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after some reflection about the entrence story of the last video, i realized that it was a very bad example of buddhist teachings. small reminder: it was about the spiritual teacher who takes in buddhists and then he refuses them afterwards because they didn`t want to take his teachings without second thought as they didn`t want to believe something like a heartopening could happen. showing buddhist teachings in the wrong light. for everyone who tries to go into buddhist teachings know that the core of buddhist teachings passed down from siddharta gautama himself is the heart sutra of "emptyness is form". someone who had a heart opening or awakening to the heart should understand its meaning if not they don`t know about heart awakeneing in debth. might be that buddhists themselfs are preoccupied about it like christians can be of the bible, but all in all the storry gives off the image buddhism was all about the mind and detachment. it is not, loving compassion as teached in buddhist scripture as far as i know is not about detachment of love it is about the maximization of love - how should that be without a heart opening? The following is not a buddhist teaching, it is just an interpretation of my own experiences about the meaning of heart - i got an heart opening through understanding the heart sutra to a certain point: from my heart to your heart i give pains and pleasures from your heart to my heart you give the same my heart recives from your heart your heart recives from mine be aware of the distinction of the intent, the distinction of the perception and the distinction of form and emptyness, what the heart is empty of it needs to be filled: if the heart is filled with karma it will release karma. if the heart is filled with truth it will release truth. if the heart is filled with self it will release self. if the heart is filled with ego it will release ego. if the heart is filled with dharma it will release dharma. if the heart is filled with soul it will release soul. if the heart is clingy it will cling. if the heart is filled with raw destructive power it will destroy. if the heart cares it wil care. if the heart is filled with responsibility it will release responsibility. if the heart is filled with darkness it will release darkness. if the heart is filled with denial it will release denial. the heart is a projector like the mind is, even though active through transcending suffering and karma the heart might be open wide, but what is vastness if it only includes the self? i guess what buddhism teaches is not that the heart cannot be opened but it also teaches that the heart must rise above itself to let go of the cycle of karma konflikt. who is served first? how much do i need to take until i speak up? do i speak for myself alone or do i speak for others? do i still need the reference to others or can i walk on my own? what is the heart if it doesn`t rise to the sky? what is the heart if it doesn`t want to touch the earth? siddharta left his godlike birth status to first touch the earth, and then rise to the sky, not to rise to the sky directly.

recently you are spouting so much nonsense - or you just write off - but hey maybe you can make a career as a right wing populist because i don’t see much left ideals anymore at least truth is just an empty shell word. its kind of interesting how you use spirituality and psychology to psychologically abuse people and use codependents to support you - cancel culture would at least serve you right, but you are too deep in the abusive mud as if anyone would care. we are not yet able to even get a hold on abusive behavior from the right, how would anyone be resilient enough to make sense out of what’s going on on this platform. this is so sick. how mad to believe this could be some kind of help to anyone - its all lies and a massively blown up sick abusive ego. nothing happens here - it’s just a psychological abuse machine driven by a perpetuum mobile - probably states subventionated, but at least infiltrated. or maybe it just grew much too much over your head. interesting isn’t it, i still wish you well - might be because that’s exactly what i‘m talking about. ah yeah, forgot purple is deeply racist anything below orange will be racist... you didn’t get that right, but i give you that you have a lot of purple toxicity, it’s not racism though.

that’s your belief and therefore untrue - why should there be truth if you don’t value it? that‘s exactly how people create lies and that’s how exactly people loose trustability. well ofc you already said to not believe you - so i guess truth is not part of your value system.

did you not ask yourself if feeding a dog ice cream can be still counted as green? i‘m not sure what colour label i‘d put on that either orange-red or toxic purple.

its a desaster because it’s labeled wrong.

you know there has been a practice once to not only wash hands before dinner but also the ears.

well yeah def not because there is something sharp about „its not a competition for who dumps first“. if you want to have a conversation about the weather: no, it’s not yet raining heavily - but i guess you‘d need to open another thread for weather updates and talking about if you closed your window or not.

are you stu*** or are you not reading properly? i have no interest in talking to you - stop commenting to my posts. you can’t speak for women’s perspective and you obviously miss that you are not really hitting the spot with women.

