ShardMare

We crave women, sex all the time. But after we get it there are feelings of anxiety and depression. Is it just simple neurology? This is how our brain and dopamine works? So should we use sex just for making children? This is a simple question but I masturbate really rarely but its always the same cycle. Its a craving and after its done the mood drops a lot.

@ted73104 thank you but what do you mean these things wont kill me? @manuel bon love to you and your family as well. This is a weird topic for me because i think there isnt much resources for how to deal with this or how to think about this. @Yimpa its true but i think it wont bring help for a lower conscious human. Its like an enlightened person saying something to an average human

For example theres a 16 year old stage orange guy. He has friends, he plays in a football team, plays video games, has a girlfriend, watches tiktok, doesnt study, watches porn. He feels happy in life. Maybe some of us would say he could do this and this. For example teens who watch Hamza Ahmed would say dont watch porn, no tiktok, get high quality friends, make a business etc. But is the 16year old guy good? His consciousness is evolving, embodying a level. Thats what matters? If you feel happy that says ur on right track no? If your suffering then go back or go on to the next level? Im not saying big moves like from orange to green but like 1 step f.e. try medktatjon or do this or that

@An young being idk its weird. Its like the question of giving sugar to a kid. Its not good for his health but psychologically he is improving. What do you think? Sometimes i thought to myself why dont spiritual or enlightened people teach more and so on but after all im like the world is fine. This is how people work Same with spirituality. How does not everybody does it? Or have even a single clue it exist? This is just how people work

@Husseinisdoingfine yes ive read the post but you can still go to a party anywhere else. So whats the actual thing that keeps you from going to partys?

What stops you from not dating now and going to parties? Can you do a masters degree in an other college? Can you find a peer to go to the parties with? Are you scared of rejection when dating or making new friends?

You dont have to take it forever. Usually its a few years than you slowly taking it off. Its like if you have any other illness medication will help you. Antidepressants are not that deep just constantly talk with your psychiatrist and if you have any side effects then tell him. Just keep on doing therapy and self-help. Its the little nuggets and aha-moments that will make you feel better

There are so many traps here. This work is meant to be done for years and years. Philosophy and spirituality is bad for average people. Its just makes you question a lot of things, and if you dont have a disciplined mind then you are f*cked. The more i watch Leo the more i realize how stupid i am and how easy it is to deceive myself. I dont know nothing. Im 17, i should be doing material things, do "stupid" things and fix my material life. I shouldnt do philosophy. In the way i do it its not healthy and its just masturbation. I think spirituality, philosophy should be done after 40, but i may be wrong. What is your opinion?

I think self-help, doing psychology and philosophy is making me depressed sometimes. Everyday there are new videos of self-help youtubers. I mean whats the new idea? F.e. Infinite waters always releases new videos almost everyday. Other youtubers say you gotta do this and that to be happy. Read more books etc. I think most people should just eat healthy, sleep well, work, enjoy life, read books sometimes, be grateful. I have a journal, there are lots of ideas there. I read couple ones but what ive realized is that sometimes i should just go watch youtube or watch sport or go bycicle. A mind cant even memorize a lot of thoughts, u should just understand them and generally ur life will improve just a little. What do you think?

I dont understand it. Can i talk with somebody in private?

How can i adress this problem above?

Already lot of people gave advice. The things is you try and if you try you already helped him. There arent lot of parents who do this

@integral ive watched the episodes back in the day but still didnt understand it. Theres a question. An answer or thoughts arrives. How can i know its not just me building things up? How do i know im not just speculating? I ask more questions but my mind always give answers. What else can it do?

Or an app that you use for fixing your thinking, helping your mental health. I want to use worksheets can somebody link a good one?

How bad is alcohol? Im on school trip and it left me to be more curious how does a person should react to alcohol. How many bad effects are there, is it worth it in the end, should i drink with my friend? How does it affect mental health? How should i try out alcohol, what should i drink first to get a taste? What are your experiences with alcohol?

There are thousands of mistakes a person can do when thinking, doing philosophy. There are traps i do daily which im not even aware. You too make mistakes. Is there a practical list somewhere mentioning the most common mistakes? What do you think?

What happens if you constantly accept suffering? And u follow it

@Someone here i see, thank you. I go to psychiatry regularly. So u shouldnt accept depression, accept suffering fully? Isnt that the good thing to do?

@ivankiss I dont get what you mean. There are lots of ways i can interpret that. @Someone here If i know you well, u had been diagnosed with depression. Whats your experience with accepting suffering?

@LfcCharlie4 imo Most people are fine. They are not depressed. Yes lots of them do these stuff but they are not depressed. There would be so much more people diagnosed with depression and committing suicide. Depression is not caused by these things but rather add up over. Its weird to me how some people in self-help say that average persons life is worse. Or something around that. F.e. Hamza a self help youtuber always represents the average person as Jeffrey. Sometimes(or most of the times) he represents it with a depressed person. While most people are fine u know, no?

Its about understanding stuff. Something will stick in ur brain. Even from 100% lets say 10%. I just skim through stuff, think about what i need f.e. idea, whats important from idea then im done. I have bad memory but i bet everybody forgets most of the ideas read from the book. Thinking for yourself, contemplation imo just makes better connections in ur brain. But ultimately the good stuff is u feed ur unconscious. The more u learn, the more it will stick im ur brain(even if its few ideas)

Feel free to describe it in any kind of way. How does it feel? How do you feel in a day? How it feels when you laugh? It feels good but how can you explain it more? How do you feel while you socialize? How do you feel when its christmas? These are just few questions or examples

@Lila9 yes i agree. Depression means a lot of things, and lots of things can cause it. For me personally i think its caused by bad brain chemistry. Other things play a role of course and i got things i know in order. Ive gone to psychologist for months and realized its not important for me. Ive been on fluoxetine it helps a little bit but i do think theres a better one for my situation

@Lila9 im not that depressed im feeling good, i still experience some levels of depression. I think i should see more colourful, have more excitement. Also i think for me depression means not enough neurotransmitters in the brain. Being more extrovert, socializing more easily.

@John Paul @Someone here i dont think so. Its not big. I mean all of those things getting a hobby or getting a gf etc etc. not that big @Cathal im openminded but i think i shouldnt do this. I cant just let go, im not on that level. @Richard Purdy yes i like that idea. Through few months it was easier to cope while using this idea. I should feel this feeling but overtime i should change. I shouldnt be depressed for a long time, no?