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@crab12 Well said. @Preety_India Always important to take a balanced approach, I agree. And, it's important to find the right friends for you. @Keyhole Yes, that's true, we can agree to disagree. Good luck to you too. @StarStruck Exactly, it can simply be to enjoy spending time together, and it's not always about what you can get from a situation. @sure It comes across like you want a fully rational answer and argument for why you should have friends, in simple terms, the right friends can make life better, sharing life with people you love is amazing. Hanging out with friends is fun, just be selective who you spend your time with and enjoy yourself, that's all that matters at the end of the day. Happiness.

This is so true!!!! Good friends are amazing, honestly. I loved the 'Like family you choose' Nothing better than chilling with people you can be completely yourself around and have a good time with! @StarStruck Yes again!! That quote is also SO true, which is why it's also important to be mindful of who you spend the most time with.

@Arcangelo Hey man, I found this really inspiring, I've never really done much Daygame, only really Night and Online, I was wondering what guys you are following if any? I'm recently getting back into dating as I am single again, so have started getting back into it, I don't like to call it Pick Up, as that assumes so many things, and the last thing I want to do is manipulate or hurt anyone, for me it's more about becoming the best man I can be (holistic self-development) while developing my dating & social skills. Please remember though a lot of these guys are typical Stage Orange and the teachings need to be made more conscious in most contexts. There's a lot of shitty coaches out there, but there's also some great ones for learning the fundamentals. I wouldn't call off Tinder too soon, if you optimize your profile you could end up getting a lot of matches and dates- I recommend checking out 'Playing With Fire' for their Tinder guides to give you a brief overview. Since you're into Daygame, there's a guy on YouTube called Bradicus who does a lot of daygame travelling the world and what not. He was a huge hard case, and I think he mentioned he believed he has a mild case of Aspergers, but has transformed his own dating life, check him out. Would love to connect more man, as most people in this PU 'community' are pretty toxic and manipulative sadly, which is why I don't like to call it that even!

You're right there's a lot of manipulation and shitty guys in PU, so, a lot of the time you have to make these teachings a lot more conscious. I would not recommend RSD they are so gamey and fancy, and most their clients get zero results, they keep you on a hamster wheel. The best 'PUAs' are those who don't look like PUAs, they are simply acting natural in their interactions and owning who they are and being themselves, of course there is the fundamentals to master, but beyond that you don't need to learn a whole lot really. I can recommend some guys teachings, but again they need to be made more conscious, most of these guys are very much Stage Orange, but you can still learn things. @kag101 I agree RE: Alpha, I think it's more about owning who you are and appearing truly confident as that. A more holistic approach to PU would be true self-development and becoming your best version in all areas of life, instead of using tactics and manipulation to attract Women. For example, take Mystery, he isn't exactly the embodiment of Alpha, he wears dark goth like clothing and paints his nails black , but, he has truly owned who he is, and doesn't give a fuck, same as Russell Brand. To me that's more 'Alpha' than some guy faking who they are to score some points.

@Keyhole Can I ask why is your view on everything so pessimistic? Have you never had a great friendship, that is simply just fun and a person who is great to be around and improves your life? Friends& relationships are so much more than a 'mutual distraction' or a 'virus.' I've seen you on multiple threads and you just seem so cold& that everyone who disagrees with your points, 'needs to face the truth.' Maybe, for you at this point in your life, Friendships aren't something you want to pursue, but to then put that on a large scale an state things like human beings are naturally selfish and deceitful, therefore, you shouldn't form relationships with them seems rather extreme, doesn't it? To me, life is a celebration of love and happiness, and this is often best shared with other people when someone wins the lottery, what is the first thing they do? Call their Friends/ Family to tell them and celebrate. It goes back to a natural law of life revolving around Desire. The desire to receive for the sake of sharing. Look at nature, it is constantly sharing and that is what keeps nature in harmony, the whole cycle of life is based on the desire to receive for the sake of sharing. Maybe you've had some bad relationships with friends in the past, and if you have I'm very sorry for that and I hope you can heal from that. But, having friends can also be one amazing way to celebrate this beautiful thing we call life. I'll leave you with this- I wish you the absolute best and nothing but peace and happiness P.S. Maybe try not taking life so serious and having some fun, maybe even with friends Remember, other people are also The Self! I also just wanted to add, that I wasn't meaning to come off confrontational here at all, I have just noticed that you do seem quite absolutist in most threads. I am also not saying having a large group of friends is for everyone, as everyone is unique and different, some people prefer 1-2 close friends, some just prefer being a lone wolf, and some love having lots of friends, I fall into the later bracket, as I love socializing and always have. But, my point more so, is that there is no one right answer as each individual is different, as is the case for most things, decide for yourself what you want and then go and get that. Of course be careful and picky with who you develop deep connections and relationships with, that's a given. I also just read in one of your threads how you said you are struggling, like I said I truly hope you manage to find lasting happiness and peace, and I know you also said you've given up reaching out to people, but if you are ever down and in need of a chat, feel free to contact me, I reply pretty frequently via email, and am more than happy to act as a friend!

