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@JevinR bro please stop trolling.

No matter how much I work on myself. How much I try to put myself out there...I just never feel like I'm good enough for a woman. I never feel like I'm the one they actually want. I've seen my friends with girls and how they literally melt over them. Only girls I've ever had that with are desperate and/or below my standards. If that's shallow then fuck it. Any girl who seems into me ends up just playing me for a game or a possible option. But after recent events. I feel like I'm done. I just felt like posting somewhere to vent. Thank you for listening to my sad story. But hopefully it won't be sad for long cuz I'll be working on other aspects on my life. Who says you need pussy or a relationship to be happy? Good night guys.

@JevinR wow I'm really surprised to see someone post like that here. I usually see it on return of kings comments. I mean no offense by that. It's just interesting.

@Leo Gura leo I really appreciate that you took your time to help me with my petty problems. Little things like that are why I'm a huge supporter of what you do. I feel a lot better as the days have gone on. I was just in a very vulnerable state and needed to let out steam. Thank you everyone for taking your time and providing help.

@popi I'm sorry. I reveal my most vulnerable parts of myself here. I promise I'm not this ass backwards in other areas of my life. But in this area I am. Im not sure what it'll take to change up my mindset. This area of my life has always felt off even when I have success. Right now with school starting, I think I'll just put all of this away for now. It'll be tough cuz I know I'll come across cute females and have that urge to want something. But I gotta just keep it at bay for awhile.

I honestly feel like I'm not up to a standard of looks. At least it seems that way. I have an underbite which causes me to have a longer face. I have a deviated septum. I've tried to find the right sources to fix this stuff because it's an actual medical deficiency that needs to be fixed eventually (if I don't my molars could grind to dust when I'm like 50). I remember telling my mom that and she was like "Wel with technology these days they might have something to prevent your molars from breaking down" and I'm like ...cmon lol if I got that fixed I'd be a lot better looking. As far as my personality goes I've never felt like....it came natural as far as dating. Making friends isn't hard at all and comes pretty naturally. But girls man...I've just always felt like more often than not I had a hard time finding my groove. I always felt like I didn't bring enough energy or something I tried doing pick up. Mainly a lot of online dating. But I never ended up fully satisfied with online. Most of the girls were girls I considerd myself settling for. And I know that comes off shallow, but I'd like to be attracted to a girl who I date. And I'm not asking for a lot. Just cute and not completely out of shape. I know that varies for many people. But from my perspective the ones I'm attracted to don't seem available or interested most of the time. it just seems like the girls I find myself attracted to are not interested. Whether it's another guy who's better looking or whatever. And the few who share a mutual attraction are not available because they're taken or something is going on with them( like they are too busy or live far away)so whatever there was has no chance to grow for awhile I kept a chin up. But more often than not I feel like that's my life. I know guys who aren't into pick up and don't think about this shit too much and cute girls just go for them. Like this last girl...always flirted with me and gave me hugs. I remember she wanted me to get her food and stuff. I was reluctant to because I know the game. She'd always call me her favorite. But when I made a move to hang out with her she didn't seem 100% into it. Then a few days later I find out she's straight up showing her nudes to a friend of mine. And I'm like "well damn here I am putting in this work to show her I'm interested and he doesn't even try and is getting farther" its things like that...like things I simply can't control. I don't really feel like I'm 'the guy'

@popi I see where you come from. And I haven't always been negative. I tried to approach this positively but I would come up disappointed. What put me in this state very recently was a girl who I was into. She seemed into me but I found out she was way into a friend of mine. And it's bringing me back to feeling inadiqute about this area of my life. I always feel like I end up finding out I'm only an option. What am I missing? Lemme address one more time that I didn't feel so down before tonight

Nice brah

Honestly I think we need to clear the air on the difference between pick up and simply becoming better with women. For awhile I was against pick up, but I also found myself to not be so great with women. Being a natural introvert, it took some real awareness to realize how much I wasn't putting myself out there. And how much I wasn't taking the initiative in situations where a girl was showing me interest. And how I wasn't a pua or some asshole for moving on to the next one. I was just comfortable enough with myself to not get hung up on them. It's little things like that man. People think they're no brainers, but to someone like myself...I didn't realize how much I was suppressing myself. How many times I kept myself from asking that cute girl for her number. Am I a sleezy pua for wanting to break out of my shell? Taking a little time out of my day to approach women in public with no real intentions other than to approach them made me realize how likeable I actually was. And it was OKAY to go out and talk to girls.

