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I'll give you this perspective instead. When you're done having sex, you had kids already, you paid everything you need to pay for. Do you still want a woman around? Do you actually care for a woman? Do you love Woman? Of course you'll want to make love to Woman, but do you love woman? Just enjoy it then. But how can you enjoy it when you are thinking about so so many other things? Leave out all the rest

BOOM. exhaust it.

Thanks!

You can put your head inside water and scream. I come from a similar background where I experienced my father's rage and anger, and some physical violence too. I also vowed never to become like that, angry, violent, abusive, alcoholistic. I am 26. I took a job as selling insurance to people. What I learned is that I am very nice and my tone is almost always pleasant and to the point. But that doesn't sell enough. So I had to learn how to be more assertive. I literally remember one shift, where I took a phone call, and I became so angry because I literally experienced a customer just give me the same old 'Oh I have to discuss this with my wife', really? REALLY?! At this point I could already sense that this sentence is 99% of the times just a lie, because although he was interested, he wasn't sold. And most people aren't direct because they do not understand themselves enough. So this is the automatic response. 'I have to think about it', 'Okay I'll call you back'... Yeah bullshit buddy. So I told myself that I had enough avoiding these people and I would only take NO for an answer after I had done persuading. And so that's what I did. And I sold a shit ton more. I became angrier and it was easier for me to tap into this. Because it had brought up this anger to surface. It had made me bitter and more resentful. I have hurt some of my family and closest friends because of stupid out lashes about things that do not matter. I deeply regret dabbling with this emotion but I understand that it was a lesson I had to learn... Let me tell you the truth, the anger and the avoidance of it. The repression of it. They're the same... It and everything around it is worthless now. The anger is more immediate and tbh it's better than repression but it's not sustainable! In fact, today I understand deeper than ever, that you must heal these things, or they will corrupt you, whether repressed or not- it doesn't matter. And it is worthless garbage when you think of the good. The life. A waste of time. But an important part of me. It holds truth, but only for me. This is not something I should ever let outside of my mouth. And it is my responsibility to allow it to crucify myself. I hope you take that away, and instead of playing with fire. Get help. Therapy. Bring your life to a good point, if you're like me then you probably have issues in multiple areas of your life outside the anger or issues with minor addictions. Get a grip on your life. Bring yourself to a good place. Then again, I do not know you . I wish you much luck in your journey! May your road light you ahead...

Keep looking man don't give up. I know some people that made some deep breakthroughs because of their physical issues/illnesses. If you can't find a physical solution then going the mental route might find you a path. Appreciate you.

It's very interesting that in our western society we emphasize language very much, and that is a left hemisphere function(although the right can do it too if needed). To the point where our kids start speaking at 1 year old. Whereas some more 'traditional' families don't talk as much to their kids and instead they express themselves through body and facial gestures. This makes the child start speaking later, at 3 years old. But his ability to understand human emotion is deeper. I believe our left hemisphere is the western world projected out. I think we are a left hemisphere civilization that is enforcing itself everywhere on the globe... Personally I think we are dysfunctional at birth as humans, in the way our brains work, and our mental obsessives. I think tools that help us balance both hemispheres are key to self-actualization.

No problem believe me I get it. But he's never comfortable. He goes on this interview or discussion with troy and it doesn't really go off anywhere. I was really excited and interested to see how these two collaborate. But Owen couldn't for the life of his quit yabbing. Here's the thing about social interaction, there's gotta be two... Otherwise you're just talking to yourself. Troy is very 'advanced' spiritually, so it makes perfect sense for someone that is more attached to his image, like Owen, to be acting like this. Owen is a big name, so it took me by surprise. But there's nothing special here really. It happens all the time if you're vibing like Troy. Respect for Troy for taking it like a champ. I wouldn't be able to stand it.

Wait so you can't sit? This doesn't sense. How do you sleep? How do you rest? Look man, meditation is not supposed to be hard. EVER. Open your mind to meditation being simple, easy, enjoyable. Like you were a 6 year old kid, how would you instruct your 6 to meditate? You know some 6 year olds can barely stand still for 1 minute. I can see that your body is really sensitive and your mind also because of your condition. This is a positive tool in meditation because it means you have very strong signs and communication from your body. follow it...

Hey I mean he has some connection to Troy Casey, who's aim is to become woke as fuck. So I think he dabbles in this stuff. I guess It's a weird place to be when you've been doing your career for so long you don't even know what else you could do. I hope he tries some psychedelics, then again he's borderline autistic or something like that and besides I have a feeling he's not emotionally available so I guess you're right. It's too bad as I would really love to see him continue to grow, and his business too. In its current state the work is on surface shallow level stuff. I think there's an issue with stale water going bad. Personally RSD was a big thing for me a few years ago, I was younger too, and I am certain that RSD is a very positive thing especially for men in the modern world in regards to how to express their power and breakthrough old social paradigms. At it's current state, PU deals only with shallow surface level things. Making it worthless in the grand scheme of things, but very worth-while for our civilization and self-development. Then again, what is this game really about? Why are we taking this social matrix so seriously? Putting their life on the line and for what? Fleeting materials, it may become a thing of survival though, if you truly lack social dynamics.

I struggle with this too, at 26 I've only slept with 1 woman. I don't even have an idea of how to form this question, so your effort in this post is much appreciated and understood... thank you.

It's too stretchy for his audience. But it's Joe so that's not the issue.

LastThursday's answer is really well done. I also wanted to express the other side of this question which is not from the objective far back view, but rather to attempt to explain it from the inside. Which I say that to capture the color green and red is not coincidental and its value is not objective, these colors use for appreciating the mind. The realm of RED or the realm of GREEN. it hits you very different if you dare to take a step and valuate it subjectively.

Everything happens way before our ego comes to play. A thought comes, then the ego says 'I am thinking this...'. It was given, you never made any thought, same way as saying you never had control. In fact your very existence was given suddenly. When were you born?! Out of where?! Go back there.

Thanks I am really into Japan and I always knew there is something strange about its culture. As I can see its problems are not only locally loyal, as I can see these human problems as conditional laws that were founded in our past history, that no longer have much value in a modern western world. The western world has its own set of problems too besides its past baggage, and I believe the solution to these problems will auto correct these long standing issues as well. I do not hold any answers.

It's forceful. It's a good mask. He takes the positive sides of 'spirituality' or more like, new age. And applies it however it fits his business right. The air of survival stinks from him. It smells like sales person. He sells dreams. He hypnotizes those who long for longing best. It's a slight of hand, it's a trick. Check this interview- Notice how throughout the entire interview Owen Cook never once lets his mask down, never once really listens. Never once holds silence or space. Because he knows how quickly his façade will vanish if he shuts up. It's a sales tactic. I have no idea who Owen Cook is. Or what is underneath that.

Thanks for the advice, but I am just too damn LAZY to do all this work... I am not really looking to reinvent the wheel here. I just want something to pay the bills. I don't mind working 8 even 10 hours a day and I like my comfortable secure 9-5 paycheck more than your, excuse me but wacky solutions. I don't mean to be judgy or close minded! So let it be known that it is much appreciated!!! I want to work in coding. I don't if it's a good option to me because of lack of education, and some people have said that it's okay but I still think it's risky. I am going to pay for a counselor to help me figure this out.

Hi I am a 26 year old from Israel. My high school diploma is incomplete, there' some things I need to re-take so I'll have the equivalent of a GED here. I haven't taken the equivalent of SAT exam. I took a 1 year course in full stack java programming. I haven't found a job yet, I don't know why. Maybe employers are looking mostly for people with a degree. I don't have a driver's license yet, that's my next goal... I work as a customer service rep at an insurance company which pays me 2K$~ a month. I don't know what to do next. Maybe I should go back to school. It will take me 2 years to study math and literature, take the exam, and get my GED. Then another 1 year~ to study and take SAT exam. Then I can start looking at going to college to get a degree in programming. I don't know exactly how debt works as I have savings and neither does my family(we are poor) so if it's even possible I am looking for another 3-4 years of studying. so by the time I am 32-33 I will be ready to start my first job in programming. For me this long route makes no sense... I also thought about trade school..?! Anyone has any idea?

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I want to able to write code professionally. I don't know if it's something I can do... studying at a university, or going back to acquire my GED from high school, this is a lot of learning to do. I don't mind studying for a year or two. But 3-7 years is too much. Am I being rash here? at 26? with no savings? I was thinking that I could try to take another course, and some of them promise you a job at the end. While it does sound promising, I don't know if I will be able to advance my career, as future employers would look and see that I do not have some of the education required. But I would have some experience though. I feel that it would always be difficult for me to pursue in this profession simply because I lack some of the education basics. This fundamental lack surely projects on other professional options. It makes me think that I should go for a trade. I know that people see it badly, it's a hard job, the pay is not so good. But I am not sure what other option do I have? I would ride my bike a shit ton. I would travel all over the world mostly by my bicycle. I would bed many many women. I would eat an abundance of fruits and vegetables. I would visit ancient yogis. I would settle at a small community, either at the tropics or a cold European country. I would have a wife and a daughter, I could also have only a daughter. At least half of my food grown by myself. I prefer off grid living. peace.

run run away!!! it's a trap! seriously though nothing beats your experience. if it helps you, use it, if it confuses you, screw it. follow your intuition not your mind, you already got it, just keep going.

relax your spiritual high wouldn't have lasted long regardless of the meds. It's like you're on some sort of delay with yourself. breath and let the shit show unfold itself... stop with the psychedelics, get therapy. how can you ask people on this forum to help you you need professional help dude seek therapy... What love?? are you an idiot? You sound like a big one. GET HELP MAN!

All these people having non dual glimpses and boom we got ourselves an enlightened master... Yes awakening is very special and will not happen to most people... Maybe In india you would be celebrated as i'd imagine you'd want. But here in the west? Guess what your awakening means nothing! You still gotta survive and make money. You gotta get a job. Just like the rest of us.

Thanks. This is something that I am really into! It seems to me that this is the deepest work there is. Since it will completely transform your sense of self and esteem and how you relate to life. Maybe you will like my post about the satisfaction meditation too!

I do something similar to it. It's inspired by Matt Kahn. It's whatever arises, love that. So anything that arises, you love it. One 'i love you' at a time. pain? 'i love you', judgment? love the judger and love the judged. don't know what to do? love that one. how long is this gonna last? love that one too. Every reaction you get, you give yourself love. This is NOT a mantra! Even though it may seem like it. It's more like this is you, liberating you! You may be thinking but how does this help me at all? the answer is you will help yourself with whatever you need, what we are doing in this meditation is removing the ignorance out of the equation, because you are finally giving yourself love freely. It's unconditional love, not conditional love, this is how you embody it. By starting to recondition all your reactions to giving love freely. this reconditioning is the is like a form of self-liberation. 'oh my god this is so much bullshit' -> 'i love you -liberation. This had opened my heart in the past, and lead to full blown tears and ecstasy where you are overflowing with love so much that you just wanna give it away(ahh!! the conditioning) It's not for everyone and especially people that don't have enough experience how to love themselves, so common reactions are strong aversions, shame, weirdness, awkwardness. these are all indications that your subconscious mind has no clue how to react to 'love', especially the last one. if you stick with it then with some time(not long at all) you will begin to find inner reciprocation.

I've never been able to hold meditation for more than a few months. What is your practice? And how long have you been practicing?