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No he doesn’t. Forestluv is imaginary.

No. Leo wouldn’t even waste his breath.

Enlightenment doesn’t even exist. True awakening is realizing that your awakening was just a self-deception. If you could absolutely awaken, you wouldn’t be human anymore.

A medical doctor is not the same as a therapist. Therapists only need a masters degree.

Gotcha. But I don’t agree with people saying women have expiration dates. As long as a woman is within 5 years of my age and shares my values, we are good. I’m not interested in dating a woman way younger or older than me. I’ll give the posts another read.

Don’t have a scarcity mindset. I know people who have met in their 60s and got married after 3 different test drives.

Connor Murphy, Osho.

Consciousness changes too. That is why there are many states of consciousness. Nothing is unchanged. Also, consciousness and sense-perception are one. If you have no senses/perception of anything, then there would be nothing for you to be conscious of. Think about your life in the womb. One of the reasons you don’t have any consciousness during that time is because your senses have not been developed. Imagine being born with no sight, no sound, no sensation, just a baby living its life in a sensory deprivation tank or like in the matrix. It would not be able to be conscious of anything. In the case of the matrix, it was only conscious of the world the machines fed to it. But in this case, you could not form of analytical thought because thought depends on the senses and of language. Consciousness and senses/perceptions are one and absolute. Everything you experience is absolute. Consciousness is everything you experience.

Thanks for the post man. I talked to strangers, and it helped with confidence.

^^^.Agreed. OP is settling for less. It isn’t love, it is possession.

That is a good point. But that doesn’t mean we need a bunch of Alex Jones and Donald Trumps saying “all we need is love.” It is better to spread content of people actually walking the walk than talking about walking.

The rule was that we cannot talk about Connor Murphy. But that is such a BS double standard because Andrew Tate causes more harm than Connor does. But I guess if that is true, then it would be best to talk about it. But I thought we were all past this Tate dude. Every incel is just on his balls like there are no walls. I don't get it. It just seems a waste of time and a distraction. People that still think Tate and Trump are innocent and good aren't fit for spirituality pursuits.

@ZenSwift What a badass signature. I love it!

I recently went to Oregon in the past month. I wanted to say that Portland was bittersweet with the extreme wealth and extreme homelessness. I have never before seen such a place with no middle class before. I have learned that you can have the right intentions and goals, but if your strategy and execution aren't good in achieving that goal, then the right intention becomes the wrong intention. I will summarize the articles on Oregon's decriminalization issue both pros and cons of decriminalization, and then I will offer my own analysis. Summary of Articles On The Issue: https://www.cato.org/blog/oregons-drug-decriminalization-needs-go-further#:~:text=5%2C400 fewer people were arrested,disparities in arrests and convictions. So, in this article, the author advocates that decriminalization is not the final step. Just because all drugs are decriminalized does not mean they are safe to utilize. They advocate for legalization and sale of drugs so that way they can be purchased in a safe environment, whereas purchasing drugs through the Black Market comes at a risk of it being laced with fentanyl and other potent drugs. They state that fentanyl is very potent drug that is spreading rapidly and causing most deaths in the US. Oregon could counter this by legalizing drugs and having more regulation with store distribution. https://www.npr.org/2021/06/18/1007022652/oregons-pioneering-drug-decriminalization-experiment-is-now-facing-the-hard-test In the NPR article, they talk about how the idea of decriminalization is nice but the implementation of measure 110 has not been effective. Measure 110 allows all drugs to be decriminalized, which means that if caught using drugs, the person will receive just a $100 citation that they can get revoked if they call a rehabilitation program. The issue that they discuss here is that law enforcement is facing more challenges with enforcement. They will give a $100 fine, but it makes it harder to catch Black Market dealers to lower unregulated drug distribution. The article also mentions that the majority of people who get caught with highly potent drugs pay the fine and continue to use. The measure 110 is not effective in actually decreasing substance use disorder issues. The article states that most people who call never follow through with rehab, and the punishment of $100 citation is not an incentive to reduce the distribution and consumption of drugs. Analysis: Based off of my experience being in Oregon, seeing the measure 110 in real life, as well as reading the articles. I am hesitant to think that Oregon's move to decriminalize drugs is a good thing. We are seeing a rise in fentanyl distribution and overdoses. The Measure 110 sounds like a great idea to help decrease racial/ethnic incarceration, etc. The issue is that the Measure does nothing and provides no incentive for people to change. Even Marijuana used in adolescence and early adulthood has been found to reduce gray matter in the brain, with some parts never growing it back. The idea of legalizing drugs seems the same as normalizing drugs. But the first article did mention that prohibition does nothing to improve the situation, it just makes it worse because more people will rebel and use drugs unsupervised and unregulated, where if it was legalized, then drugs could be supervised and regulated to not be laced with fentanyl or other drugs. The issue I have is that fentanyl is on the rise and overdoses on it are rising to the most leading cause of death in adolescents and young adults in the US. It sounds nice to have drugs legalized to have them regulated and supervised, but the issue that I have is like marijuana, it makes it harder to crack down on the Black Market. In addition, more people I feel like are using marijuana now because it is legalized and many are using it without a medical card. With the prohibition of alcohol to now the legalization of it, alcohol still remains the highest drug related to crime (i.e., drunk driving, intoxication, homicide, assault/battery, etc.). And decriminalizing alcohol and marijuana and other drugs does not eliminate the issues associated with them. If we no longer call intoxication and drunk driving a crime, it will still be a problem. If we no longer call using fentanyl a crime, it will continue to be a problem. The distribution of fentanyl and normalization of marijuana I think is a huge issue that will impact many generations going forward. Gen Z is already unmotivated, depressed, isolated, full of incels, conspiracy theories, etc. Add legalizing drugs on top of that and you get a majority of the population someday where all drugs are normalized and people are not using them in mature ways. Most people will use drugs not for enlightenment but for escapism. The majority of the population is not mature enough for psychedelics because developmentally, they are not existentially interested nor are their psychological and physical needs met. Anyways, these are my thoughts on this for now. I honestly go back and forth, but with the rise of fentanyl in my state, I believe there needs to be more of a crack down. People are behavioral beings. We operate off of rewards and punishments. It would be interesting to see the legalization of all drugs, but like witnessed with Oregon's Measure 110, ideas may sound good, but when executed, they fail. What are your thoughts?

