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https://www.reddit.com/r/aivideo/comments/1s745ru/blacknape_im_black_snape_official_music_video/ Oh man they did this to themselves I don't even want to imagine all the stuff online that will follow snape's appearances in episodes.

You seem to have gone through the pickup phase and saw the shallowness of it. Did that desire for long-term love and partnership come after exhausting that more primitive need or it was there in the beginning as well?

Good stuff! Have you ever experienced all that with a girl, and knew her so well that you had answers to all those question in relation to her? Doesn't it get boring after a while? Maybe after years? What I'm asking is, how sustainable is that kind of intimacy, it's very exciting in the beginning, but can the excitement last through years? How can we maintain intimacy through the years? That's what I'm trying to figure out. I guess it has stages, and the initial stages are especially exciting, when all those questions you listed are fresh and you're in a discovery phase. Maybe it goes deeper and deeper, but also it might get shallow over time. Depends on the person and also depends on how far can you go in that, how deeply you grasp some of these stuff, that can be deepened more and more.

@Ulax I don't really have much experience with pickup either, but I have some nice social skills that I use whenever I'm out socializing. I see that as a great baseline foundation that I can build my pickup skills if I want to, even without wings. Rejections will hurt for sure, but that's the whole point in training. I was saying that people who don't have that baseline of social skills will struggle at pickup a lot more, and it's better to gradually build it up. It just makes sense to do it that way. Lol

What's the reason behind resistance? I don't think you have much anxiety doing it, right? Is it just that you have much higher priorities and you just don't like doing it?

@Ulax Yeah I agree. Just imagine dragging a guy from his basement who hasn't seen a live human being for 5 years and has zero friends and zero social skills to the pickup bootcamp and making him approach. That won't go well. I like the gradual approach you're suggesting. Social skills can be developed with friends, at job, univercities, etc. But it also needs proactive approach, constantly challenging yourself and getting yourself out there and being vulnerable in many ways. Doesn't have to be cold approaching cute girls in the beginning. It's really the question of how vulnurable you're willing to be in front of some group of people.

Then it's time to pump up coke numbers

It's pickup an attempt of doing that? Attempt at traning social skills.

Did you like it? It seemed a bit dragged-out for me, not to mention we have to wait for second season god know for how many years.

No I don't think it's good for me to go down into that rabbit-hole I've already seen enough for one lifetime. But if that works for some people, I get it.

Those are rookie numbers, you gotta pump those up

@Miguel1 Okay, got it. You seem like a guy who’d be fun to be around Same for me actually, when it's warm outside, a warm spring weather, I like to drive around in the evening or at night when there is no traffic, or just sit at my balcony during sunset trying to do what you described but with myself. Those moments are one of my best memories. It's funny, my best memories doesn't involve other people much. One question, when you mention deeper connection with another, what do you mean exactly? How do you express that with another? Do you have specific topics that you like to talk about, you mean just deep presense and listening to others in that way, or what?

So you really recharge when you socialize? That's so foreign to me. If you identify as extrovert, can you tell me what exactly is the appeal of socialization for you as an extrovert? For me, it's fun and exciting to do that from time to time like maybe once every other week. I just get loose, be humorous and enjoy myself, but then I need to come home and sit in silence for 3 hours to recharge, lol.

Does it really replace real human connection and intimacy though? How is that comparable?