuff so i skip showing a more random or average fit-hottie-insta girl struggle. You see...we all got excuses!

I thought it was not about sex as we know it but more of an energy spiritual practice. Sometime ago someone recommended reading OSHO'book of secrets. Too dense.

me too

@Lyubov Same here! Really glad to have this thread in here

@Leo Gura Oookey, no witchery for the moment. I'll try hard to be a normal person

@Leo Gura Exactly..they seem to get scared if you show these interests soon enough. Sometimes I feel they assume I am the random gym/fitness girl to stare at..but then after bringing up some deeper topics attraction it's gone Have to learn to calibrate, definitely. Btw i'd probably get bored or finally unnatracted to a man who cannot understand this.

@Axiomatic No I definately support all his requirements if i was a male Btw..just seen the three is over now Good luck Leo..all the best We will keep on with your teachings!

@Ineffable Yes. I agree that we are complete enough but aim for enhancing our potentials. Beauty, health, youth, intelligence and spiritual development are SO powerful! i keep trusting in those but TBH...in spite i keep my ego in watch and try not to look above everyone else who are not into this spiritual stuff..it seems difficult to reach certain levels of completeness when in comes to date/involve in relationships

@Leo Gura Applies with most women I guess but some of us are complicated enough to search for more deeper stuff the they all other requirements for a guy are met. I wish it was more simple

@Applegarden Definately a male who is into these stuff is a HUGE bonus

@Kiko You need to "sell" something lets say

@Kiko I DEFINATELY FEEL WHAT YOU SAY! Applies for me as a female. I am into fitness and have a nice body which until recently i did not realized. Quite over average look with is undeniable. The thing is a have not socialized for MANY YEARS. I got an Intagram account with the aim of meeting ppl with similar hobbies, interests that i barely meet on a daily basis in my town. Also, I aimed it at dating if that was the case with any of the persons. Open way to either socialize/making friends and dates. FAIL. I acknowledge i have not posted almost any pics BECAUSE I NEVER GO OUT PARTYING or take selfies at gym or go on a holiday so frequently. Also, I stay most of my free time at home/gym so there's no way of showing off a bit of ur life...so no pics of it either. Perhaps ppl think "creepy" of my profile...honestly i do not know SO.. My input is that u're situation it is not so uncommon. Seems you must SHOW OFF your life/physique/ material stuff to EVEN texting. I dated a guy who wanted to see me in person.Below average guy, sorry. Not so intellectual, no career, no physique..but seemed a good guy. Never heard of him again. Come on..

I definitely would ask for the same requirements if I were a male. SO SO difficult.

@Axiomatic I did not realized that IG was for dating till recently but being a female who does not post any personal pics i got it quite difficult Many women i know trick their pics and are too way below average looks. I am into fitness, intellectual, more into these spiritual stuff and i fell i do not match the crown. Men do not value those attributes and women think i am too "nerdy" or something. TBH i do not understand ppl or if it's me the one that does not fit at all. I've considered match or meetic but my "ego" claims that i should be worthy enough to get some dates without those apps...

@Recursoinominado You're also right Dunno I never had any interest in dating thb...then realized that i has to work on my personal struggles first But yes, know that I realized it all seems weird this pressure i put on myself to get to know ppl socialize, meet guys, etc

@Kalki Avatar Thank you! Ok. LOA is not magic and I really don't give much credit to it even I rationalize it's "charm" but hey HOW TO READ THOSE ENERGIES? any inputs? Well. NO TERRACES, NO BARS, NO RESTAURANTS here during our 2nd lockdown In my region gym is still open. most guys: .- Too young for my age .- Taken which still cannot keep their eyes from me from time to time..it'd very annoying After 15+ gym going regularly to the gym..i even started to watch tutorials about "how to approach PPL at the gym" :DD Help...

I appreciate all these threads reading dating in these times Here in my country we're undergoing 2nd lockdown I have the very same experience you relate with Tinder. I've heard of eHarmony. Here is not so popular but the good review i read about it was from a US user.

Tonks for your tips! Well, female here. Regarding instagram...and due to my lack of social network/friends..i created a kinda personal/theme oriented account in which i post stuff related to my hobbies (fitness, self growth, music) and barely ever post anything personal. I got only a few pics of me and they are not "influencer" type or pics but natural pics of myself on a holiday. Have to say I have a nice body and u consider myself over average looks but i hate that many women with below average looks trick their pics to look much better (plus selfies, sexy clothes, some skin..etc makes its charm)...I have always said that i WOULD NEVER PERFOM IN THAT CIRCUS because without any of that stuff AND IN REAL PERSON i play my cards and look very well. SO...no results with IG. I feel u need to sell yourself there to get any dates..it's tiring. I tried LOA to manifest my "dream" date, with all assets that i'd look for in a man (type of relationship, personality, physique, spiritual path..). It helps to plan your strategy and i prefer cold approach but this pandemia thing..dunno

Glad to read this new thread Same here in my country. We are currently undergoing a 2nd lockdown and clubs and all social activities are banned. Also, in some regions gyms closed (one of my main interests and hobbies..) I work full time too. I dislike tinder and bumble and all that stuff. I like to meet ppl in person. I think that social networks minimize my potential (and any other persons'). I like to see and feel people's way to approach, to talk, to move...come one IS ALL THAT GONE? I appreciate any inputs. Full time stressful job plus no social interaction plus feeling hopeless about dating in these times it's been a nightmare!

(lockdown update)... Gyms to be closed this week in my hometown and probably we'll all get locked down at home again in a few days. I was using this hobbie to get into socializing/meeting ppl/ approaching.. any tips on how to make the best of these last days of training? feels guys are so crazy with this all that stare at me because i'm one of the few females there BUT one new guy at gym is impressibly smart and polite and so attractive! will like to approach and interact with him but these last weeks it felt so weird and also i guess it'd be of no use if i never see hi again due to the lockdown... any tips?

Good evening to all actualizers.. Due to the global situation we are facing but also because of the importance of this issue to many of us I would like to open this thread. Hard times for those of us who previously got it difficult in this area of life Coments about how you are dealing with it, tips on new ways of dating or relating or how to stop obsessing over these "pause" in social interactions will be very welcome. Stay safe!