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@Clarence Yeah I don't know about that, she isn't into those sorts of things. Actually, I was thinking something limilar when my dad passed away. Before he died, I was into out of body experiences, was researching a lot into that field, but I didn't have much practice. During my research, I've stumbled on a lot of reports of travelers meeting their deceased relatives, and after my dad died, that possibility left a hope in me that one day there was a chance of meeting him again. That might be delusional, but I think there's something to it. Can't know for sure till I actually try it. Same with the medium.

One of my close friends lost mother very unexpectedly due to a doctors misdiagnose, she was 49 years old and feeling well mostly, and all of a sudden she felt bed, they bought her to clinic and doctors mistreated her and she died in 2 days (this weekend). My friend is in shock, I don't even know what to say to her, she was very close to her mom. I also lost my dad 2 years ago the same way, he was well and strong and in 10 minutes he was dead (due to brain aneurysm). And I know how painful it is, especially after the initial shock wears off, and she returns to her daily life, it will be very hard. And I want to help but not sure how. So, what would you say to someone in that position? How would you ease her pain?

@Basman Lets not split hairs about the terminology. The fact is that you can get so used to using it, you can overdo it and experience negative side effects (weak or no erections, low libido, requiring more intense content to get off, objectifying women in an unhealthy way, guilt, unable to maintain proper intimacy with a girl, etc), then you decide to quit and find yourself in a craving and relapsing cycles. That's classic addiction to me. It can have psychological roots but also deep physiological dependency as well.

Once I water faster for 5 days, I was hungry and dizzy all the time. Hunger didn't go for me. I don't know, maybe you are more sensitive then me.

Yes that could destroy your life. But over-consuming porn and masturbating compulsively (not out of horniness), can also destroy your potential. It's simple really, I don't get where the disagreement is. We're talking about excessive uses of something potentially useful when used occasionaly. But occasional porn use can lead to addiction, as well as occasional gaming can lead to addiction, doesn't mean it should, but it does for many people.

Gaming for 1k+ hours doesn't cause erectile disfunction and intimacy issues.

@something_else Overconsumption causes issues, not moderate usage. I suspect you don't have overconsumption issues, so you haven't experienced anything related to that. If you watch porn and masturbate way more than what's considered healthy, you'll see what we are referring to. But I agree, it's a problem with self-control, but it's harder to control yourself when you are a teenager, and once you get hooked on it, it's hard to get unhooked.

For me quitting social media was like 100x easier than quitting porn. But it's a huge problem in society I'd agree. People are mindlessly scrolling through slop 5+ hours a day. Such a waste. When it comes to porn, the downside isn't the wasted time per se, it's all the side-effects that come with seeking constant dopamine pleasures day in day out. I'd guess it won't be that bad if you do it once every one or two weeks.

I think nobody argues that. If you have a healthy and balanced relationship with porn and also your partner is okay with that, enjoy I eat junk food and drink alkohol every once in a while, maybe on some social gathering and I enjoy that. It's that I can't do that with porn. I know it's not porn's fault, it's mine, but that doesn't mean that it's not hijacking my reward cycles and chemically messing up some shit.

😂😂😂 Every time this clip shows up on my feed somewhere, I have to watch it like 10 times.

Yes you are right, it's not always for coping for something for sure. But as you get used to it, the chances are high that once you feel uncomfortable with something, you just get triggered for that dopamine hit to get lost in fantasy and get pleasure for some time. Same with cigarettes I guess. I'm not a smoker, never have been, but my friends who smoke tell me that initially they started because it was just fun, but eventually as they got used to nicotine, when they had some difficulties in life, the smoking soothed the emotions and made them calmer, and they were super agitated without it. I find same to be true for porn consumption as well.

Of course you use porn to cope with something, doesn't matter what, it's a coping mechanism that you get used to after years of using it. Some people get addicted, some don't. Those who do, struggle a lot and experience some very wierd issues that over-consumption is causing. It will be harmful based on how much you use it. Eating a doritos once a month will not be harmful, eating it 3 times a day might kill someone.

