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Contemplate your own death. Notice that comfort is making you weak. Find your life purpose. Leo's Life Purpose Course is excellent. Envision what your life will look like in ten years if you continue on your current path. Start the Hero's Journey. Imagine yourself as the hero of your own life. Imagine a movie is to be made about your life and they are filming you Truman Show style. What would you do to inspire others? (See Leo's vid on the hero's journey) Think of all the struggle and work it took throughout history to get society to where it is now, and think about what opportunities and freedoms now exist that didn't 300 years ago. What would Leonardo da Vinci do with himself if he were alive now? Create something authentic and original from your unique personality and passions. Ask yourself what aspects of reality are most interesting, and study them. Science, Human Behavior, History, Spirituality, Philosophy... there is so much to be learned, so many ways to enhance your life (Survival), and ways to transcend survival (Spirituality). Don't take these for granted. You can create a powerful and fulfilling life if you put in the work. You think Lebron James became the best by sitting on his couch eating ice cream? Ask yourself what you want to be the best in the world at. Create a vision of yourself accomplishing that goal, vision it every morning 90 days straight for 5 minutes, and you will subconsciously start creating it.

I love and accept myself exactly as I am. I am completely independent of the good and bad opinions of others. I am a mountain, I am strong, solid, and stable. (Got this one from mediative mind on YT, check it out)

Invest in yourself, not others.

This may be an underlying cause. I'll look into it. The anxiety is very subtle, I only notice that my breathing becomes shallow and my throat becomes tense, along with brain fog. I’m going to do some somatic breathing cause I think it’s an emotional issue. I’ll do it consistently and see how it works.

I struggle to speak in complete sentences without pausing and forgetting what I'm trying to say. I guess it's a form of stuttering. I've been recording myself on video to practice public speaking and cannot speak more than a couple sentences without losing my train of thought (without reading off a page). I need to overcome this to actualize my life purpose. I have only just looked this issue up and realized that it's a condition and not just me being lazy. It also affects my relationships as I come off as uncertain or shy but I just literally cannot speak fluently. I'm pretty sure It's an emotional problem. Anyone have any experience with this or know anyone who has dealt with it? Update: It may be aphasia or some other speech pathology. I’m going to see a speech pathologist.

Yeah I listen to lots of lectures. Leo’s being one of them obviously lol. I’ll study speakers I admire and see if I can find a way to take their methods and build up my own consciously rather than just passively listening. Thanks

You have been studying so much with advanced topics that you can't relate to anyone. Diversify your reading. Read some practical, down to earth books every once in a while. Agree with Bob about moving out and doing pickup. Check out Robert Greene's The Laws of Human Nature. Will help with social skills, social and emotional intelligence, life purpose, etc. Watch Leo's video's Expose Yourself to More Experience & A Rant Against Culture.

@IAmReallyImportant What you constantly think about and believe about yourself, you will manifest. If you believe you will struggle in mediocrity, you will set lower standards for yourself subconsciously and be mediocre. If you summoned a massive amount of will, emotion, and self belief within yourself, then you wouldn't be so worried about it. You do not have a strong enough vision, or, you have toxic values. Money, fame, status are some of them, which I get the feeling you have based on your note about subscriber count. Focusing on mastering your craft, building skills, and staying in line with your values. Don't be led astray, chasing the cheese like all the other rats in the maze.

@RendHeaven Yes my purpose is to become a teacher/coach.

The world is becoming more complex at such a fast rate, which requires more responsibility and hard work to succeed. Men, if not properly guided, are wired to be selfish and destructive. Shocking I know haha. Men need a sense of purpose an outlet to express themselves in a healthy way. The issue is that it's not easy creating a life and career which one is passionate about, to feel useful and fulfilled with so many options and "competition." Society is so evolved that there aren't obvious roles in society for men to take up anymore. In agrarian society, boys grew up on a farm and learned to farm at a young age in order to survive. Or, a boy was forced to choose or was chosen to a mentorship to be a cobbler, blacksmith, butcher etc. at an early age. There were far fewer options for employment so it didn't take them 50 years to figure it out like most men do today, if they ever do. It showed tangible results, it was the food they ate. Their survival depended on it. This gave them a sense of purpose. It may not have been what they were passionate about, but at least they felt useful. Men today have a world of options, and are usually too lazy/fearful to figure out which one is right for them. Advanced modern society is very cushy and many of us are far removed from physical survival challenges like starvation and dehydration, which are strong motivators. Being able to have food delivered to our homes, having an endless supply of TV, and being able to turn on the heat when it's cold disconnect us with this motivation/survival instinct. Most men today don't have a good role model or somebody to show them how to be a man. It takes a massive amount of effort and pain to admit one's shortcomings and improve themselves. Deep inside they know they are weak, but avoid acknowledging it for the pain it will cause them and the responsibility they'll have to take in order to mature. Basically I'm saying men need to sack up & take responsibility for their lives.

Motivational speech to kick your ass into gear. Are you feeling stuck and lack the motivation to do what you’ve been putting off? If so, check out this video from a few years back.

Motivation to self actualize. Motivation to work on your life purpose. Motivation to become more conscious. Motivation for whatever you need to do... Watch the video and you'd know. Stop calling each other ignorant and wasting time with he said she said.

