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benefits? All of them They are comfortable (at least for me), healthier for the foot (they are foot shaped). You can just google it. I experienced benefits first hand so I have not done any further research on why they are good, I just feel it

Yeah, I ended up buying the same shoes. For me at least water resistance feature don't do shit. They are getting abnormally wet after couple hours of walking in a normal winter conditions (a little bit of snow, sidewalk). I don't know where the water comes from. I think about returning them.

These are more foundational ones. Hope someone will find this information useful.

Interesting ?. From my pov, this mindset is not effective or practical since it focuses on things that you cannot control. @Leo Gura and others, I wanted to ask in separate post this question: What is the ideal number of approaches per week? What should I aim at? Really I don't know what am I doing here. Appreciate the answers though. ?

All I can suggest (and that's basically you need) is to implement Cal Newport's advice where he talks about time block planning, fixed time productivity, etc.

I found some interesting shit here, that struck me as important, look, here: "The first step in Jung’s method of treatment, therefore, was not a drug prescription, but a dose of psychological insight – insight regarding what to expect from life and insight into what it takes to change. With respect to the former, Jung noted that many people believe that life should be easy, suffering kept to a minimum, and difficulties avoided. But Jung would be blunt with his patients telling them that life is not easy, and comfort and peace are not our natural state. Or as Jung wrote: “In the last resort, it is highly improbable that there could ever be a therapy that got rid of all difficulties. Man needs difficulty; they are necessary for health. What concerns us here is only an excessive amount of them.” Carl Jung, Structure and Dynamics of the Psyche Accepting that difficulties are inevitable and nothing worth achieving comes easy, places us on the firm ground of reality from which to change. For when we accept that life is hard, we will also realize that only through a strengthened character do we have any chance of living a good life. If, on the other hand, we remain caught in the delusion that life should be easy, we will be less motivated to overcome a weak character, as we will falsely hope that if we just give it time life will get easier. “Life is a battleground. It always has been, and always will be; and if it were not so, existence would come to an end.” Carl Jung, Man and His Symbols These mental models of how life should be can manifest themselves in a variety of different ways. Imagine if one had an idea that once she finds her passion she should feel the same as watching some standup comedy on Netflix (excitement, climactic moment), this probably will never happen. Hence that person will never find it. In his book "So good they can't ignore you" Cal Newport criticized the passion mindset for the same reason- unrealistic expectations. "The passion hypothesis convinces people that somewhere there’s a magic “right” job waiting for them, and if they find it, they’ll immediately recognize that this is the work they were meant to do. The problem of course is when they fail to find this certainty, bad things follow, such as chronic job-hopping and crippling self-doubt" – Cal Newport. How do you think one should go about changing these things (the expectations)? here is the source:

This post is quite long but I felt I have to tell these memories just to understand myself better. Throughout my life, I was more interested in people rather than things. I was into philosophical ideas, psychology, the mind, and self-help. When I was 14-16 I remember getting excited reading the book by Arthur Schopenhauer called “The wisdom of life”. Feeling deep curiosity then I realized that meditation does work and wanted to find out how and invent more such techniques. When I was A kid I recall reading an article about how communication between people works (mostly because I was deficient in that area). One of the earliest memories I had was being into reading some book which was a compilation of short stories about monks. All of them had some piece of wisdom in them. That's probably why I read them. All in all, since I was 10 years old kid, I was into philosophy and self-help because I did not feel good about myself, so I tried to find a solution. That’s what it was if I think about it. Moreover, in school remember enjoying literature classes. We analyzed some literary works like Crime and punishment and tried to understand what the character was feeling, what were the motives for their actions, how the story can be related to the actual author’s life, etc. I remember being on the edge of my seat. I came to realize I enjoyed crafting and writing the essays (It happened then I got better at it). The teacher gave us a topic like “The importance of love in literature” It had a set structure of Introduction, body (2 paragraphs - statement, and 2-3 arguments to support it and conclusion. So I had to think through the whole argument and articulate it as best as I can. I recall the feeling when I had a blank sheet of paper, going through the literature that I have read to make solid arguments, It was quite fun. The external influence and ignorance on my part led me to become a software engineering major in college. (3.5 years of studying) I thought this would be a get-decent-income-relatively-quick scheme + I get to live in a capital city which means more socialization. So I finished the first year and it was absolutely useless in terms of software skills. Classes do not offer any value. A guy who is up for getting his Ph.D. told me that it is normal and next year will be better. So I think that I should just focus on my career software skills (to eventually get a decent-paying job and get financial needs met) and socialization. The question is what should I do with the fact that I am more interested (and it is more meaningful) in philosophy, psychology, etc. than software? Should I just learn software and have faith that passion and meaning (because right now I don't find it meaningful) will emerge with having enough skills? Or do other things on the side? Taking into account the fact that my initial interest and meaning in all these topics stems from a lack of fulfillment that I experienced when I was a young kid. I am almost 21 years old. With this post, I am trying to articulate things for myself. Any input would be very appreciated.

You definitely need some sort of skills for that. in my POV the insights that you stumble upon yourself through thinking and contemplating have the most impact. As for resources I highly recommend Cal Newport's podcast and the books "deep work" and "so good they can't ignore you". Most importantly you know what skills you need and you focus, this is what Cal Newport's work can help with. You can also watch older episodes of Leo, where he covered more blue and orange topics (business, how to study, discipline etc.)

-> Distracting oneself from uncomfortable emotions to experience short relief -> Not following the stages of ego development -> Not exercising your body -> forgetting the principles, vision, and all the stuff that made you motivated to start this process of personal-development -> Waiting for some feeling to occur or event to happen so that one finally could start doing X -> Not keeping your eyes open = numbing = retreating form consciousness = being fucking ignorant -> Not being consistent with the efforts towards your goals -> Not realizing that emotions (feelings in the body) are what dictates your actions -> Being too late to understand that you started college because you wanted to get laid and not so much because you wanted to learn a subject -> Not listening to the inner signals and always looking outwards for some damn stimulation -> Being fake, trying to pretend, putting up a fake front when relating to people -> Not staying until 3 -4 am to game -> Not planning things out before doing them -> Not staying on the lane (literally and metaphorically) -> watching stupid things on YouTube -> being reliant on dopamine hits for pleasure -> Not really asking questions (or caring to know) about life and what should I be doing -> Buying new clothes when instead I could buy them from second-hand shops for a few dollars. SAME QUALITY MAN ! -> Not learning from mistakes and not articulating what the lesson -> Not appreciating the things that you have -> Failing to see that the mind by the sleight of hand concocts these fucking stupid images and sneaks them into your awareness (as if it was a reality) of a people you know enjoying their lives and being happy whereas you are not feeling that good and it makes you even more miserable. (noticed that very recently). Ever caught your mind doing that shit?

Does it take the same amount (9 years) to complete dental school or less? If I were you, I would turn to the wisdom of Cal Newport.

@Leo Gura Thanks for the reply

Hello everyone, Leo, In one of your episodes, you said something along the lines of "if you want to have the most inspiring and motivating vision imagine yourself completely loving and completely selfless". Can you expand on this? Can a regular person include this thought into his vision to make it more effective? What do you include in your vision to make it better and more motivating? Are you able to visualize emotions? Personally, the closest I have come to good vision is imagining myself having my computer programming skills, and earning a lot of money off of it. At the same time having the freedom to travel and game while doing it + doing philosophy + learning to play nirvana songs on the electric guitar. Maybe this just needs more practice to make it realistic.

For me, regular means being mostly orange and blue (I am like that). Sorry for just using the word without explaining what it means for me and making the question ambiguous, if that was what you don't like.

In video 21:40 - 22:05, Leo said: "But that's painful, that's a painful process because literally parts of your mind have to die. Parts of your ego, yourself have to die as you're getting exposed to reality. And that's really what you fear, that's really what you're avoiding. You're avoiding the pain of the loss of parts of your mind ". How do you deal with the feeling of pain both in the moment and in the long run so it does not divert your actions? How do I treat this and all the other (I don't want to say "negative") unpleasant feelings?

As far as I know, the best thing for your feet is wearing no shoes at all. If you have to wear shoes, I recommend buying those which give you the most barefoot-like experience.

Every day I notice myself seeking distractions (food, YouTube) to avoid the things that I have to be doing. For instance, throughout this month, I have been avoiding studying. I did it by numbing myself, ignoring my understanding of situations, and always attempting to reach a state of blissful ignorance. I actively and sometimes aggressively silenced my mind, refused to see the facts, and evaluate the consequences of my inactions. Whenever I think about some tasks that I am refusing to do, I experience tension, irritation, and sadness. My mind goes "shut it down, shut it down, shut it down" and sometimes " Fuck this I am going to kill myself "(It flashes very quickly with these words) and then I need some way to get myself unconscious fast. In my opinion, these are the same dynamics that drug addicts experience. Poor reality orientation, avoidance of truth, lack of self-esteem, call it as you want, I sometimes really feel like a drug addict. So basically I need to fix my relationship with reality. Or maybe, as Leo said, I avoid not the situations but the feelings about them. Or maybe it is because I feel inadequate to the reality, as N. Branden would say. What do you think? How do I change it? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I also observed that my mind cannot register the question "What do I want out of life?" anymore. It is like it slips through my mental focus. I think it has something to do with my self-esteem. Anyways, essential question is: where do emotions come form? what is their source? Is it thoughts and beliefs or is it my subconscious mind or some other thing? Because it is all about emotions and feelings. Oh yeah, I want to learn to manipulate my emotions to feel good all the time. Even if I actively try to take responsibility and generate actions ( usually happens after I reached really bad state by living in a mental fog), this energy is short-lived and I get back to where I started.

I am not talking about awakening here

What I do is feel an emotion that makes my body unpleasant, and irritating in particular areas. My first reaction is to run away from the bodily sensation. Therefore, I try to distract and numb myself to not feel anymore. For example, when I feel low self-esteem I feel pressure on my temples. You are right, I need some tools to deal with these emotions (sensations) at the point when they occur. Otherwise, the avoidance strategy always leads me to a self-destructive state.

Me: But Leo, how do I get laid? Leo: Practice! (Conversation in my imagination) This is just a conversation that I have with myself: The key to living a good life and getting results is regular practice. That which you do with your mind (where you concentrate your mental resources) on a daily, weekly, monthly basis. Consistent practice leads to an elevated level of skillfulness in that particular area which then translates into powerful action and results. (Isn’t it the case that the results are what you ultimately want?) Imagine if you practiced playing guitar (or meditation or any other skill) for 1 – 2 hours every day from age 5. Imagine you started programming at age 3 and kept doing it regularly for 10, 20 years. On the other hand, every practice be it good (like reading books) or bad (like watching TV) will lose its effect on your life without doing it consistently. Hard work- regular practice of worthwhile skills with no immediate results (otherwise it would be fun, therefore - easy) It is also important that you dedicate a distinct chunk of time to practice to give it the full focus (this is where the Time block planning technique comes into play [the idea of Cal Newport] ) My life only sucks in those areas where I have not practiced enough. It is bad only to the degree in which I failed to practice that which I need to practice to develop the skill which in turn gives me the power of solving the problem. Therefore, an essential skill of life and self-actualization is DEVELOPING REGULAR PRACTICE, without it, nothing will change, I will stay the same for the rest of my life Do you want to become more confident? Develop a regular practice for that- build it into your life. Do you want to improve your skill of sleeping? Practice! because almost everything that you do is a skill. Hence you can get better at it. LET’S BE REAL, YOU CAN NOT DEVELOP YOURSELF WITHOUT REGULAR PRACTICE, MAN. Leo has been telling you this all along and you only starting to understand the significance of this once you started to think about it on your own. This is the most complete idea that I have ever come across. By now my inner monologue has ended. My regular practice is meditation and visualization. What is your regular practice? What do you practice for your career? Just want to get more full of the scope of how much there is to practice and skill that I do not even consider exist.

What is your current diet looks like? Have you tried carnivore diet? Just trying to provide practical solution here.

Do you build confidence in pickup by doing it or by doing other things (career, skills, hobbies, etc.)? It appears to me that just as there are certain pc requirements for software in the same way men have to have a certain initial level of self-esteem, achievement in other aspects of life, and confidence in order to do pick-up. I am asking this because when I go out with my wings I feel anxious, shy, and obvious lack self-love to the point where these emotions source negative thoughts about myself. I feel like I am worthless, offer no value. Hell, when I am in the mood like this I would not want to sleep with myself if I were a girl. I think that if I do not feel good about my own life, there is no way in hell I can get results in this (pick-up)endeavor. Of course, some days are better than others and after a few approaches it gets better, and sometimes I feel really good. Do I build my self-esteem by gaming or by doing stuff that is outside of that? wait I know it is both. The question is to what extent. Which of these will increase my pickup results more? Or is it the case that I cannot have results in pickup unless I fix other things in my life that sources my low self-esteem? Maybe I should stop that and focus more on more basic things.

Thanks for all the information. @JonasVE12 you seem to have a good grasp of emotions. What books have you read? These ideas that you are proposing are almost unheard of to me.

I want skill and then fun and sex. To satisfy my biological and psychological machine. To learn about my mind and how it changes in this process. "I don't want just to become a player, I want to become the best player of all time !." - my mind talking

I agree that letting go of these negative emotions in my body would increase my current level of satisfaction with myself. But I am not sure that I can build long-term self-esteem by letting go of negative emotions which are created by low self-esteem. I have read "the six pillars of self-esteem" and the thing is that I either have to practice the 6 pillars or/and change my values, beliefs, etc. to be more realistic and rational. This is how I understand it.

If you want to fix your diet you will have to cook meals by yourself - it is inevitable. What I personally do is cook some ground beef (or any other meat, sometimes organs) on ghee or lard (tallow would be ideal but I cannot find any) when (after I take meat) I put in 5 eggs and eat it with butter and olives (or some fermented veggies) I do it every day It is simple and It is called real foods. Avoid eating seeds, roots, stems, leafs, since these parts are most protected by the plant by the toxic chemicals (fermentation helps in disabling these chemicals). Instead, eat fruit and honey for carbs. And this is how you simplify your diet. And no advanced cooking skills are needed -> just cook your meat and that's it Check out the work of Paul Saladino for more info about this way of eating. Anyway, this is what works for me.