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Wow! It is amazing to see in action the process of philosophy turning into religion. All religion essentially boils down to an idealization of the messenger. But the messenger is not as important as the message. Religion loses sight of the message in regards to deriving truth for one’s self. They think they need the messenger to deliver messages to them. Essentially what Jed McKenna says, “don’t look at my finger, look at the moon.”

PROGRESS UPDATE (8/4/23): I wanted to share my progress tonight: I went and danced with two women tonight. It was a loud club. I immediately walked in, and I saw someone I recognized. A woman grabbed my arm as I was walking away. I introduced myself and so did she. It was loud in there. I was not really physically attracted to her. But I thought I would practice building up my confidence and approach. I asked her if she wanted to dance and led her to the dance floor. We danced for quite some time. I was dancing really hardcore. I have a lot of energy and was breaking up a sweat. I danced with some other young girls around me and made some jokes. Some of them were college students and I said something witty like: "I bet everyone here is a major in drinking and is making an A in that." That got some giggles. I then took a break, and I saw this young woman that looked attractive. I was about to leave, but I said "screw it" in my mind and went over and approached her. I did not recognize her at first, but I was surprised when she said my name. I found out that I performed magic tricks to her the week before but forgot. I asked her to dance, and she said agreed. We danced and 2 stepped, but she was not dancing close to me. I spun her around a bit. But I saw her glancing around. I said "You are a great dancer. Are you having fun?" She said "Yes." I said to her something really dumb. It was something like, "You seem like you are from the midwest. Are you a play-it-safe kind of girl?" I really don't know why I said that lol. But after I said that she was like "What is that supposed to me?" (with a smile on her face) and then she stopped dancing and walked over to her friend. I just asked her where she was from and then I said "Thanks for dancing with me. Have a nice night." In my analysis after the fact, I could sense during the time that she was not interested because she was not asking me questions, she was not dancing close to me, and was looking around and not always at me. I want to count my success that I was able to get one girl to hook point, but I was not attracted to her. I eventually, left her and went dancing with other women around the dance floor. I was able to have the confidence with her and in talking to other women. The club was really loud, so that was against me in talking to women. Also, in the future, I plan on not dancing like I am on drugs. I have ADHD, and I went hardcore on the dance floor to where I was break dancing. It got people's attention, but I realize that all it does is makes me seem needy maybe. I don't know. I was really just being myself and having fun. But I can also see that from the energy I exude off may come across as too much for some people. Also, in the future, I missed an opportunity where I was talking to some women I was dancing with. And one of them said, "You should go dance with her (the girl I danced with initially). She seems to enjoy dancing with you." I should've said something like, "I bet you would too." I missed an opportunity there. But I am learning by writing it here. If you have any other feedback, I would greatly appreciate it. My goal is to go out again the next night and try again. EDIT: I also missed an opportunity where there were girls sitting at a table and there as an empty seat. I did not approach them because I was nervous. They were on their phones. But I was nervous as to whether they had boyfriends around. I walked away and saw a guy bringing one of the girls a drink. So, I am not sure. I find it easier to socialize and flirt when there is some activity going on like on the dance floor because usually if women are out there dancing together and not with some other guy, then they probably don't have a boyfriend.

No forum is replacement for therapy. This work/forum already assumes you have mental stability. And, you cannot work towards self-actualization if you aren’t getting your emotional needs met outside of the context of spirituality and this forum. Leo isn’t a therapist, he is a philosopher. So he has a right to be direct in his communication. If you are suicidal and mentally unstable, then you aren’t ready for the most advanced stages of consciousness and self-actualization. Remember, the highest level is self-transcendence according to the hierarchy of needs.

All fear is psychological!

To be fair though, there is a lot of BS on this forum. So, how else are we gonna flush it down the toilet if not being direct and truthful? Most people here need to see a therapist and are coming here for issues that need to be discussed with a therapist. However, this forum is for Self-Actualization.

Your action was evil. You taking pride in your selfish act to end another life form is also evil. I bet aliens could say the same thing about the human race in that we are just pests and pollutants to the earth that need to be exterminated.

If the action is intended to cause harm to another life form, I would define that as evil. Of course, it is relative. But it is unwise to throw out the concept of evil. That makes everything permissible and justifiable to continue the perpetuation of evil.

Natural disasters aren’t evil. Evil is defined as the intentional act of harming another life (AKA, selfishness 101). Natural disasters aren’t selfish; therefore, they aren’t evil. The logic is correct. Evil exists because human beings can choose to be selfish. If selfishness couldn’t be possible, then neither could selflessness. But that isn’t possible because consciousness is Absolute Selflessness. Case closed.

I thought you both were on psychedelics lol! I guess it wasn’t that kind of trip.

