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Ok, I've mastered my ability to create new habits... e.g., wake up at six am, or work out, etc. I've studied math, economics, etc., and I've learned how to sit down and 'learn'; however, this a new problem and I just can't crack it... my New Years Resolution was to work on being an exceptional decision maker; I'm trying to integrate a Decision Making Algorithm into my habitual thinking patterns - so I actually stop, work through the algorithm, and move on. The algorithm currently looks something like this: 1. What is logically, in this present moment, the most important thing? What does the work flow look like? i.e., the sequential order of import to not important. 2. What is the span of alternative options? I.e., is there a better decision i'm not considering: stop and really think about this. 3. Will this decision help me make better future decisions, or will this cascade into plethora of future bad decisions. Now, unlike creating normal habits -- which you only have to remember at x time -- this is something I have to constantly keep at the forefront of my consciousness - which is exceptionally difficult. As soon as I get lost in the flow of life, I completely forget to "think through the algorithm." When you study math, or anything else, you can call it to your forefront when you need it... this is a constant effort. How can I not "lose" myself in the flow of life? How do I actually keep this at the forefront of my conscious experience and integrate it into routine habit. From my understanding, things go from conscious incompetence -> subconscious competence. Yes, it's probably inefficient to stop and seriously think through this algorithm with every decision I make, but what i'm trying to do is integrate into subconscious routine: I address this now because I know someone is going to comment that. Thanks!

Hi. I'm out of the Matrix. I'm not a maxed out enlightened Buddha (I don't think I want to be that either) but I'm awake enough to no longer feel human; in fact, I feel holographic, non-tangible, and no longer bound by my body. When Leo talks of recognizing there's "nothing" there (literately) I'm living that: similar to how Frank Yang described it being a permanent out of body experience. All the parts of "me" that "made" me "me", fade in and out. Rarely (or if I drink) it seems my personality will come back in full-color - I'll be back home. Most of the time, however, there's just nothing there's - it's completely gone. It's just non-tangible awareness peering into what feels like a hologram. I'm only twenty one - I'm not ready to completely dissolve my personality & ego. I still have to build a career, date, experience life - all of this is really hard when there's nothing there anymore. How do I get myself back?

@Rilles The someone I'm referring to is just my old "personality" - my sense of humor, my charisma, my ability to small talk, connect, and engage with people and life: which used to be my biggest asset. That "thing" is very real; right now, I'm just a "blank canvass" devoid of personality - there's nothing there. When someone talks to me, I don't even know how to reply because there's "nothing" there to formulate a response to. This isn't a matter of "not being woke" it's being stuck in the no-self, devoid of no personality. When I drink, it seems it turns back on instantly, but sober me is stuck here.

Hi all. Tone down Maslow's hierarchy of needs here, this isn't a question that needs profound metaphysics & deep spiritual insights: I just need classic, man-to-man, father-son kind of advice. I'm twenty years old, currently a sophomore in college. I have a very definite vision for my life and I love waking up every day and actualizing it! As my vision has become more and more definite I've become more black and white with my expectations and boundaries: I have a very good sense of the kind of women I like and don't like; I know what of men I want in my inner-circle and the kind of men I'm not going to invest time into; I know where I want my time invested and where I'm not going to invest it. I feel extremely comfortable upholding this boundary and saying no to things that aren't on my agenda: not in an explicit domineering way--all though I have no problem explicitly saying no-- it's more just a deep confidence I have. However, I've developed an inner-circle friendship with a really cool guy. We're very similar but very opposite in many ways. He's an extremely social guy who loves social intercourse. He constantly challenges me and says "people are assets, meet everyone, get to know everyone, etc." However, this is also isn't a guy with a very strong vision: your level of boundaries is contingent on how strong your vision in. Bear in mind, I'm confident and charismatic... There's no anxiety problem that needs to be worked on, and I don't struggle with making friends. Here's where I need advice: Who's right here? How flexible should I be? I'm in an inner-circle phase mindset: I'll small talk, banter and play, enough to figure out if we share common goals that we could collaborate on. If there's no common ground, I have absolutely no interest in pursuing any further relationship: I'm out. Whereas my friend would encourage me to keep investing in the relationship. Q: Is this attitude immature? Should I be more lax? Or is this what maturity and growth looks like: vetting out the people you can't build win-wins with. -I didn't have a dad to teach me these kinds of things. I'm very into meditation, consciousness work, spiral dynamics, etc. However, I really feel I need strong masculine advice here.

Hello, I've been meditating for years now and I've have undergone a few massive awakenings... I've become conscious of the no-self and the "dream of life." These were both radical experiences for me that really shook my relationship with reality, and it took me almost two years to really come back to Earth... You could say I was the entity living blindly in the snowglobe and I shattered the glass. I really can't relate to fear, anxiety, and depression anymore. I feel good; I'm happy; I'm doing what I love, and I'm taking in the experience of life one day at a time. However, I've noticed that as I've "awoken" my humanity has crippled. It's really hard to care about "what people think" or "feel" when you become aware of the dream-like nature of reality... I often feel like I'm already dead and none of this matters--I'm at complete peace with this though... I reflect on the millions of people before me and the millions who will come after me, and I realize I don't matter--again, I'm at complete peace with this. The problem is that when I feel like I don't matter and none of this matters, I see and treat other people like that too. It's like when you become lucid in a dream: it's a dream! It doesn't matter, nor do the people within it. I realize this isn't a healthy, productive, long-term paradigm to be in... but I can't say I'm not enjoying it while here. I was always insecure; right now I feel confident as ever! People don't intimidate me, scare me, and bother me the slightest. I'm 21, I accept where I'm at, but ultimately I want to move back to a paradigm where I feel humanity and connection with people, how do I do this when nothing really feels real anymore?