Tbh I have such a history of over thinking and my thoughts running wild, it would be hard to surrender to it. During that split second of what could possibly be no self came a wave of thoughts after it. "What just happened?" "was that something profound or did I just really want it to be something profound?" etc etc. I may need to work on my mind a bit more before I have the choice to surrender.

Sometimes I felt like I had a glimpse. But I'm not really 100% sure. I know one time I truly tried to imagine life going on without "me" in it and I had a weird spacey moment for a second or two and it felt like "I" wasn't there. But it was literally a glimpse. The other day I was suffering something fierce. Between being a bit hung over and going into work early, combined with a lot of emotional issues I was dealing with, I was having a tough day. I have felt stuck inside my head for awhile now. It got to the point where the thoughts and anxiety were hurting my head so much that I had no choice but to be present and turn my mind off. For a little while there I felt peace, but I'm not sure if that was a real glimpse either...

It's that kind of stuff that literally makes me confused between up and down.

Learning to truly give myself love was a major turning point on my journey. It was the first time I felt like I had any connection to the endless peace that I was always told about.

Ok...so girls. It has come into my awareness that learning how to interact with them on a romantic level and being able to handle myself emotionally has been important to me. One thing that I have realized is that porn and masturbation are habits that stunt my growth in this area of my life. For one it makes sex not nearly as enjoyable. I've been watching porn and masturbating for so long that I've grown desensitized. The real thing could be much better. And because I understand this, I notice that I suppress myself in situations where I could talk to a girl or get involved with her. I tell myself that I need to quit this habit before I start putting myself out there again, because subconsciously I know I won't be 100% ready. But the thing is that this habit it super hard to quit for me. I always rationalize a reason to do it just one more time. I may have a few good days, but then I'll crack and relapse. I feel like I have no choice but to put this habit behind me. Does anyone have advice as to the best methods for that? This is incredibly tough.

What kind of toilet paper does Leo wipe with? I MUST KNOW!

To follow up on that. I have had many black friends and family who I have grown up with. And there is no struggle in this country quite like the struggle of the black man. Its not my place to really speak for black people, because I'm coming from a place of privledge. But it really means a lot to me to see their struggle end.

The family sits down for dinner, but Billy gets no food on his plate. Billy says "hey! I deserve food!" the family responds with "everyone deserves food!" well yeah...but Billy still isn't eating

Ya know, sometimes thinking about the magnitude of all of this can give me a sense of fear and less comfort. But I know it's just the ego.

Well I am trying to understand such an alien way of life from my perspective. I don't want to be prejudice towards a group of people for their beliefs, but a lot of times I feel like Muslims could seriously endanger my life if I am not aware of them. Basically what I am saying, from what I know about Islam right now and the idea I get from it, I would truly fear for my safety if the muslim population increased in my area. So I am asking if it is wrong to assume that Islam is violent and barbaric at it's core. But I want to know from someone who isn't a proud gun slinging murican either, because their views could be skewed. Make sense?

I agree with this. It's like a survival instinct for people (seems like women mostly) to set up options while still claiming to be "true" to their partner.

You will most likely end up hurt or waiting in vain unless you have other options. It's a path that I have been down one too many times.

https://youtu.be/zRNfTVVW7co

I'd say out of all the difficult things in my life, this area triggers me the most emotionally. I have a lot of neurotic issues in this area in my life that have come to bit me in the ass. I am trying my damn hardest to uncover the root of these issues, because I am becoming much more aware of them... I have nothing left to say or ask...except that everyone send good energy my way, pray, whatever it is. I just really need support.

It happens to me all the time now. Still not sure the best method to overcome this.

I mean yeah man pretty much