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@fopylo Find what works for you. I don’t think the problem is how you read though. Changing the strategy you use for learning won’t solve your neurosis. Do you meditate? Check out Leo’s latest video and try the meditation before reading to see how you do then. You probably just need to do more mindfulness practice.

I am an intensely ambitious person but at the same I'm aware that material success doesn't lead to fulfillment or happiness. (Green vs Orange ^MEME battle) I've become disillusioned with relationships, sex, success, and money, but feel cultural pressure to attain them. I need a stronger vision and I must learn to love myself (and "others") more in order to share my gifts with the world. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ ___________ _ _ _ ____________ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ My current living situation and location are severely limiting my growth. I must distance myself from family/friend obligations and drama. The people in my life are deeply unconscious and are dragging me down. Once I break free from their influence, I know that I will flourish. I need to move to a big city in order to grow, but I also want to connect more with nature. I will find a place where I can do both. _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ ___________ _ _ _ ____________ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ I should know better than to behave the way I do. I do things and speak in ways that I know aren't authentically me in order to push people away. My shadow's armor is mix of selfishness, grandiosity, coldness, rudeness, agreeableness, and overt kindness. Each will surface when it's needed. My shadow doesn't want me to get along with others. It wants to push people away and make them dislike/distrust me. My survival strategy and defense mechanisms are hard at work. I must become more aware of my defenses to fully integrate my shadow. I must also learn to trust others.

Mindfulness Meditation Introspection Journaling Contemplation Shadow Work

Take notes only after you’ve read the entire book. Fold important pages or use page markers and highlight/underline what you want to remember. Then when you’re finished, take index cards and write out the insight or information by going through the marked pages. Write the page number and the title of the book on the back so you can go back to the section if needed.

Im sure they’d have plenty to say, Trump’s so easy to make fun of. Our education system is far behind many countries in Europe. Michael Moore made a great film Where To Invade Next where he goes to different countries and “steals” ideas from their cultures to improve the U.S. Funnily (or sadly) enough, many of the ideas he steals actually were inspired by America but were abandoned in favor of more profitable and unhealthy ones. Things like diet, healthcare, education, vacation time, prisoner reform systems, and school classes about love are showcased. We aren’t we taught about love in the U.S. school system. We could prevent so much corruption just by teaching people what love is and how to attract the opposite sex. Men who feel unloved and powerless to do anything about it are most dangerous to society. We’re churning them out through stigma and lack of education.

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Based on my experiences: BJJ has been my best experience in martial arts by far. Highly recommend. Great atmosphere if you do your research and check out all the gyms in your area, and pick one you're comfortable in. Great for self-defense, fitness, dealing with adversity, building discipline, self-reflection, and keeping your ego in check. Boxing is pretty repetitive and dull imo. Wrestling was too macho and ego fueled for me. I just wanted to learn a skill, not show off to my bro buddies haha

Have you read Machiavelli himself? His writings are sneaky and not made expressly clear because if he came out and said what he really thought, he would have been imprisoned or banished by the Medici family. I recommend if you want to learn it and not be confused as to what is meant, start with Erica Benner's Be Like The Fox: Machiavelli and His World. It explains how Machiavelli thought without having to decipher the hidden meanings that you'd normally have to figure out on your own. Then Peter Constantine's The Essential Writings of Machiavelli, which includes The Prince, The Discourses, & The Art of War +++ Also, you could check out The Art of Manliness Podcast where Brett talks to the Erica Benner about Machiavelli. https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/machiavelli-the-prince/

Learn to recognize manipulative behaviors and set boundaries for yourself. Look for books on abusive relationships or power dynamics and get familiar with them. When you can recognize it, you then have to be able to detach from their opinion of you and be ready to walk away from the relationship.

@ll Ontology ll Yeah I'm gonna move from R&D to action for my purpose. Sick of waiting to be "ready."

Every minute of free time that I have, I am working to improve myself. It is actually a bit obsessive. I think I may need to reel myself in a bit and allow myself to be as I am, rather than to constantly focus on what I can be in the future. I see the massive potential I have and want to embody it so badly. I can't let go of my focus on working towards actualizing my goals, to the detriment of my present self. I feel like a high school athlete doing unhealthy things in order to fulfill their dreams of going pro. I have been meditating for 8 years but have had trouble remaining present in the last couple of years and wonder how much good it's done me in that time. I used to avoid thinking too much and meditation was easier. Now I am being more strategic, thinking long-term, taking 100% responsibility, being completely self-honest, and working on my purpose. I struggle now to turn off my monkey mind. The switch between being and doing is lost in the dark. I feel there isn't enough time in a day to do all the things I want to in order to grow. I stay up until 3am most nights working on myself and my purpose. I used to be firmly in stage green and shunned stage blue & orange values. Once I had realized this, I began working to integrate stages blue and orange. I have been integrating orange in a toxic way. I was afraid of my intense yearning for money, power, status, and success. Now I see why. I have fallen into the trap of overwork and overt ambition. I need to focus my attention on a smaller field of subjects at a time, and realize that life isn't a sprint, but a marathon. To be able to be present and accept myself as I am. Can anyone share their experience of traversing the traps of stage orange and share some insight? I'm a rat in the maze, chasing the cheese.