@jacknine119 Yeah that doesn't feel right. My sister had about the same problem, she was over-focused on a possibility of losing her health which actually made her life much worse. In the end she dug through her traumas and healed some of those. It was related to childhood experiences mostly. Have you considered that?

Jesus. That's what chronic lying leads to. I've done it in some other contexts, it leads to all kinds of perversions like that. But what I don't understand is, what's the point? I guess they get their other needs met through that partner, if a partner is a provider type of a character. And those women just ignore their dissatisfaction with sex life over other goods that husband / partner provides. I don't see any other reason of lying to that extent.

Yeah it's what's literally happening, isn't it? 😂 Every passed day brings us closer to death. But it seems you worry about not having enough time / health to accomplish things you want, isn't it? I think that's a valid concern to have. But being a taxi driver for some time before you figure out what is some higher passions you have is okay. Do you also work on figuring that out?

@manuel bon Thanks. When my dad passed away, all I wanted was being alone in silence. Of course I wasn't able to, only in the evenings, but I just needed silence, no compassion of others, no words, just alone time with my thoughts and contemplating what all that meant and observing all the crazy reactions that my body was going through.

He should ask ChatGPT Isn't that like responsibility of both parties? I mean, I think it's somewhat obvious when girl isn't satisfied with sex or fakes it, those kinds of lies creep out of bedroom as well. By man's responsibility, I mean communication, if he is communicating his needs and ask for hers, and just cares that everyone is satisfied in the act, that should be solved. At least now the knowing will be on the sufrace and what they do with it is their business. If that's the case, and a man cares enough, he'll intuitively notice that something is off. But I guess we're talking about couples that don't care much.

Yup, but the good news is, all of that is still reversible if you just get off from it, somehow, either with pure willpower, or just wising up and telling to yourself that this is destroying your life. But that's not as easy as it sounds. You know it's very destructive, but you still do it. That's the irresponsible part, but it's engrained for so long that the animal part of you just does it's thing on autopilot most of the times. It takes effort to fix this, and keep it fixed for life. I wish more people spoke up about the dangers. Again, some people manage to use it here and there without issues. Some people destroy their lives with it. It's the same with junk food or any other addiction. In the end it the issue of not respecting life and yourself to a degree, but even if you know all this, and you're deep into it for 10-15 years, it won't be solved overnight. The conditioned part doesn't understand that it's irresponsible, it just does whatever it did for years.

Yes it can become real bad. Especially if you've been addicted since your teenage years and you've been doing it for 10-15 years, man, good luck. Proper intimacy becomes impossible, feminine perceptions get skewd, masculine confidence get trashed, and you become like this junkie who lives for that dopamine hits daily, that then causes gult & shame loops, which then again is dealth with the same dopamine hits because you are so used to escape hard and negative emotions with porn, your organism has learned that it's the way to go, it has worked for 10 years so it expects the same release. It's a vicious cycle really. And I think people who say porn is okay, just somehow avoided this trap, or were responsible enough to not get addicted. But that's a minority. Most guys aren't like that.

It's addictive nature makes it bad for most guys / relationships. For me it's problematic, it's really easy do get addicted and then you jump through all the addiction hoops that wastes time, energy, etc. Also the whole industry is very shady and unconscious.

This was very nostalgic to watch. I loved Spider-Man in childhood, also watched animated series, had many action figures, etc. And I was very hyped as adult when I saw all 3 of them I'm not in Marvel or other superhero movies (The Boys is awesome though ) but spidy has this nostalgic effect on me that doesn't let me skipping.

What are keep struggling with exactly? You tend to procrastinate? You don't have a proper vision of a project? Or what?

Lol

@CARDOZZO Oh man you're hyping me up Not at all, I love to be challenged to my limits. Great.