Byun Sean

That depends. Enlightenment is not some ultimate state or necessarily even the end of your journey in self actualization. It is just a direct consciousness of your true nature. You can still be at a low spiral stage, be emotionally immature, have unresolved childhood trauma issues after enlightenment. Relatively speaking, the degree of fulfillment of a person depends on how much consciousness the person has. Be careful assuming what you know about enlightenment if you've never experienced such a thing. If you haven't your'e imagining up some bullshit.

this is wrong Happiness is the natural state of all life. The only way you aren't happy is if you are resisting this present moment somehow. Which of course you have to if you are still invested in surviving your self. Depending upon how selfish and big your sense of self is will determine how unhappy you will feel about life. Spiral stage, ego development, and developing your relative self will certainly make your life better. Don't let anyone fool you. The two are not separate. All parts of your development are highly interconnected. For example no matter where someone is at in waking up a stage turquoise person will be significantly wiser in what they pursue in life with their time and energy than a stage orange person. The stage turquoise person would likely pursue more consciousness while a stage orange person would hit their limit chasing money (while useful will not bring ultimate/ total fulfillment) and not know where to go from there.

women will usually never tell 100 percent truth on the matter because it doesn't serve their survival. Most women have no idea what they are attracted to in the first place. Attraction is not a choice nor is it a logical thing. Therefore its much more effective for a guy to ask another guy who has lots of experience in attracting women because that guy obviously knows what works.

By going by belief you will only dig yourself further away from the Truth

yeah thats pretty normal actually. Just allow yourself to feel it and watch any thoughts and feelings that arise carefully. It should pass eventually.

All of those things are already beautiful from God's point of view. All you have to do is make yourself selfless enough to love all of that. When you love those things you will simultaneously be able to see the reason for their existence.

What your really asking here is what way of living will bring me and experience of the highest joy and blissfulness. The answer to that question would be to live your life with your number one priority being the pursuit of consciousness. Walk the spiritual path.

duality. If God is all there is how could there be a 'you' creating it. "Edit" Oh wait I misread. Yeah your pointing out the limitations of religious people's mindsets.

perfectly healthy and normal. All it does is it uses up some energy which you can experiment with. Pros and cons to it. Society demonizes it and shames it mainly because of religion and fear and taboo around sexuality and stuff. My advice to people: Give it a wank but at least enjoy yourself while your giving it a wank. Do it consciously and enjoy it. Most people do it while hating themselves or saying to themselves "this is bad". Do it one hundo P and love it to the max or don't do it at all.

so many myths about enlightenment. All it is is a direct awareness of what you are.

check what might be affecting your energy levels: health: diet, fitness, sleep schedule, nutrition, various health conditions etc. Diet can be a big one. Use of emotions: How often are you feeling angry, depressed, upset, etc. When we are in heavy emotional states it takes a toll on the systems energy levels Mental health: What is your thinking like? Are you telling yourself positive things or negative things. This could also influence your energy levels. Are you trying to sleep a lot to avoid something?

Meh masturbation is still perfectly healthy and natural.

Gonna be hard. Leo loves his 5 meo porn

lol. Try meditating while your cellmate is trying to rape you and beat you up all while 30 other prisoners are making noise and looking at you the whole time. you'll also likely be cold and uncomfortable. Your desire for enlightenment will fly out the window and you'll be craving basic survival needs.

you have to keep in mind most scientifically minded and aethiestically minded people have a axe to grind against anything that looks like religion and non-rational thinking because they just evolved from pre-rational thinking to rational. At this stage you genuinely believe that rationality is the best way to determine truth. Thus the post-rational is "over their head" and looks like airy fairy beliefs and so they put it in the same box as religion and all the pre-rational stuff. Pre-Trans fallacy. A classic.

sexual energy and semen is like life force or money. If you spend it frivolously thats your choice. But there are always consequences for everything. It's like a person who spends too much money on junk food and candy won't have enough to buy nicer more expensive things at the end of the month. Nothing wrong with junk food and candy if thats what you like. Junk food and candy is also not the best analogy because masturbation is still physically perfectly healthy for you as far as I know of. But it still applies that at some point you may get tired of spending money on candy want something greater. Thats why semen retention will never work if you demonize masturbation in your mind. You will masturbate until you realize there is a higher possibility beyond it.

