John Paul

God creates/imagines different humans who don't identify as God. That doesn't mean they actually exist but it doesn't matter, God creates "exists" so they do, what God says goes. As a human goes through what they call time (which they actually create because they are God), they continue changing their identity and each forward step (they can take a backward step) along the way they are "becoming" God (God is always God). Most people do not transform enough times and take enough steps forward to "live" as God-consciousness "in a human body" before they "die". Correct or incorrect? @Leo Gura

What are the best labels for chicken. @Leo Gura organic good enough?

ahhh nice. same, brother

@puporing yes i watched daniel's grieving video. that is enough for now i think. it reminded me that comprehension is a different element of personal development than forgiveness

@itachi uchiha Thank you.

@Antor8188 have you tried hitting her over the head with a fallen tree branch? or you could try giving her all of your money before the first date. works every time.

@Alex_R maybe that is because this is your first version of love so there is comfort in it? I finally communicated to mother about gaslighting my abuse last night and then took a gram of elephant penis envy mush today, feel better but know that I have extreme amount of grieving to do. i may go to ayahuasca four day ceremony in april.

@itachi uchiha You're right. If someone started fighting me I would fight them. And in that hypothetical scenario I'd like to know BJJ. If someone disrespected you to your face at a party, what would you do? I don't have a particular memory to share but there are always cock-blocks, competitive males, and males acting protective of females in their group. I was wondering if there were any hacks to these scenarios.

@itachi uchiha I'm interested in learning how to fight but I don't want to fight. Fighting is not the way I want to earn respect from friends and potential lovers.

I'd like to admit I've been making low integrity posts and replies. The number one reason I'd say they are low integrity is because I write them without even thinking/doing any contemplation first. It's as if I'm using the forum to try to hack my contemplation practice..... which is the complete opposite purpose of this forum. I apologize to myself and y'all. I also apologize for dumping some of my personal emotion into my posts. I am sorry. That is also not the point of the forum. I hope I can still be respected here and I hope the banning process is productive. Regular users should wise up. Actualized.org is supposed to be about integrity. Dark emotions and distractions can happen outside of the forum. I am grateful for the space being held here. I will try to use this space as sparingly as possible. I will also not use replying to others posts as a distraction from my human life. That is not in integrity for anyone. It's a distraction, it's bullshit, it's devilry. I will not post without thinking first besides this one because I need to kind of vent an apology here. I'm sorry again. Thank you again. Respect. @Leo Gura Leo is only one man. God is god. I remember now. Edit: I also want to add that I've been an asshole. Outright disrespectful. Not okay.

Should you wait for the woman to bring up defining a relationship? Specifically I'm interested in developing at some point a sexually exclusive, adult (26 years old), boyfriend/girlfriend/long-term/give it all relationship with a straight woman. I once studied when I was only 21 or so "3% Man" by Coach Corey Wayne through the audiobook version and one of the tips that's kind of stuck with me is that you should keep seeing other women or try to until a woman you like brings up the idea of being exclusive. For you older (than 23) guys who have had some success in dating and more than one serious relationship/decent game: Is this good advice? But also what would it go any other way than this? Is this always true (usually things aren't, when is it not?) And I had one experience at that time around 21 where I wanted to be a player and so this girl who was actually cool I ended up rejecting more than once to be my girlfriend and I think that maybe it's because I should have been approaching with higher standard to begin with, so you less experienced sexually guys start working your standards for women up quickly the more you get so you don't have to break so many hearts you can settle for a girl worth (by your personal standards) settling for. What are tips for mitigating heart break and heart rejecting girls? @Leo Gura

It's like you are trying to trick yourself that you are more disciplined you are because you are attached to the image of you being a yogi(?) and then you are crumbling in your daily live outside of your practice because you haven't worked up to that level of seriousness actually(?) If i'm wrong I can guess again, i don't know if this is helpful. I'd say slow down on yoga and let yourself be more of a normie but more of a balanced normie.

@Nadosa I don't have siblings and my mother would often keep me from leaving the house or neighborhood.i didn't look for friends (not properly socialized early on). forcing (which usually I would comply with because of manipulation) me to sit in the house around a severely toxic relationship day in and day out. Being a witness to her soap opera and rage and go comfort her while she cried over my father.

@Tristan12 I know right. like i kind of fake forgave my parents before once i understood that other people had trauma but now I'm coming back to my trauma I'm like nah dude i can't imagine a therapist pulling that shit

@catcat69123 I also experienced verbal/emotional abuse.

@Bob Seeker music/singing so underrated lol. I feel like music is my oldest and best/only real/true friend.

Be firm with boundaries with yourself before bed, no bullshit. Lay on the floor on your back or just in bed and just feel your body and emotions, deal with it. Wake up to an alarm every morning at the same time and don't take a nap. When you wake up FORCE yourself up, drink a black coffee or something then go for a run or go straight to the gym or something WAKE UP. No nap. Keep it up with your yoga etc. Repeat. Consider that maybe you are actually hungry, you didn't eat enough in the day, or drink enough water in the day. Maybe jerk off in the shower or something before bed, i don't know. Sometimes if I didn't jerk off without porn in a while it feels good/reality check for me.

@puporing ya.. the task of finding a therapist who is trying to master their craft is daunting to me.

I’m looking for suggestions for things that are not likely to fail at developing passive income that take less than 5 years of work. It doesn’t have to be a lot of money just some to cover let’s say more than half of a single person’s rent. I already have something that I’m mastering that is also artistic, I want passive income so I can focus on that, I don’t care about mastering business I’m just unfamiliar with the many ways people make money without working more than an hour or two here or there. This would be huge for me if I can get something going, please help. edit: just to be more concrete, say 600-700 a month for less than 8 hours a week and hope to set it up in less than 5 years but really the quicker the better, I can grind for it. And I currently have 6000 to spend but can earn more.

All relatable.

@Karmadhi I know it is frustrating. We all can relate bro. You already got advice so: CONGRATS bro!!! you got a date and a kiss and texts back after!!! wow doesn't it feel good? I bet a lot of other girls will enjoy that with you too. since you are frustrated there's a good chance you are fucking it up with this girl now. not to say you should give up but try to replicate what you have done so far, not exactly but in general. We are proud of you... big man you <3 Head up bro!!

It's a great opportunity to make a distinction. For example maybe you don't really value sex itself (remember that time you had horrible sex?), maybe you value connection. You can find many distinctions... like maybe you don't value power, maybe you value freedom.. i dunno. That section of the LP course is incredible IMO.

@puporing there is obviously more detail but from what you said wow... sounds like shitty therapists .-. @Preety_India mainly recourses. i thought if someone were an expert they'd maybe just give me some quick patterns I might not know I have or like a detail about them.

@puporing I'm sorry i don't know what you mean by wavering? like your therapists didn't support you?