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@Danioover9000 I don't know, like a person. I just talk on whatever the topic is.

Yesterday I got rejected, again. I'm glad this forum exists so I can atleast tell someone. I noticed I play the victim a lot because my mind was all like, why am I so dumb? I regret asking her out. and so on. It's a bummer. But what can I do? She said she has a boyfriend. And this kind of statement haunts every time I try to ask someone out. I think I'm too of a pussy to move past this "I have a boyfriend" statement. Even if they truly have boyfriends, am I not a coward for not getting the girl even if she's taken?

@Bubba66 it's an awesome reply bro! I loved it! I really see your suggestion about coaching groups like a band of beatboxers and getting on stage with them come true.

I was wondering if it's manageable to coach people without a certificate? For free for example. I only tried 1on1 coaching once and it was hard to do. So I'm sure I will get a certificate, but the question begs, from who? From who do I get a certificate? And what I would even be coaching about? The best skill I have (and it's not even that good as of now) is beatbox. I could train beatbox, but I'm more interested in self-help teachings. I feel like it's more valuable than beatbox. Can I like to connect the two? But if I say that I'm a beatbox coach and then we have a coaching call I teach self-help it wouldn't be what the client expected or even wanted.

Don't know bro... I feel kinda the same, but at the same time it's a bit different. meaning that there is a conflict inside which hasn't been solved yet. First find a way to resolve these conflicts and then start thinking about approaching women be it on the street in a grocery store or wherever.

So I echanged numbers with people here and there, and the most facsinating thing I found out is that other people are me. Unless they aren't but the way they speak to me, like they know all of my thoughts... They speak to me is like they know me already, that's what I'm trying to say. And there's this metaphysichs then my view of Reality is interupted by a black&white screen which I don't even know why it happens and what happens to my body then it happens because I don't really see through tue eyes of a human but there is just awareness...

I know her through my social circle. Yes I get the anology with cars. One girl does not mean it's the end of the world. There are plenty out there, I just got to approach them and talk to them. I think it's easier for me since I'm a taxi driver because if a young women sits in my car, I can chat her up and train my speaking skills with women like that.

I think this violant entertaintment speaks to our roots when we lived one with nature. We are violant creatures. We kill animals to get food, hell we even kill one of our own. Since in modern society violence is forbidden we seek to entertain these insticts per say through other means like video games and movies. It's interesting to watch. And in reality some people are not watching, they are living it.

I guess so, Well anyway I told her that the possibility is open. if she ever wants to. but if not, fine. I can deal with that. I'll just make the effort, like you said, on other people and if they reject me, fine. I'll find someone who won't.

I agree with the above. Sure relationships has its downsides, but the upside is that it has upsides.

I'll explore this idea here. Is it true? what is true? That contemplation is answering questions... (there are two options now I either go to the "No it is not" route or "Yes it is" route) I choose... Yes it is. Contemplation is answering questions. Though that I made up and how does it make it any true? I don't know. Then answering your own questions is not contemplation. which means it's something else. But Am I not contemplating right now? No. I simply answered my own question. Doesn't it make it contemplation? Sure it does. it does make it true then. That contemplation is simply answering questions. And here I can disagree and agree with that statement, but what's the end result of that conversation? nothingness. or Somethingness. These dualities... right? ??

I'm on the same page with you OP. We just want a simple life, with no extravagenza. Although I don't think you contemplated any life purpose questions. Like What do I want to work as in my life? What do I want to achieve in life if anything? and etc. P.s I haven't answered these either ??

@Yarco I sometimes do beatbox in a car, and the time between varies differently it could be for an half an hour to an hour and it could be just couple of minutes. I thought about shooting videos in a car but the problem is I need to listen to the walkie talkie so I could take the fares myself and if I'm distracted with somrthing else it creates a problem. I did beatbox for clients a few times, sometimes I got good positve reactions sometimes not. And I'm not saying I'm that good at beatbox. I think it's a self-esteem issue. If I did record them. I would need a camera set up. Nothing too fancy just a camera that would capture the wholr inside of the car. It would be cool, though I don't know if I'm up for it.

I work as a taxi driver. The job requires to sit in a car amd drive for long hours. Whenever I get an off day I try to work on my project which is youtube and facebook group, just generrally trying to build an audience. Also I want to try to teach people what I know. The problem is that my fb group is about beatbox but I try to incorporate self-development topics too especially on my youtube. I feel the whole name of the group, "Beatbox Academy" should be about beatbox right? But I mostly talk about self-help and life in general. So I'm doing a taxi job, not even practising beatbox that much ironically the skill I should be teaching and I steer away to self help on youtube. I feel that I divided myself broadly. Is that bad? Everyone is talking about having a niche expect Leo, he says go have a holistic approach. Which is bassically what I'm doing. I have multiple fields to work on and I don't want my students or let's group members be dissapointed about the group because I don't teach too much of beatbox but more of self-help. I don't know it's weird. Is that sustainable? Can I keep going with three domains and teach two of them?

