Insightful27

The question is how do I find the places and people like me.... Have you had success doing this?

@Miguel1 Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I really resonated with a lot of what you said. I have been skeptical of myself not wanting to socialize because it is emotionally more comfortable.

https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/wellness/video/new-report-increased-magic-mushrooms-107054797 Clip from GMA about magic mushrooms. It sort of sounds like they have no idea what they are talking about. Saying that it can lead to "death" seems fairly irresponsible. However, they aren't outright demonizing them, so at least that is a start.

I just started my first year at Uni and I know nobody (I went out of state). I'm not sure how to go about building a large, fun social network that doesn't revolve around clubbing, partying, and alcohol. Finding a spiritual community would be great, but the vast majority of students aren't into serious spirituality. Any advice?

There is no need to feel anxious about having the ability to get excited to do a lot of things, and it really is a blessing. As for what I would practically do, try as many of those things as you can, even on a surface level. I am also full-time in college right now, and my goal is to build up as much life experience as I can while also doing well in school. Over time, you will naturally feel into what you would rather spend your time doing and the problem should fix itself, you just need to get more experience in all the things that you talked about.

What do you make of a conservative mind acting that way? This isn't true conservatism; he literally has face tats.

How much progress have you made towards your vision?

Thanks for sharing!

After watching Leo's video about exposing yourself to more life experience, I have decided to dedicate 2024 to gaining as much new life experience as I can. For context, I am an 18-year-old college student in the US. What kind of experience can I expose myself to that will grow me the most? Here is what I have started. - 10-day vipassana meditation retreat - Study abroad next spring - Solo backpacking trip Open to any and all suggestions, let em fly!

I would love to hear more about it. Gives me something to keep me motivated while I'm still starting out...

I got my first strip in Jiu Jitsu a couple of months ago! It has been such an amazing experience and I can't believe more people don't talk about it in self-improvement circles.

No those are things that I plan on doing, should've made that more clear.

Funny you say that, I just went through a toxic relationship and breakup a few months ago—definitely an opportunity for growth and self-reflection.

I have room for some classes that aren't related to my major (psychology). What are the classes that you liked during college? I've been thinking about taking some political science classes, I'm in a philosophy class right now and it's not great.

The #1 reason that I feel like pickup is gate-kept from me is that I don't drink or do drugs socially, and I am worried that if I have sex/escalate with a girl in that setting while she has been drinking (not seriously drunk) then she the power over me to claim that she wasn't able to consent even if she did. All it would take was her having regrets or her being angry with me for her to seriously damage my reputation and career. Also, there is a serious social stigma against me engaging with a girl who is drinking when I am clearly not. How do you guys navigate this?

Solid points. I just don't think I would be able to get to know her enough to figure these things out 100%. I think that screening is helpful though, especially for the girls who will can't stand up for themselves.

In theory, this is great but in practice, there is drinking in almost every social setting where I would meet girls. Clubs, bars, concerts, house parties, weddings, restaurants, etc. It's unrealistic to find many stone-cold sober girls at a nightclub or concert.

I'm trying to build a robust nootropics/supplement stack but I'm worried about heavy metal contents after watching Leo's video. Is there any way to check or minimize the heavy metals I'm consuming? Right now I'm just taking fish oil and a multivitamin.

Yeah I have been thinking about not taking mine anymore. What is the process for getting bloodwork done? How much does it cost?

Thanks for the reply. Do you know if something like a multivitamin is more likely to have heavy metals than other supplements?

Are there certain inherent limits to self improvement? Using the video game analogy, you only have so many skill points and so to improve yourself more at one thing you will have to trade off other aspects of yourself. ex. In order to be more extroverted and outgoing you will have to trade off being able to spend long periods of time in solitude and deep work.

Well put

Do you face social backlash from this? For example, a girl might feel uncomfortable if you go out to get drinks and she is the only one drinking, etc.

Yes, it's more a book about masculine and feminine energy than it is about being a "man". I think you'll find value in it.

I have a hangup regarding having a girlfriend that has had sex with other people before me. Logically I know that it is stupid and it shouldn't matter, but when I think about another guy "having" my girl it makes my stomach twist. Selfishly, I want the only person they have that intimate experience with to be me. It's especially bad thinking of my ex with other guys. Any advice on how to move past this? I kind of think I just need to work on my view of female sexuality.