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He can actually train to control his ejaculation and last longer. ive had this problem in the past and usually experience it if there hasn’t been sex in a long time. There is a skill set here. also, thicker condoms with numbing solution were my go when I was first developing sexual experiences. I’m bisexual and Personally cant be with a guy if he has a small dick… so I feel you there. But, he can still become a wicked lover. Mantak Chia has a book called “The multiorgasmic couple” you two can do the practices. he can learn to last longer and you two can experience more orgasms and full sensuality. ultimately, sex matters in a relationship. Cheating is gonna really hurt him when he finds out… more than a break up. So, leave if you want. Or fix the problem WITH him.

Yeah if you’ve got 15 years experience being an adult and your going after a young adult with like 1-3 years of ‘adult’ sexual experience… it’s just not fair. Leave them to the younger brothers. Unless you can date her in a high conscious way. I’m sure this exists. However… do you want to date an immature girl? Really? She will likely leave you.

@Leo Gura I suspect you have a point. It’s probably nuanced. I just feels wrong to me and that’s my bias. who knows though… maybe I’ll meet someone younger and like them. But, right now I’m really wanting something mature and someone with enough experience. i had a lot of sex in my late teens early twenties… international campus just outside of Amsterdam. So, I’ve had my share of wild young passion. a girl of that age does not interest me knowing what I know. I am going to learn mature pickup as I go about transforming myself into a high quality man and partner. I want to experience more women around my age group and figure out who I am and want I want us a partner. I may even excitement with a more open style of relationship as I no longer want to feel like I own my partner and want them to be able to have sex with people without it being like a big deal… still contemplating how realistic that is.

Yeah or… like, abusive and predatory? one or the other..

@Leo Gura Totally, and they are sexy af… they can look 24 but have the mind of a women… on my last date I totally forget for a second she was 29 and was like ‘shit, she looks kinda young’

@Leo Gura hell, I’m 26 and I think under 24 is too young…. I know how fucking immature I was. and am 25-30 is what I want. Looking for maturity. Last date she was 29…

Our boy here clearly some form of ego… if your gonna survive you need an ego. Oprah has an ego. Doesn’t mean she’s gonna rape people.

Stick to your age group 5 years max difference and be respectful… don’t abuse. be a good man of integrity..

You have your whole life to come back to the questions as you evolve. Some questions may not be answered, some may apply more to you. Just answer them honestly like you have here I think…

@Yoremo what do you think

Go ask around and follow ya intuition. Stayed safe and you’ll find them.

@BlueOak qigong

They come from your body and from absolute will

Changa, interesting…

I have a rule that people I work with: I’m not your friend or lover

Robert Greene? If he isn’t actually yellow

I practice Qigong and Qi self massage. I use acupressure tools as well. really like the acupressure products from the company called Aku… and I teach/ practice Holden Qigong. White Tiger Qigong has courses on fascia and Qi.

Stop smoking weed if they do

Move on… part of this is a number game. combine direct experience, theory and self reflection. expect hurt and rejection and just keeping going… it is t really ever personal. Keep gaining experience meet in person.

Hmm, the treasure you seek lay in the cave you fear most. Consider talk/ cognitive behavioural therapy… Three great books are 1. Daring To Trust 2. When The Past Is Present 3. How to be an adult in love all by David Richo I also recommend a book called the Tao of Fully Feeling… can’t remember the name of the author but it’s one of the most important books for people pursuing spirituality in the west. it clears up a lot of the nonsense that you should “just be zen and happy” which makes sense when you read these four books in combination as to how ego, transference and trauma work.

I read that too lol circle ⭕️ I mean, there is a belief that you have about the quality of beliefs so, maybes that is a meta point or something

It’s probably the case that deep spiritual work requires a toolbox ?

Observe and contemplate it in real time