sunrae

Hey! So I have just started dating more this year and really didn't date much before now for reasons mainly involving anxiety etc. Now that I am dating i feel really weird about certain things. Specifically when my date wants to kiss or whatever I dunno why but I just feel super awkward and almost want to cringe away? I've been on 3 dates with a guy now and each time we've had a short close mouthed kiss and it really doesn't make me feel anything. It just feels like lips pressing, doesn't feel romantic or turn me on. I know I'm not asexual but I don't know if I should be feeling or reacting differently? I also feel really confused about how to tell if I actually like a guy enough to want to be their girlfriend. Like this guy is fun to hang out with and I've enjoyed our dates, but at the same time I still enjoy my own alone time and don't feel a need to see him every day of the week. Does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom? I should probably stop overthinking things so much but I find that hard to do ?

@Nicachi Thanks! I have enjoyed my time with him so I guess I'll try to continue going on dates and try to be more conscious or in the moment. You're right though I find it hard to say no or to set boundaries but having personal time is important. I'm an introvert and like to spend time at home especially after work... I work in healthcare so after helping others all day all I wanna do is decompress at the end of a work day by lazing on the couch lol thanks for the comment! @TrynaBeTurquoise I think he's cute but not the cutest guy I've ever seen. At the moment I wouldn't label him as hot. I'm not sure if I would feel differently about kissing him if I felt more emotionally connected with him... I've read a bit about demisexuality and have been starting to think it seems to align with me. Maybe I just don't feel that sexual attraction towards people unless I feel a strong emotional connection... I'm really not sure and that part of it is pretty confusing to me as well...