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Take your time, it's a lifelong journey. Yes Arlond is one of the healthier examples of masculinity for sure. I also like that book. You can check David Deida's work for a healthy masculine perspective, also has some spiritual component in it. Also do your research and share with us what you find 😉 Maybe there are some books that's not as popular as Deida's but better.

@Leo Gura It's not that AI does software for you, it's that you use AI to assist you in building software more rapidly than you could solo. And that causes distress in many developers because before agentic coding assistence you had a feeling that you owned what you wrote because it was all generated by you, it was all done through struggle and hard-earned experience. Now even if 30% (it's much more then that) of the code is assisted by LLM model, you end up feeling emotionally detached from the work you do, and it's different in nature from the way you worked before. Maybe it just needs getting used to. There aren't any serious software thats made with AI, but all the software today is being made with AI's assistence. Even if you ask ChatGPT to help you with fixing error, thats AI assistence, it doesnt mean that AI does the software.

That 10x thing is a clickbait, but it is a fact that computer programming field is being changed pretty rapidly that affect daily job of developers so much that it causes existential questioning and meaning crisis, and it will continue to do so going forwards. No other field is being changed this much due to LLMs and agents. This was the easiest to affect due to the nature of a job and its relation to what an LLM does. I'm not saying it will cause insane productivity gains or it will replace anyone. I'm trying to see what's actually happening.

Good catch. Being distracted is also one of the reason that I didn't achieve what I realistically could in the past few years. Cheap dopamine addictions, emotional irregularity, yo-yo habits, perfectionism, focusing on too many things at once / wrong things, procrastinating and not planning my days properly, wasting my time in unresourceful relationships, etc, all contributed. Just make sure to not try to get focused on 10 things at once all of a sudden, just identify the core issues you have, commit and focus on them deliberately each day until you feel it's locked in, and then move on to the other ones. Good luck 💪

Ralston realizing Absolute Love before GTA VI I wonder if that's included in his recent deeper realizations. He doesn't mention it in any of the other books.

"I was a 10x engineer. Now I'm useless" => https://x.com/atmoio/status/2030289138126107074?s=46&t=efdKEjqLRXtLo5-P5HnZFQ I relate to this.

Thanks, just ordered it. Can't wait to read it.

@Starlight321 Theory is good, but focus more on practice. Train in various ways: physical, mental, emotional. Take up more responsibility in life, set goals and lead yourself into actually accomplishing them over and over again. Learn from your mistakes. Take charge of your life, also help out others if you can (your family for example). Learn a difficult skill that requires patience and discipline. Study history. Study how people handled hardships all throught the history. Study and work on emboding the following principles: responsibility, competence, strength, discipline, courage, leadership, integrity, emotional control. There are so many ways of practicing each of these, get creative. Have you been doing all these?

@CARDOZZO Jesus, my ears. Why is he shouting all the time? Is that perceived as more effective communication, or what? He's mocking Eckhart Tolle. This feels off. Haven't watched the whole thing. Does he actually talk about Truth and Awakening? What does he mean by awakening?

Small point regarding the humor post: I've always had a good sense of humor, especially since I've worked on my social anxiety after 20+ years old, and later when I watched that How To Be Funny video, I've realized that I was doing exactly that but somehow intuitively, and I also noticed that I liked doing that not only because I was getting positive feedback from outside, but also because it was fun. It felt really good. Just that. When you are able to be humorous in a social gathering, but intuitively, not in a cringy needy way, it feels very refreshing and pleasant. That one trait makes the experience so much better and fun, also social interactions much easier and resourceful even.

Oh this is interesting. Imagine after his trip he drops this longevity bullshit and becomes a mystic preaching God and Love.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/the-underworld-of-child-sex-trafficking Just finished listening to this one. First of all, WTF, I wasn't aware that this issue was that bad in modern world. I knew it happens a lot in China, but the numbers that this guy talks about is crazy. Why is nobody talking about this? Or at least I haven't heard much people talk about the severity of the issue. Also, I liked the last part when he talks about his transformative experiences with psilocybin-assisted therapy, the way they brought back love and deep feelings in their lives via psychedelics.

Good list, thanks. I'd add relationships to your list, most human interactions (intimate or otherwise) triggers certain aspects of your ingrained behavior patterns that's hard to notice solo. That also creates a possibility to observe what's true in your conditioned aspect of a self. Of course all those assume the care for truth and intention of actually seeing it.

[1/30] ✅ What I did: No relapses 20m meditation 1.5h reading 50m push workout Caloric deficit What I didn't do: Study Yoga First day done, top priority things got done, I still have time management issues and that's why I could not do those two things, also I didn't prioritize them enough. Let's see if I fix that today.

