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One of my close friends lost mother very unexpectedly due to a doctors misdiagnose, she was 49 years old and feeling well mostly, and all of a sudden she felt bed, they bought her to clinic and doctors mistreated her and she died in 2 days (this weekend). My friend is in shock, I don't even know what to say to her, she was very close to her mom. I also lost my dad 2 years ago the same way, he was well and strong and in 10 minutes he was dead (due to brain aneurysm). And I know how painful it is, especially after the initial shock wears off, and she returns to her daily life, it will be very hard. And I want to help but not sure how. So, what would you say to someone in that position? How would you ease her pain?

Who said the goal of the forum was that? I think you overestimate what a forum is supposed to be. And if you take all the variables into account of what makes a healthy community, moderation is a big part of it. I've been around here for a decade reading posts daily and I've seen so many harsh things people say and getting away with so many things. It just doesn't make sense to me how some people are just asking to get banned. You won't behave like an asshole in a community that you value and benefit in some way. Yeah if we were all were saints and sages we won't be needing a moderation and policing, but in that case we won't be needing a forum either probably. Just try to create a community without moderation, see where it goes, then get back to us and report your results. Moderation necessity doesn't come out of thin air, it's based on an actual need that's being met with it. Again, if you act decent, I don't think mods or Leo will restrict you. At least that's my experience so far.

Can he get away with that? What is more effective, good looks without proper inner game or bad / average looks with proper game? Most people with exceptionally good looks aren't interested in character development, I guess because they think they can get what they want just with their looks only. That's probably true for models though when it comes to material things. But they doesn't seem to be interested in anything beyond that. Of course I over-generalize, all good looking people aren't that way.

Some more anecdotes on this looksmaxing thing. 6 year old kid doing face exercises to make his jawline more sharper is crazy. I feel so lucky that I grew up without internet at least till ~11-12 years old. Who knows in which toxic rabbit hole kids will fall into these days.

[7/30] ✅ Weight loss 1st week result: -2.8kg (-6.1 pounds). No Relapse (1/100) Caloric Deficit Leg workout + 30m run 45m reading

For the past few years, I’ve been struggling to stay consistent with myself — with the promises I make to myself, with integrity, and with discipline. I’ve examined this many times and identified some fundamental issues that I’m working to fix. This journal will serve as public accountability while I build the foundation for the next phase of my life. I’ve just turned 30, and I now realize how little time I have and how easy it is to waste most of it. I need to take much more action than I did in my 20s. Currently, I’m struggling with addiction, I’m overweight, I do the bare minimum at my job as a software developer, I don’t exercise much, and I deal with some anxiety. I know how to fix all of it — and more. I know what to do to make my life unrecognizably better (at least to try my best), and inaction only makes me resent myself more. I know what to do. I just have to do it. This thread will help me stay accountable. I’ll be posting every Saturday with a report on the previous week. This is how it will go. Phase 1: 3 Months I’ve been overconsuming pornography and engaging in compulsive masturbation. Since I’m single and somewhat isolated, I need to control this habit. I will abstain from both to reset my dopamine reward cycle. I’ve been slacking off at work, so I need to refocus and concentrate more. I currently work in 45-minute blocks, then rest for a few minutes, repeating this 2–3 times a day. I want to increase this to at least 6 blocks. Work inconsistency has caused me to sleep very late or work late into the night. As I fix my work habits, my sleep habits should improve as well. My goal is to sleep at least 7 hours, from 12:00 a.m. to 7:00 a.m. I’ve gained a lot of weight. I’m currently around 105 kg and eat a lot of junk food. The plan is to build muscle and lose fat simultaneously until I reach 72–75 kg. Eat 1,800–2,000 calories with at least 160 g of protein Weight train at least 3 times per week Jog for 30 minutes at least 3 times per week Cut out junk food at least 90% of the time I work as a software developer, and the industry is changing rapidly. I need to keep up. I will invest at least 1–2 hours per day in studying, building side projects, or diving deeper into AI. Read books for at least 1 hour per day. Summary of Phase 1 No porn or masturbation No social media Limited YouTube/Reddit for recreation 6–8 daily 45-minute work blocks 1–2 hours of study 1 hour of reading Fixing sleep routine Weight loss: 1,800–2,000 calories 3x weightlifting, 3x cardio weekly Cut out junk food Phase 2: 3 Months On top of the foundation built in Phase 1: Add spiritual practices: Mindfulness meditation (breath-focused) and Kriya Yoga pranayama Add therapeutic practices such as shamanic breathwork, TRE (Trauma Release Exercises), and self-therapy journaling to work through unresolved trauma and issues from the past few years Continue weight loss and exercise — likely reaching target weight by the end of Phase 2 Continue reading and studying Allow masturbation at most once per week after the first 90 days, since more than that negatively affects my life Phases 3 and 4 I can’t say much about these yet. I imagine strengthening spiritual practices, making them more focused and prioritized, socializing more, and possibly starting to date — though dating may be too distracting at the moment, and I don't want it honestly since I've recently got out of a LTR. Phases 4+ Getting involved with psychedelics More socializing More dating experience Starting to work on additional income streams aside from my job Working on creative projects Traveling Meeting new people Exciting things — but first, the foundation. That’s the plan. I won’t plan further than this because planning is a trap for me. Planning gives me a false sense of accomplishment, but it isn’t real progress. Real accomplishment comes from daily execution — day in and day out. It’s that simple. I’ll update every Saturday. 52 updates total. Let’s see how far I go. See you next week.

