Byun Sean

Only finite form can be seen. Consciousness is infinite and formless.

most of his dating advice are from the male agenda perspective. The women's survival agenda will be different. Most guys he's giving advice to just want to know how to get laid. That is their need and their agenda. The extent they include the woman's agenda in practice depends on how developed and conscious the guy is. Thats why it's equally important for a woman to personally develop herself and set strong healthy boundaries so you screen for low consciousness guys who will treat you like crap.

I understand where your coming from. But notice that is your bias. Pain and suffering have nothing to do with whether something is true or not. God's design is for the benefit of all beings. Not just you. And yes survival is brutal and the suffering and pain feels real. Thats part of the design. The stakes have to be real otherwise you wouldn't be fully involved in the video game. You asked a spiritual question so I gave you a spiritual answer.

Because when your absolutely infinite in all ways. You get bored and want to impose limitations on yourself for fun. Not only do you want all these limitations and challenges deep down but you also enjoy buying into the illusion and that the stakes are real in life. The drama, the challenge, the highs, the lows, and the rich duality are what make life so entertaining and amazing. You want to experience everything because of your total love for all of yourself as God.

Well I guess the first question to act yourself is what is blocking you from meeting your own needs in these situations right now? The reason you can't act more 'selfish' is because you have a certain fear behind what will happen if you do. Only you can know/ figure out what that is. There seems to be an underlying need you're meeting that is taking priority over meeting your other needs. Your job is to introspect and figure out what that block/ fear is so you can consciously choose what needs to meet rather than unconsciously.

yea my blocks for this were actually so big I had to put myself in a situation where I literally couldn't say no. I did this by getting a job at retail. I can't say no to going to work otherwise I lose my job. Once you work at retail for long enough, all your boundaries and comfort zones fly out the window lmao. There are lots of other ways you can do this but this was mine.

Had the same fears. In my experience there is no substitute for this one but facing the fear head on. Constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone and allow your ego to get beaten down and feel negative emotions. Eventually you will grow to a point where you will no longer feel fear but feel empowered to do whatever it takes to achieve what you want. I am still in the process of doing this myself. The truth is, people care a lot less than you think. They are mainly just focused on how your work can benefit their own life since they are so focused on their own life. But you won't be able to fully see that until you live it. Living it means pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and surrender to the possibility of feeling whatever you are afraid of feeling. Embarrassment, suffering, judgement, being overwhelmed, etc.

There are no good and bad people. These are completely arbitrary distinctions drawn by the ego people use to paint themselves as a victim. People who are successful simply do what works. What works is how well you can meet the other person's needs and desires. Not because you are some good or bad person. Is there some set of rules in the universe that says someone is good if they do xyz and others are bad if they do xyz? No! Your ego is blindly drawing these rules to selfishly support your self agenda. Women have a different survival agenda than men. They want a strong man that can take care of them. Every guy can be nice. Being nice is easy. Being nice can be people pleasing and inauthentic at times. A strong woman wants a real authentic man who is true to his feelings. Not some people pleaser who can't stick up for himself. This can be hard to accept because we want our needs met so badly. But that is the nature of survival. It is not unconditionally loving it is selfish and can be brutal at times and were all struggling in this together.

Exactly. Relationships, dating, and sexuality in a sense is a business deal for the purposes of meeting and fulfilling needs if we take out the love component for just a second here. The more conscious and self worth a woman has, the more she loves herself, the more she will naturally screen out vibrationally all guys that vibe at lower more selfish frequencies who would potentially hurt her. A high integrity person (more conscious person) sees low integrity from a mile away. And she will also attract stronger guys into her life. We allow ourselves to be treated in relationships how we treat ourselves.

