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I am going back and forth between getting the Glock 19, Walther PPK, or the M1911. This is my first gun, and I want to get a high quality gun. What do you all recommend?

Thanks guys. I’ve been shooting my Glock 19 for some time now and it is awesome! I love it! No need to buy another handgun.

I want to get out of Oklahoma in 2 years. I would like to live not too far from the ocean, mountains, and city life. I want some place with an abundance of outdoor adventure activities. Oregon seemed really beautiful. It just sucks that Portland is a shit hole. Seattle was amazing as well. I also loved the east coast when I went to DC, Philly, and NYC.

If you could live anywhere in the USA, where would you live? Why? Explain your rationale.

Thought I’d share shocking information that I found. Apparently, the gunman is receiving love letters and support for the evil done. https://nypost.com/2024/12/21/us-news/meet-the-besotted-groupies-sending-love-letters-commissary-money-to-accused-united-healthcare-ceo-assassin-luigi-mangione/ https://www.the-express.com/entertainment/tv/158340/snl-criticized-shameful-Luigi-Mangione-cheering-weekend-update/amp Society is sick.

Clarity is an essential life skill for understanding reality and being decisive. It doesn’t come easy. Here are some issues that clarity helps you to resolve: 1. Having a family or being single 2. Knowing where you want to live 3. Knowing your life purpose 4. Knowing what you look for in a partner 5. Knowing your dream house I could go on. But it ultimately comes down to knowing what fulfills you. You can also have clarity about existential matters as well such as: Understanding the nature of reality, society, politics, consciousness, etc. Clarity is an essential ingredient to wisdom. However, clarity isn’t the only. The paradox of wisdom is having clarity but also being comfortable with ambiguity. The step to gaining deeper clarity is being comfortable with ambiguity while contemplating. What do you think helps develop clarity? I am most speaking practicality here and not so much existential.

I had an insight from noticing myself detaching from women, love, sex, etc. The insight for me is that approaching women is a waste of time. Sure, you can develop social skills and confidence. And I would recommend you to work through that fear of approaching and transcend social anxiety. Socialization is an important skill. But I am starting to understand Leo’s episode on How Socialization Makes You Stupid. What are we doing here? We are ultimately chasing pussy, women, relationships. It is so lame that I put it like this. I realize that for myself that there are more important things in life to pursue than getting laid, seeking approval, and talking to women. It is another matrix that I am being played at. Women mostly expect men to make the first move at everything. But I realize that the kind of woman I would ever be attracted to is one who wouldn’t be playing these games and would have the confidence to see me as too hot to pass up. I have found so much freedom being single. I was struggling with a breakup of a first long-term relationship. But now I can say that I feel grateful that it ended. I mean the intimacy/sex was great, but I knew deep down that I would lose my freedom. I was about to tie myself down physically, emotionally, sexually, and spiritually to a woman I was with for 9 months. To be with a woman or any relationship is sacrificing something. I am grateful that I didn’t get too far into pickup. I am fine being a virgin. There’s far less drama and so much more freedom in being a single, virgin male. I feel like being single is basically like having sex with life itself. I get to do whatever I want. I get to flirt with whoever I want. When I am with a partner, there’s so much constraints being placed on my mind. I think people underestimate the constraints that are placed on their minds as a result of being in a relationship. You always have to filter everything through you and the other person. Romantic relationships are overrated. Sex is overrated. Fulfillment and happiness comes from the satisfaction and freedom of being single. Anyways, I could write a book on this. (I kinda already did ). But my main insight is that this dating section is a complete waste of time. Sorry to hurt anyone’s feelings. But I realized that I am putting so much unnecessary suffering and giving away so much of my power away to women/sex/relationships, which is all out of my control. It’s a waste of time to go out of your own way to approach women and try to play these games to get them naked. It’s just inauthentic. Of course, if I ever did get into a relationship, then it will happen organically and will not be something that I will torture myself with for not having.

Fvck that. I want the black pill video!

Seattle was the coolest city I’ve been to. I was there when it wasn’t raining though.

I am thinking about moving in 2 years and want to still be a US Citizen and live in America.

Being single is amazing. I’m embracing it at this point in my life. Who knows what the next chapter will bring. I got nothing to lose. It is kinda sad that a lot of people don’t seem to see the amazing freedom of being single.

Use that alpha male energy then to lead her into the conversation about it. It sounds like you are taking a “feminine” position with wanting her to guess how you feel and to change without telling her what she’s doing. It doesn’t really need to be a conversation, but a simple I-statement can do the job.