Spend some time being single and only spend time with quality friends who care deeply about your well being. Love yourself and work on yourself. Don't go jumping into another relationship at least for a while. You need to give yourself time to heal. Spend some time in nature. Meditate. Read a good book. Go spend some time with a good friend. Listen to some music. Play some interesting video games. Laze around on online forums etc. These thoughts look like they are very temporary and should pass in time. Your boyfriend cheated on you so that says everything about who he is as a human being. Not you or your loveability. You must also take responsibility that you manifested this cheating experience yourself because the degree you love yourself on the inside is reflected to you on your outside reality as harsh as that may sound right now. I just want to tell it to you straight. The universe is pushing you to turn inward, take some time alone, and re-learn how to stand on your own two feet.

well then you won't get it done. You don't have to make it as strict as the example. Try it out at least for a day.

@levani Your worldview and your direct awareness are the top tools you use to make sense of reality. The reason you don't know what to do or where to begin is because both of these tools are either underdeveloped or being misused a great deal: 1. Your level of awareness/ consciousness is extremely low and can be enhanced 100x 1000x 10000000x infinity what it is right now. The tricky thing about it is you won't know how unconscious you were until you start becoming more conscious. (Not sure what this is? How do you know you exist right now? Prove to me you exist? How do you know for sure? The only way you know that you are here is because you are conscious of this moment right now. Thats consciousness. You are conscious, but you are still unconscious of what consciousness is. Consciousness is your true nature that you have yet to become conscious of. -tools for becoming more conscious: meditation, meditation retreats, various forms of yoga, psychedelics, self inquiry, etc. You need to research spiritual books and information for yourself like your life depends on it. 2. Your worldview is highly polluted with all sorts of limiting beliefs and false ideologies that both society has both programmed you with and your mind has constructed based on your childhood, upbringing, culture, and any emotional pain you have experienced. And most of these beliefs are things you hold to be very normal and real. To you most of them seem like 'tangible physical reality' or 'hard facts'. The problem is you don't know which beliefs and ideas or how many are incorrect and you can't know until you find truth and understanding to compare it against. On top of that your mind is doing everything in it's power to keep you from changing those beliefs or growing as a person because it knows if you become too aware, it's time is up. That means death of the ego mind. The moment you become aware of your true nature is the moment you will experience what we refer to culturally as death. But it won't be what you think it is. Right now you think death is hard and real and will be lights out for your existence because you still fundamentally believe you are a body and mind organism sitting in that chair reading a forum. Thats not really your true nature. It's possible to discover what you really are. Where you came from. What you are doing in this matrix we call life through your own direct awareness. And when you awaken from the dream of life you realize death was an illusion your mind used to keep you trapped in this matrix. Simultaneously when you awaken from the dream of life you still live your life like you used to. But now that you are aligned with your true nature, your levels of joy, fulfillment and happiness are more than you could have ever dreamed possible. Your at war with your own mind here. Your mind wants homeostasis. Survival. To keep you in the rat race of staying alive. But staying in the rat race of staying alive causes you immense suffering. You want happiness. Joy. Love. Not suffering. So In conclusion. Your plan is: 1. Start doing at least 1hr of consciousness work every single day starting tomorrow whatever that means for you. You don't even have to do 1 hr to start with if your mind has too much resistance to meditate for instance. Start with 20 minutes a day in that case but be consistent. You will be able to tolerate more at once as you start doing this work. In time you will see that that the pursuit of consciousness is the highest and most fulfilling pursuit of all. 2. Start reading books of all kind. Take detailed notes on them, and start applying them to your life. Books on spirituality, personal development, emotional mastery, dating relationships and sexuality, food diet and nutrition, life purpose career and business, etc. Leo's book list is a good place to start. But also do research on your own. Don't be looking for any one person to give you all the answers. You are the CEO of your life. Research books, courses, seminars, workshops, etc that you feel you need to improve in. This stuff is like the theory. Your job is to gather the theory, and then test it out in your own direct experience. Thats how you discover whats true. Their are people who have struggled their whole life and mastered a field and they write a 300 page book that holds all their deepest wisdom they gathered through their journey that you can access with one click for 15 dollars on amazon. theory----> test whats true in my direct awareness?------> Insight/ understanding. Thats how you improve and grow.

