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I also feel like I'm an old guy as I turned 30 this year, lol. I think that's common for 30 year olds, 20s are over, 30s are getting started and shit gets serious all of a sudden. How do you view 30s from your age?

30. Time flies 👴🏻

That actually helps with weight-loss, tracking calories and tracking exercise to see if you need to ramp it up if weight-loss progress plateaus.

@SimpleGuy That monk mode, or locking in just refers to removing distractions, that's it. Remove distractions that robs you of your energy and time and devote those to something you want to see progress in. And what are distractions? That question is personal, depends on what distracts you. For me it was social media, doomscrolling, other dopamine-depleting habits, mindless socialization, mindless drama, even a relationship at some point, but that was me at a specific point in life, doesn't mean that relationships are distraction in general, that's why it has to be a conscious choise, not something you read on the internet. Audit your life for couple days / weeks hour by hour, what is it that you do that can be removed and those hours channeled into a more constructive thing that you're working on? That can be done, look at all those tech bros and Elon Musk types, but is that what you truly want? Maybe for some time yes, to achieve certain level of success but whole life? I'd reconsider that if I were you.

Why?

So as I looked it up, Erdafitinib is a anti-cancer drug approved for treating certain advanced cancers, and it affects bone growhth, so this dude is hoping to increase his height and change facial bone structure. It's sad because he doesn't look bad in the first place, it's a good example of the pathological side of this movement. He's ruining his health, and for what? https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/1v9a27r/16_year_old_looksmaxxer_abusing_erda_and_getting/ Most people have reasonable responses, and based on the amount of likes on the comments, I think that's majority of people. Hopefully cases like this are very few.

Why is acting goofy and irrational considered wierd? You can do it in humorous way. I don't see why acting irrational with others is more authentic then not.

"X number of books to read before you die" lists. Usually includes all those popular ones.

Yeah that's annoying to hear, I don't like the assumption that he didn't suffer in there. There are some wierd genetic disorders that some people can't feel heat / cold, whatever. Maybe he had one of those

He was very careful to not let us assume that all suffering was self-generated. But he claimed that some of it was coming from living life with certain metaphysical assumptions. He certainly wasn't talking about removing suffering that comes with getting stabbed with the knife, at least as I understood.

This can help with that I wonder what would The Buddha do in this situation. But I feel like we're strawmanning suffering transcendence now, because all Ralston was talking about in that book was removing background suffering that's generated with having a sense of self, wasn't he? I don't think that's unrealistic, at least temporarily.

@Leo Gura Hey, I saw couple new videos on Insta that aren't in the Vault yet, do you plan to include them (or any new ones you release) for some of us who don't use Instagram much?

There's a lot of peer pressure around having kids. I'm 30, and most people I know keep asking when I'm going to get married and have children, saying it's already time and that I need to hurry for some reason. It's getting pretty annoying. I don't want to fill my life with such major attachment and the added responsibility and survival pressure that come with raising a family. I also don't know how to explain that to people who haven't really thought much about those tradeoffs. How do you handle that kind of peer pressure, if you've experienced it? People around me are starting to have children because "it's time" or because it's simply what everyone does. I'm sure many of them find a lot of meaning in it, but I'm not sure they've really considered the tradeoffs.

What are your favourite David DeAngelo courses? I found a list of titles for his courses: https://daviddeangelo-pua.blogspot.com Which one would you guys suggest getting first?

I think when he said these things being simple, he meant that sarcastically, because he follows that with a list that realistically takes many decades of work.