Insightful27

@Leo Gura

I'm worried that in an attempt to develop my social skills I'm going to start caring a lot more about what people think about me. Building charisma is centered around saying the right things in the right way that gets people to like you. I know you can have great social skills without caring about what other people think about you, I'm wondering how you would go about developing that? The same thing goes for pickup, how to you develop social skills in a high consciousness way when it is something that is inherently lower consciousness?

Then what is charisma fundamentally about? Also, would you say after forming deep relationship socializing becomes higher consciousness? I know you've talked about deep romantic relationships taking on a spiritual aspect before....

Dismissive/Avoidant

I've been slowly getting into nootropics for a little while now. My question is when creating a stack, how do you make sure that the supplements your taking won't have unintended affects when mixed with each other? Also, how do I know how the stack will interact with other prescription drugs that I'm taking? Any help is appreciated!

Have you tried them?

No, Ive looked into it though

Yeah I they didn't have any of the nootropics that I'm taking So I shouldn't use nootropics while on prescription drugs or antibiotics? Because there is no way to be sure until I try taking a nootropic with these drugs.

Jody Hatton has some quality ones https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6RzukLXWGBx6dOGqzaeK5w He also has a website where you can download them

@diamondpenguin you have 800+ posts.......

I'm doing 100 days right now, I really haven't noticed any huge changes. Try it for yourself and see what happens.

For reference, I'm 15 years old and our school has been cancelled for 4+ weeks and I don't have much to do. Aside from journaling, meditation, healthy eating, enlightenment work and exercise I don't really know what to do. I would hate to waste the whole time on video games or other low-level entertainment. I've looked over Leos list of habits and techniques to start doing but I feel as though many of them are too advanced to do at my stage of development. I've started to try a few of them like yoga. Any advice on what I should do would be extremely appreciated!

@Mu_ yes that makes sense, I don’t want to stop doing these practices. I just want to be able to let go of the fear that I will lose them. The thought of losing all my notes makes me feel fearful and anxious. I don’t like being dependent on these external things for my happiness. Deeply, what I’m wondering is how do I let go of my need to self-actualize? Or at least let go of the need to self actualize effectively?

Recently I've been working on becoming less materialistic. The easy part was detaching myself form things that I only had to gain approval from other people, or things that only produced hedonic pleasures. But I've found it extremely difficult to detach myself from things that I use to Self-Actualize (i.e.. Self-Improvement Books, Nootropics, Psychedelics, Notes & notetaking software, etc.). How do I detach myself for these things when they help me work toward my goals and guide me on my Self-Actualization journey? How do I become okay with losing all of my notes and all of my tools?

@Mu_ I just don’t know how I can be happy when I’m unable to do self actualization work effectively. Do you have any advice on how I could stay happy even if I were to lose all my notes and self help resources?

By detach I mean to be happy without. Right now I can't be happy or feel fulfilled unless I have these tools and I am able to develop myself with them. I want to be unconditionally happy, and be okay without these things.

It depends on your mindset about it. There is a certain point where building muscle becomes pure ego, but doing it to be healthy and fit doesn't need to be about ego.

this is a great TED talk

@Proclus balance seems to be a very common theme in these types of discussions.

Is it possible to be passionate about a hedonic activity or would that just be a addiction? What are your thoughts?

@neovox I have a large variety but video games was the main one I wanted to seek advice on. I would say I play for about 1-2 hours most days (normally with friends), some longer and some I don't play at all. I would say it can be compulsive but most of the time I notice it and for that reason do something else instead. I try and use it as a way to relax and connect with friends while at the same time doing something I'm intrigued by.

Didn't Leo say that Tom was the one who got him into self improvement? Even if he has flaws doesn't change the fact that he can inspire and help others.

@Keyhole yeah that's what I'm thinking. Maybe in moderation but as a full out passion I don't know if it would work.

@Aquarius would it still be better to avoid those types of hobbies and activities though?