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Is that even true?

I don’t have an answer for you. But, these sorts of girls are under appreciated. I am contemplating what true value is with women and dating. Raw hotness I think isn’t as important to me… though, I know as well I want to be able to smash a girl who I think is a 10. That being said I recently slept with a girl who I thought was maybe a 7… turned out she was amazing I’m bed and somehow in the sheets she turns to a 10! So, that’s surprising. I think this may be for you to figure out on your own. I think having a quality girl you like is important. But, if you don’t have the experience you want yet out of your system it can make commuting hard. Which, I get.

@Javfly33 Each aspect of relating with women, the good and the bad is the prize. But, also when you get the girl it’s gonna feel so good! Good self observation and good that you have continued to take action. I think a big part of dealing with rejection is simply moving forward. I was also dealing with rejection pain this week and it was rather intense. But, I am grateful for it. I’ve been learning more about female psychology and attraction because of it. My lesson for this particular interaction was “the dumber you act the easier it is to get laid”, and simply to have fun. I got rejected because I broke the fun player frame and was intellectual and a big self conscious and she blew me out. Even after having sex multiple times. I didn’t realize women don’t hold your status as static and they always judge your behaviour and state and one bad interaction can blow you out! But, we learn through this direct experience. Definitely an ouch! I know I need and I am committed to gaining massive social experience. I’m figuring out how to move to Montreal, and going out 3 nights a week. I’ve decided that relationships and sex for me are foundational for the rest of my life.

Hi, I’ve had it in my mind I want to sleep around a bit over the next couple years and expand my experience with sexual partners. However, after a recent hurt I’ve experienced after some hook ups… I am wondering if more hookups is what is needed, or if I am really the kind of guy to simply date women. This is something I have to figure out on my own. The end goal of my pick up endeavours is to land a high quality girl. So, my questions are: 1. Should I rule out nightclubs and bars? After this recent experience I suspect that low conscious women are more of a problem than what they are worth as sexual partners. Which, I still enjoy…. Maybe I just need more of them in my life. 2. Is day game and social circle/ or, say meeting women in person better for meeting high quality women? I suspect my type of women are more likely to go to a yoga class, ecstatic dance, or like tantric events other than nightclubs. But, I also know I simply want an abundance of experience. Even though I want a single partner I would like to gain experience. I think having a more solid frame of sexual experiences (of which I admittedly already have many) could be good for growth. I want to have a sense of abundance in my dating. I know I want deep intimacy and connection in my relationships. So, what’s the path from pick up to authentic love and deep intimacy?

Yes I am interested in Life partner. Possibility of a kid.

@zurew did you watch it?

The internet is so toxic it’s sad

@SeaMonster oh forget that hot crazy scale. When I meet my girlfriend I’ll let you know how it goes. It may surprise us all!

Yup, the crazier the better.? no. I am talking about a mature stage green girl of similar interest. The things I’ve listed are where I’ve met some of the most mature people. I want a girl interested in spirituality and personal growth. That’s a must I think.I want a conscious relationship.

@Javfly33 hmm, I wonder what’s up there… What emotions did you feel throughout and at the end of the interaction?

Simply sexual options change

I’ve made this explicit to myself, and will continue to develop this understanding. Too much to get into here. Basically, she’s physically attractive, we have chemistry and she is rather developed… in a nut shell. It’s become clear to me I want a long term intimate relationship. I’m feeling into it right now. I also know I really like sex and want a lot more of it. I have a deep desire to connect deeply with a woman for a long period of time. I want to develop a deep connection, friendship and life together with a woman. I want to be in love.

@NoSelfSelf Okay

@NoSelfSelf Yeah, but you won’t be gaming at 50…

But game is only for initial attraction. Ideally men also develop some real value to be able to keep to woman. Plus, you likely won’t be doing pickup forever. Opportunity in life has expiration dates. Which is why action is so important when we are young. We want to build our lives, finances, skills, experiences etc. Now, so we can enjoy the fruits of our labour when we get older.

Hey, I know the feeling and how crushing it can be. Be patient through rejections as they come. Keep dating, meeting people and getting experience. Keep working on your self love as well. I believe we will find good women in time and have healthy long relationships.

Thank you

It’s more about state than thought

Haha… that’s false for sure. Perhaps it’s about a balance.

I really need some kind of balance

Understanding bias

Have you taken the life purpose course?

@strika Yeah, I didn’t ejacualte or orgasm. I think we had sex like 6 times and I came 2 times. I think she came more than me. It was definitely healthy.

Haven’t read it, but by the sounds of it it’s a good ready.