We were romantic partners. I mean we had oral sex, made out, and were intimate. But we didn’t do vaginal nor anal sex.

I was really hesitant to make this post. But I have just not been able to do this on my own just yet. Information So, I was in a 9 month relationship from August 13, 2022 - May 16, 2023. We had a shared history of going to the same high school. We were both in band, I was a trumpet player and she was in the color guard. At the time of our relationship, she was finishing her senior year of Acting. We got together by her messaging me out of the blue on Instagram. We had many great moments together and had my first sexual experiences with her at 26 years old. I am still a virgin and she was too. In the past couple months of our relationship, I noticed her pulling back of not responding to texts as much and not hanging out very often. When we were together, we hung out once a week, two times a week at most. I noticed she wouldn't kiss me as much and would pull back. I brought up early in our relationship that I was not sure about kids that I go back and forth on my stance. She stated that she wanted to have kids by 35 years old. She is 23 years old now but 22 years old at the time I dated her and I was 25-26. She brought up that we have different values. That she wanted to live in an urban big city and I wanted a more suburban quieter lifestyle. She wanted kids someday but I wasn't sure. She stated that she wanted to breakup with me because "we both need to take time to figure out what we want." By the way, she broke up with me after she graduated from college. She was not sure whether she was going to Chicago to pursue acting. Her goal was to go there. She was crying more than I was when she was breaking up with me. She stated that she needed to break up to work on herself because she does not love herself. We went on one last date where we began. Our first date was bowling and we ended our last date bowling. She cried into my arms after I walked her to the car and I gave her a goodbye kiss and a card that I wrote to her indicating my love for her, my respect for her break, and to never accept love less than I have given her. She told me I raised the bar so high and that she would take 2 years to move on from me. She told me that if we ever see each other out, that she wanted me to say "hi" and acknowledge her existence. She told me that she wanted me in her life. On June 30, 2023 about a month after our breakup, I ran into her randomly at the bar. I was playing pool with my sister on karaoke night and she saw me and waved "hi" and then walked out. I followed her out and told her something along the lines of "hi, how have you been doing? You told me if we ever saw each other out that we wouldn't make it awkward." She was shaking I was talking to her. She said "I am really trying hard not to cry right now. Can I give you a hug?" We hugged. I asked her more questions about what she was doing for work during the Summer after graduating college, but her friends were all surrounding her at this point and said "We are going now." Then, they went off. We have not been texting at all. I told her that I will not contact her at all unless she initiates it. I think it is smart since she is the one who initiated the breakup. I have not communicated with her since that night. But she has been still viewing and liking my social media posts. The Issue So last night, August 27, 2023, my friend encouraged me to go back into online dating. I went on the online dating app back in early July. But I reinstalled Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge. And guess what? After quite a few swipe lefts, I see her on there! My heart was racing and beating. I did not get any sleep last night at all. Only 3 hours. She was on both Bumble and Hinge. I have not swiped right or left. I just left it there and closed out of app. Her friend is also on the app as well. It just feels so weird to me that she is back on dating and moving on after all that she said to me. I just don't get it. I went to the gym this morning at 5am because I couldn't sleep. I am just not sure what to do here guys. I watched Leo's video on How To Get Over Breakups. I have been focusing on myself. But my issue is that I am struggling because I do not have many options for girls. I do not get very many likes on the dating apps, and many of the girls are college students in my town and don't really meet my standards. I am generalizing here. I have been going out to bars by myself. I went to a country dance bar and just danced by myself. I got to dance with some women but that was it. I also went to karaoke bar and sang songs. But other than that, I really do not have much friends. What really bothers me is that she is on these apps moving on when she said that the reason for our breakup seemed to be because she was going to move to Chicago. I am just a little lost and heartbroken. I thought I was over her. This is my first love and first heartbreak by the way. We never had sex at all in our 9 months of being together. She told me during the breakup that the reason for not having sex was because of my position on having kids, which I told her was "probably not, but I am still not sure." I just need some feedback on what to do. I have been having some immature thoughts of swiping right just to show her that I am still here and am moving on too. I also had thoughts of putting the box of all the cards she wrote me and all the things she made for me on her front door step. But I don't think I am going to do any of that. I am just being 100% real and honest with you all. This has fucked with my mind, and I have never done psychedelics. Thanks for your time and thoughts. EDIT: By the way, I am not for sure if I should still keep the box of all the cards, painting, and gifts she made/got for me. It is in my closet. Part of me just wants to get rid of it by dropping it off at her front door step, but that just sounds too immature. Sorry, I have been having a lot of irrational/immature thoughts lately because of the recent events.

