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Women can't be wrong. When are you guys going to get it? It's always the guys' fault, guys need to better themselves up all the time to meet the women's expectations. Seriously, it's not really a big deal. Go gay ?

@Samuel11 Do you workout regularly? Maybe start by something small, like every time you feel an urge, try practicing some breathing exercises and some Swedish exercises as well. And if you feel more energetic you can do some push-ups as well. The point is that you need to replace a bad habit with a good habit, choose something that you enjoy, maybe socializing and going out with friends, maybe following your life purpose or passion, maybe reading books, researching, maybe just working, maybe something else. Find that thing that you most enjoy. But be careful, and this is very important, don't try to fight your feelings or urges, it's pointless. Instead, pause for a moment, breathe deeply, and then it won't matter what you decide to do. Maybe sometimes you decide that you can't hold back the urge and so you accept that and surrender to it, and most importantly you do it consciously, and without judgement. The problem won't go away in one day. Keep in mind that it's a big project, and that progress is more likely to be slower than you expect. Don't forget how many years it took to get here, so be gentle with yourself. You can do it, with more love. And really contemplate why you have the addiction, use a journal, write down how it all began in details and how every time you tried and failed felt like. Eventually you shall arrive at the conclusion that you only need to spend your spare time doing something else or watching and observing yourself (meditation). Also make sure that you don't try to solve any other serious problems at the same time. You have to dedicate your focus on one problem at a time.

I never really thought of any source other than myself as an alternative for deriving answers, at least not consciously. I used to be a stage Blue fundamentalist, but never really gave authority so easily, even while being religious I was always skeptical and I would try to look for convenient beliefs with "reasonable/logical proofs". The point is that I never fell for the trap of losing my own authority, I always had it, but I used to force myself to give it away. I always knew that no information was needed whatsoever. Now I know that no amount of information will ever be near from enough. Now I know that I don't know, that I will never know, and that I need to always learn. So, I guess I'm at the best place one can ever be, and I'm really grateful for this. (Lost the point again). The point is that I always rely on my direct experience (or whatever I think it is), not on the theory I learn. To me, practice comes first, and then the theory.

To me, it's the balance between care and detachment.

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Fact: Enlightenment is a fact. Fiction: Enlightenment is a fact. ❤️

@Alex bliss Does Love not love hatred or judgement? True Love is all-encompassing. It leaves nothing out, including hatred, judgement, and fake love, just like Being. Love is Being. Be. Love. Be.

It's just my preference, just like yours and hers. Not the absolute truth. That's all I'm saying.

@Nickyy Like saying higher consciousness is better than lower consciousness as a universal truth.

The point is, don't worship.

@Preety_India Oh! You are so undone. You're just being arrogant. @Bill W lol

@Preety_India I meant your break up.

@Preety_India I will respect that you are going through some hard times.

@Preety_India High consciousness vs. Low consciousness is a duality.

Did this come from your mind or direct experience? ?

The people you think of as "most highly conscious" are a projection of your own creation. Someone else could say the exact same thing about Justin Bieber.

@Preety_India Did it ever occur to you that what you think of as high consciousness has always always been an illusion of your own creation?

@pluto The truth is boring. People love the illusion, at least 90% of them (myself included).

Real women are as boring to me as the nice guys are boring to girls. Guess I'm really immature ?

Why am I not attracted to a flat chest? Why are women attracted to bearded men? Because of the media. Why am I not attracted to an easy, needy, or demanding woman? Why are women attracted to strong, confident, and detached men? Because of society. Why am I attracted to naked (shapely), slutty, or dirty women? Why are women attracted to bold, macho, and dirty men? Because they're sexy.

Very interesting! Thanks for the analysis as well.

I have many reasons for why I don't want to invest in that dynamic. I don't want to share them here. If things were different for me, I would have probably done it differently. Right now, this is my decision.

I share the exact same views! ?

Maybe.

It does not take time or effort or even experience to make fun of other people. Perhaps he's ignorant about this work, but at least, the guy in the opening post was being honest and had good intentions. It's tragic how the people who claim to be the least egoic can act the most arrogant, eh?