yeah obviously no one gains by not waiting. except that guys seem to like to get lost as fast as possible and that’s exactly why girls in a lot of cases if going for sustainability instead for getting dumped fast are usually on the winning side by dumping the guys who are not willing to invest emotions nor responsibility. that going fast narrative is exactly why there are more single mothers than children growing up in families - i‘d wish women would shit prove their relationships even more in sense of how interested guys are really. you basically can’t talk for relationship interested guys you might even mislead them. it basically would rob especially younger guys of their first innocent experiences - you don’t seem to understand bonding rituals at all, or how trust is built. without that stuff the first sex will also not be special for a couple. porn industry destroyed all of that deeper understanding. even having these witch hunter mentalities around in this thread who try to imply falsehood and scheming on the women’s side because they cock manipulate themselves through life.

well yeah and it works - if you are a witch and have a supportive social network. its as if you gain some kind of protective shield. i use an ahimsa at home, and some other stuff and like to burn white sage and do some personal cleaning rituals from time to time, not let negative stuff affect me - although i‘m still into problem solving and confrontation. happy to see you writing again

@Moon if you are interested in the theory mainly, magnetism is only the surface part. but you can also observe a dynamic of response and repel within your social interactions through this. i sometimes rather be not too popular or likable for example than having intense emotional phases with a rough awakening. although evil eye stuff is all this mobbing related shit. wherever is light, must be shadow and it’s not always us who choose. LOA in a sense can sometimes have effects of extreme positivism which can have this bubble effect of denial, the LOA-self-bias. ofc positive thinking is important, although we all are sometimes stuck in negative patterns and ++ while in reality it’s +- is not the same. awareness is best if understanding -+ . evil eye can be like - - within a person but also represent a real social dynamic, i mean if people in a family for example make bad comments to the new wife of the son (sorry i use a purple example because evil eye is in a sense a purple belief) or not even that but always look at her in a mischevious way and she notices and maybe also while she is pregnant (using the example you mentioned) it will def have effects on that woman’s mood and psychological constitution and could even lead to depression, that’s what i mean with mobbing related stuff. ofc in a non purple setting this stuff is much more complicated. in a purple setting the eye symbol though as protective charm may indeed have some kind of moral function and remind people of being nice, polite and kind and supportive, if in a traditional surrounding - so the symbol in some sense must be known to be a real protective charm.

i guess she mainly wanted to show how much time, energy and money women spend to be attractive - not every woman does spend that much money but a lot of women spend a lot of energy in testing different kinds of cosmetic products and methods to do their hair or for fashion to be attractive, a lot of males have high expectations which are not done by natural looks alone. her example is in a sense really representative how guys take all of that for granted. not even the motherhood argument of nine month + health or life risk is enough for some guys in this thread or that we ruin our figure and have to do post natal workout to get into shape again, no of course the guy could stay home after we have done the main work. its actually hilarious if you think about how little some men are willing to do to be attractive, maybe that’s because they feel safe with their money. but wait until women do all of that alone and men earn less money - i know a lot of strong women, mostly friends of my mom, no man could handle because most men don’t like independent women, they use to put out the emancipated flag but if confronted mostly the same old story. that‘s actually why i liked your first response in the thread - don’t let yourself get corrupted, focus on the emotional stuff and figure out the financial stuff together - the same with having children, some people want some don’t, i know some women who don’t want, i know some men who don’t want, i think it’s a personal decision and in no way selfish in both directions, but somehow if it does not fit there it does not fit there, and the own decision then must be consequentialy accepted and not to be pushed as responsibility on the partner - different life plans ofc can be a reason to not stay together. sorry the last part is def infiltrated by my earlier posts. i liked your first response ? that is the main message. and ones life and happiness is a precious re-source, it re sources through giving and taking but certainly not if counted in money because no one could pay back what they owe their mothers.

am i talking to you? or date you?

and you need to stop trying to tell women how the world works. its not about victim playing. in these modern times if i would sit face to face to you in a date i would stop the conversation with you asap because you would just annoy me. #go back to start don’t take 400$

its a general phenomenon and you guys are just showing off your incelhood. everyone who is that clueless does lack experience. (and lacks watching female target group movies) @Kiko if you want to play safe go for the kiss, you can try ofc to close in for sex, if she denies does not mean she is not interested, just means it’s not the right mood yet. don’t ruin it because you want to show off to some guys about how hary your balls are.