For the past few years, I’ve been struggling to stay consistent with myself — with the promises I make to myself, with integrity, and with discipline. I’ve examined this many times and identified some fundamental issues that I’m working to fix. This journal will serve as public accountability while I build the foundation for the next phase of my life. I’ve just turned 30, and I now realize how little time I have and how easy it is to waste most of it. I need to take much more action than I did in my 20s. Currently, I’m struggling with addiction, I’m overweight, I do the bare minimum at my job as a software developer, I don’t exercise much, and I deal with some anxiety. I know how to fix all of it — and more. I know what to do to make my life unrecognizably better (at least to try my best), and inaction only makes me resent myself more. I know what to do. I just have to do it. This thread will help me stay accountable. I’ll be posting every Saturday with a report on the previous week. This is how it will go. Phase 1: 3 Months I’ve been overconsuming pornography and engaging in compulsive masturbation. Since I’m single and somewhat isolated, I need to control this habit. I will abstain from both to reset my dopamine reward cycle. I’ve been slacking off at work, so I need to refocus and concentrate more. I currently work in 45-minute blocks, then rest for a few minutes, repeating this 2–3 times a day. I want to increase this to at least 6 blocks. Work inconsistency has caused me to sleep very late or work late into the night. As I fix my work habits, my sleep habits should improve as well. My goal is to sleep at least 7 hours, from 12:00 a.m. to 7:00 a.m. I’ve gained a lot of weight. I’m currently around 105 kg and eat a lot of junk food. The plan is to build muscle and lose fat simultaneously until I reach 72–75 kg. Eat 1,800–2,000 calories with at least 160 g of protein Weight train at least 3 times per week Jog for 30 minutes at least 3 times per week Cut out junk food at least 90% of the time I work as a software developer, and the industry is changing rapidly. I need to keep up. I will invest at least 1–2 hours per day in studying, building side projects, or diving deeper into AI. Read books for at least 1 hour per day. Summary of Phase 1 No porn or masturbation No social media Limited YouTube/Reddit for recreation 6–8 daily 45-minute work blocks 1–2 hours of study 1 hour of reading Fixing sleep routine Weight loss: 1,800–2,000 calories 3x weightlifting, 3x cardio weekly Cut out junk food Phase 2: 3 Months On top of the foundation built in Phase 1: Add spiritual practices: Mindfulness meditation (breath-focused) and Kriya Yoga pranayama Add therapeutic practices such as shamanic breathwork, TRE (Trauma Release Exercises), and self-therapy journaling to work through unresolved trauma and issues from the past few years Continue weight loss and exercise — likely reaching target weight by the end of Phase 2 Continue reading and studying Allow masturbation at most once per week after the first 90 days, since more than that negatively affects my life Phases 3 and 4 I can’t say much about these yet. I imagine strengthening spiritual practices, making them more focused and prioritized, socializing more, and possibly starting to date — though dating may be too distracting at the moment, and I don't want it honestly since I've recently got out of a LTR. Phases 4+ Getting involved with psychedelics More socializing More dating experience Starting to work on additional income streams aside from my job Working on creative projects Traveling Meeting new people Exciting things — but first, the foundation. That’s the plan. I won’t plan further than this because planning is a trap for me. Planning gives me a false sense of accomplishment, but it isn’t real progress. Real accomplishment comes from daily execution — day in and day out. It’s that simple. I’ll update every Saturday. 52 updates total. Let’s see how far I go. See you next week.

Could you give some concrete examples of that?

For sure, most of these things were taboo 100 years ago and people hesitated speaking up. Hell, it's taboo in most places today as well. Also, if you wanted to talk about something, it wasn't like you could post a video on YT or TikTok. Technologies played a huge part as well.

Sure, I meant people with more or less stabe mental health. Do you think that's the problem of our modern generations? Or mental health issues was always there in the same degree in humans in our grand-parents and great-grandparents times? But considering the wars, economics, culture, etc of their times, I don't think it would be much different. But I also think an average mental health got way worse in the last couple decades. Maybe it's because the awareness around it got increased, and it only seems that way because more people talk about it.

What happens when new generation of robots replace the first generation ones? We'll have robots complaining that robots are replacing them As if humans wasn't enough.

I think that makes it more complicated. It would make sense more if they actually were from a star system Zeta Reticuli, or whatever Bob Lazar claims. Still waiting for the disclosure that Trump mentioned. I think it's going to be a long wait, lol.

I have a feeling if I actually let it tidy my living room, it will just create a mess instead. It would be interesting to see reviews of this guy on YouTube when it comes out.

I agree, but I think that would be a majority of human population. Most people learn how to parent without much experience, just through maturing and growing up that they have to do because of the child. I think when you have a kid it kinda forces you to get your shit together.

And when you explain the issue to them, without necessarily pointing out "masculine" or "feminine" terms, don't they get the point? Why don't they see importance of a need to raise strong men with emotional intelligence, integrating both sides? What's their argument against that?

I think DeepMind systems go further than text based prediction by combining neural networks with reinforcement learning and planning algorithms, allowing them to evaluate actions and discover new strategies. None of these systems are conscious, but as far as I understand they are more than simple prediction engines. I don't just mean chatbots or agents.

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