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I don't know what your goal is but in general you want to create a clear vision of what tangible result you want to create in your life. Keep questioning and journaling all the amazing details of what life will be like when your vision is actualized. Write a whole page just about your vision. To make it more concrete. What would life be like if everything in your vision happened right now. How would you feel? Find a way to meditate on or remind yourself of your vision everyday. Vision boards can be useful for big or long term goals. It is also very important not only to create a vision for exactly what you want. But to create a practical action plan on how to get there. If you don't know how to get there. Thats fine. Create a plan on how you are going to find out and just start taking action and trust that the answers will come to you when the time is right. Also, visualization alone is not sufficient. If you secretly don't think it can actually happen for you or that your goal is way up there on a pedestal and not possible here and now in the present moment your not gonna be motivated to take action because you've already decided its not happening unconsciously. Your mind is like a weighing scale. Its always trying to maximize good feelings and minimize bad or painful ones. Your not gonna get it to move unless you give it a pretty tasty looking carrot on a stick to look at. It also may be possible that for one reason or another you don't really want your goal but you are pursuing it for some other reason like: -peer pressure -fear of not being good enough -wanting to be better or superior in some way -you believe achieving some goal on the outside will satiate or heal an inner need or wound All of these are unhealthy motivations and will be very weak in motivating you toward your goals because goals motivated by fear are bear self deception and are secretly geared toward self preservation rather than actually experiencing a higher experience of life. It may also be that you simply don't have the motivation to work on that goal because other areas of your life are weighing you down. -health -unhealthy relationships -work life -everyday survival tasks Many of these can weigh you down big time and sap your creative energy if they are not together or in a mess.

You need to build a strong ego before you can transcend it. If you have a weak ego its gonna be way harder to transcend. Transcending the ego does not mean you literally forget who you are as a finite human. You still retain that awareness but you become aware of your true identity beyond that. Transcend and include. Not transcend and forget. So by all means, build a strong self image that serves you. It cannot hurt your spiritual process. If anything it will help you a lot because now you are consciously manipulating and creating your self image rather than doing it unconsciously.

Hard work, business, entrepreneurship Independence and self reliance. confidence and charisma. money, sex, and luxury. (abundance of material things can be very healthy so long is it is not obsessed over and hoarded in excess). rationality, logic, science. analysis and strategic thinking. creative thinking and innovation. tangible actions and results. The overall big picture I see of the benefits of integrating stage orange include -getting ones material needs met in abundance (This sets the foundation for all other higher personal development growth). -embodying independence, self confidence, and charisma. -learning discipline, hard work, strategy, and efficiency to achieve success in one's life. -Thinking strategically and creatively in your life to get tangible results.

This list is great.

I'm not making any assumptions. I myself have not taken 5 meo so I cannot say I definitively know what it does. I'm just poppin the question of how would you know if you haven't tried. Leo is not a cult leader. He's just a guy on youtube sharing his personal development ideas and practices. I mean come one he gives away like 99 percent of his content away for free. He could easily make way more money off of this stuff. It's your job to do research from many different sources other than Leo and test what he says carefully in your own direct experience to make sure you aren't taking stuff on blind faith. No one is at fault for your epistemic errors. He also gives many disclaimers in his videos of the dangers of misusing psyches and misinterpreting the teachings. He says it so many times. It's just foolish to shut down a potentially useful personal development technique over a few niche cases where people misused the teachings and did something dangerous. There will always be mistakes with everything no matter how many precautions you set and disclaimers you say. We never want these cases to happen and we try are best but there is always a tradeoff in every technology. I mean why don't we just ban cars too because people get into car accidents due to bad driving. People who believe in cars are evil. And why don't we just make it illegal to go swimming in the ocean at beaches because some people will swim out too far and die by shark attacks or drown. See the difference between those cases I just listed and psyches is that you don't know what psyches are or how they work and so it scares you. The mind is threatened by anything it can't make total sense of. So you won't ever open your mind to the possibility that psychedelics may or may not be a useful personal development tool and instead label it as a mind destroying evil drug. Again I've never used psyches. I don't have too. Your not being open minded or neutral here. You are trying to take sides between what to believe but these are just your own imaginations. You won't really know until you do some quality unbiased research and try some psyches for yourself with an open mind with all the safe precautions to see what it really does for you in your direct experience. Not what you've heard from someone else. Not a belief system or ideology. But your personal unbiased experience.

i mean if you haven't taken 5meo yourself, how can you know that it won't reveal the Truth?

