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@ivory Yes..but there're no groups in my area yet @aurum not a club person here either, more into sports and intelectual stuff. Perhaps my biggest issue is the lack of friends

@ivory I guess u need to pay for the subscription fee, but it's an option I got no many friends and most of them are couples w/children..

@dflores321 deep thinkers or analyzers u mean?

@Thestarguitarist14 Definately! it's so devastating atmosphere. Here in my country we are officially under a new lockdown from tonight till may..so it's been harsh news i guess. That nature trips look so good and i wish i could join some like that over here!@everythingisnothing Yes, online life/ activities are getting more and more common these days but hey i miss REAL human contact Good point about u making the best of your time focusing in ur studies. I wish i had something like that nowadays in my life but work is %100 Regarding social life, gym and work mates it's all i got these days.

@Preety_India Totally I want a man who seeks for high valued woman

@lucassgontijjo i got the point alpha energy

also, i realized guys a put on a pedestal or that i considered to be high valued ended up with girls below average for my very own standards (career, physique, intelligence..)

i have to admit i used to overthink too and it's a waster of time if u got a nice body tbh u can play with it and shock everybody who they see that u do not need to show off and that caring for ur physique it's a matter of self love and not to seek validation from others that's shocks ppl

@ivory i appreciate that! but it's like come on..i'm 31! i got constant struggle thinking i should have been in a long term relationship or dating or even married by this age that i end up doing just nothing @Parththakkar12 good tip and also i see no problem exploring your feminine side. Even if u got a stunning body that turns heads i'd definitely dress feminine/sexy or combine days where u dress more conservative and days more "sexy". Do not feel bad about dressing sexy or showing off ur body a bit if u show a strong personality

@ivory i considered paying the subscription for opening a new group in my area seemed not so popular in here but perhaps nowadays got more active thx!

@ivory also i feel ashamed to approach strangers because of my constant thinking that by this age they may be taken

@ivory i can "fake" or risk to break the ice and i've actually done as a way of testing myself but does not feel right. Perhaps it's my ego or need for validation that i expect guys to approach me

@soos_mite_ah31 female here.. Trust me you are still pretty young! i wish i had had your very same questioning when i was your age. I just DID NOT CARE AT ALL if I was approached or not. Well..at that time and due to personal issues with my family i was not in the mood for dating or approaching anyone. Later on I got some self hate issues because i was a perfectionist and i had to get my whole life sorted out before dating anyone (career, family issues..etc). Fail. I recently realized that during all this time in spite of being (lets say an 8/10 o over average looks and career success) i was not approached because of my constant obsession with me being the best..in all those areas i felt confident enough APART FROM SOCIAL INTERACTIONS. I wish i realized all this earlier tbh. Looks matter BUT if u lack interest in social interactions or don't show any openness is a fail. I guess this is not your case, but i just felt the need to share. Nowadays my only social circles where i can interact guys is the gym. I can handle social and job interactions well but at this age i feel ashamed of approaching guys even having a nice physique. It's just that doesn't feel right or something. I WANNA BE APPROACHED I just get some guys looking at me at gym but that's all. Also...THIS COVID thing is getting me mad. I wanna fix this issue in my life asap and seems so difficult!

I really appreciate this thread and your posts too! well, in these lockdown times...it's get SO complicated Any tips on that?

Huge list!! \m/

In my case it's kinda i got no satisfaction with these interactions in most cases. Also, regarding dating in another big struggle. I observe the average woman behaviour and i try not to judge..i understand...but i cannot be like that.

Be welcome I can relate to that in some areas. Most of my life I've felt i do not fit in at all. I got some interests not shared by most of my circle. I just fake i enjoy their chit chats and all but i normally enjoy some more deep conversations. Also, I am a very disciplined/ perfectionist person and i have to keep my ego in watch not to go too far with my perfectionism. I love exercising, also "extreme"/ metal bands, deep conversations, meditation and all this issues that keep us supporting actualized.org. Don't know. I acknowledged recently it's no use resisting if you wanna survive in this society but yeah..it's a pain relating or socializing in a sleep society.

Good one But in these pandemic times...how to get to know NEW people or to get any social interaction at all¿?

@RoerAmit I feel that but hey..i agree that it's all about layers of conditioning. I push myself to interact in as many situations as possible because I lack of social circles atm..and it gets better. Also, I think we all who are on this and question about these topics covered in actualized.org makes a difference. You will see!

@Thestarguitarist14 Spain @aurum thank you!

I am a female In these pandemic times I've only kept my gym routine and it's the only place i can get ppl to interact with. Any other activities u could think of? HOW TO BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE? In my case i feel i am way too late in life

Totally but.. HOW TO BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE? In my case i feel i am way too late in life

pd. note my goal is just to start dating and gaining some confidence..not a sex experiment

I look quite OK for my age and emotional background..I notice males looking at me at gym and some time in the past my only goal there was to makes friends and socialize because I was struggling with serious emotional issues and dating was not a priority. Will try to do something..

Hi! I dated a guy last saturday for a coffee too and I know of that feeling after a long time. Focus on getting it easy and smile a lot It helps Btw I love to hear about you meeting her at the mall. I would like to "master" the cold approach being a female but it seems so weird good luck