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He started with shrooms.

@Clarence Yeah I don't know about that, she isn't into those sorts of things. Actually, I was thinking something limilar when my dad passed away. Before he died, I was into out of body experiences, was researching a lot into that field, but I didn't have much practice. During my research, I've stumbled on a lot of reports of travelers meeting their deceased relatives, and after my dad died, that possibility left a hope in me that one day there was a chance of meeting him again. That might be delusional, but I think there's something to it. Can't know for sure till I actually try it. Same with the medium.

@Basman Lets not split hairs about the terminology. The fact is that you can get so used to using it, you can overdo it and experience negative side effects (weak or no erections, low libido, requiring more intense content to get off, objectifying women in an unhealthy way, guilt, unable to maintain proper intimacy with a girl, etc), then you decide to quit and find yourself in a craving and relapsing cycles. That's classic addiction to me. It can have psychological roots but also deep physiological dependency as well.

Once I water faster for 5 days, I was hungry and dizzy all the time. Hunger didn't go for me. I don't know, maybe you are more sensitive then me.

Yes that could destroy your life. But over-consuming porn and masturbating compulsively (not out of horniness), can also destroy your potential. It's simple really, I don't get where the disagreement is. We're talking about excessive uses of something potentially useful when used occasionaly. But occasional porn use can lead to addiction, as well as occasional gaming can lead to addiction, doesn't mean it should, but it does for many people.

Gaming for 1k+ hours doesn't cause erectile disfunction and intimacy issues.

@something_else Overconsumption causes issues, not moderate usage. I suspect you don't have overconsumption issues, so you haven't experienced anything related to that. If you watch porn and masturbate way more than what's considered healthy, you'll see what we are referring to. But I agree, it's a problem with self-control, but it's harder to control yourself when you are a teenager, and once you get hooked on it, it's hard to get unhooked.

For me quitting social media was like 100x easier than quitting porn. But it's a huge problem in society I'd agree. People are mindlessly scrolling through slop 5+ hours a day. Such a waste. When it comes to porn, the downside isn't the wasted time per se, it's all the side-effects that come with seeking constant dopamine pleasures day in day out. I'd guess it won't be that bad if you do it once every one or two weeks.

I think nobody argues that. If you have a healthy and balanced relationship with porn and also your partner is okay with that, enjoy I eat junk food and drink alkohol every once in a while, maybe on some social gathering and I enjoy that. It's that I can't do that with porn. I know it's not porn's fault, it's mine, but that doesn't mean that it's not hijacking my reward cycles and chemically messing up some shit.

😂😂😂 Every time this clip shows up on my feed somewhere, I have to watch it like 10 times.

Yes you are right, it's not always for coping for something for sure. But as you get used to it, the chances are high that once you feel uncomfortable with something, you just get triggered for that dopamine hit to get lost in fantasy and get pleasure for some time. Same with cigarettes I guess. I'm not a smoker, never have been, but my friends who smoke tell me that initially they started because it was just fun, but eventually as they got used to nicotine, when they had some difficulties in life, the smoking soothed the emotions and made them calmer, and they were super agitated without it. I find same to be true for porn consumption as well.

Of course you use porn to cope with something, doesn't matter what, it's a coping mechanism that you get used to after years of using it. Some people get addicted, some don't. Those who do, struggle a lot and experience some very wierd issues that over-consumption is causing. It will be harmful based on how much you use it. Eating a doritos once a month will not be harmful, eating it 3 times a day might kill someone.

@jacknine119 Yeah that doesn't feel right. My sister had about the same problem, she was over-focused on a possibility of losing her health which actually made her life much worse. In the end she dug through her traumas and healed some of those. It was related to childhood experiences mostly. Have you considered that?

Jesus. That's what chronic lying leads to. I've done it in some other contexts, it leads to all kinds of perversions like that. But what I don't understand is, what's the point? I guess they get their other needs met through that partner, if a partner is a provider type of a character. And those women just ignore their dissatisfaction with sex life over other goods that husband / partner provides. I don't see any other reason of lying to that extent.

Yeah it's what's literally happening, isn't it? 😂 Every passed day brings us closer to death. But it seems you worry about not having enough time / health to accomplish things you want, isn't it? I think that's a valid concern to have. But being a taxi driver for some time before you figure out what is some higher passions you have is okay. Do you also work on figuring that out?