@blue orange (it’s not taken yet) girls go for it it sounds tempting. @electroBeam yes and some girls don’t expect men to provide but are in situations where they earn a lot less money and in general its more about sharing your cake or get a woman who is not interested in sharing hers and you don’t need to exploit for it, so you can still feel like there was gender equality.

that’s actually blue orange thinking. we also have orphanages and not enough daycare and better or worse daycare and well, all of that is for free. so we just give the children to someone else and pay them to love them more than we do, if we can make enough money so to say. ??‍♀️ if not lucky if the grandparents are close by. and hopefully get our jobs back after with luck the second one. please guys do a reality check from time to time.

well yes maybe - i‘m not saying there is, but some guys loose interest if they get to the honey pot too fast. if people are into each other they‘ll probably meet in bed or on the floor or in the forest, wherever, maybe for the first date. its not to make me special its actually to check out the other persons ambitions. actually it’s making the guy special if he is rather interested in me than only going for my panties. a lot of girls value romance before sex. of course closing in is at least a sign - the funny part is, if you‘d watch that video @Moon posted from a female perspective it would be actually not that funny anymore, because it would be true.

i‘d say it depends mainly on the society you live in - if your society makes it harder for women or expects from women to stay home, its much more difficult for women to earn her own money and be independent within a relationship - if you from the privileged gender does not want to provide financially for the woman you love who struggles maybe with external circumstances, the only way you can change the situation is to support her in her attempt to be independent, that’s at least what women have done for males over centuries. a relationship does not constitute of two parallel lifetimes it constitutes of lifelines with karmic entanglements. emancipation does not mean only the women have to emancipate and men go on being disconnected from their social environment. there is one question about the money part guys could answer to themselves: do i care with what she earns her money, or would i accept someone who does sex labour as an equal partner who at least earns maybe even more money than i do? no, most men have expectations towards the women they have a relationship to, some even make women the sole provider. i still wait for the day i don’t feel like men see relationships only as a transaction with themselves in the loosing roll, because my life ultimately is for free. the donor was my mom.

in a lot of cases it’s still, that if people live together the male (or in a gay relationship maybe one before the other) profits from where the female puts her attention into, in a lot of cases it’s getting easier for males, or they profit in another way from woman’s way to put time and energy into the living environment, more or less this gets into a dynamic where „of course“ it’s not expected but somehow also taken for granted in sense of the dynamic which unfolds - in the beginning this might not weigh to much, it starts with moving in together, and one part in the relationship taking a supporting roll maybe playing the psychologue if sth at work is not ok caring for several stuff the other partner would not care about but profits of and certainly has its peak in: „yeah but my job is more time consuming“.

you are talking about your last relationship? still hurting?

a lot of women who want a relationship don’t close after the first date as a rule! if people are already kissing and touching and stuff you don’t need an excuse to go over to your place you can just ask if she wants to come over. how many of the girls you brought home to your place telling them sth about your fish collection did you date in a relationship? there are different rules for longterm than for one night. i mean ofc you can ask someone in a funny tone if she wants to see your fish collection - might work. or it’s a nice goodbye phrase for the evening.

hahaha as if women would fall for the coffee question... it‘s actually better to say you have forgotten to close your windows and heard it should rain or you need to fetch a jacket for a sec or sth like that than telling her you want to show your stamp collection.

recently leo talked about his porn collection. i thought maybe some people wanted to share theirs - or maybe share some nice pics of themselves, if they like others jerking off to their bodies. i thought we could change actualized.org in a real high quality porn platform and solve all of leos financial problems. what do you guys think? i actually only wanted to moderate that - i just leave that here for you and better don’t look into it again because i don’t know if i want to see it, but feel free to share whatever you want to share. warning: this might be disturbing for some people - especially for females who try to maintain a form of self-love and acceptance, but also for men trying to stay away from toxic sexuality. if you are in the middle of heart opening don’t look further. if you are going through a no fap, this will probably destroy all you have been working for. if you are sick of instagram and facebook, welcome, there will be no place to hide and rest anymore, because here is worse. i actually also don’t know why i‘m even sharing this here, i guess i try to make some money with porn and am in conflict with how i do marketing with myself.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance i suppose somehow this might be the underlying problematic. its usually a problem solving problematic. you solve problems while you don’t really solve them. at least if what nahm says is the case. you have to leave the comfort zone! i notice this also as the reason why procrastination usually is not satisfying. the real problem might be somewhere else. maybe the game can be some kind of training but what is your real problem solving toolbox?