Well from my experience. (little story) I work as a taxi driver and I see different kinds of people. The most scary ones are the ones who are very reactive, the ones who will punch you for a tiniest thing. They don't see it as tiny though, it's big for them. Most red people are these kinds of people. Also not setting stereotypes because I've seen very calm and sophisticated people from prison. People who went to prison seem very aggressive. It's because of their environment they been in. I never been in prison but I can imagine what's like from stories I heard and from tv shows and movies. These people fight, they fight for themselves. Hell I heard a guy say that he would punch one of his own if he ratted him out. So it's wise to keep your mouth shut sometimes, but sometimes they ask something and they demand an answer, if you don't give them attention they will flip out. And if you say too much, especially undermining them, then it's going to get ugly as well. Think what you speak. And for nice people, they don't feel threatining so you can easily exploit them and take advantage of them. They might get "pissed off" but it's not as threating as the "not nice" group. Being a nice one has it's advantages and disadvantages. Like in the graph. It's all about balance. One advantage of being nice is getting forgiveness(if you're genuinely nice of course). Buuut if you're too nice you will be treated as no one. As a ant on which I can step over. "Just use me and throw me away"- nice person's belief.

I heard some wise man say that there is no self-esteem or that is an illussion. Can't remember the specifics though

I go with @datamonster and Leo. you shouldn't quit your e-commerce business if it's actually making you money. I heard a lot from business people who say "have multiple sources of income" this is very important. If one thing fails, then you have another. It would be a much safer bet to keep going with your t-shirts and actually search for a true passion you want to do while you still in the business you have now. Sure it will take longer, but maybe you won't slack off and get lazy that much because this business can teach you some work ethic that will give you a boost in your passionate endevours.

It doesn't have to be something completely new. You can do something that has been done before like a tv show but on youtube. And adding your own twist to it. maybe on monday you make dessert and on wednesday you make something with meat. Hope this helps.

Like seriously, I think that I'm wasting my time, on forums, watching tv shows, whole life is a waste of time to me. Then the question arises, what is worthwhile doing? Is it anything that gives the most amount of money? Or is it something that gives the best states of consciousness? Life itself is time, however I spent it. Even here I write these sentences and think to myself, is this a waste of time? Or(and) are there benefits to this? I think it connects with the meaninglesnness of life. What is meaningful to do, not to do? So many questions and so little answers... Anything that I bring myself to do, I see it colapsing into tiny pieces and never to be seen again. And then again it comes back. It comes back with more and more. What is this "it"? Okay so let's be more specific here. Let's say Beatbox is something worthwhile doing. Does it make me happy? Or is it something my ego wants to do? I had this thought that I need to prove to my dad that I'm capable of achieving success with my passion. Success means earning money from the work you do. Atleast to my dad that is. (I think I'm projecting here). Money is a neccesserry for survival (if you want to buy food from the grocerys store that is.) And then again it's not. So many ages people have not used money and they did just fine. So what do you think? What is worthwhile doing?

I think it can. So if I repeat I'm straight all the time, I'll be straight. And if I say I'm gay, I'll become gay. That's the whole point of these affirmations isn't? To program your mind so it eventually goes working from the mind and into the body. Identifying oneself with an identity and then acting as that identified identity. Opinions?

I never had a girlfriend for longer than 3weeks... Sounds pathetic to me. It is how it is though. I've been thinking. if I somehow manage to get a girlfriend. then it would take some resources to keep her, mental and material like money. I would need to give attention to the relationship to the partner. It sounds like I'll have to take responsibility on what I say to her, if I promise her anything I'll have to keep that promise. And then again I would need money to get her places, to have dinner and stuff. I also think that I need a car to have a girlfriend. Most guys my age have them both, girls and cars. I dont know amy thoughts?

She feels bored, but she doesn't have the energy for passionate work? Might be just me, I think she has the energy, but she doesn't find it meaningful enough to pursue some passion like you do.

@Nahm Well apart from sex I got the foundation down. Unless you count masturbation as sex, which I don't. The second pillar I've got down 65%. I'm secure, got a job, recources, property not so much as I live with my parents. Body health, I don't know I feel that it's preety decent. the third pillar is a hard one, I need to focus on this one for sure. Most of my interactions with people are online. Which isn't the best option. I neglect my family. Taking them for granted. Ignoring them... I want to stop though. I think if I start to speak with my family more I will be more up for finding a partner part. fourth and fith pillars is something I'm working on, but now I see that without laying and building a proper third pillar I won't be able to go to the above stages. Spending time with my family is an option. I'll go to my grandparents and just chill with them, maybe that will help.

@somegirl Change to want? How do I cahnge perspective? Am I just going to add another perspective on my old ones?

@Gesundheit Good idea. I "picked" this girl that I escalated quickly with, but I f-ed it up by taking advice from Leo from the red flag video, I basically saw all of the red flags in the girl and we fell apart as quickly as we found each other.