Make an appointment with a speech pathologist. Expressable is a company that does appointments via Zoom. $59 per session.

"We humans have a deep need to think highly of ourselves. If that opinion of our goodness, greatness, and brilliance diverges enough from reality, we become grandiose. We imagine our superiority." -Robert Greene (The Laws of Human Nature) - Law 11 "Man will only become better when you make him see what he is like." -Anton Chekhov In order to overcome a limitation or shadow within yourself, so that you may grow out of it, try the following: 1) Recognize the extent of your ignorance, weakness, and/or lack of skill in a given area. 2) Accept the harsh truth that you aren't as special or talented as you thought you were in that area. 3) Expect ego backlash from this realization. 4) Meditate on your newly discovered weakness until you no longer feel the restriction on your breath or the tension in your body. 5) Craft a plan of action. 6) Commit to taking action on your plan.

@StarStruck Stop trying to “seem” less needy. Work on yourself to become less needy. Then you won’t have to try and hide it (manipulation) These separate categories are all symptoms of the same problem. Weakness.

Watch Leo’s video: A Rant Against The Pick Up Community You could watch YouTube video’s and take notes on coaches. A.G. Hayden who I mention below does reviews and helps you see who you should actually learn from. Use intuition to figure out when something is toxic or damaging to others/women. There is lots of manipulation and bad stuff but also good stuff. Figure out what’s ethical for yourself. I watch the following: Jack Denmo (Youtube Prankster, not a coach) (He’s Smooth AF) (Denmo Social - Course 7.5/10 - $95) *A.G. Hayden (does personal coaching) (don’t know his prices) (good big-picture understanding and majored in psychology) Honest Signalz (Watch his confidence and boldness) (don’t agree with his promiscuity or views on women but has game) Owen Cook Julien Himself Use your judgement with these last two as well. I liked this book: Mark Manson - Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty

@Animo Yeah I can relate for sure, thanks for chiming in. Will definitely take some adventures and enjoy life more

@Intraplanetary Do we?

@Snader Most of my survival needs are in Orange. I will deal with the distractions in my life which do not bring me joy or fulfillment. I am comfortable dealing with ego backlash, not worried about that. Dealt with much worse before. @Leo Gura I will make it a priority to have enjoy myself on a regular basis from now on. @Nahm Ah, I haven’t been sitting still or breathing deeply during my meditation. I will correct this.

I have read Spiral Dynamics. I'll skim through it again and highlight the things I'm missing. I'll look specifically at the 6 conditions of MEME change and moving through the spiral. Good point about life conditions and direct experience.

Writing helps me get my thoughts out so I can see things more clearly. I don't especially like writing, so I write publicly to force myself to really think about what I'm feeling or thinking about. I'm way more focused when I know that my words may directly influence others, so I can't be lazy when writing on here. Leadership is my highest value. I'll reflect on the lesson I didn't realize I taught myself lol

Yes I am mostly Stage Yellow.

@Virtus Learn about the concept of The Dark Triad. (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Sociopathy) They are 3 traits (of many) that attract women. It basically comes off as massive self belief and confidence. Create a personality which projects these traits (don't become them) when you're around women to attract them. Women dislike/distrust weak men because: 1) weak men are more dangerous than strong men, 2) they're no fun (timid, unopinionated, passive rather than assertive...) 3) they're rarely powerful or have much status, 4) they are poor leaders, 5) they can't protect them, 6) they have no purpose in their life other than to take the easy road and chase women (simplifying here but you get the point) I'm not saying to become a Machiavellian, sociopathic, narcissist. Or that you should manipulate women in order to get what you want from them. In order to attract women effectively, you need to create a strong masculine frame in order to allow a woman to open up and be feminine with you. The Dark Triad is a powerful concept to understand in becoming an attractive man. (Straight) women love a confident man and it's hard to project confidence if you don't feel it within yourself. Become confident by increasing your self-efficacy. Set goals and achieve them. Take care of your body and mind. Find your purpose and place it before women. Continue to develop yourself. Find and actualize your life purpose. You could study: social skills, charisma, persuasion, male/female psychology, and lots of other subjects to help you understand women and attraction. If you have any negative views or beliefs about women, uncover them and transcend them. Your negative beliefs about women will shine through from your behavior/body language and they will feel it. If you have any negative views on your sexuality, shame for instance, uncover and transcend those.

@Tangerinedream Practical tips: -Wear sunscreen and facial lotion daily. -Avoid long periods in the sun without protection. (Hats, long sleeves, etc.) -Avoid recreational drugs.

Study psychology, human nature, social skills, Self-Love, detachment. Become passionate about life and express yourself even if you think others won’t like it. (If they don’t, then you don’t want them in you life anyway, right?) Apply requisite variety to all your problems in life.

*Shamanic Breathing. (Leo’s vid) Primal Therapy. Shadow Work. (See Leo’s booklist) Contemplate your traumatic experiences using a journal and realize that it’s no longer real. It’s just a figment of your imagination. Forgive & love yourself and all others involved in the traumatic event/s. Distance yourself from anyone who harmed you so that you may heal in a safe environment. Dream analysis and journaling. Small doses of psychedelics. (Research first) Take 100% responsibility for where you are now. You are no longer a victim. If you are still framing yourself as the victim, you won’t be able to heal.