I think many of you misunderstood. I’m not gonna stop approaching. I just don’t force it and make it the main focus. The main focus is to enjoy myself, work on my life purpose, and contemplate reality. If I am doing karaoke and dancing, I might say hi to someone who seems kind and interesting. I’m just not forcing it. I think approaching is an empowering skill to have. It’s making my whole life and self worth about approaching and approval that stops. I’ll play some games with women too. But the main thing is that I don’t feel a strong desire to force things to happen. I feel content being single because this means that I can flirt and approach whoever I want if I want. But since I stopped thinking about pursuing women, I have finally been thinking more about consciousness and reality.

Thanks. This post isn’t about frustration but about a turning point. I have reconnected with the joy of being single and have felt less and less detachment to women which I think is a good thing. My sex drive is lower and all the thoughts that went to my ex and women are now going back into myself and in questioning reality.

All of that is a social construct. Ever since I was in the 4th grade, I questioned why women play the games they do and wait for the guy to ask them out. And sure, part of me is very feminine and there’s nothing wrong with that. I have my preferences of having a woman that doesn’t make me guess how she feels. I’m tired of all these games. I’m tired of being the 100th guy hitting on her. It doesn’t feel as fulfilling to me than being seen.

Not necessarily. I have always been content with being single. It was only after my first longterm relationship that I started using this subforum. Heartbreak does that to you. But I feel like my life is better off without all that drama. I used to be frustrated with the dating scene, but I realized that it’s a waste of time. At this point, I don’t put any effort into women. I still am on the dating apps, and there’s some dates I will be going on. But I am much more detached. I’m not chasing anymore, I am attracting. I made this post because I wanted to articulate how I feel at this stage. It’s kinda like my motivation to journal. Almost half of all marriages end in divorce and maybe another 25% are unfulfilled marriages. I am only gonna play games I can win. When I am chasing women, I am losing the game with myself. I am still gonna go out, party, flirt, and all that. I’m not gonna limit myself. But I find a lot of freedom in being single. But you can interpret it how you want.

Women don’t do pickup. If a woman said this post, I would applaud her. So much pressure for women anyways to be in a relationship and bear kids.

It’s happened before. I was performing magic tricks, and a woman literally came up to me and said she wanted to put her tongue in my mouth if I guessed her card right. She was hot and I let her. First girl I kissed. Also, I got into my first long-term relationship from the girl DMing me first. I’ve had some girls hit on me when I was waiting tables. One of them told me I was making her pants wet. It has happened. It doesn’t happen very often. But I’ve had quite a few women approach me or at least initiate interest. But yeah. You’re right. She will still be playing games with me.

I didn’t ask where you can afford to live. I asked you where do YOU WANT to live in the USA. There’s a big difference. I know I want to live near a coast with an abundance of outdoor adventure opportunities as well as not too far from a vibrant city life. I am thinking either Massachusetts or Oregon.

What I’m really asking is why would you choose to sit on your ass for 10 days when you could instead be hiking in the forest? Why would you confine yourself to sitting to meditate if hiking is also a meditation? I hope you can understand my question. This is one of my main thoughts that holds me back from doing a 10 day meditation retreat. After all, I think I would get more out of a 10 day hike in Yosemite than a 10 day sit in my room. The longest I ever meditated was 5 hours and didn’t feel like I gained much from it. Compare that to a 5 hour hike in Yosemite, and I got so much more out of that. I had a stillness and gratitude like no other, and I got in some exercise. I think I would have regrets of wasting my time if I did sitting meditation for 10 days. Imagine 10 days of hiking. That would be quite the adventure. Adventure is a deep value of mine. I see limitations of sitting meditation. It’s not good for your back or for your mind long term because your spirit will long for adventure. If you just sat in one place and meditated, it would be as if you were already dead.

I see it opposite. I see it as if you aren’t able to meditate off your ass, then your meditation isn’t that powerful. Sitting meditation is “easy,”but integrating meditation into your daily life is the real challenge and real practice. It is easy to meditate when you are calm and peaceful sitting down. Much harder when you get out of the cave because life isn’t always gonna give you the best environments for easy calm and peace.

I like how Owen Cook says it. He says that you can love yourself so much that you can sit and stare at a cave wall for many hours, and you can also love yourself so much that you don’t have to do that to prove anything either. He says that if you loved yourself fully, you wouldn’t confine yourself to such a limited state. He says you can meditate while working on your life purpose and doing chores.

Thats crazy.

This question is pointless. The earth being round or flat doesn’t matter. The ultimate question that matters is what is god, what is existence, what is consciousness. So many red herrings that distract us from the questions that really matter. Edit: I apologize for my directness.

Thanks guys for your responses. I see that there is a benefit for sitting meditation. I think I am just too active for it. I value being active. Life is short and I don’t want to spend it sitting in one place forever. That’s what prison is for. I want to see the world. I want to hike the Himalayas and go to England. I want to get into rock climbing and get into fit shape. I hardly ever do sitting meditation. I used to do it 20 minutes a day. But lately, I am lucky to do 5 minutes. I got stuff to do.