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@Starlight321 Theory is good, but focus more on practice. Train in various ways: physical, mental, emotional. Take up more responsibility in life, set goals and lead yourself into actually accomplishing them over and over again. Learn from your mistakes. Take charge of your life, also help out others if you can (your family for example). Learn a difficult skill that requires patience and discipline. Study history. Study how people handled hardships all throught the history. Study and work on emboding the following principles: responsibility, competence, strength, discipline, courage, leadership, integrity, emotional control. There are so many ways of practicing each of these, get creative. Have you been doing all these?

@CARDOZZO Jesus, my ears. Why is he shouting all the time? Is that perceived as more effective communication, or what? He's mocking Eckhart Tolle. This feels off. Haven't watched the whole thing. Does he actually talk about Truth and Awakening? What does he mean by awakening?

Small point regarding the humor post: I've always had a good sense of humor, especially since I've worked on my social anxiety after 20+ years old, and later when I watched that How To Be Funny video, I've realized that I was doing exactly that but somehow intuitively, and I also noticed that I liked doing that not only because I was getting positive feedback from outside, but also because it was fun. It felt really good. Just that. When you are able to be humorous in a social gathering, but intuitively, not in a cringy needy way, it feels very refreshing and pleasant. That one trait makes the experience so much better and fun, also social interactions much easier and resourceful even.

Oh this is interesting. Imagine after his trip he drops this longevity bullshit and becomes a mystic preaching God and Love.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/the-underworld-of-child-sex-trafficking Just finished listening to this one. First of all, WTF, I wasn't aware that this issue was that bad in modern world. I knew it happens a lot in China, but the numbers that this guy talks about is crazy. Why is nobody talking about this? Or at least I haven't heard much people talk about the severity of the issue. Also, I liked the last part when he talks about his transformative experiences with psilocybin-assisted therapy, the way they brought back love and deep feelings in their lives via psychedelics.

Good list, thanks. I'd add relationships to your list, most human interactions (intimate or otherwise) triggers certain aspects of your ingrained behavior patterns that's hard to notice solo. That also creates a possibility to observe what's true in your conditioned aspect of a self. Of course all those assume the care for truth and intention of actually seeing it.

[1/30] ✅ What I did: No relapses 20m meditation 1.5h reading 50m push workout Caloric deficit What I didn't do: Study Yoga First day done, top priority things got done, I still have time management issues and that's why I could not do those two things, also I didn't prioritize them enough. Let's see if I fix that today.