Wait, I thought you were referring to a solo retreat that you did which was followed by a video called "Outrageous experiments with consciousness" if I remember correctly.

@Leo Gura I thought that was the point of a bootcamp, I haven't been to one but if that isn't happening, what are those guys paying thousands of dollars for? Just to be pushed to approcah? It's a great feeling when you just don't care at the party about any outcomes and are enjoying yourself with humor and playfulness. But of course if you are there to practice approaching, that comes with anxiety, at least for me. That's where the "work" comes into play.

For sure. That forces us to learn to use AI tools as employees, especially in programming. And that can be demotivating sometimes because you were good at your job for 10 years and now somebody with 3 years of experience can do more with AI than you can do manually, and you are forced to jump into AI bandwagon. Forced to join AI rat race. Sometimes I wish we could go back. But maybe people also thought like that during transition from horses to cars, who knows. Only time will tell if the effects are positive or negative.

That will be regained very quickly. Last year I lost 33 pounds through caloric deficit and exercise, but then in 5-6 months I gained it all back and more. I realized I had to completely change my eating habits long term to lose and, more importantly, maintain a healthy range of weight. Eating fruit or fasting for 2-3 weeks are fine, but he can't do that long term and probably he'll regain all that weight back, and potentially more because he will be deprived of all the food he liked and possibly overeat. Better strategy is don't change your food categories much, just decrease portion size. If you want to go step further, remove processed and junk food and maintain caloric deficit. If you want to go step further, add 60-80m cardio a week. Next, if you want to go even further start weight lifting and track your protein intake. Also track your carb intake because you'll need energy for exercising. And realize that once you see your desired number on a scale, it doesn't end there. Actually your journey of health maintenance starts there. You've to somehow build and maintain long-term eating and exercise plan, or else sooner or later you'll end up being the same weight or more as you are now. More likely as you age.

It's simple, you eat in a caloric deficit. If you are too lazy to count calories, just eat less than you are used to. If you want to boost the process even more, eat less carbs than you're used to. Just exercising won't make you lose fat anyways, you do that through less eating. But exercise will build muscle, improve cardiovascular health, and benefit you in so many other ways. But if you want to strictly loss weight and see number go down on a scale, you can do that without exercising.