Thanks! I am feeling better because I am slowly realizing and gaining insights that I really do deserve more. We only met at most twice a week. That is bullshit. We also never had sex the whole 9 months, and she told me it was because of my position on having children or not. I am moving on, and I am feeling better because she never really opened up her world to me in the way I deserved. Not once did I get to drive her because she was traumatized by a wreck she was in a few months earlier. Not once did she invite me over to her house to see her bedroom. I know I deserve more. She did teach me how to juggle and little bit of dancing too. That was all good, but she was not going to intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually give me what I want out of life. She did give me physical intimacy but nothing else. She just was not mature and developed enough. I am feeling much better. I remember our first date, I asked her if she would take the red pill or blue pill and she picked blue pill. I was still open to building a connection with her though and went with it. But there were other signs that she lacked self-love for herself, and I just don't need that. Long-term, it wouldn't have worked out. I will take this as a test drive and a lesson of what to look for going forward. The benefit I take away from all of this is that this recent experience has helped me wake up earlier. One of my goals was to wake up at 5am to go the gym, and I have been able to do that this week.

Going to the gym has helped me realize that while we did have great memories and times together, she is not my ideal partner. She is not existentially nor psychologically grounded. My thing now is learning how to find a partner who has a love for philosophy and psychology.

Not sure if I understand. What is the adult response move here in this situation?

Have options.

Both. Mostly just trying to move on and find someone better. But I am not getting anywhere. I am 26 yo and time is running thin. I want to have more relationships in my youth so I can decide whether I want kids or not one day. Still not certain on that. Damn. How did that happen?

This is my first experience guys by the way. I am 26 yo with Aspergers Syndrome or ASD and ADHD. Not really sure how to deal with this. Appreciate any support.

Stop consuming nonsense Andrew Tate content.

There is no social backlash. People offered me alcohol and I said no. They offered me weed and said no. I still hung out with them and blew their minds with my magic tricks and dancing skills. I teach people that you can be high without drugs. It is also good for pre-selection because I don’t want friends who are substance abusers. Not interested in women who cannot vibe with me sober on the same level of consciousness. If you need drugs to have fun, something is wrong with your methods. The most spiritual thing you can do at a bar/club is being sober and non attached to drugs. Be the Buddha at the bar.

I agree and am the same way as Leo. Just respect yourself and achieve everything sober. Alcohol lowers your intelligence. I don’t understand why anybody drinks alcohol. It literally shrinks your brain.