You're lacking self love. You can't love another until you love yourself. Watch the language you use with yourself.^^^^ Start seeing yourself as the hero in the journey of life. If you feel like garbage, it will show and people will treat you like it. If you have self respect, then people will respect you. You set the standard for how others treat you. So treat yourself with kindness, compassion, and keep working at it.

@StarStruck Try the book Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty

Try to detach from the outcome. Stop caring about if it's going to work or if she likes you. In fact, be excited about being rejected. It means you won't have wasted time on somebody who doesn't really like you. Would you want to be with some one who doesn't like you? I sure fucking hope not. Set a standard for what you want in a woman and be ready to leave if she doesn't meet it. Don't be afraid to disagree or assert your opinion. Also be careful not to idolize beautiful women. They are no more inherently valuable than an average looking woman. Treat her like a normal human being. Not some princess or a museum piece. Being a "nice guy" is a manipulation. She senses that you aren't being honest about your intentions. You are in a sense lying to her. So be honest with her. Show her you want her. Shamelessly. If you are uncomfortable being sexual, then you need to overcome your sexual shadow. Start loving yourself regardless of how much other's love you.

So Good You Can't Remember by Cal Newport Jokes aside, it's still great advice.

Investing advice from your locally sourced playground finance guru. Started at the bottom now we here.

Be patient with yourself. Continue to slowly replace your bad habits with better ones. When you are able to transcend these crutches that you are leaning on, you can start walking your own path. A therapist can help you to open up about your traumas. Being heard is healing in itself. Knowing that you aren't alone in your suffering is healing. Not judging yourself, which is made easier by sharing these experiences to someone nonjudgmental (a good therapist), is healing. These are a few ways therapy can help to heal old wounds. Trauma is effecting you because you have not realized the difference between the past & the present. Trauma is a story. Learn to make the distinction between concept and actuality. If you think you can handle it, try this: Think about a traumatic event that you have experienced, feel it deeply, feel the pain associated with this memory, and then stare at your hand. Make the distinction between your memory of something, which is no longer real, and your hand, which is real. Ground yourself in the present, notice that your memory cannot hurt you. It isn't real. Here is a video on grounding yourself in reality: Most important, learn to love yourself as you are. There is nothing wrong with who you are right now. You are exactly as you're meant to be. Accept yourself, and at the same time seek to improve.

I need to learn this one here.

Watch Leo's video about toxic people.

Nobody starts out perfect or knows everything. Let go if trying to be perfect before trying to help others. You will learn as you teach if you are self-reflective. One thing you can work on is public speaking if you want to teach. You could contemplate areas you want to master, write in a journal about them, then create a lesson plan to teach others about it. Preparation is key. Watch Leo's early vids, he wasn't nearly as good as he is now. But he got better because he started where he was at.

@Average Investor Alright I'll check that one out for sure. Appreciate it. @Flowerfaeiry Will do. I may eventually join multiple clubs to accelerate my skill development and receive feedback from more perspectives. Thanks

One of the skills I need to master for my life purpose is public speaking. Once restrictions are lifted, I am going to join/start a local toastmasters group. I have attended as a guest before, but I'm curious about other's experience's with the organization and ways that I can prepare. I am going to start writing speeches & I already record myself speaking to improve posture, body language, voice projection, etc. I'm curious what helped you guys and gals the most with building this skill, what your preparation is like, and how long it took you become proficient at it. Current habits I'm working to incorporate: -Writing -Contemplating my speech for deeper understanding of material -Recording myself -Studying great speakers -Reading about topics I plan to talk about

1. Start a mindfulness meditation habit. You need to cut out your negative self talk ASAP. You can learn to recognize and stop your negative thoughts in their tracks. You can create peace in your mind. 2. You are not bad or worthy of suffering. You deserve love and peace. You can get these things for yourself if you make the commitment to yourself. I did it. 3. Your language (self-talk) is key. Start using kind language with yourself. Use I am statements. Example: "I am worthy of love." 4. You are not alone and you are loved. 5. Find a therapist as soon as you can. It can be uncomfortable asking for help, but I assure you that there is nothing to be ashamed of and that it can help you.

One of the biggest things is to recognize the language that you use with yourself. When you call yourself a coward, a failure, mediocre, you are just creating a (negative) positive feedback loop. I suggest mindfulness meditation to calm your mind and note your thoughts. When you notice harmful self talk or thoughts, note them. Let them go. Then use mantras to replace your harmful language with a more healing and kind language. Examples of mantras I've used: -(During inhale) I am a mountain... (Exhale) I am strong, solid & stable. -Every day in every way I am getting stronger and stronger. -I give myself the love I need. -I am not my thoughts. All that is real is what I am experiencing now in this moment. When a thought is especially bad, note it, and then stare at your hand. Note the difference between concept (thinking) and reality (your hand). You are not alone. There are millions going through similar pain and suffering that you are experiencing. I went through it and made it out. You can to. Feel free to ask more questions. I have lots of techniques and mindsets to share if you want. Make sure to find a good therapist. One who is open-minded and non judgmental. It took me three tries but found one I worked well with and it was very helpful.