Thought Art

@Princess Arabia Belief plays a role for sure. But, also it can back fire… check out this life coaches financial audit… I believe I’m developing the habits and skills that will lead to me being wealthy. Instead of believing something, I want to see reality clearly. Money is brutal. Doesn’t mean bad. It just means it’s very very stark and real. But, if I have 0$ and I go to the store… I’m not gonna feel my way into 100$ worth of groceries…. Accountants and professional money managers tend to be pessimistic leaning, highly pragmatic, critical thinking and calculated. They look at the brutal truth of the situation first, then values, goals, interests, law of attraction or whatever second.

Looking at my account with -300 dollars in it. hmm, believe thought Art! Believe! I’m rich!!

@Princess Arabia Finance isn’t feelings or beliefs. Sure, they affect how you treat finance but finance, cash flow, income and expenses are brutal truths. This time next year I’ll be mostly debt free. Then I’ll pay for her Uber. Finance, is math. And when things are as tight as they are for me and I’m trying to get debt free so I don’t die on the Walmart floor… yeah.

@Princess Arabia I don’t know. I will meet her, a soul mate in time. I’m doing the inner outer work for that to happen. Been reading a book on soul mates. I have other on attachment theory, love languages, etc As a man I need to set up my foundation. I was a starving artist hippy, but I’m become more fully founded over time as I mature.

I think also… being a quality guy means having my shit together. Having my finances in order, my career in order. So, in that regard there’s gonna be a gap in time before I can actualize these things. I need to get debt free, meet my savings goals and increase my income. So, I’m more focused on getting experience even if I fail a bunch in the dating game..

@Princess Arabia She asked me to buy the tickets, and to buy the Uber… She also technically, asked me to go to the movies. Anyway, I don’t have money to spend. I just don’t have it at this time. So, I am going to date more cheaply for the time being. Money does matter to me. It’s not really up to someone else to decide how I should see things. I’ll use my heart, mind and intuition going forward. I agree on the fear thing. I will need to risk being more vulnerable. More dates will help with that.

What if life = a variety of experience People have different psychology, views on life, people work through difficult things and find meaning and acceptance in them… it’s complicated. I know I will die but, things is still hard because you have to deal with it.

@Princess Arabia I added more to the post. I’m slowly coming around.

I was 20, and wanted to have sex with more people on campus.

@Princess Arabia There is definitely some kind of asymmetry in our culture between the expectations of a man and a woman. Even though, this woman earns more than me… I have to pay for the date and her getting home. But, I don’t pay for her ride to the date for some reason. These boundaries and expectations are completely arbitrary. That was the first time a woman asked me to pay for her Uber home. I guess, because I am instigating the date, asking her to go, and because I am man I can pay for her to get home. I can see that. But, honestly I don’t have a lot of money but I’m gonna keep going on dates and I’m going to be upfront about my expectations before hand. In the future, when I can afford it I’ll pay for dates fully. I can’t afford it right now, but I’m not gonna wallow in loneliness. As I talk, and reflect I can see the value of being generous to my woman. If she is going to be my girl… and even if she isn’t I can support her getting home safely. She would also feel good that I did it.

@Javfly33 I am starting to loosen up on this money thing the more I think and talk about it.

@Yimpa I once had a great girlfriend who in retrospect could have been a great life partner. But, I… at the same time she did great things… cooked, was smart, was very kind to me, loved spending time with me. But, I just didn’t want it. So, it’s okay to let things go if it’s not right even if they have many great traits.

Nope not on first date. If me spending money on you, without me knowing you is an important criteria for us dating I will not date you. I am happy to buy popcorn and tickets. The ride home… that to me is a new concept. Perhaps the more I talk about it the more it makes sense to me. But… also, it’s weird. You are totally fine to not like that aspect of me, but that’s fine. I don’t care and I’m not here to please you. I am a great guy, but I’m not investing 100+ dollars into every first date. We go for coffee, tea, or even dinner I’ll pay, but… I am not going to pay for you going home. At least, for now. First date, I’m looking to spend 20 dollars, there’s little investment between us both and we see if we are compatible. I don’t really want to date a high maintenance and expensive girl. Some guys will, but I’m not looking for that right now. Future dates, yeah I’d help you get home. We have a relationship developing. First date, nope. Note: I admit this recent date when this girl asked me to buy her an Uber took me by surprise and really turned me off. I don’t have a lot of dating experience as an adult which is important to state. Most of my dating comes from high school and early years of university. So… I’m growing and adjusting through experience and self reflection.

Yes, yes!!!!!!

@Sugarcoat I don’t really understand what you are going through. But, harmonizing your mind body is likely to help. As is reading about someone who went through what you’re going through. But, also because I don’t understand I’m not gonna say anything further. Stop grasping and grasping. You exist. Just go about reality as it is. You aren’t crazy, but maybe dealing with high stress, anxiety and even OCD. Just relax.

@Danioover9000 Yeah, but it’s also contextual. I can’t remember who made the video. But, it showed very well how in the context of that election Trumps techniques were more effective. They stirred the emotions more powerfully than Hilary’s more intellectual approach.

Isn’t there a documentary on this idea?

@Bazooka Jesus Well, yeah sure I is a pointer But, this “I” I’m pouting to is absolute I’m not confusing the map for the territory. But, English is not the right medium for these types of things. I guess, awakening is… and that isn’t a medium.

@Sugarcoat That book is about someone who went through something similar I think. I under estimate Qigong as well… could be worth a try.

I think there is a good book called “collision with the infinite” which may help you I also wonder if Qigong would help you relax a bit…

@Bazooka Jesus I am everything. That is the “I” or “Self” taught by Ramana Maharishi

Incredible book not for only seeing harsh truths about human nature, but how to overcome and use your own dark side. It’s an enjoyable read full of Fascinating short stories, and delicious psychological and personal development theory and applications.

This is the song I had I. Mind for this speech

“I will persist until I succeed. I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny. I will persist until I succeed. The prizes of life are at the end of each journey, not near the beginning; and it is not given to me to know how many steps are necessary in order to reach my goal. Failure I may still encounter at the thousandth step, yet success hides behind the next bend in the road. Never will I know how close it lies unless I turn the corner. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult. I will persist until I succeed. Henceforth, I will consider each day’s effort as but one blow of my blade against a mighty oak. The first blow may cause not a tremor in the wood, nor the second, nor the third. Each blow, of itself, may be trifling, and seem of no consequence. Yet from childish swipes the oak will eventually tumble. So it will be with my efforts of today. I will be liken to the rain drop which washes away the mountain; the ant who devours a tiger; the star which brightens the earth; the slave who builds a pyramid. I will build my castle one brick at a time for I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete any undertaking. I will persist until I succeed. I will never consider defeat and I will remove from my vocabulary such words and phrases as quit, cannot, unable, impossible, out of the question, improbable, failure, unworkable, hopeless, and retreat; for they are words of fools. I will avoid despair but if this disease of the mind should infect me then I will work on in despair. I will toil and I will endure. I will ignore the obstacles at my feet and keep mine eyes on the goals above my head, for I know that where dry desert ends, green grass grows. I will persist until I succeed. The Greatest Salesman in the World Og Mandino”

@Fluran Perhaps, I always side on caution. I one time tripped, and then shortly after spoke to a fellow tree planter who had been very negative and nasty. My presence healed and radically changed him. He just needed someone to listen in loving stillness and acceptance. My friend who witnessed it said “That was Epic”…. It was the change in perspective and my study of healing that did it. So, I can see it being useful. I just stress danger ⚠️ ⚠️ Because, it really can be dangerous physically and socially.