Hey
I have a question about one of the videos of ActualizedOrg on youtube.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYZmK46--Mc&list=PLGjI7mohIsc3WG1X074Y-v2OpLbFwo7bP (How to master & control your emotions)
In this video, Leo talks about how there is a filter between the external circumstances and our emotions.
He says that we never feel bad because of the external circumstances but only because of our filter (interpretation).
Although I think he is right to some extent, I disagree and find this dangerous.
We still are humans, and when something like a breakup happens or when someone you love passes away, or when you have a conflict with a close friend who cuts you off: HOW can you change your filter in a modus that makes you feel good?
Human beings really can work on themselves, but we are not totally “makeable”.
Because when you don’t succeed in feeling well in a negative situation, the reason is you.
So it shifts to being your fault (not only responsibility)
Leo says it’s because of lazy interpretations. Which I can relate to certainly, but only up to a certain point.
The human aspects of our brain(s) cannot be forgotten, it’s a reality.
So, how would I be able to feel good when I lost a loved one, when a lost friendships that really are important, etc?
(image the parents of a child that passes away, and Leo saying: you feel bad because your filter makes you feel bad.)
That’s too much, no?
How can you see the sun when you dont see the sun, are anxious it or have no hope, feeling alone and depressed? When you lost people? (No matter how) and you miss them?