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@Leo Gura what practical steps would you recommend I take towards letting go of all the "stuff" in my life?

When something bad happens in the past that we had control over, isn't it worth it to ruminate on it? That way in the future there will be a phycological pain attached to it so that its not repeated? In that sense you could use the past as a means to make the future better.

Recently I was involved in a biking accident that left me with 3rd-degree road rash (there was no skin left). Obviously, it was excruciatingly painful. I have tried to be mindful of the pain and worked toward accepting it. As well as taking time to detract myself with other things. But it continues to be really hard to get my mind off of and to move on. Does anyone have any advice or has been in a similar situation?

Same! I'll normally play with a few of my close friends.

Thanks man

I'm in an 8+ month relationship with a girl who takes her beliefs after her parents. She is open-minded and wouldn't be put off by the idea that enlightenment and self-actualization are true. However, she still believes more in Jesus saving her and "God" having a laid out life plan for her rather than meditation, ego, psychology and things like that. I'm beginning to see the dating pool of self-actualized and truly spiritual people is very shallow. Is there anyone who would have advice on how to handle this? Or who is currently in a serious relationship with a Christian, Muslim, Buddhist etc. Will, I just need to be prepared to not marry a self-actualized person?

@mandyjw that is really insightful. I have only briefly touched on using Christianity and other religions as ways to become enlightened. And i definitely agree that it seems as though its a handicap for many people.

No, not at all. Christianity isn't "a problem" it's more the dogma that comes with having parents shove their belives down her throat. And right now it isn't a problem at all. I was thinking about our future and other relationships. Because being a couple can be hard when you have different world views.

that actually sounds really interesting.

@mmKay thanks for all the ideas, especially the one about the creative outlet I haven't really looked into to find one of those before. You talked a little about emotional needs and I was wondering what techniques (if any) there are for developing emotionally and mentally? Those are 2 areas in my life I most want to improve and I haven't found any practical ways to do that other than CBT and waiting for emotional challenging events to take place and then in the moment work on how I respond to them.

@universe Reading does sound like a great use of time. I've heard of some of the books you mentioned and have just never really gotten around to reading them. Why would the paper copy be better than the audiobooks? Is it just that the audiobooks don't give you enough time to comprehend information?