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It actually takes months to accurately pin yourself down. And you still have to study it even if you have already read something / watched a few videos.

https://youtu.be/OdDF-ocuChk This is good. But it would be best if you went to a 10 day goenka retreat since the technique takes a while to learn. But you can learn it yourself (this video + Goenka's videos on YT).

When I do lots of concentration work I learn 10 x as fast. I also find it very easy to manifest what I want. Basically any technique will upgrade your brain. The most important thing is to stick to one technique whether it's a simple concentration technique like breath counting or something better like body scanning (Vipassana but it also trains concentration) or something else. Stick to one technique, meditate for 1 - 3 hours a day and go on a retreat once in a while. You will be many times smarter than you were before. Another thing - I'd stay away from techniques like do nothing until you have enough experience with a more basic one.

Well, there's nothing you can (or should) do about how she dresses.

Nice to know it didn't have anything to do with you. Hope it won't negatively affect your self esteem / sex goals.

You can do progressive overload Like if game on a 5/10 is not hard for you then focus on those for a few weeks then move on to 6/10 then 7/10 then 8/10 etc. The upside is that if you blow the sets you don't care about it won't cause as much anxiety therefore you'll learn more in the long run than if you just jumped to the hottest women right away. Edit: tbh hot girls are often way easier to talk to since they're used to guys being afraid of them therefore they're pleasantly surprised when you just don't care.

I remember getting into a very emotionally damaging relationship affected me in a similiar way for like 1 or 2 years afterwards. If his situation is similiar then he has to realise why he is acting the way he is acting.

Well since you can't really talk to him, it would be pretty hard to help him. You said something changed during puberty - I bet something significant / traumatic happened to him & which he hasn't told anybody about - maybe bullying. Do you think that's possible?

You could do some concentration work to supercharge your business while preparing you for true spirituality.

I'm in a non American culture and it still fits pretty well.

I'm going to contemplate that. What does understanding have to do with the state you get while contemplating? You said that understanding feels slippery and mysterious, the contemplative state I'm talking about does too.

For those of you who have had an experience where you felt like you were downloading insights: That is how understanding feels like.

What Leo said about building a portfolio + getting a job, so you can move out. You can go stock shelves at walmart for 8 hours a day and then work on your business for 4 - 8 hours. You will have to get rid off your hobies and plan out your meals so that you dont spend too much time eating but once your business takes off you can do whatever you want and you will be in a better position than people who managed to get their degree. If you dont have the energy to work after your day job for so long, then take modafinil every morning 4 days a week, until your business starts generating enough money for you to be free. Btw if you work on your business while living on your own, you will a) be less distracted (by other people who lived with you) b) be in a better mindset, therefore more likely to succeed c) learn how to manage your time properly

https://erikbuys.files.wordpress.com/2011/06/an-introduction-to-christian-mysticism.pdf There are some aspects that are not included in this but this is should help you form a pretty good image for you, if you read in a contemplative manner. In the context of a non-enlinghtened person (read: you, me, most people you ever talk to about spirituality) it is a very useful distinction.

I could link a 400 page pdf that is a type of advanced mysticism mixed with dogmatism very much in line with his thinking. It's not possible to sum many hours of our conversations in a forum post.

Well, I am facing the issue after meeting with him many times. I am 99% sure he is experiencing insanely high levels of consciousness sober, states that would take most people many 5meo trips to access but he is still very dogmatic, stage blue style. Spiral dynamics model is seperate from enlightenment, But affects very conscious people in a similiar way it would affect you or me. The reason I am asking this question is precisely of the many experiences with that person. It is very hard to navigate this territory. Making decisions like these requires higher levels of understanding than I have yet to experince. That is why I am asking on a forum where both self actualization and consciousness work is discussed. Edit: imagine Sadhguru mixed with Jordan Peterson.

Already have.

You've managed to get a cessation while high on weed? That sounds interesting.

It highly depends on who your parents are.

If you're working for an employer it is very likely that you'll have to lie at some point. Only way out is building your own thing while not becoming corrupt, which is pretty hard.

You can't really understand it when you're not in the state. Every time I get into it I realize that my memories of it were completely wrong.

Thought forms. Everyone's thought forms are interconnected. Which is partially why interesting shit can happen during astral projection even though AP is a lucid dream. Thought forms get stronger with emotions. If you think one thought often especially if it's emotionally charged it affects material reality. If a thought form gets strong enough it affects other people.

Because they've probably never tried it. Their pointers are amazing though (when your mind is in a state good enough to benefit from them).

Try to listen to Newman while doing a technique like breath counting or body scanning. You will get many insights and get a taste for what they're talking about.

I've lost some (not all) friends due to this. Tbh the ones I lost I wouldn't really want to be friends with them again. I can't relate that much to them. They're still at the same place they were years ago while I make quick progress in comparison.