I had the same hangups. I worked in retail for 8 months. I'm still working that job. It grew me socially like nothing else. It's only one way so this is for sure not the only way but just to give you a possible idea to work with. When your working retail you don't have time or resources to worry about what others think of you. You can't runaway from a social situation because its part of your job to help the people. You just do whatever is needed at any given moment. I went from being afraid of saying hi to a stranger to having weird and interesting conversations with people right off the bat effortlessly. It took a lot of work though. There was a lot of resistance. (I still have resistance I'm working through). Fear of judgement. Fear of suffering. Fear of not gaining approval. Etc. These all have to be felt and worked through experientially over and over and over again. You have to keep putting yourself in situations that push you to the limits of your social comfort zone until you just don't care what others think anymore and the uncomfortable becomes the comfortable. Then you can relax and be playful and you won't care at all or have any shyness anymore. Again this stuff takes work. Don't expect this kind of growth to come easy. Expect to run into failure, after failure, after embarrassing situation, after suffering, after failure, while you are growing yourself. Whether or not you choose to work in retail. If you want to grow this part of yourself, imo, the big picture is you need to get over your fear of feeling negative emotions. If you examine your fears that have to do with socialization they have deep unforgiving suffering attached to them that has you by the nuts and will continue to until you push the limits of your comfort zone so much that you heal yourself of your fears and your social anxiety and shyness evaporates.

In theory, Mahasamdhi is supposedly the doorway from the physical to the next dimension. It is accessed through intense spiritual work and only happens by a conscious willing to exit this life consciously to go beyond by the individual. Thats what I've heard about it. I've heard many spiritual teachers talk about it so I assume it exists. The mystery with mahasamadhi is you won't really know how it works experientially until or if it arises as a possibility in your experience. In which case others can only take your word on faith or you exit this dimension and no one hears from you again. Mahasamadhi from what I hear is much different from escapism or suicide and never happens unconsciously or by 'accident'. So in that regard I think you don't need to worry about it.

What is stopping you from having the kind of relationship life you desire now?

It makes perfect sense you would be feeling this way. As humans we all need connection and are very sensitive to how people treat us. Kudos to you for being so open and real about it on an online forum like this. What would be your ideal relationship life if you could choose?

death implies an entity exists independent of its environment and its boundaries separating it from its environment are dissolved. Since the Universe is absolutely everything that could every be. It cannot die.

meh jack off a tiny bit just enough to get hard but not enough to cum so you can confirm your ready and then just do it. You can always get more semen/ sexual energy. This might be a once in a lifetime opportunity for growth and exploration in dating this girl. If you want to complete a 30 day monk mode challenge like the one your doing. In the future, don't date anyone at the same time.

Mystical experiences of absolute oneness can be scary af bro. One time I experienced one at work and I literally couldn't tell the difference between anything any more. All was just one Self. Oneness is extremely threatening to our need to survive because survival means maintaining our physical and psychological structure to some degree in order to keep living life as.a human being. Thats probably why I shit my pants because you literally will start to stop caring about surviving and that can be scary lol.

you should ask yourself "what exactly am I afraid of missing out on?" What would you experience with other girls that you can't experience with your current girlfriend? better sex. Better connection. Etc. Try to pinpoint the exact thing you are afraid of missing out on. Then things should become more clear on what to do. From first glance it looks to me like you are afraid of being trapped in a relationship with this one girl because you see it getting boring and mundane fast. The solution to this would be to see if both of you could learn more about each other, spend more time together, put more effort into helping each other grow and push each other out of your comfort zones. If there is no movement or growth relationships can become boring and stale fast. Or sometimes people just aren't compatible for the long term. Not saying any of this is you or your situation. These are just general guesses based on what you've written. Don't take my words too seriously. In the end you gotta figure out whats best for your particular situation because you know you and your girlfriend best. You have some deep introspection work to do.

You can definitely still be strategic without being fear based. Life is an RPG with a lot of random factors. Ok so you come up with a strategy and then improvise on the fly. That way your not without any plan at all so you have some tangible blueprint as to where you want your life to go but you also don't hold yourself back in a fear based way. Most people swing all the way to one side or the other. Either "I'll never accomplish my dreams". Or "I'll sacrifice everything and blindly go for it no matter what". Both can end up pretty badly. The key here is balance between the strats and the oomph.