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Yes I agree, that's what makes relationship juicy, that's the whole point of a relationship, to do that, and to enjoy doint it. Yes, on many levels, including emotional, physical, intellectual, or even experiential, creating the shared meaning can also deepen intimacy. But sometimes that comes of as avoidance, which is percieved as unhealthy from a woman's perspective, but for you it may not be avoidance but a genuine state. For some women it's important that you show your weak spots and vulnerabilities so that they can express their love and caring to support you, they have a need for that and if you don't create opportunities for them to do that, they think something is wrong. But if you're used to fix everything yourself or be okay with some stuff unresolved for some time, that can become a bit annoying as well. Personally, I tend to keep some stuff to myself, not because I avoid vulnerability, it's just that it doesn't even occur to me that I can share some stuff, I don't see a reason to.

What the fuck

Oh yeah, been there. She also had this tendency that she needed to care about me in an emotional way, and I'm generally used to care about myself and be self-sufficient as much as I can, even with my emotional life, because, hell, in the end it's just me, girls (or anyone who can support you for that matter) come and go and you can't be depended on anyone ultimately in that matter, and since my aim is towards developing that capacity more and more, it interferes with intimate relationships because girls expect more openness and sharing, and if you don't do it, they think something is wrong with you (at least the ones I've dealth with) But part of connecting with someone on that intimate level is emotional connection, so maybe the uncomfortable thing for me is the correct thing to do to succed in this.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/being-done-with-everyone I relate to this so much, but also, this can be used as an excuse to avoid socializing out of fear, when you feel the need to build that skill, but it's scary. Also, that's harder to do when it comes to intimate relationships. What if you are in a long term relationship or a marriage with kids and you realize that now you need to lay it all down and isolate yourself and that it's not avoidance, disfunction or something to fix, it's just wnat you truly want at that time. Social matrix tells us that all this is avoidance and disfunction, and it can surely be that, until it's not.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/two-sleeps When I was practicing lucid dreaming, I was waking up after 4-5 hours of sleep and staying awake for some time, and that small window was very insightful, I was in a contemplative mood, more than usual, if I didn't disturb myself with artificial lights, also I was awoken from REM sleep and dream recalling was much better and I imagine if I lived that way, that 1 hour window in the middle could be used in resourceful ways because it's like you're in slightly different state. So yeah, two sleeps make sense.

So basically he plays himself in the series?

Where are you from originally?

Go for it, it's fun. I ran a half-marathon last year and it was fun, physically challenging but I trained for it and I'll probably do it again this year. I think there's nothing unhealthy or something to deconstruct about running a half-marathon, you'll get fitter in preperation for it. Just don't run half-marathons daily or weekly, is the point.

Like in what ways? I found his video useful. Dating advice doesn't need to come from an enlightened guru.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/gaia-ambient-music This is beautiful, thanks for sharing! @Leo Gura Do you really do your pranayamas while listening to it? Doesn't it distract you?

Yeah, check this. It's most definitely an AI.

Didn't you find it meaningful to find out what you were capable of in consciousness work? You just want to know your limits in the field that you are interested in. But taking it to the actual dangerous limits is stupid, of course. But for example, if you are a fat slob and you are interested in what your body is capable of, looks-wise and also performance-wise, it motivates you to pursue some of those fitness goals. It's another matter if that makes you happy or not ultimately, but at least you derive some meaning for some time.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/mt-everest-conformity This reminded me of a mantra that ultra runners have: "Death before DNF" (Did Not Finish) Of course is an over-exaggeration, it just shows an attitude that's needed to endure something very physically challenging. But most of those endurance athletes prepate for their races, but that assumes health, genetics, proper motivations, etc. The thing is, it's hard to know your limits when you're too afraid to go near them. It feels important to know what you're capable of before you die. Feels meaningful to find that out.