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@ivankiss Let me know how it goes. Be open minded.

@Leo Gura Well, it's what I got. I am using maybe 1 or 2 cart a year. I can tell they are a reliable company because they have rick and morty on the cover.

@ivankiss Well, she doesn't have any money. Or, at least not income. If she had an income in the future would things change? So, right now your dating a girl who you pay her rent, her car... Do you buy her food? Kind of sounds like she just put into words what your already living with her.

@Javfly33 I don't know. As far as I know she was close by. Some girls, are like that. Ask Princess Arabia. She is also Nigerian, I wonder if there are different cultural expectations etc. All I know is that it turned me off. I was, relatively cool with paying for the date though I didn't budget for it. But, thought it was worth it. I wanted to get to know her, get my dating experience, etc... You could tell by her attitude she felt sort of entitled. I don't wanna trash this girl in my mind anymore. In fact, I need to do that work on it.

@OBEler Can you make a trip to holland? Do they sell that kinda stuff for cannabis there?

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@OBEler Oh no! I am not comparing it to anything. Just a general statement. That may be the right product for you. I just thought 6ml for 50 is expensive. Maybe that is fair. I can buy a 5ml cartridge for about 120 after tax with 5meo in it. I just thought the base would be cheaper.

True, If you make 150,000 and she makes 50,00… I can see myself being more flexible. But, I would still have boundaries. It’s not all her money. A conscious conversation needs to happen.

@Leo Gura Okay, I’ll now add this to my monthly budgeting. I will relax a bit. This girl was using me. But, most girls do not.

@Princess Arabia Sorry for how I was speaking in this thread. There is pain and insecurity in my words and actions. I want to be a good man, a good lover and partner. I’ve got work to do.

@OBEler expensive

@Leo Gura 20$ is fine I hadn’t been to a movie in awhile. They are pricey. I had spent 60-70 on this date and it was fine. (Not really fine) But, asking for the Uber was too much for me. I chose the movies for the date, I was willing to buy tickets and popcorn. But, the Uber thing and the way she said it. I just got an ick. I’m not whining. I’m in early phases of self reflection and gaining understanding. But, I just need more experience and that’s why I’m opening up with you all here.

This is for me to work on and address in private. Because of my anger around this situation I sense I’ll say things which I regret. As you read my comments shared here to not take them at face value for how I feel about women. I love women, and have a deep respect for them. I am just working through my shit around what’s fair, what’s dating all about?

@Leo Gura Leo, what’s your opinion on this. Am I retarded?

Wow freebase malt

I feel bad because I actually do like her. Anyway.. next

@Princess Arabia Hey, let me work through this. I’m pretty sensitive both around dating and relationships and money. I sense I’m rather immature in both areas. I found the girl very beautiful. She was from Nigeria and I actually felt like we could be good friends maybe even date. It was alright. But, I never had a girl ask for an Uber to be paid for by me and … I honestly thought maybe I cant afford her and defensively stormed alway. I didn’t want to be looked at as broke. Being rejected because I’m broke hurts as a man. So, I rejected her before it could happen. It really offended me that was the first thing she said when the movie was over. I don’t know why. I just felt such a strong ICK!!!!’ Fuck no. I’m out. Byron Katie!!!!! Haha, I’ve got work to do. Has me questioning my character and man hood honestly. I just, I’m still a bit sore in this area.

The movie was great though. The new hunger games movie was really impressive.

@Princess Arabia I’ve dated plenty of times where this was never an issue. I’m going to keep dating and gaining experience. I’m the prize. And so is she. i felt on this particular date she wasn’t interested but was using me. She didn’t even share the Recess Pieces, complained about the popcorn and her drink. Idk… This was the story my mind created. I’ve seen how women can just all of a sudden go cold on you. Fuck that. Last time one did that it hurt so much. Im gonna keep gaining experience. Different women have different expectations on dates. Imagine paying 100$ on a first date. you get a text afterward “Sorry, I just didn’t feel a connection”

@Princess Arabia She can get home safely she does it all the time… I can see you to your cab. But, I don’t see how ME paying for it makes it any safer. We are both adults out here surviving. Honestly, maybe I’ll just stay single. Unless I find a real human being to go on a date with. Not some girl who thinks just because she has tits she can use me for money. I should stop responding until I can sit and reflect on this. Man the double standards piss me off.

@Princess Arabia Olay, but that sounds a little sneaky though. Let’s be honest. You think if I was broke. And didn’t pay for that got her to buy her own ticket she would have even dated me at all? Probably not. She was using me. If I’m dating to I want to get to know you. But, first date… 2 tickets: 35dollars Popcorn: 35 dollars UBER: 20-50 dollars…. I don’t know you. I’m a valuable guy… I regretted that date. Maybe I’ll change in the future when I’m more financially well off. Which, frankly I’m not right now. So, that could be why I’m touchy. I’ll have money 💴 one day. But, I just felt… actually scared she would find out I’m not rich and going to pay for everything and then dump me. Which, honestly she probably would have. She wanted money not me. How many guys message her? Honestly…

@Princess Arabia I like getting the tab, I like providing. But, you gotta show your willingness to invest in the date as well. Especially as women and men wages are equalizing and the cost of living rises. I haven’t sat down to really reflect on it. All I know is I felt the ick and left the date. I still feel mixed emotions upset about it. .

@Princess Arabia Yeah, but I work for my money. You just have a body. If you don’t like being touched, kisses, etc why are you dating me? Don’t act like your some numb nothing and only I benefit from touch.

@Princess Arabia I’m not spending 100 dollars on you if it’s the first date sorry. A lot of women use men this way. I’m not doing that. What did she provide? Nothing! Oh, great she showed up. Well, so could have billions of the other women. Do you want to get to know me or my wallet?

Gonna be a lot of lonely girls paying all their own bills haha It’s maybe tough. Women want equal pay, but still want men to pay for them. Perhaps its idealogy meets biology. Creating a messy. What they are attracted to, or expect of men may be unbalanced. I personally want am working on getting myself into a financial position where I can comfortably provide. But, if it’s the first couple dates and you’re mooching of me yer out!