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The #1 reason that I feel like pickup is gate-kept from me is that I don't drink or do drugs socially, and I am worried that if I have sex/escalate with a girl in that setting while she has been drinking (not seriously drunk) then she the power over me to claim that she wasn't able to consent even if she did. All it would take was her having regrets or her being angry with me for her to seriously damage my reputation and career. Also, there is a serious social stigma against me engaging with a girl who is drinking when I am clearly not. How do you guys navigate this?

Solid points. I just don't think I would be able to get to know her enough to figure these things out 100%. I think that screening is helpful though, especially for the girls who will can't stand up for themselves.

In theory, this is great but in practice, there is drinking in almost every social setting where I would meet girls. Clubs, bars, concerts, house parties, weddings, restaurants, etc. It's unrealistic to find many stone-cold sober girls at a nightclub or concert.

I'm trying to build a robust nootropics/supplement stack but I'm worried about heavy metal contents after watching Leo's video. Is there any way to check or minimize the heavy metals I'm consuming? Right now I'm just taking fish oil and a multivitamin.

Yeah I have been thinking about not taking mine anymore. What is the process for getting bloodwork done? How much does it cost?

Thanks for the reply. Do you know if something like a multivitamin is more likely to have heavy metals than other supplements?

Are there certain inherent limits to self improvement? Using the video game analogy, you only have so many skill points and so to improve yourself more at one thing you will have to trade off other aspects of yourself. ex. In order to be more extroverted and outgoing you will have to trade off being able to spend long periods of time in solitude and deep work.

Well put

Do you face social backlash from this? For example, a girl might feel uncomfortable if you go out to get drinks and she is the only one drinking, etc.

Yes, it's more a book about masculine and feminine energy than it is about being a "man". I think you'll find value in it.

I have a hangup regarding having a girlfriend that has had sex with other people before me. Logically I know that it is stupid and it shouldn't matter, but when I think about another guy "having" my girl it makes my stomach twist. Selfishly, I want the only person they have that intimate experience with to be me. It's especially bad thinking of my ex with other guys. Any advice on how to move past this? I kind of think I just need to work on my view of female sexuality.

Not sure why nobody commented on this so I will. I had the same exact problem you are talking about, and it all went away when I stopped watching porn. Masturbating to porn over and over again will absolutely damage your sexuality. I can almost guarantee if you stop you will be able to cum way easier with a real partner.

If you haven't read The Way of The Superior Man by David I would highly recommend it he talks about it in there. You can channel your energy into work on your LIfe Purpose or other creative work. Going to the gym is also a good option.

Obvious SD isn't a masculine or feminine thing, but when you look at examples of stage red and green it seems as though pair loosely to masculinity and femininity. Stage red examples have a lot of masculine appeals (MMA, dominance, power, etc.) even from stage orange men. Stage green consists of a lot of stereotypically feminine traits (emotional sensitivity, kindness, giving). I think it would be wrong to say that masculinity or feminity is better or more evolved, but I couldn't help but notice the overlap with SD. What are your thoughts?

I'm prescribed Vyvance for ADD, but I have seen a lot of positive things about Modafinil. It would be hard to get my prescription switched to Modafinil, so I have been researching to see if it is worth it to buy Modafinil 3rd party. My questions are: If you have taken both, what is the difference between them? Is Modafinil safer for long-term health? why? Are there any other alternatives that you would recommend?

I'm leaving for college in a few months. It's not a long-term thing.

I've been dating this girl for about a month. She was raised in a small town with a really abusive family and has significant trauma from it. It is clear to me that she has accumulated a lot of spiral-stage blue baggage. For example: -Politics: She thinks that Trump was the last great president (though she doesn't like him as a person). Didn't get the COVID vaccine and says she won't get the flu vaccine. -Says things that are casually racist, homophobic, and transphobic -Strong religious views: thinks that atheists are going to hell, abortion is a sin, evolution doesn't exist, shouldn't donate organs, she has physically seen Satan, she physically sees auras around people, she feels God's presence, etc I never thought I could date someone like this. But despite the stupidity of her worldview, she is a kind and loving person. She is into meditation, chakras, nature, and other stage-green spirituality stuff. She is able to have deep conversations about things like masculinity/feminity that other girls wouldn't care about. I can feel how deeply she loves me, and I know had she been subjected to a different upbringing things would be changed completely. What am I supposed to do when I am attracted to someone who is clearly way lower in spiral dynamics than I am? -

I'm trying to figure this out myself. My hope is that deep down she is green lol.

fair enough. Deep love relative to my past relationships.

I'm pretty turned off by the idea of buying drugs online in general, but getting a Modafinil prescription isn't easy in the U.S. so it is what it is. Are there any test kits you can use to ensure you aren't getting scammed or buying laced pills? Thanks.

I think that is wise. I was trying to look on Reddit for credible sources.

Unfortunately it’s not. You have to buy it from some Indian company.

@Max_V completely agree

I don't drink at all, which makes things complicated when it comes to pick-up. At parties and clubs, virtually every girl has had something to drink, meaning they are technically intoxicated to a degree. Obviously being totally wasted is one thing, but how exactly do you determine when it is too much? The laws are somewhat ambiguous and I really don't want to get into serious trouble. I know there are a lot of people on here who don't drink and do pick-ups at clubs, how do you guys navigate this?

Do you ever get paranoid taking home tipsy girls when people know you weren’t drinking?