Lincisman

If what is true is that which is, then no, it's not true that it shouldn't be this way. It feels bad.

Yes, I am already doing the physique building thing for like 2.5 years. Yes, I have met some of them, just by asking them to spot me. Yes, I think I bring minimal value to the other person or to the conversation. Martial arts gyms are too expensive right now for me. Thanks for the book recommendations.

You know, Byron Katie "The Work" thing. I had this in mind. Not sure how helpful it can be in this situation. Just to shift my mind in a more relaxed way.

Thank you for the reminder.

That it shouldn't be this way. That it will turn out badly for me, bc she will leave me and I will be left with nothing. Thoughts like that

Idk, probably my thoughts and perceptions about the situation. What else can it be?

What I would like to be able to do is to be positive, love and accept this situation and go take action socializing. But instead I get into a negative/depressive state of mind that renders me unable to take action and I just lay in bed. And on top of that I get angry at this state I am in and it's like double unhappy. I tried questioning my thoughts but I am still confused

She studies in other city and goes back on weekends. How does that happen? My only knowledge is about cold-approaching girls. The thing is I am very introverted and people generally dislike me or avoid meeting me (like I have noticed that in college and my job) not all of course

Hi everyone, I rarely post, but I need perspective on something that's been weighing on me. I have a girlfriend whom I see once a week, sometimes only every other week. Beyond this relationship, I have very few social connections, which leaves me feeling lonely during the longer gaps between our meetings. I've learned some cold-approach (my only way to socialize) and that makes me even more frustrated then I go outside and see other girls. I feel angry about depending on just one person for most of my social interaction. I don't want to continue this way. This situation consumes my thoughts daily, leaving me distracted and irritable. In addition, I started a part time job working 3 days a week 8-5 and it feels like I have less time for this social activity thing. It's the second time I am in this situation. It makes me depressed and angry (but at the same time I know that is is not doing anything for me). What should I do in this situation?

One way which worked surprisingly well for me is to inquire. Byron Katie has powerful method to do that. But you have to actually do it and experience it for yourself. I know how easy it is to listen to advice and don't apply it. Her website: https://thework.com/

Guys, I have upgraded my problems (if you look up my old posts you would know what I mean) Here are couple of points: First time we had sex I came in 2-3 minutes. It was nice Second time I did not ejaculate. Felt almost nothing. She felt too wet as if there was not enough friction. Third time same thing happened. She just finished me off by hand. In this state I can have sex for 60-90 minutes or more. Endless penetration. At first I thought it's because of the foreskin position. It isn't- I did some troubleshooting. I used the same candoms in all instances. If I masturbate, I come relatively fast. Now I starting to feel a little bit uncomfortable while having sex. Have you experienced this if so how did you fix the issue?

@Sempiternity thanks for the reply. Two more last questions: 1. Is it really the case that she does not care about me at all until after sex? Even if we made out and I touched her everywhere. 2. I am free to flirt/date with other girls but am I free to sleep with others? ( In case I want to be with the one I mentioned- sounds like stupid question) Ok, three questions: Is it true that texting is mainly for organizational/logistical purposes? Because as I saw with her, texting is fucking useless for almost everything else like flirting and getting to know each other.

Okay, thanks for reply Leo But if she sees me approaching other girls it's basically over, isn't it?

Hi, I met a really cute girl while cold-approaching. We made out two days in row but we didn't have sex (she had her period). It was one day ago. Yesterday I found myself thinking about her and getting pissed why doesn't she write me. Hence becoming needy and all messed up in my head. Maybe because it's my first time and it's feels like a drug to me. But I don't want to stop doing cold-approach. How to say to her that I want to meet other girls? + I feel like if she is my only option I will become needy and fuck things up fast. I can already see this happening At the same, I don't want to be dishonest with her. In addition, I have another girl writing to me. She wants to meet me today. As for her I just want to sleep with her, just to get it out of the way. Yes, I am a virgin and have no fucking clue how it all works

Don't forget to take notes. Personally I use google docs. ----- I suggest: Contemplate what does it mean to be reality-oriented (You can ask: what is really true in this situation?). Notice that your emotions, thinking and beliefs distorts how you see this situation. Read: Six pillars of self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden. Here i add my notes on Leo's video titled: Motivational Speech - Oct 2021. It's for contemplation, basic points. I don't no how about you but this video is powerful (even if it seems funny). Makes me emotional and motivated. motivational speech.docx