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Yes it can become real bad. Especially if you've been addicted since your teenage years and you've been doing it for 10-15 years, man, good luck. Proper intimacy becomes impossible, feminine perceptions get skewd, masculine confidence get trashed, and you become like this junkie who lives for that dopamine hits daily, that then causes gult & shame loops, which then again is dealth with the same dopamine hits because you are so used to escape hard and negative emotions with porn, your organism has learned that it's the way to go, it has worked for 10 years so it expects the same release. It's a vicious cycle really. And I think people who say porn is okay, just somehow avoided this trap, or were responsible enough to not get addicted. But that's a minority. Most guys aren't like that.

It's addictive nature makes it bad for most guys / relationships. For me it's problematic, it's really easy do get addicted and then you jump through all the addiction hoops that wastes time, energy, etc. Also the whole industry is very shady and unconscious.

This was very nostalgic to watch. I loved Spider-Man in childhood, also watched animated series, had many action figures, etc. And I was very hyped as adult when I saw all 3 of them I'm not in Marvel or other superhero movies (The Boys is awesome though ) but spidy has this nostalgic effect on me that doesn't let me skipping.

What are keep struggling with exactly? You tend to procrastinate? You don't have a proper vision of a project? Or what?

Lol

@CARDOZZO Oh man you're hyping me up Not at all, I love to be challenged to my limits. Great.

Yeah he mentioned he wanted to pour all out before he died, so I guess this is that. Nice, I'm going through it as well, he suggested starting from Chapter 18 so I'm finishing that first.

Jesus, I thought I would buy one of his e-course, but they are too expensive, can't afford one at the moment. Do any of you guys have done his e-course maybe? Is it worth the price?

Is it that different from his previous books?

Have you attended them?

That's easy, try this one:

@eTorro Yeah as other guys pointed out, you lack practice. Couple years ago, I was offered a job as a lecturer for some technical subject because I was doing my job well. I was afraid because I lacked communication skills, or so I thought. It turned out it was pure lack of practice issue, first couple lectures were rough, and then I realized the more prepared I was to talk about a subject, the better my communication of it was. As you get better and better, you get more confident and your speech gets clearer because you yourself realize through trial and error points that you need to work on to improve. So, I'd advice to seek out leadership / teaching roles and just strive to improve at your job, and you'll get better. Trust in the process. If that's too much of a hastle for you, you can also do that solo by yourself, via writting and in front of camera. You tell us, what's stopping you?

@AION It's less convenient but you could read from Amazon Kindle app on your phone. I'm reading on my leptop from https://read.amazon.com/

I know this guy makes good money doing just that.

Yeah I know, he likes to joke about meditating on babbling brooks in his podcasts.

His method is meditating near babbling brooks

https://www.actualized.org/insights/how-pickup-lines-work I also do this intuitively, not only with girls but in general, it comes off as natural and the best ones aren't pre-planned, it's always the ones that are just coming out of me when I'm in a good mood and a fun state of mind. I like to compare it to jazz sometimes. It's spontanious. The ones that are spontanious always get the most positive reactions. You also intuit when to say what, and don't think it through. One difficulity I have though is with language. My first language isn't English, so I think / speak 99% in my primary language, and I find that all this intuitive spontanious humor / wittiness / cleverness is tied in how intuitive for you is the language you use. So I'm mostly able to do that in my native language, because otherwise it comes a bit to mechanical if it's too custom and sounds cringy. Not the easy ones like "thats what she said", thats a low hanging fruit I need to level up my language skills

https://www.actualized.org/insights/truth-as-transparency That's scary. But as I read that post, it got me thinking of all the reasons why I got scared. I have to dwell on that. Thanks for sharing! Btw @Leo Gura your text posts have been gems from day one. Those are my favorite types of posts. I think many people here would agree. Really appreciate it, throughout the years they got me thinking on all the various topics and ideas that I wouldn't have considered myself, so thanks for that.

It's very confusing honestly. Can you help me underatand what he means by that? Does that just mean that the insights are on the level of Being and not intellect and concepts? I just don't get it why he dismisses psychedelics (or any other method) so much. But anyways, I'll try to be extra careful not to copy his biases.

He says that a method will not do it. He emphasizes that you must do it, directly. So in that way he also denies Yoga for example, or any other set of practices. But he also says practices help but it's not enough for the final leap. So where is the disagreement? You also say that psychedelics aren't enough, that any fool who does psychedelics might not get those insights, and that it took way more work than just taking psychedelics, that contemplation played a big part in your understanding on top of psychedelics. So, in the end, you did it, not psychedelics, didn't you? But you will say to this that you'd never have been able to underatand all these without psychedelics. So yeah, idk.

Delete an app from your phone, log out from browsers after each use, and you can even install Chrome extensions that disable stories, reels, etc. It's fully customizable. I've successfuly went from 5-6h Insta screentime to basically 0-10 minutes a day. Most days 0.

How do you see your future in that regard? If you think that combo is so rare, do you see yourself settling with less attractive woman? Maybe we won't care about attractiveness that much as we age. But that's a big if.

Me too. And in the end I'm trying to get used to what I found is most sustainable. It's just eating more or less healthy unprocessed home cooked meals 80-90% of the times and leave some room for deserts or something processed every once in a while (after I lose access fat) Calorie counting is a temporary tool that I use to make weight-loss easier. Good luck 🙏

@Judy2 Actually that turned out to be harder for me than losing weight in the first place. Last year I lost 15kg but later I regain all that back and +5kg more. So now I have a very hard learned lesson that I need to change my eating habits or else losing weight wil be meaningless because I'll regain all back. Then I analyzed my eating habits, reasons behind binge junk-eating sessions, trigger points etc, and now I'm working on fixing some behavioral patterns that are causing over-eating. It's not hunger, it's not addiction to junkfood or anything, I found it was just an emotional coping mechanism that was triggered after guilt, shame, bitterness, etc. And I did things that caused all that. Anyways, to keep the story short, when I reach goal weight, I'll still track calories for 1-2 months to just get additional feel for what portion size maps to what calories, and then I'll try to eat 80% clean, and break binge eating habit. Hope it goes well. If you are considering counting calories, it's just an effective strategy if you don't want to leave weigh loss / maintenance up to chance. Also if you have unhealthy eating habits, it's a nice way to get used to and measure what's the proper amount of food for your physique / goals. But if you don't want counting, you could always just eat less and move more. That's the golden rule.

Yes I track calories, protein and carbs. The reason why I track these is that I find it extremely effective when losing weight. I've gained 30kg (66 pounds) over the last couple of years, and the only sustainable way of actually seeing decreased number on a scale for me is to eat X amount of calories (+-100). So, counting calories helps me lose weight and adjust my food intake over weeks to continue losing weight. I could potentially just reduce the portion size instead of calorie counting, but again, I prefer to be more precise. I tried portion control, but I sucked at it. I underestimated food volume and then I discovered I was eating at maintenance calories. And in order to not go insane with counting every day, I have the same meal routine 5-6 days a week (pre-counted) and I eat something different on the weekends just to stay sane As for protein, I try to retain as much muscle mass as I can during weight-loss and high (150g+) protein intake supposedly helps me with that. As for carbs, I need them for energy to weight lift and run. That's it. All 3 has practical purposes.