Love in romantic relationships and dating is highly conditional. Thats just the way it is. We are operating and limited by the forces of survival as humans. Thus we have many needs and thus, many times those needs clash. If you want to experience unconditional love the only way to do that is to become it. The only way to do that is to pursue God's love meaning becoming as conscious as humanly possible. Consciousness=Love. The amount of Consciousness you have= the amount of Love you have. Once you are conscious, you don't need an experience or person outside of you to make you feel blissful and loving. You are just loving by your own nature. I love this analogy I heard from Sadhguru once: If you are like a car: love in relationships= your love is on push start embodying love through spirituality= your making your love on self-start You can have both in your life but never ever make someone or something else your main or only source of love and fulfillment.

just make a schedule for the day ahead of time (ideally the night before) and what you want to get done and commit to it no matter what. Set specific times for doing things like: ex. Go to the gym: 7:30 am-8:30 am Write paper 8:45am-10:45am Break: 10:45am-11:15am Eat:11:15am-12:00pm That way. It's simple. You either stick to the schedule or you don't. No excuses. That way theres no "Ah I'll just go to the gym later because i feel a bit tired." No. Either you showed up at the time you set or you didn't. If you showed up, even if it was painful you know it was a success, because you kept your commitments.

Lambos, nightclubs, supermodels. All of this is distraction. You don't really want any of that. None of that will make you truly happy. All you really want is more consciousness. More consciousness will give you more fulfillment than all those things combined and 1000000x over. Pursue consciousness and a practical understanding of how your mind works as your highest priority. The fundamental issue here is you are trying to operate in reality when you don't even understand the tools you are using to interact with it! Mainstream society is in the dark ages when it comes to true happiness, fulfillment, and well being for living as a human being. Life isn't about chasing money, sex, material luxury etc. Yes those things are useful and nice, but they won't be nearly enough to take you all the way to the fulfillment you desire deep down.

When you are angry. Let yourself feel it completely. If you are being inauthentic. Let yourself be inauthentic and observe that. If you are sad and depressed, don't try to suppress the sadness. Feel it completely. Bathe in the sadness. The ego mind has rigid rules for how we must feel and interact with people because it fears suffering and being emotionally overwhelmed. But these rigid rules only have power over you as long as you obey them out of fear. When you push and test their boundaries you find out they had no substance whatsoever. Allow yourself to get emotionally overwhelmed and hurt sometimes. Experiment with how far you can go and do it while being mindful of your mind and your body. This kind of practice can help you reach a direct understanding of your emotions, open your heart up, and get you closer to emotional mastery. The only way to become unbreakable is when you allow existence to break you consciously in mind and heart.

Get as conscious as humanly possible. That should be your top priority. meditation, yoga, self inquiry, psychedelics, contemplation, etc. Make sure to practice socialization consciously as well to open your heart up, become more emotionally flexible and available, and develop great people skills. Invest your time in quality relationships that help you grow and help you become more conscious and get closer to emotional mastery through a messy process of conflict and repair. A balance between both of these will lead to a very holistic and healthy development for you in body, mind, and spirit. Figure out who you are as an individual as well. What are your values down to the specifics? What are you strengths and talents? What are you passionate about? What makes you tick? What is unique about how your personality and mind work compared to others? Read tons of books of all kinds. There are books on spirituality, diet and nutrition, dating and relationships, how the opposite sex works, personality types, psychological developmental models, business, science and philosophy, career and life purpose, socialization etc. Whatever your passions are there are there are guaranteed several people who have already done what you want to do successfully, become world class in that field, and written a book or made courses/ workshops on it online and in person. Read that stuff. Take those courses. That wisdom is priceless. They had to fall into thousands of traps and problems in their learning process that you can just bypass because you are getting the cream of the crop wisdom.

Good. Now try doing it when your sober during the day. Always a new challenge waiting for you. This feeling 'leechy' business is a limiting belief in your head your going to have to let go of or deal with some how. Approach. Reflect and read resources. Repeat. Thats the cycle. Overtime it will just become natural to you and like a hot knife through butter. You won't even give it a second thought. You see a hot girl and bam your already talking to her 5 seconds later effortlessly. That takes a lot of work though emotionally so don't expect to get that kind of strength for free.