Have you tried Notion? Some people like Obsidian https://obsidian.md/

Yes you need to be, the whole point is putting attention on spine during breathing up and down.

https://www.youtube.com/@manojtheyogi/playlists But I think you should use book as well, to read detailed instructions. You don't need to read the whole thing, just instructions for a practice.

Yea, as you said before, doing couple years of pickup and learning attraction skills will benefit most guys, but if you do it for 25 years and build a career out of it, jesus, imagine the mental habits you'd build along the way, especially if it earns you good money, good luck unstucking from that hole. That would be painful. Imagine Owen stopping what he's doing, how painful would that be for him.

Do these RSD guys have a course on how to find the most ridiculous shit to wear?

[6/30] ✅ Rough day, but I still meditated, worked-out (run for 30m), and read for 30 minutes. Currently reading Ralston's Pursuing Consciousness. It's a dense one, just like his other books. I want to finish this one and the Genious of Being before I tackle the newest book that I ordered. Weight loss goes very well. It's locked in basically, I'll get my desired result in 6-7 months. Gotta focus on other things with more intention. I realized I need preperatory practices for Kriya Pranayamas, when I did those a year ago, pranayama was more effective. So I need to include those as well. Just a reminder for me, these 30 days are about: getting used to caloric deficit and consistent exercise getting used to spiritual practices avoiding relapses as much as possible That's mostly it.

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You should still do it. How else would you know what works and what doesn't? It's just the core of the practice is Pranayamas, so everything else seems like a practice to help with the core in some way. But I guess you could just do the core and see where it takes you. You could always add 1-2 prep practices and see how it affects the core.

@Leo Gura What about prep practices for pranayama? Like alternate nostril breathing or maha mudra? I've heared they are conditioning and preparing you to do pranayama more effectively. As if the pranayama is the main engine, and all other stuff are supporting preparation tools. I'm experimenting with doing pranayamas but only after 10-20 mins of prep work. I'll update you guys on progress in 6-12 months, it's interesting where it will go.

I think people in general aren't good at filtering good insights out of a speech of someone like Owen, and all those guys will develop same biases that he has, especially since he doesn't talk much about taking more responsibility and observing self-bias, but maybe it's not part of his job to do so. It's sad when all your mental resources and energy goes into building a luxurious lifestyle that you could afford 250k$ jewelry and rotation of 10 girlfriends. But I think that's better than sitting in your moms basement eating cheetos and watching porn all day. So there's value in these videos if it gets people motivated to change their lifestyle. But it would be cool to see Owen talking about not getting stuck at it, but well, he seems stuck too.

He would kill it on the dance floor though.

LLM assisted coding has a big potential and I'm heaviliy invested in it, both on a practical and theoritical sides. But there are many downsides that I don't want us to miss, especially for people who depend on it daily now, like software developers. Vibe-coding doesn't come without a cost. You pay with certain stuff, and if you're not careful, it might bite you further down the road.

I'm using Claude Code, Codex, Cursor, etc to automate and improve my job daily. I'm learning all the intricacies of Claude Code to use it effectively. I'm also digging into LLM architecture, learning to build a smaller scale of it from scratch to understand it deeper. I've also build couple small to medium sized web-apps with 90% AI generated code. It's awesome. I was just pointing out that it's unrealistic to expect that AI dependense will get you very far when you're gonna try to scale up systems, without technical knowledge. First, you need to understand what you are doing at those levels, and then AI would help a lot. I'm not saying AI is a fad, obviously. I just haven't seen a huge distributed systems built with AI by people with no technical expertise. That's just silly. As I said before, Claude Code is very powerful in hands of an expert, who can actually take charge when things go south. And it does many times. Btw, I'm not arguing that you can't build some relatively easy web app from scratch with Claude Code for example and earn some money. I think you can. But based on my experience, when working with already existing systems, you still need massive technical knowledge and experience.

Sorry, I just don't buy into that idea. Maybe on a very small scale, that could work. But when you are talking about huge systems with lots of moving parts, you might end up issues like this one: