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One more thing, the reason why you don't like the job might be precisely because you do not feel competent. Could that be the case?

I highly recommend reading Cal Newport's book " So good they can't ignore you" this will shift your perspective and maybe even free yourself from the passion mindset which may be the thing that cause those problems. And I wouldn't recommend to do any shift to a field where you do not have any career capital (concept from the book). Good luck.

So I started reading Byron Katie book and started to question some of my stories and beliefs about myself and reality. Here is there it gets confusing. My problem is this: firstly, I identify thoughts behind my negative feelings: " I feel bad about myself because I have not accomplished anything in my life and I have no skills to provide value" Then I investigate the underlying belief about that thought which might be: " I should accomplish something big in life and achieve my goals" After that I use four questions to deconstruct this belief: Question #1: Is it true? Answer: Yes, I think it is true. Question #2: Can I absolutely know that this is true? Answer: No because I haven't, so it is not true (True in this context is what is reality or what exists). And in general sense it is not necessary that I should or must. Question #3: How do I react, what happens or feel when I believe this thought? Answer: It makes me feel useless. I feel inferior and makes me feel bad about myself and my abilities. Question #4: Who would I be without the thought? Answer: I would feel freer and more relaxed. I would have more confidence and energy about what I do. I would have more motivation and feel happier. I would be more centered and present. Then the turnaround happens: " I should accomplish something big in life and achieve my goals" -> " I shouldn't (I don't have to) accomplish something big in life and achieve my goals" The idea is that I just love what is. The story that I should is not true and contradicts the reality and therefore cause me all the suffering and discomfort. And at this point I am afraid to lose motivation for this goal because the belief is that I should and it feels that I will never attain it if I get rid of it. As far as I understood the motivation for any actions after the belief is destroyed, is love- you do it because you love reality as it is( but I'm not getting there either. ) And this is hard for me to grasp. On the one hand I have a belief that really doesn't feel good. On the other hand I need that goal because I want to have big accomplishments. I feel like if I don't have this belief then I can't accomplish anything. Also if I just love and accept what is, I feel that I would just sit and do nothing. So how do you solve it in your own mind? (Another belief question to be investigated and put on 4 questions is " I am responsible for my life" I seems that it doesn't hold to true for second question and now tell me, tell me : how is this empowering ? ) P.s Leo, don't forget to eat organ meats on a carnivore diet

So what OctagonOctopus is saying is that I can love and accept what is and that in this case means letting go of my attachments to should and shouldn't thoughts (as they are ultimately not true and cause me suffering). Instead I can say : " I could ( want to) accomplish something big in life and achieve my goals" which is very different and probably much more healthy motivation for my actions. I'll have to think about it more. I'm not really sure about that because there is a chapters in her book about underlying beliefs and self-judgements that indicates that The Work can be applied more broadly. Sure I can be wrong. Thank you for the answers.

Hello folks, recently I have been wondering about what positions require a higher education. Here I ask you to share your experiences and stories of people you know about how did they get their jobs and if getting a degree played a big part in it. By the way, I live in Europe where I can get free university education. Right now I assume that engineering require college degrees but maybe this is not entirely true, I am not sure. (Mainly I am interested in STEM but feel free to add all the other academic disciplines and jobs) I really appreciate your stories and experiences. That is it I wanted to ask, Have a good day.

In one of your videos you said something like " You want the most inspiring and motivating vision? Imagine yourself being completely self-less and completely loving" Can you elaborate more on that? Does it apply to a regular person if one really sink into it?

What are the most important elements to set in place of changing human consciousness? How do one actually make permanent changes to one's behavior and personality? (speaking mostly about more basic self-improvement, nothing spiritual there but I assume that same principles apply)

George Leonard "Mastery" and here you go. It has a lot of good insights.

Problem might be that carbs are the problem for you. So here is the thing. Keto or carnivore diets significantly reduces your hunger and cravings. I highly recommend trying that.

I have found some interesting resource on various topics on psychology. It is called " The Weekend University" here is one of the lectures that might be interesting.

Hello, Path towards your purpose do not have to be linear, somtimes it's better to do other activity which is not your passion just to make room in life to do what you actually want. It won't be a good choise to do your visual art and struggle to pay your bills.

Hello everyone, This is my first post and I really value being here. I'm 18 yers old and want to share some thoughts on my life purpose. So the thing is that by contemplating I reached conclusion that the most important thing for my is the one, which helped me to survive (solved my problems). In the past I had problems with emotional well being and kind of depression (I still do sometimes). By trying to fix that I stumbled upon philosophy, psychology and self-help and I managed convinced myself that this is the most important thing in life (becouse helped me to feel better and I do like it ) So this is negative motivation, right? Isin't that wrong way to go about figuring out my life purpose? Not only that, I also feel that these previous work of fields are crucial for other people to understand. Currently I'm studying math and physics and having strange sense that this is not that important to me (Of course, becouse there was no way that these things could help me with my emotional problems!!!) Same mechanics I also noticed in others. Example: a girl which broke up with her boyfriend thinks that she is most passionate about dating psychology. Things that I hold as important, I tend to think that same things are equally relevant for others. it would be nice to know your thoughts on this logic chain. Maybe you are in similar situation? Btw, thanks for all your support and all replies.