John Paul

@thisintegrated so if the value of turquoise is literally “holism” then what is coral? Extra holistic?…. Holistic +1?…. Ur kidding yourself bruv and you are not even turquoise. You are YELLOW.

So then, is there a stage beyond coral? Stage turtle? It’s just stupid man, cmon. At turquoise you should be working on transcending language and connecting with the universe. What’s more advanced than that?

Why are you assuming other people are just a projection of your mind?

You can theorize about turquoise from yellow. But once you’re entering turquoise you’ll realize coral doesn’t exist- or that spiral dynamics isn’t at all practical to think about anymore.

Thanks @Leo Gura i love actualized.org: it’s perfect. you’re doing a great job on your life purpose. @Leo Gura remember that god is always with you. I love you. Peace to all and forevermore. I love you. I love you all. Thank you all. God bless you all, forever. Forever and ever I love you and I thank you. this is not a drug post haha. THANK you guys and girls. Be thankful with me because god is always here. ALWAYS here. And it is goodness. I love you. Goodnight

Is it false that one in five marriages in like 2020 or something where from online meetings? edit: Some 39% of heterosexual couples that got together in the US in 2017 met online, according to a recently released study (pdf) by sociologists Michael Rosenfeld and Sonia Hausen of Stanford University and Reuben Thomas of University of New Mexico. This was also the case for more than 60% of same-sex couples that year. I found this at least^ too lazy to keep digging. Don’t hate on it too much.

Being stupid is a good thing once you get too smart. When you’re stupid and get more stupid that’s bad though.

You would have to make creative fun conversation about how you have to go in too and make it fun.

Just continue to communicate non-stop. Friend shows up-talk to them, keep talking and moving around like everyone. If you don’t go out a lot it will be awkward (what Leo is always saying but “you gotta do it”) you first need to be able to tell a joke from an honest signal. Sometimes the joke can have a negative sting behind it- there’s too many details to go through examples of what you “should” do but you shouldn’t slow down communicating. it will at some point become obvious because she just won’t be looking at you or facing you after you’ve continually tried for idk…. 10 minutes? But I’m a noob, Leo says most will hook in 5 or less so that’s probably a more accurate time- just make sure you’re giving it your ALL that first five and then move on to the next one or group of people right away. You will naturally pick better targets as the night goes on and everyone is getting into their groove that night.

Mango Avocado Broccoli (Cooked) Kale (Cooked and dressed) Lemon (For cooking) Citrus-Oranges, Tangerine etc.

Yes. And your technique that you’ll learn from a coach without sparring and the physical stuff that it puts you through will make you less prone to injury and more lethal than an average joe who has similar height and muscle mass than you- that being said physical violence is the most obvious opposite of embodied compassion which is the main goal of this teaching

I’d follow your train of common-sense thinking and say that it isn’t natural. Eat some meat, some vegetables and throw in some grains if it works for you. Do some light exercise every day. that’s it. Go to sleep at night instead of partying. Masturbate or get some sex. That’s it.

It’s tricky but make sure you have everything figured out and logistics taken care of first. Then take some extra time in visualization even after you could make the switch to imagine what it’s like (not the benefits) and see if you’d really be happy doing that. Don’t switch too soon.

Remind yourself that anything beyond what is written here is the process of deconstruction unfolding, in other words your ego’s need for meaning running itself out. Principal #1: Consciousness Whatever happens in every moment that appears to be happening, remember this one word: Consciousness. Return to the second and third simple principals without mind. Principal #2: Discipline Always be conscious. Never sacrifice your physical health unless it’s for the third simple principal. Never sacrifice your financial health unless it’s for the third simple principal. Drink the water, eat the healthy food, don’t eat anything else, move and heal your body every day, go to sleep at night, save your money, don’t waste your money, earn more money, buy investment properties. Principal #3: Family Besides simple principal number one, your family is your everything. Without the love that you share with these chosen few, you have nothing. If you don’t know how to love, you’re in luck: Happy 2023. Let’s go.

what about bumble? I heard it’s easier and more legit for finding dates

I’m gonna critique your approach instead- so much can change as far as two people being compatible throughout your 20s, that’s not to say that two people can’t grow through this together. In that case your looking for someone with a strong/beautiful spirit (aka someone mature for their age). But they’re really a needle in a haystack- especially in the early 20s which I read on another post that is your age range. My suggestion would be one of two things- 1. Just start having a LOT of fun. Go out and have a time man, feel all the feelings, have a beer in moderation, weed in moderation, kiss a lot of girls, have sex when you can *with a condom*, and I swear you’re gonna get attached to one- when you get attached then decide if you think she’s mature enough and/or compatible enough. You may make a wrong decision and someone has to get dumped. 2. Earn a lot of money, like a lot. Buy houses or business and just do whatever it takes to get rich. It will take you at least five years and after five years you’ll be in your late 20s, where at least as far as maturity goes the pickings are a little bit better (they never get much better… people are immature… the maturity plateau probably stops at 30 except for people doing serious personal development later in life)

Good point! Nice job flipping this one around.

@IAmReallyImportant you will likely feel a lot less joy in your life if you don’t have the opportunity to share emotional intimacy *with emotionally healthy individuals/families*

@Rasheed you will eventually hit a plateau that you cannot overcome without sparring (there is probably some special technique you’ve heard of that costs thousands of dollars in training monthly). you can get way way better at fighting through basic drills and training though but without a trainer at a gym… idk I’m still not a believer

@Medhansh in for four* hold for four* out for four* mulabanda four* in for eight* hold for eight* out for eight* mulabanda eight*

God can stop it. Ask again but more earnestly. Meet god halfway by strategizing or compromising on certain parts of the dream not stopping all at once. Do whatever it takes, tell god you’ll do anything. Keep talking to God. Re-contemplate what god is and what the dream is. Take care of your body and your finances.

Despite my previous post: if you’re in a situation where the amount you’re getting your buttons pressed/manipulated is outweighed by the joy of intimacy than it’s good

Don’t bother being a numbers guy- go in and stay in state the whole night. Just keep being pumped up, keep being cool, keep approaching and escalating, keep getting a water, keep going back and talking to your friends, keep trying to bounce her, keep escalating- boom you’re laid, who cares about the number?

Just work on asking where she’s going later and then whatever she says just suggest she just leave with you sooner and go somewhere else. And if she won’t then try to see if she’ll invite you to go with her. Or if you sense nothing is happening excuse yourself for a moment but then go talk to another girl right away- don’t think.

@Medhansh just go by feeling don’t have to be extreme. Do it on the out breath in combination with ujai box breathing with kumbaka at the top