For the past few years, I’ve been struggling to stay consistent with myself — with the promises I make to myself, with integrity, and with discipline. I’ve examined this many times and identified some fundamental issues that I’m working to fix. This journal will serve as public accountability while I build the foundation for the next phase of my life. I’ve just turned 30, and I now realize how little time I have and how easy it is to waste most of it. I need to take much more action than I did in my 20s. Currently, I’m struggling with addiction, I’m overweight, I do the bare minimum at my job as a software developer, I don’t exercise much, and I deal with some anxiety. I know how to fix all of it — and more. I know what to do to make my life unrecognizably better (at least to try my best), and inaction only makes me resent myself more. I know what to do. I just have to do it. This thread will help me stay accountable. I’ll be posting every Saturday with a report on the previous week. This is how it will go. Phase 1: 3 Months I’ve been overconsuming pornography and engaging in compulsive masturbation. Since I’m single and somewhat isolated, I need to control this habit. I will abstain from both to reset my dopamine reward cycle. I’ve been slacking off at work, so I need to refocus and concentrate more. I currently work in 45-minute blocks, then rest for a few minutes, repeating this 2–3 times a day. I want to increase this to at least 6 blocks. Work inconsistency has caused me to sleep very late or work late into the night. As I fix my work habits, my sleep habits should improve as well. My goal is to sleep at least 7 hours, from 12:00 a.m. to 7:00 a.m. I’ve gained a lot of weight. I’m currently around 105 kg and eat a lot of junk food. The plan is to build muscle and lose fat simultaneously until I reach 72–75 kg. Eat 1,800–2,000 calories with at least 160 g of protein Weight train at least 3 times per week Jog for 30 minutes at least 3 times per week Cut out junk food at least 90% of the time I work as a software developer, and the industry is changing rapidly. I need to keep up. I will invest at least 1–2 hours per day in studying, building side projects, or diving deeper into AI. Read books for at least 1 hour per day. Summary of Phase 1 No porn or masturbation No social media Limited YouTube/Reddit for recreation 6–8 daily 45-minute work blocks 1–2 hours of study 1 hour of reading Fixing sleep routine Weight loss: 1,800–2,000 calories 3x weightlifting, 3x cardio weekly Cut out junk food Phase 2: 3 Months On top of the foundation built in Phase 1: Add spiritual practices: Mindfulness meditation (breath-focused) and Kriya Yoga pranayama Add therapeutic practices such as shamanic breathwork, TRE (Trauma Release Exercises), and self-therapy journaling to work through unresolved trauma and issues from the past few years Continue weight loss and exercise — likely reaching target weight by the end of Phase 2 Continue reading and studying Allow masturbation at most once per week after the first 90 days, since more than that negatively affects my life Phases 3 and 4 I can’t say much about these yet. I imagine strengthening spiritual practices, making them more focused and prioritized, socializing more, and possibly starting to date — though dating may be too distracting at the moment, and I don't want it honestly since I've recently got out of a LTR. Phases 4+ Getting involved with psychedelics More socializing More dating experience Starting to work on additional income streams aside from my job Working on creative projects Traveling Meeting new people Exciting things — but first, the foundation. That’s the plan. I won’t plan further than this because planning is a trap for me. Planning gives me a false sense of accomplishment, but it isn’t real progress. Real accomplishment comes from daily execution — day in and day out. It’s that simple. I’ll update every Saturday. 52 updates total. Let’s see how far I go. See you next week.

Could you give some concrete examples of that?

For sure, most of these things were taboo 100 years ago and people hesitated speaking up. Hell, it's taboo in most places today as well. Also, if you wanted to talk about something, it wasn't like you could post a video on YT or TikTok. Technologies played a huge part as well.

Sure, I meant people with more or less stabe mental health. Do you think that's the problem of our modern generations? Or mental health issues was always there in the same degree in humans in our grand-parents and great-grandparents times? But considering the wars, economics, culture, etc of their times, I don't think it would be much different. But I also think an average mental health got way worse in the last couple decades. Maybe it's because the awareness around it got increased, and it only seems that way because more people talk about it.

What happens when new generation of robots replace the first generation ones? We'll have robots complaining that robots are replacing them As if humans wasn't enough.

I think that makes it more complicated. It would make sense more if they actually were from a star system Zeta Reticuli, or whatever Bob Lazar claims. Still waiting for the disclosure that Trump mentioned. I think it's going to be a long wait, lol.

I have a feeling if I actually let it tidy my living room, it will just create a mess instead. It would be interesting to see reviews of this guy on YouTube when it comes out.

I agree, but I think that would be a majority of human population. Most people learn how to parent without much experience, just through maturing and growing up that they have to do because of the child. I think when you have a kid it kinda forces you to get your shit together.

And when you explain the issue to them, without necessarily pointing out "masculine" or "feminine" terms, don't they get the point? Why don't they see importance of a need to raise strong men with emotional intelligence, integrating both sides? What's their argument against that?

I think DeepMind systems go further than text based prediction by combining neural networks with reinforcement learning and planning algorithms, allowing them to evaluate actions and discover new strategies. None of these systems are conscious, but as far as I understand they are more than simple prediction engines. I don't just mean chatbots or agents.

One step closer to having a hot witch AI girlfriend

@AtmanIsBrahman How do you imagine the most trufthul teaching to be? How would it differ from Leo's or Peter's work? Is the medium of "teaching" even applicable to the kind of truthfulness you're referring to?

