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@Ulax I don't really have much experience with pickup either, but I have some nice social skills that I use whenever I'm out socializing. I see that as a great baseline foundation that I can build my pickup skills if I want to, even without wings. Rejections will hurt for sure, but that's the whole point in training. I was saying that people who don't have that baseline of social skills will struggle at pickup a lot more, and it's better to gradually build it up. It just makes sense to do it that way. Lol

What's the reason behind resistance? I don't think you have much anxiety doing it, right? Is it just that you have much higher priorities and you just don't like doing it?

@Ulax Yeah I agree. Just imagine dragging a guy from his basement who hasn't seen a live human being for 5 years and has zero friends and zero social skills to the pickup bootcamp and making him approach. That won't go well. I like the gradual approach you're suggesting. Social skills can be developed with friends, at job, univercities, etc. But it also needs proactive approach, constantly challenging yourself and getting yourself out there and being vulnerable in many ways. Doesn't have to be cold approaching cute girls in the beginning. It's really the question of how vulnurable you're willing to be in front of some group of people.

Then it's time to pump up coke numbers

It's pickup an attempt of doing that? Attempt at traning social skills.

Did you like it? It seemed a bit dragged-out for me, not to mention we have to wait for second season god know for how many years.

No I don't think it's good for me to go down into that rabbit-hole I've already seen enough for one lifetime. But if that works for some people, I get it.

Those are rookie numbers, you gotta pump those up

@Miguel1 Okay, got it. You seem like a guy who’d be fun to be around Same for me actually, when it's warm outside, a warm spring weather, I like to drive around in the evening or at night when there is no traffic, or just sit at my balcony during sunset trying to do what you described but with myself. Those moments are one of my best memories. It's funny, my best memories doesn't involve other people much. One question, when you mention deeper connection with another, what do you mean exactly? How do you express that with another? Do you have specific topics that you like to talk about, you mean just deep presense and listening to others in that way, or what?

So you really recharge when you socialize? That's so foreign to me. If you identify as extrovert, can you tell me what exactly is the appeal of socialization for you as an extrovert? For me, it's fun and exciting to do that from time to time like maybe once every other week. I just get loose, be humorous and enjoy myself, but then I need to come home and sit in silence for 3 hours to recharge, lol.

Does it really replace real human connection and intimacy though? How is that comparable?

Buy a VR headset and play this boxing game It's really fun and it's better than 0 exercise.

@AION Yes, that's my goals as well, after I lose excess fat. What you say doesn't work for me because I'm interested in weight loss. I just have to eat less food than my body needs to maintain current weight. That can be done intuitively, but counting calories helps me to be more accurate in my process and if I get stuck, I have a tool that I can use to adjust my intake appropriately. I don't want to trust my intuition when it comes to weight loss and number on the scale. This is not a long-term strategy. It's a weight-loss strategy that's been working for me.

I don't think people who watch porn occasionally experience any negative side effects. It's only those who use it daily and compulsively, who notice that they have energy or libido problems, or they can't maintain erection, or that they require more extreme stuff to get off. It's the same with every other compulsive behavior.

Do you trust it? Some ingredients that are invisible to Claude can really add up those calories. Like butter or oil.

I still can't believe that Blender is free. I use Notion (free tier) and Obsidian for note taking. VS Code for coding. Docker. There are many open source libraries / tools we use daily in development.

@AION Counting calories is literally just keeping track of how much energy you consume and deliberatly reducing it to make your body burn excess fat. How is that unhealthy?

From your first approach, did it take long to break free in that way? As an introvert, the most comfortable thing for me to do is being alone at home doing my own thing, whatever it might be. That's where I recharge, so to speak. It's just unimaginable for me how some extroverts crave socialization and need it for recharge. Is that an upbringing thing? It's interesting from where that tendency towards introversion or extroversion comes from, is it just a conditioning or is there something deeper that relates to personality outside of conditioning?

He spreads the word. Good stuff.

Lol, also Harry accousing Snape for stealing Philosopher’s Stone. Let's see how will they dodge those bullets.

@Optimized Life Bro, chill. People can misinterpret stuff, it's okay. I was using my own example to convey a point and just have a discussion. You could have just repeated your point if it was misinterpreted, instead of questioning my cognitive abilities. Good luck with that attitude

That's exactly what AI would say

@Optimized Life I've been struggling to break some of the bad habits for literally years with no success, and I call that a lack of responsibility in me. I haven't said any of this was normal or easy, it's extremely hard and difficulty is varied from individual to individual. Someone might loss weight easily while I struggle to do so for years. Life is difficult as hell, nobody argues against that, but what are you gonna do about it? If not for 100%, isn't it your responsibility to handle your basic survival even when you are in harsh conditions? Who else will do it? Your view is too negative. I'm not a fan of false positivity either, but I stay hopeful even in the darkest moment of my life. Somewhere deep inside I know I still have time to do small steps that will benefit me in a grand scheme of things. I have no idea how many people are doing it. Yes, odds are against you. Yes, life is hard and survival is a struggle for many of us. Yes, sometimes it feels hopeless and depressing. Yes, we are bombared with cheap dopamine 24/7 from all directions. But in the end it's your responsibility to manage all that, who else is gonna do it for you? Of course there are many variables here, mental disorders, warzones, childhood abuse, etc. Not everybody gets the same cards. And that makes it very hard for some people to do this then others.

This is my favourite scene, where Walt becomes whiskey before police arrives Jokes aside, this is the only scene in the whole show where Vince Gilligan used main theme as soundtrack, it shows the resiliency of the ego that even after all that, he's still in the game one last time.