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This was hard to watch 😂

@SimpleGuy Great, do whatever works for you. But also try exploring other kinds of fulfillments outside of achieving your goals. Also notice that when you achieve a goal, it's fullfilling for a short period of time and then it becomes kinda meh, you get used to it. It doesn't stick. I also work on some goals but in the back of my mind I'm also looking for ways of more lasting fullfilment that life can offer.

I view external abundance positively. Learning to be more authentic requires experience first, exposing onself to opportunities of being authentic vs inauthentic. That's what abundance provides, but yeah, you need a correct mindset and meta understanding that this is what you're doing, making distinctions of honesty vs dishonesty in direct experience. Pursuing external abundance without any meta vision and just for it's own sake, just as an animal, yeah, that can become problematic and a nest for insecurities.

The whole issue and difficulty with being vulnerable is that you might lose the person you want to be with. There might be things that you say to her that will repel her (or him) and she'll leave. Or at least that's the fear that's causing the resistance to being vulnerable in the first place. I don't think that fear is irrational. I think there can be some things that you can say in a relationship that will kill the intimacy and trust. Now the question is, if you want to maintain integrity, truth and honesty, are you willing to potentially end your relationship? Because sometimes honesty might endanger the survival of two person being together. It doesn't have to always be the case of such severity, that truth ends relationship, but often it can. I think that's where maturity comes in, if the other person also values truth, it can be more realistic to speak of scenarios like that without much damage. But again, valuing truth doesn't mean that trust will be maintained or vulnerability won't cause issues. It's a double edged sword. It's hard to be intimate without vulnerability, but truth can also end your relationships.

Power of Now. "Being here and now". This phrase is being thrown around all the time, especially in new age circles. Even one of local banks in my country has a slogan "here and now".

I think any type of a business will require thinking about technical stuff. Also, you could potentially earn lots of money with projects like that (if it genuinely solves people's problems somehow), and then you won't be needing to work as much as you work today, and you'll have more time to appreciate life for it's own sake. But earning lots of money with webapps is much harder than it sounds. For me as well sometimes, but it earns me a paycheck. Then I get to do things and build a lifestyle that I wouldn't be able to do without that paycheck. So it's a tradeoff. Not permanent tough, at some point I'll also think of ways to escape that paycheck slavery, but not right now, due to having other priorities.

Are being confident, charismatic, humorous and those kinds of traits more important? But being confident is much easier when you know you look good. Good looks is like a cheat-code to feel good about yourself, and that plays major role in making others feel about you the same way.

What I don't understand with this is that people go to therapy for years, for decades in some cases. Isn't therapy supposed to be helping with particular issue that should be resolved after X number of sessions? I used therapy for some issue that I needed help with, and was done with 5 or 6 sessions.

Yeah, especially since I became a meat proxy between Claude Code and app I tend to do what when I'm doing stuff just for their own sake. For example, playing with my dog, or spending time with my family, with no drama. Also, just driving alone in nature, just for it's own sake, with no destination, gets me into a contemplative mood. Thinking of my death also helps me appreciate life more. Sounds, shapes, forms, emotions, feelings, interactions won't last forever, I'm experiencing them temporarily and then some day it will be over.

I agree. Self-improvement also kinda became a conformist movement, people don't think about it, just follow the given advice, so if looksmaxxing is trendy, that's that they will call self-improvement. I don't think many people reflect on the idea of self-improvement at all, like what is one trying to accomplish with it. Most times the "self-improvement" steps you need is unique and requires personal investigation of ego and patters. It's not like you only need gym and sharp jawline and you're good to go, lol.

Social media has fucked up so many things in society: unnecessary addiction, insecurities, self-esteem issues, all driven by the attention economy just to make tech bros richer. And it's only getting worse. I can't even blame the looksmaxxing guys. It feels like it's just a new form of survival in a digital environment where all people see is your face on a screen.

I've heard many older people say that their 30s and even their 40s were the best years of their lives. It's probably because from 0 to 20 you're just a kid, in your 20s you're still trying to figure life out, and by your 30s you've got a better handle on things. You also likely have enough money to support your needs and wants, enough relationship experience to know what you're looking for, and more wisdom and maturity in general. Would those of you in your late 30s or 40s agree?

People have been making these kinds of predictions for decades. There were supposed to be mass landings and disclosure in the '90s, around 2012, and plenty of other dates too. None of them happened, so I'm pretty skeptical of any new date.

Speaking of wives, telling people that it's already time to get a wife and have kids, as if it's a mandatory thing to do in life and timer is ticking Every relative does this shit, starting to annoy me They don't even think for a splitsecond that maybe that lifestyle is not for everyone.

Jesus That's cool.

Seeing women as alien won't be an issue if men had more female friends. Also I don't think that's an issue for guys who grow up with sisters in household. Having couple relationships also helps dispelling that illusion.

@Leo Gura Did your follower count increase much from that video?

What is?

I wish Jesus could see this I'd pay to see his reaction

Mindlessly repeating lucid dreaming techniques, without trying to understand what's actually going on and what makes those techniques work. In general, repeating a technique mindlessly (in trying to practice anything) without a desire to understand how or why it actually works. This can get you started but later turns into a mechanical process rather than conscious one.

Yeah and Orthodox Christians as well. In my country when you go to the church, it's like a circus, and the higher the priest is in the hierarchy, the more ridiculous the outfit gets. If you tried to speak up and ask question on why those specific outfits, they rationalize and say that it's all canonical, as if canonical means sacred or something. It's funny when you look up Canonical in dictionary, you get -> "conforming to a general rule, standard, or official authority"

What the fuck was he thinking? Why did he do it?

How so? But yeah, I've also noticed that in the last years people, men and women blindly parroting those 5 languages.

I also feel like I'm an old guy as I turned 30 this year, lol. I think that's common for 30 year olds, 20s are over, 30s are getting started and shit gets serious all of a sudden. How do you view 30s from your age?