@Jai ^^^^^ So true. It makes men so, so lazy. Easier to jack off to some model everyday, instead of becoming a man capable of getting the women of your dreams, and that goes way beyond looks. It’s a waste of energy, sexual energy is a life force, and if you’re going to use that to a screen, well it just seems like a waste to me, you could use that energy towards your dating, career, health, spirituality etc. However, I also agree guilting isn’t the way, it’s better to get to the root of the use and use “NoFap” as a springboard to. Much more holistic versions of Personal Development that goes beyond not watching porn.

Because life is a celebration, and celebrations are often better shared with other beings. There is usually a phase in this work (could last a lifetime, look t hermits) when you wish to be alone and crave solitude. It’s different for everyone and everyone is unique, for me I LOVE socialising, but I’m an enneagram 7, one of the more social types. I wouldn’t overthink it to the point of using logic and defining it to 7 benefits of having friends, life goes beyond logic a lot of the time. Having friends and deep relationships is a beautiful part of life, I would recommend exploring it, however, some people are happier on their own!

@Chumbimba tbf in his rant against PU he literally said at the end just do it in a more conscious way, and don’t be a dick about it.

@mandyjw Yeah, honestly Celery Juice is just replacing my morning Coffee, the benefits have been great for me too, and the Celery varies widely from store to store like you said, in the UK, the best I have found is Morrisons, nice thick Celery that yields almost 400 ML per pack, I aim for 500 ML each morning. I'd also recommend adding in lemon water first thing when you wake up and not eating any fats until 12PM, kind of like a modified intermittent fast. I cleared most my Acne when I went vegan 5 years ago, but my Leg & Back spots have massively reduced since starting this, I also have like 0 brain fog, and much more stable energy, honestly, it's amazing!

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Realization of the absolute shows there is NO hierarchy, for everything that 'exists' is simply the Absolute. All lineages are helping people realize this in their own way, some more direct with others. Different strokes, for different folks. Of course, some beings are more conscious of the truth of their own being. For example, Ramana Maharshi is likely more conscious of what he called 'The Self' (the absolute) than the next guy you pass on the street, but he is not superior, and that guy is very much still the absolute. @ajasatya Great points on Non-Violence, especially about not being violent to yourself, and regarding diet, eating toxic food all the time is certainly a form of violence, I'd never described it or seen it that way though, our own bodies deserve life giving and nutritious food- Always And, for those times we do over indulge at social events, we should take extra care to give our bodies the recovery and rest they need, as well as flushing out the shit!

In Leo's opinion yes, in the other 99% of teachers opinion (bar Martin Ball if you count him), no. This could be as they haven't tried it, or it could be as Psyches only produce experiences, not lasting peace and happiness. Maybe this will shift in the next 100 years, who knows. Find what works for you, and stick with it. Follow your heart.

Yeah, but you say that as if it is common, it’s automatically top 1% simply because he’s different + has unreal social skills + charisma& has the ability to talk about and joke about Sex openly which your typical guy won’t go near with a 10ft barge pole. He also managed to do it over here in his homeland (the UK) and won “Top Shagger of The Year” (a joke award of course) It also just highlights how to truly own “being yourself” in a masculine way, even when you clearly have a flamboyant side& how to effortlessly dominate interactions, think there’s a lot to learn from him!

Check out prime Russell Brand, guy was such a natural it’s unreal, he owned who he was& girls absolutely loved it, he’s in his 40s now and married, seems to go similar ways with most Men who were promiscuous In their youth.

