Byun Sean

Ego in women tend's to manifest more as sneaky social manipulation that people please's, gossips, lies, and martyring to gain social power. By doing this the woman can appear as caring and selfless even if she isn't as much deep down and her motives are more selfish then meets the eye. It's much less obvious compared to ego in men which just looks like brute forcing everything. I think the reason men have abused women so much throughout history is simply because the center of gravity of consciousness of the societies were already so low and men have the advantage and power of physical strength over women and children. And on top of that women seem to be more naturally wired for empathy and tuned into their emotions than men naturally are. I think men can develop themselves to become as tuned in to emotions as women but it takes much more effort. On the same note I think women can become as adept at being grounded and using their mind's as well as men can but it takes more effort.

Maximum diversity. This dream is just one version.

Definitely not the end. Keep going. Don't waste time being caught up thinking if you've reached the end or not. or if your "enlightened" or not. Enlightenment is an idea you bought from culture. It doesn't exist. You don't even know if there is an end or not. And if there is it will be a 180 totally backwards mindfuck you would never be able to guess in a million years.

feel deeper. Push yourself out of your social comfort zone it forces you to feel deeper. Let yourself get upset, angry, sad, happy, and everything in between. Allow yourself to feel like total shit or total bliss. Yes you can read books to arm you with tools to employ feeling deeper into emotions. But also keep in mind that understanding emotions can only happen on a feeling level. And until you feel them you don't really understand them. Emotional intelligence is just this: how aware are you of your own emotions and the emotions of others. The most accurate understanding happens at the level of being. You don't need to will being in touch with the emotions of others. If you become fully involved with your own being emotionally you will naturally feel deeper into all other beings.

suffering is resistance to what is. We resist what is because we are selfish and must survive as finite beings in this physical dimension. If we don't resist what is we cannot suffer.

Yes good point. She doesn't have to have a relationship with her mother. It's totally up to her. We need to give ourselves the freedom, love and acceptance to be anyway we want before we can fully care for someone else.

childhood wounds are some of the roughest things to deal with in life. I feel for you. My advice would be to try your best to focus on your own healing as much as possible and plan to move out and set healthy boundaries with her. Trying to change her will likely not work at best and at worst make things even worse. Then when you have your boundaries and you have healed yourself and filled up your own cup you are in a position to love her and be there for her in an unbiased way if thats what she wants.

#1 Becoming jacked on consciousness/ awakening #2 wisdom, reading books, courses, teachers, lifelong learning #3 Finding life purpose and sticking to it #4 relationships #5 sticking to one or a few hobbies and spending a lot of time getting good and knowledgeable at them

Once we have survival needs, comforts, and conveniences taken care of, married or not the quality of ones consciousness determines the quality of life. People and external circumstances should all be designed to maximize one's growth in consciousness to live the best life possible. So the question is not married or not married. The question is spiritual work or not spiritual work and what structure supports spiritual work and what does not. A relationship can definitely support one's growth in consciousness. But it can also be used as a distraction to avoid doing the work. It's all situation dependent since everyone's different.

why is no one mentioning my man sadhguru That mans consciousness could light a light bulb with his butt hairs.

Yeah man. christ consciousness is the ultimate chick magnet.

Learn to return harassing, invasive, or threatening attitudes with your own assertive attitude back and carry pepper spray with you and don't be afraid to use it if he gets too close. Threaten to call the police if he oversteps his boundaries as well. I would research the legal specifics of how you can press charges if someone does overstep certain boundaries. In these situations you are the only one who can save you. You have to awaken the fiery spirit within you and stick up for yourself. These situations are not times to be all loving and compassionate. Imagine you saw this same incident happening to your daughter 15 feet away and the guy was getting inappropriate fast. How would you react then? Step up for yourself in the same way you would your own daughter. You are not being mean. You are setting a boundary and returning the energy he is putting out so he knows his place. Its ok to return an asshole kind of energy back at someone if they overstep or threaten a boundary if they know their place. You may also consider asking other wise women in your life how they would handle the situation. My advice may not be the best advice. I'm honestly just theorizing what I would do if I were in that situation as a woman. So you can definitely contemplate or use my idea. Guys here on the forum can give some potentially good insight and solutions, but they (myself included) can also be really out of touch with how difficult and unsafe it can feel to be a woman in this world facing these kinds of situations. I can't even imagine how much women have to worry about this crap just simply going out in public alone and then living in that lingering fear all the time. So thus, If I were you I would also find women who you feel you can trust and have good integrity and are wise for their input in these situations as well. Also if there are any women on the forum you can ask that could be helpful as well. Spend time contemplating strategies and gather multiple perspectives. Devise together a precise strategy on how you will go about reacting to these situations and then commit to the course of action when needed.

go work on other areas of your life you clearly are not ready for enlightenment. Doing spiritual work is counterproductive if you don't have a proper physical life which is enjoyable and meets your needs to fall back on.

If thats what you want to believe that will be true for you.

I'm not saying listen to me or believe me. If you believe me it won't help you because Truth is not a belief. If you disbelieve me you may close yourself off to a possibility. Notice whatever side you take is still just a belief system. The only one who holds ultimate authority on knowing what is true is you. In theory people can tell you many different ways of arriving at truth but you won't ever know for sure until you sort the wheat from the chaff in your direct experience and determine for yourself. Notice appeals to authority are still you deciding but your projecting your own authority elsewhere.

don't give anything credibility. Notice both stances are just beliefs. Belief can't get you to Truth. Truth is absolute and you can't know it through the mind. You must go beyond the mind.

What is it that you want in theory if you had total control of your reality right now?

what you need to work on is not primarily your height or your looks but your insecurity about them which is what will really turn women off. neediness is the #1 turn off for girls regardless of height or how a guy looks. Besides you can't really change your height or looks a significant amount. You can to an extent. But if your truly interested in maximizing your odds you gotta work on your personality, your confidence, your humor, your masculinity, etc. This stuff can be enhanced 100000x+ if you really work at it. In order to get better with women you need to both work on yourself and get experience with women in the field/ socialize. You need both and blaming everything on your looks and society isn't serving you. The best you can do is give your looks your best shot. Then after that it all comes down to your personality to increase your chances the most.

Is there anything you can do to get out of marrying him?

Rules and fear on what you might say are the kicker here. It just takes a bunch of experience and practice to get over all your fears of: -not gaining the girls approval -causing a negative interaction -saying something extremely stupid causing the girl to think negatively of you In time with a lot of practice you will be able to be comfortable just talking to not only women, but any human being or stranger at all in a comfortable and even humorous (if appropriate) way. But it takes a mastery of emotions. Its not a logical thing or thing you can do with your mind by just theorizing. Thats why you gotta get out there and practice where your emotions are they key factor.

Bro what is the point of this conversation. Your literally on an online forum bashing a girl for her preferences in men. Let people live life. If you have something constructive to say then ok. But if you feel the need to bash people then you should find something outside of the forum that actually improves your life experience. Your not converting anyone to your ways of thinking by bashing it into them. It just repels people.

@StarStruck Set healthy boundaries and be upfront about them. You don't owe her anything. If she demands things from you beyond you helping her from the goodness of your heart then that smells of toxicity imo. You can buy her stuff but don't expect anything in return. Women at their worst can be master social manipulators.

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we would probably have a much much healthier society in general but we would still have to figure out how to organize ourselves into a new way of living because that radical of a shift in consciousness would naturally call for an entirely new set of values and way of living life individually and collectively.

Turquoise is usually focused on... -building a spiritual community -waking people up in creative ways -maxing out spiritually themselves