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I dont have a well formed argument about the isue, and I understad what you guys are saying about money and value. I aslo get the point of wanting people to "take it seriously". But I think its bigger than that. maybe Im wrong. But as an ex-cult memmer here is hoe I see it: this is exacly how cults start. Good intentions, rigid spirtual ideas and especially a belief that almost no one else can understand you. Be carefull Leo. Being aware of the dangers does not make you immune to them. Im watching your videos for more than 6 years now. I respect and appreciate you and your work a lot. lately, you seemed to me more and more isolated, judgmental and honestly - like a broken record. I see the new course as a part of that change. Even in your "how to get laid" videos (by the way, I think they were a good refresher - *especially for you*!). Your anxiety and fears were much more present in my eyes. It seems, that in your point of view, every thing has to be an all-in project, and, at least in my experience and my point of view, that is not a healthy way of living and it causes you a lot of stress, isolation and frustration. My advise is to be more ordinary. Not boutique. And again, maybe Im wrong

hey shir, few things that came to my mind i hope you'll find helpful: 1. realize you do have hope and motivation to some degree: otherwise you wouldn't have written this. and that is a good think. try to find what are you hoping for by writing this (your dream outcome of this post) and realize you have a desire for that thing. that is a powerful notion, and it gives you motivation and something to work with. 2. you are not the first one to experience this: do not overlook this statement! people have gone trough this. lots of people! and many made it through and leave a happy life. realizing this can make experiencing it much easier and create hope by it self. but besides that, it also has some practical value. if people solved it - it is solvable. seek their solution.. few technical suggestions that helped me- -try to find some thing you do want to do and have passion for - even if it is a new diet change, a thing you find interesting in history, quit smoking or even something you think is stupid. make it a daily habit and even start the day with it. -try basic and simple (!!) mindfulness meditation every day even for 5-10 minutes. alone or even there are some guided ones -try to start doing some physical exercise - even 10 minutes walk. that actually really helps -try to find a mindfulness based cognitive therapy protocol read and try to act on it. or find a therapist that will stick to these procedure. i found it helpful. -redecorate your apartment, light up some candles around the place -shower a lot (sounds funny but helps energetically) -go to nature a lot (as much as you can actually.. places with water are the best - lakes, rivers, the beach etc) 3. start slowly and create successes: don't come up with some fantasy all solving solution. or fantasies about exercising 2 hours a day and meditating 4. start slowly, with action comes motivation. also apply this when you have some thing you have no motivation for - like going out with friends. don't think about the hole process and evening . separate it into a smaller parts: take a sower - dress - drive to the restaurant - eat - go to a bar (it will be good not to stay in one place for a long time) - you got it... when it is small it is easier to act on 4. stop trying to find the root cause of your problem: start thinking about your Depression in a different way. don't think about some great root cause that you can find and fix and that everything is gonna change immediately. try think about your depression as a set of symptoms - with no cause! as if the combination of symptoms, the connections between them and the symptoms themselves are the root cause of symptoms. i suggest drawing a graph of cycles and lines. each dot represents a symptom. for instance: sleeping problems - not leaving the house - anhedonia - social isolation and think how are they all connected and help each other, for example - if i'm tired because i have a sleeping issues, i won't get out of the house because i'll be tired, witch we'll make me more isolated and to feel worse and my sleeping problems will get worse. draw it, make the connections, and find where you can break it. (i'll point out that that is a helpful practical perspective to get yourself out of the depression. after that you might wanna deal with some huge emotional or other problems you have that can actually be a "root cause" and put you at risk of falling again, but it will be much easier to work on it while you are feeling better) 5. believe it or not from some perspectives that's a good thing to experience: when i had my first depression and anxiety, i had some thoughts that gave the experience meaning. i knew i was gonna work with people, and that my experience at that moment was important for my understanding and ability to help others. seek you meaning. besides that - you can look at it from this perspective - the root cause of your problem is that you don't see any difference in your feelings of fulfillment and happiness in life in the outcome of anything you can do on the outside world (like getting married and have a dream job) compare to the levels of fulfillment and happiness you feel right now. and that is actually a good thing. why? because it is true. nothing you do on the outside world can make a real difference. and to some degree, realizing it is a progress. what is missing is that a change can be made on how you feel, not trough something outside but trough a change in you respective. and that is where you should aim for... that is where you motivation should come from. 6. don't give up: not in the way you think. well, also that i' talking about small everyday things. like washing the plate right after you eat. or taking a shower when you get home instead of going to bed and skipping it. small stuff. believe it or not that's helpful. it is much easier to make those decision than to decide to go out with friends when you are totally empty of desire. and it creates momentum. 7. there are tons of different therapy possibilities and tons of therapists: even if he did his best, your therapist may not be the one for you. it can be your personalty match, it can be his therapy method that doesn't fit you or your condition or something else. but don't give up therapy. it can help if you find the right one. sick help - don't be shy or arrogant. try to locate people that have experienced you condition and worked with a therapist that actually help them or try to find a therapist that is a specializes in cases like your. don't skip any kind of therapy people recommend (even if it sounds weird) - keep an open mind and try! (unless you see it is no match - you know best). 8. get rid of shame and guilt: another impotent notion - it is ok to feel what you feel! write it down: it is ok to feel everything i feel. poot it on your desk and near your bed. it won't solve the problem, but maybe it will make the way to the solution easier. let yourself feel that experience. let go of guilt and shame. what do you have to blame your self for or feel guilty about? list it. for each reason ask your self if it is really the truth (Byron Katy stile). i also recommend Leo's video on responsibility vs blame (or something like that) watch it and try to apply. 9. tell people about it: when you do meet friends and family - open your heart and tell them about how you fill. when you keep it to yourself it makes you feel more isolated which makes you feel worse. 10. re-frame and upgrade your career and purpose: how is this experience can change you purpose in this life? how can this experience make you better in serving this world? why did the the world needs you to go through this? what are you (or your soul) trying to tell your self with it? how is this experience connected to the rest of my life? how does this experience make my life story hole? 11. keep going. -<3-