Doesn’t really matter who has really, all that matters is what can help you most realise your own true nature, and rest in absolute peace and happiness. For me it was working 1-1 with my teacher and RASA transmissions over a 10 month period, I still work with her now mainly on integration + Wanting to delve deeper into the Enneagram (so fucking interesting, honestly) I recommend the above to any serious seeker wanting to awaken, other people recommend other means, so just follow what path your heart desires. I do believe there is a more optimAl way then the current Guru talking to a big crowd kind of scene we have in non-duality, I gst it’s hard to cater for a huge audience, I just think look at sport, you will get so much more out of a 1-1 session with a coach, then a session you share with 15 other people. Working with a teacher allows you to address your issues and personal blockages, and your process, not the guys 3 seats down from you. Just my 2 cents, if it doesn’t resonate, follow another path

Both, no 1 best path, just depends on you as a person and what your heart wants to do. In the western world the search for awakening usually begins with some kind of what else is there/ suffering. In the east, spirituality is much more common, and a foundation of life. Dont undertake the search because you have to, do it because there’s nothing youd rather do.

@deso Yep, all this does is create even more of an internal struggle and intellectual understanding of awakening, that if anything leads to worsening your life. Instead, live the understanding in all areas of life, and see life as a celebration. Music is god too and is beautiful to enjoy! Feeling always leads the way

There is a phase where everything seems like distractions, this is commonly known as the “seeking” phase of ones journey, where all they can think about is awakening, where your whole life is submerged by it. However, when you awaken, you realise all these ‘distractions’ were quite literally the path, as each and every passing moment is it. Then life simply becomes a celebration, and is lived from this understanding, and you are absolutely free to do whatever you want. So, no everything isn’t simply a distraction, but it can seem like that, and there usually is a period where awakening will take over, but this doesn’t necessarily last forever. Once you realise, every moment is simply a meditation, you realise there is no such thing as distraction, as this is it, how can you be distracted from what you are?

@docs20 Hey man, thought I’d chime in regarding money as I had the same dilemma as you when I was 18. Find a way to make money consciously, that contributes to humans growing in any way, doesn’t have to be spirituality. For example, you could be a holistic fitness instructor who helps people reach optimum health, that’s helping people for example. But, you do want to get your survival needs nailed on and solved from a young age so you don’t end up working for a company you hate doing a job you hate down the line. I would recommend either developing a high value skill(s) that you can freelance, or starting an online business of some sort. Also, work shouldn’t be separate from your journey, but part of your journey, don’t see it as time wasted, but time you are growing, work and contribution are key on your actualisation and awakening journey!

@Javfly33 No he's just not a nutritionist lmao, and recommending 48 hour dry fasts to anyone and everyone as a productivity hack is extremely risky and just pretty stupid imo. Fasting isn't something you should just jump into, it's becoming too trendy as some fix all solution. I'm not saying it doesn't have it's place but a 48 hour dry fast every 2 weeks (as Becker recommended) is the fast track to health issues, I would never recommend a dry fast. Before even considering fasting, much more Detoxing of the body should've already been done, or you'll end up relying on Adrenaline for energy. I personally do Intermittent Fasting, but have scaled it back a little recently. This article explain it pretty well: https://www.medicalmedium.com/blog/truth-about-fasting

Btw, in regards to Becker, he just released his advice regarding Dry Fasting, and is the perfect example of why to always do further research into healthy and not take a Biz YouTubers advice at the drop of a hat.

From a Pick up channel I watch, he interviewed a Test expert who runs a functional Test optimization clinic, and sees through the BS of big pharma, and how this really is a huge issue, recommend it. Essentially, when you get older, TOT is defo something to look into. NOT STEROIDS though, the extreme doses of steroids will destroy your body, hence why Pro bodybuilders die so early.

Life will be very different, but you don't have to 'destroy' your life the way you are talking about it. It's like being reborn again. You live from this understanding, and integrate it into all areas of life, and live from a place of love and happiness. Then, instead of seeking happiness in the activities, work, relationships, objects etc, it all simply becomes an expression of happiness, and life simply becomes a never ending celebration. You have the absolute freedom to do whatever the fuck you want to do, whether that's living in an Ashram, or starting a family- everyone is unique in how they want to live their life, find out what you want to do

This is heaven

1000 by Ramaji is great for going over depths of awakening.

Literally. And, then, the less aligned your life was with truth, the bigger the changes incoming.