That short response already tells me you don’t have a good justification. I challenge you to ask your girlfriend whether it is infidelity and let’s see what her response is. Also, if you found out she doing getting off from other guys, how would you feel?

Always mystery. God is Being, which will always be more fundamental than knowledge.

@Someone here Don’t you think that watching porn while having a girlfriend is a form of infidelity?

Getting a girlfriend or dates online is like riding a bike with training wheels still on. The real question is why can’t you get a girlfriend or date without your phone? You gain more self-development when you can approach a woman in real life than in hiding behind a screen.

So basically what you’re asking is can you be mindful while taking massive action and being productive. The answer is so obvious. Owen Cook is telling you that your definition of meditation is limiting. Be fully present and engaged with all that you do. Sitting on your ass, chanting a mantra, counting your breaths and the rest of it is all bullshit.

OP needs to consider the cons of the opposite. If your girl has never had past history, she will always be wondering if she could’ve had more or better. Some people marry their high school sweetheart, but then they want to “experiment.” Be grateful that your girlfriend went through the buffet of boyfriends and picked you out.

You aren’t alone. She may also have those thoughts about you and your sex count. It sounds like you are insecure and maybe haven’t moved on from your ex. I am going through a breakup now and have had those thoughts, but I realize that nobody will ever love my ex anywhere close than I did. It’s her loss and my gain. Just think of her having sex with other guys as practice for you. Those other guys are just test drives. She is buying the real car which is you. Now, just take her for an adventurous ride. Focus on creating adventures. That’s all I got. Hope it helps.

Thank you all for your support. Much appreciated! I know what to do now. I will be on family vacation in Oregon, so I will be away for a bit. But I will post any results when I get back. I just gotta get into the Not give a crap state/playful state.

Part of my issue is that when I go up to a group of people to approach, I really don’t know what to talk about. I run out of things to say. I think what I will try to do is to express more curiosity into people. Thats one of the reasons why I did magic tricks because it was a way of interaction that I could do and rely on and connect with people without needing to fill conversation. I guess how do I not run out of things to say? I thought about Leo’s feedback on his video on taking note of the most recent thing on the news media.

Thanks! I appreciate you! I don’t drink alcohol at all. But I could have a water or root beer and play pool by myself until I see a woman I want to approach. Then, when I approach her, I can go to another bar and repeat. I live in a college town, so I will have opportunities in meeting people when school starts in a few weeks. I think I could do a lot of day game by going on the college campus and by going to shops around town. Do you have any tips on going solo night and day game that you found helpful for you?

Do you nightgame solo? It just seems intimidating to walk up to a group of people to approach the woman. I know I’m just making this more complicated than it is. For some reason, I just feel weird going into bars and clubs alone. It’s like I’m a predator or something idk.

How do you guys approach women during day game? What I did was go up to a woman and said something like: “Wow! This is a cool store. Have you been here before?” Also, it feels awkward to night game solo. The only thing I can think of is offering to do magic tricks lol. Any tips on how to approach without it being weird?

@Princess Arabia Thanks! I appreciate you. I know that I need to work on my confidence in going out there and approaching. It is hard to do night game solo. I also want to get involved in more social circles and social activities. I have always been focused on my goals and life purpose that I have neglected my social life. I don’t really have any close friends. I sometimes can be socially awkward because all I really wanna talk about is cool stuff like philosophy, meditation, spirituality, etc. I don’t care about topics like football and fashion. I gotta work on small talk.

You haven’t seen my magic tricks. I can make her boyfriend disappear. JK ? I’ve had women hit on me for my magic and charisma. One woman told me her panties were wet and that I was really good with my hands. It was weird because I wasn’t expecting that. Also Leo, I got my first kiss from doing magic tricks. She told me “If you get my card right, I will put my tongue down your throat.” Then, she did and we made out. She said I could touch her breasts, but I didn’t do that because it was my first kiss and I didn’t know how drunk she was. If I had more game to me, I could’ve had sex with her in the bathroom. So you are right, magic tricks alone won’t do it. I didn’t have the balls then and still don’t. I do crazy magic tricks like making a card appear in her brah, shoe, as well as mind reading, mentalism, you name it, etc. They have worked in building attraction more than you think. But I’m at the point where I want to focus on having my charisma without needing to perform magic for it. I want her to get attracted to my personality. I want to blow her mind with my personality and communication alone rather than through magic.

I approached one woman today. It’s just small talk. But found out she was engaged. I learned to look and see if a woman has a ring on her finger before approaching.

I don’t drink alcohol so I will be doing both day and night game sober. I might try day game more because it seems less overwhelming than going into a bar with so many people and loud music. I am just socially awkward and have many quirks that I believe are from having Asperger’s Syndrome and ADHD. But now, I am tired of those excuses and want to work on them.