I'm just like you. It all comes down to boundaries, stopping self abandonment, not giving more than what we receive, not loving people more deeply than they are connected to their own true selves (loving someones potential)... I think this stems from a childhood of neglect, emotionally unavailable parents...we were never loved, seen, felt, understood as children. We try to solve this trauma by attaching to people with similar traits than our parents had and try to make these people love us by giving too much. Self Betrayal. Toxic wrong kind of empathy. Too trusting. Lack of discernment. Anxious attachment...ultimately lack of self worth. I struggle with the same thing. I know Im great, talented, intelligent, strong, think in my mind that I love myself yet Im chasing unavailable narcissistic sociopathic people with no conscience hoping they will one day love me like I love them while being fully aware that they are in full ego false self mode unable to see reality.