@Valach Yes that's the goal. But quite an advance state that only comes after years of work and contemplation (supposedly). Plus, after lots of trial and error in relationship field as well.

Why not do both? Learn some "game", which basically is a skillset that extroverted and fun to be with guys do naturally, if you observe. That grows you, you need to face fears, accept rejection and be okay with it, and it touches and tiggers ego in some crucial ways that can be observed from a meta perspective. You learn to be more vulnerable and in the end you learn to just have fun and play. And also you then put that aside and focus on attachment and behavioral patterns that you show up with, observe them, contemplating why you do some of those, what's the issue there, what needs does it fullfill. Maybe learn some non-violent communication. For example, I didn't realize that I has some anxious and also some avoidant patterns before some relationships, and then I realized what was sourcing them which I'm working on, and that only happened because I was triggered so many times by experience that a certain relationships gave me. So it was invaluable. There is huge growth opportunities in learning game & attraction and then a whole set of those in learning how to build a proper intimate relationship. All those require inner work in different ways.

@WonderSeeker That's interesting. Global trends affect my decisions as well I think. I have my own home, I live alone and I work remotely. So most of the week I'm not dealing with people which is very comfortable lifestyle for me (at least at this stage of my life). The only reason I was able to design such a lifestyle is that I'm part of a modern society and I'm using opportunities that Western culture gives to me. I live in Eastern Europe but working remotely for a German companies. Why I mentioned that is I'm well aware that if I was born 100 years ago in my country, my decision of having children would be much different, of couse I'd want to have them more. Even today, if I was more extroverted type, I'd need more socialization and that would probably also affect that decision. There are 100s of factors that go into that decision, some of them I'm aware, some of them I'm not probably. The point is, that decision isn't absolute, I might even change it in the future, but mostly it's based in the fact that I feel I still have to do certain stuff that requires my 100% focus and attention, and having children will ruin it almost certainly. But I'm not generalising that, it's just me in the current phase of my life and plus directly observing my friends to have new borns and asking them questions, that makes me want it even less. One last point, it's valuable to contemplate the reasons why I don't want kids, because there might be some fears, insecurities, etc that needs some light of awareness, I'll keep pondering.

Okay, just woke up, it's 7am. Let's continue this thread. Last few days was full of up and downs but we're not giving up 💪 Yesterday I contacted and hired a nutrition and exercise coach, who will help me to stay accountable to my weight loss habits till I lose 66 pounds. So that should be locked in. Sleep schedule is fixed, finally. Now I have to focus 100% on no relapses any more, and that's basically it. This will clear up mental space for meditation and yoga. Reading habit is locked in basically, I read almost daily, I need to put more attention on study habit, and that's it. Let's start 30 day challenge because I need this momentum and I need to take this more seriously. Rule #1 => no more addiction relapses or everything else gets destroyed. This one thing makes or breaks my life. Proper diet with caloric deficit and exercise will be done. Meditation and Yoga in the mornings. At least 30 minute reading or study each day => aim for 1.5h That's it, nothing else. For 30 days straight. I can do this for sure. I was doing these in the last couple months but not consistently. Relapse messed up my last attempt (as well as all the other attepts), so I need to really learn that lesson now. I'll check in everyday. Today will be first day.

@WonderSeeker Yes of course, I also see having children as huge grown opportunity, if done right, and that's a huge if. Yes sure, realistically you can't go deep in spirituality or relationships for that matter, if your health is not in order, same with money, if you're struggling to pay rent each month and barely getting by, it will affect the relationships and so on. Yes, having children and family can be considered as one of those growth chapters, but I don't think that is for me. It doesn't excite me when I think about it, there are many other things that excites me as a vision that I'm working towards, but not children. I'm not sure why that is that way, it has always been like that for my conscious adult life and I'm not sure what could change it.