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Motivational speech to kick your ass into gear. Are you feeling stuck and lack the motivation to do what you’ve been putting off? If so, check out this video from a few years back.

Motivation to self actualize. Motivation to work on your life purpose. Motivation to become more conscious. Motivation for whatever you need to do... Watch the video and you'd know. Stop calling each other ignorant and wasting time with he said she said.

You're lacking self love. You can't love another until you love yourself. Watch the language you use with yourself.^^^^ Start seeing yourself as the hero in the journey of life. If you feel like garbage, it will show and people will treat you like it. If you have self respect, then people will respect you. You set the standard for how others treat you. So treat yourself with kindness, compassion, and keep working at it.

@StarStruck Try the book Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty

Try to detach from the outcome. Stop caring about if it's going to work or if she likes you. In fact, be excited about being rejected. It means you won't have wasted time on somebody who doesn't really like you. Would you want to be with some one who doesn't like you? I sure fucking hope not. Set a standard for what you want in a woman and be ready to leave if she doesn't meet it. Don't be afraid to disagree or assert your opinion. Also be careful not to idolize beautiful women. They are no more inherently valuable than an average looking woman. Treat her like a normal human being. Not some princess or a museum piece. Being a "nice guy" is a manipulation. She senses that you aren't being honest about your intentions. You are in a sense lying to her. So be honest with her. Show her you want her. Shamelessly. If you are uncomfortable being sexual, then you need to overcome your sexual shadow. Start loving yourself regardless of how much other's love you.

So Good You Can't Remember by Cal Newport Jokes aside, it's still great advice.

Investing advice from your locally sourced playground finance guru. Started at the bottom now we here.

Be patient with yourself. Continue to slowly replace your bad habits with better ones. When you are able to transcend these crutches that you are leaning on, you can start walking your own path. A therapist can help you to open up about your traumas. Being heard is healing in itself. Knowing that you aren't alone in your suffering is healing. Not judging yourself, which is made easier by sharing these experiences to someone nonjudgmental (a good therapist), is healing. These are a few ways therapy can help to heal old wounds. Trauma is effecting you because you have not realized the difference between the past & the present. Trauma is a story. Learn to make the distinction between concept and actuality. If you think you can handle it, try this: Think about a traumatic event that you have experienced, feel it deeply, feel the pain associated with this memory, and then stare at your hand. Make the distinction between your memory of something, which is no longer real, and your hand, which is real. Ground yourself in the present, notice that your memory cannot hurt you. It isn't real. Here is a video on grounding yourself in reality: Most important, learn to love yourself as you are. There is nothing wrong with who you are right now. You are exactly as you're meant to be. Accept yourself, and at the same time seek to improve.

I need to learn this one here.

Watch Leo's video about toxic people.

Nobody starts out perfect or knows everything. Let go if trying to be perfect before trying to help others. You will learn as you teach if you are self-reflective. One thing you can work on is public speaking if you want to teach. You could contemplate areas you want to master, write in a journal about them, then create a lesson plan to teach others about it. Preparation is key. Watch Leo's early vids, he wasn't nearly as good as he is now. But he got better because he started where he was at.

@Average Investor Alright I'll check that one out for sure. Appreciate it. @Flowerfaeiry Will do. I may eventually join multiple clubs to accelerate my skill development and receive feedback from more perspectives. Thanks

One of the skills I need to master for my life purpose is public speaking. Once restrictions are lifted, I am going to join/start a local toastmasters group. I have attended as a guest before, but I'm curious about other's experience's with the organization and ways that I can prepare. I am going to start writing speeches & I already record myself speaking to improve posture, body language, voice projection, etc. I'm curious what helped you guys and gals the most with building this skill, what your preparation is like, and how long it took you become proficient at it. Current habits I'm working to incorporate: -Writing -Contemplating my speech for deeper understanding of material -Recording myself -Studying great speakers -Reading about topics I plan to talk about

1. Start a mindfulness meditation habit. You need to cut out your negative self talk ASAP. You can learn to recognize and stop your negative thoughts in their tracks. You can create peace in your mind. 2. You are not bad or worthy of suffering. You deserve love and peace. You can get these things for yourself if you make the commitment to yourself. I did it. 3. Your language (self-talk) is key. Start using kind language with yourself. Use I am statements. Example: "I am worthy of love." 4. You are not alone and you are loved. 5. Find a therapist as soon as you can. It can be uncomfortable asking for help, but I assure you that there is nothing to be ashamed of and that it can help you.

One of the biggest things is to recognize the language that you use with yourself. When you call yourself a coward, a failure, mediocre, you are just creating a (negative) positive feedback loop. I suggest mindfulness meditation to calm your mind and note your thoughts. When you notice harmful self talk or thoughts, note them. Let them go. Then use mantras to replace your harmful language with a more healing and kind language. Examples of mantras I've used: -(During inhale) I am a mountain... (Exhale) I am strong, solid & stable. -Every day in every way I am getting stronger and stronger. -I give myself the love I need. -I am not my thoughts. All that is real is what I am experiencing now in this moment. When a thought is especially bad, note it, and then stare at your hand. Note the difference between concept (thinking) and reality (your hand). You are not alone. There are millions going through similar pain and suffering that you are experiencing. I went through it and made it out. You can to. Feel free to ask more questions. I have lots of techniques and mindsets to share if you want. Make sure to find a good therapist. One who is open-minded and non judgmental. It took me three tries but found one I worked well with and it was very helpful.

@kamill I'll do that, thanks. @Average Investor I will check out books on speech's and also consider joining a virtual club. thanks

It's not therapy but life coaching is kind of similar and requires way less education. You could potentially make an even bigger impact on people lives as well. Leo has some vids on it, check them out.

It's pretty hard to connect deeply with someone if you aren't physically with them. Just ask all the people using zoom to stay in touch with their families. I recommend working on interpersonal and communication skills if you want to connect more deeply with people. Some ways of improving these skills: -Study Pick Up -Study Charisma -Study Body Language -Study Leadership (Leaders can create the most change and can connect with the most people) -Practice Self-Love Some other ways to connect with people: Humor Honesty Being present Having integrity Being selfless Being a good listener Being a leader or mentor Being genuinely interested in people Creating and then being yourself passionately (through purpose, personality, hobbies...) Shared experience (whether it be through difficulty, adventure, or fun) The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable others will be around you, the more they will be willing to connect and open up to you.

@Zion You bet.

Self-Love, mindfulness practice, journaling, contemplation, hobbies, and Life Purpose.

Check out this blog vid from Leo: https://www.actualized.org/insights/requisite-variety-and-creative-laziness

You can’t control what happens to other businesses. Surrender your need for control. It may just be an excuse for not taking action on your business. Create the best business you can and don’t worry about others. Also could be that your shifting from Stage Orange to Green and are experiencing a split in your values.

Short term solution: deep breathing mediation. Before going into a social situation, take very deep breaths until you feel a strong sensation in your brain. Takes about 5-10 minutes. You’ll get that drunk feeling and won’t give a shit about what anyone thinks about you. I’ve done this before approaching girls and they can’t believe how care free and relaxed I am during the interaction. Long term solutions: Psychedelics Shadow Work Self-Love practices

The School of Practical Philosophy https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/School_of_Philosophy_and_Economic_Science

You need to think deeply for yourself. You’re letting culture make your decisions for you. Watch this: And this: