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@Neill Bolton Yes, I party agree with you. But there still is something mystical about this whole talent thing. For example, it was somehow easy for me to draw since childhood, then other children around me. There were couple of them, who loved drawing more than I did, but it was clear that I was better than them. What should I call that? Did I have a "talent" and they didn't?

Facebook can be used in a smart way too

Same problem here, would be glad if somebody suggested us something

Hey, I have never meditated before, and I think it's nice time for me to begin with it, because most of you say that it's possible to stop the monkey chatter that's happening in mind, so, why not. I have watched Leo's videos on meditation, and he talked about couple of ways to meditate, so I am a bit confused about which one to choose, because I have to stick with it for couple of months, before I try another one, and I want to begin with something that will be the most beneficial for me right now (oh, that perfectionism again ) So, would love to hear your advice.

Hmm, one of the main "rules" of my life is to always be outside of my comfort zone, and to always do what's emotionally hard to do. That kind of approach leads to success in most of the areas of our lives as I observed.

Hmm, I should say that all of them Well, maybe except 3-4 videos. It's really nice to listen to Leo talking about interesting things (that I don't hear anywhere else) weekly.

@KeepPounding Which vocabulary app do you use?

So, I have been thinking about this lately and want to hear your opinions, I am 20 years old guy, and I do more things then the average people in my country of my age (at least people who I know). For example, I try to read every single day and so on, nothing special. But the thing is, when I don't do something I think I should be doing, and complain about that with somebody, for example with my friend, I get a response something like this: "Many people do not do even that, so don't worry about this". The last time of that was when I hadn't read not even a single page for like a week, and complained about that with my friend (I don't know why I talk about these kind of things with my friends to begin with, but that's another topic) and she told me that people aren't reading as much as you do, so don't feel worried about it. The question is, I should not be interested in what other people are doing, because I have my own life and I don't have any right to judge other's lives. But I feel internally that those kind of phrases makes me calm an makes me think something like: "Yeah, they aren't even doing the half of what I do, so I just shouldn't worry that I skipped a week of my plan). So, what would you suggest? I know that it's not the healthy way if thinking, but how can I change it?

@Ayla Yes, probably. I see myself rather differently from time to time, my self-image depends on many things, and changes daily (not the core of it, but some parts of it). The problem here was that I don't like how I feel when somebody tells me that there are people who don't do as much as I do, and I shouldn't worry that I don't do my thing perfectly (Yes, I shouldn't worry, and I mustn't be a perfectionist, but not because others are lazy). I shouldn't care what other people do with their daily lives, and must be fully concentrated on my goals. But the lower self awakes when I am told that I am better then somebody, and I say something like: "No no, I am not better then any of those guys", but the problem is, I don't feel that way, I feel that I am somehow better because I read, because I do this, I do that... And that is what I am trying to fix because I know that it really isn't healthy

Yes it is, but you say that a daily reading habit isn't a good thing to have?

Hey, I have been thinking about this for a while now, and it seems like to me that I can't quite find the right answer. So, what are the emotions and what are the feelings? Emotions are feelings itself right? Feelings that we feel inside of our body, in different parts of our body to be exact. But we all know that what we feel is called feelings, obviously. But we do also feel emotions right? What is the difference between those two? I am a bit confused here, so I would be glad if somebody suggests some answers to the question.

Hey, There are lots of them, as I googled it, but I want to know which books do the members of this forum consider to be a good way to understand mindfulness better What do you think about this one: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/14096.Wherever_You_Go_There_You_Are ? Thanks in advance.

@Aldo Marchand So you say that emotions are just labels? So sadness for example, is it a feeling or an emotion? Whenever I feel sad, I label the feeling inside my body as "sadness". Should I consider that label as an emotion? @Henri I kinda don't understand what you're saying. Can you give me an example?

This is a huge problem for me too, so I would appreciate if somebody helped me and @Philipp with an advice or a book recommendation.

Do you speak Russian?

I will tell you what I am doing.. I try to change my habits month by month, so what do I mean. For example, I say that I will read at least 1 hour a day for the next 30 days, and I do that, nothing else (to make the activity into a habit needs something like 30 days or a bit more, from my experience). After 30 days, I say that I will exercise for like 30 minutes a day, and I do that for the next 30 days, but I don't stop reading, I read for 1h/day and exercise 30m/day for the next 30 days. After that period of time, I say that I won't eat sugar for example, for the next 30 days, and I do that, with reading and exercising. The idea here is to let the activity become a habit, and focus only on that process. When you try and force yourself to change your lifestyle and get all sorts of new habits in 1 week, you will get frustrated and you'll probably fail. The more natural process would be the one I described, that will require some time as you suspect, but trust me, it's worthy

I think there is no "best" time or way to journal. It's individual I think. I, personally, write my thoughts in my journal before I go to bed, because I don't remember what emotions I felt during the day, when I wake up. So It's better for me to write all that down before I go to sleep. And I write on paper with pen, that's more comfortable to me, looking at the computer screen all day really makes me tired, and pen and paper gives me the possibility to change an environment a bit. So, do as you feel is best for you

I listen to music on my earphones whenever I am alone outside, and haven't thought that it may be a wrong thing to do. Can you tell me why did you stop, more specifically?

Hey, 20 years old here, and I am glad to find Leo at this age. I think there are quite a lot of young people like us on this forum

@Ruth Do you know what I am doing in order to not forget it? I add "Schedule the next day" as the last thing in my daily to do list, that really helps, because, every day when I do everything according to my to do list, at the end of a day I see at the end of the list - "Schedule the next day", and I just do it, takes 2-3 minutes Yup, it has been almost 2 months for me now, and I am feeling how this becomes my new daily habit

I have exactly the same problem, learning is my top priority, or at least I want it to be, but I end up with procrastinating day after day after day... Just like you. One thing that has helped me a lot is scheduling my next day. Before going to sleep, I journal the passed day, emotions I felt, things that happened, ideas that came to my head and etc. I write all of that in ny notebook, and I also schedule what I will be doing the next day, hour by hour. Something like this: Wake up at 7:00 o'clock do something from 10:00 to 12:00 o'clock do anoter thing from 13:00 to 15:00 o'clock etc... This helps me a lot, because I don't waste my energy into thinking what I'm going to do at a certain time. I know exactly what I should be doing at any moment of the day. It's up to my willpower now, if I accomplish all the things from my checklist or not. Maybe you should try something like that too

Hm, that's kind of what I am experiencing too, just right now, I wanted to point to Leo's video in which he talks about how you should not worship anybody

Hey, this has been an issue for me for a while now and I would like to hear different thoughts about this. Sometimes I can't help myself and fall asleep while reading something important to me. This may sound a bit silly, but as I am trying to develop a reading habit, this doesn't let me do that. Any suggestions?

"Human beings always act and feel and perform in accordance with what they imagine to be true about themselves and their environment" - Maltz Maxwell, Psycho-Cybernetics

@Samuel You are describing my problem too mate, and if anybody suggested us anything that would help us, that would be great, but as Leo said, we must "get shit done", and just have a control and feeling when it is really necessary to watch another video, or read another article about studying, instead of actually studying. Self discipline is needed I think, which I personally lack of, and am working on. I'm glad you've shown my problem to me from different perspective.