Hi Actualizers,
I would appreciate to receive your perspective in my current situation.
I feel disappointed. Why does it seem like there's no one out there that would love me?
Every time I build myself up, starts to feel good about myself and start meeting new people, I seemed to get disappointed of the outcome - the guy doesn't like me, apparently he likes someone else.
I've invested emotionally into something that was never there in the first place - no friendship, no reciprocity - nada.
If there is no emotional investment into any friendship with guys - how would I get to know the guys as a person? Am i simply just chose the wrong kind of guys to engage with?
This part of me comes up: All the feelings of insecurity come up - am i not good enough? Am I not attractive enough? Am I not funny enough? Do I not care enough? Aren't i a good person that deserves love, care and affection?
What makes people feel that they want to date me or even value me? (I know that the moment I start valuing myself than others would value me too. How do i balance valuing myself with caring for someone else?)
How can I be immune from disappointments and at the same time chin up and keep on trying? How do i attract/manifest a good guy into my life?
As a female at 28, how do I get my basic needs met?
**On a side note, I am also on progress to discover and work on my life purpose. work on perfecting my lifestyle routines, build my self worth, try to network with different social circles - i do have guy friends, be kind to myself, invest, work on my side startup project, to do my 9-5 etc etc. I really hope to have everything together by the time I'm 30
