Canadian

Hi everyone I'm a teenager from Canada. (16) , I really struggle in relationships, especially in intimate relationships. I amn't looking for a gf, I'm just looking girls to have sex, that's it.(no feelings ) When I see a girl and who is very hot and who is totally open, I get scared... I know that emotional intelligence is very important in this kind of relationships, but somehow I still don't have it. when I see a girl who is totally open and when I feel that she is down to get fucked on the first date, I'm getting confused and I have a feeling that she is too ''hard'' for me, I feel fear while talking to her. I feel like I amn't as good as she is and I really can't tell you why I am SCARED. I feel fear of the hot girls who are looking for the same kind of relationships as me.. what can you advise me? how to go and seduce girls like that? I feel so nervous and scared that I don't believe I will ever seduce a girl like that. Despite the fact that I know they also want sex, I feel like I can't be as 'asshole' as other guys who fuck these girls ... I do meditation and I always try my best to love myself, I always try to be grounded , but somehow it still doesn't work... please help ...

Thanks, unfortunately I amn't ready enough and I'm still trying get it.... unsuccessfully so far... It's so weird.... I know I don't need it, It isn't gonna help me in my self-actualizaton, it wont make me happy, but still, I keep trying the same thing...

@Menno Exactly, that's my problem, I just don't like their beautiful bodies, I NEED them.... Thinking about them changes my mind all the time and it's still difficult for me to understand that I don't need anything to be happy. Somehow I don't want to change this goal, (getting sex from as many girls as possible,) that's why I want to get sex, have fun and then it will be easier for me to realize that I don' really need sex to be happy. I want to prove myself that I can get sex and it doesn't have anything to do with happiness..

I know what you are trying to do and I'm thankful for it. I understand why are you writing it. but the point is that our minds are tricky. I know that even if I get sex it won't make me happy! I'm sure about it, it will be fun in the beginning, but it wont make me happy. Despite this, I have this goal to get sex from many girls, so I DON'T want to change it. (I know that it does nothing good to my self-actualization, but still, somehow I don't want to change this goal.) This is why I don't want to give up and get sex. If I give up, I'll stay without sex, It isn't a big problem, I know, but the biggest problem is that I won't achieve what I wanted... It will affect on my mind. Hope you understand what I mean... It's kinda tricky ... Thanks for your help...

exactly, at this stage of my life, I 'm trying to know how to get sex from the girls like them, Relationships? I'll think about it later in my life, but at this age I really don't think I need complicated and serious relationships. Just sex, that's it.... Just their nice looking bodies...

@popi Hi Really appreciate your help but I think the problem is here in my deep subconscious mind... somehow deep deep down in myself I don't think I can seduce them.... I mean girls who go to nightclubs very often, wear short dresses and look so attractive for me, despite this, I know that they love very 'bad' guys and I amn't one of them... that's why I have a feeling I can't get sex from them... and that's why I'm asking for help...

@popi why should I drop my standards? I don't think it's a thing which can't be achieved without dropping standarts... I think I need little help how to get it ... there are many guys at my age who fuck girls like them... (Totally open girls) So, why not me?

I won't judge anyone either, but for me, It's not a person I'm looking for... I prefer naturally female

@Leo Gura hi Leo, I will be thankful if you upload one more video about Dating&Relationships for the teenagers... (I'm 16 and really need help )

Hi everyone I'm a high school student who has no car( ) and I live with my parents, that's why I can't find a place for having sex. I know it's a private question for everyone, but every time I start thinking about sex I have a question in my mind :'If she's down for sex, where Can I take her?' I can get sex if I knew some places for it. I know it's partly funny question but it will be really helpful for me if you give me any ideas. Thank you in advance.

@Allinthemind that's a good option , but I'd prefer another one... I can get sex, I can feel it, that's why I'm looking for a place...

@popi I'm gonna find a place , thanks

@popi yeah, I'm gonna get a car in 6 months so few choices thank you

Today I had an accident at school. My friends and me were playing soccer when I saw a boy insulting a girl who is also my friend. I went to their place and I found out that this guy was insulting a girl for no reason. (Just because she went to their place to see one of his friends.) As I said, this girl is my friend and I tried to explain to this guy that insulting is not a good and he could explain anything in a polite way. He didn't even listen to me. He was like :''Ok, I understand, now please, I'm telling you in the polite way, get the fuck out.'' I was going to start a fight but we were on a soccer stadium and there were so many people there. I just left with my friends and now I'm thinking what to do. that guy isn't normal, he is always high, he smokes almost every day. Also, he uploaded a picture of his penis of Instagram. I know that is seems like crazy, and it is , but it is truth. I'm writing it here to explain you what kind of person he is. I still don't like that I didn't punch him, I always think about it now. I got it as a failure. Now I feel like I amn't a man anymore, and this forces me to make a step back in my self-actualizing because I feel like I'm nothing. I'm thinking about punching him anymore. What can you advice me? How can I handle with this feelings which cause so many negative thoughts? In what do you think a way-out? I'm 17 years old. P.C. Hope you help me ,Thank you everyone in advance

@Kenya you are right, there is something in my mind which makes me believe that it's better not to share it to anyone. I can change it... @Andre I know, sharing is so good, but still... it's horrible to share it to someone who is jealous. @charlie2dogs charlie that's a very interesting point, sometimes we think that a person isn't jealous to us but he is... he isn't happy because of our success. That's why I wrote :''unless he is a family member or a close friend.' My question is it good to share success with all of your friends? not only some of them. I want to share it to everybody because of my ego, I know that it's better to fix it. I'm working on it. evil eye-That's exactly what I meant in this topic, I just didn't know how to express it in English. So, having a belief of 'evil eye'- that one of my basic problem.I'll try to fix it... @Zane So it's completely OK for you to share your success to someone, right?

turning 17 in a month...

It isn't about how long you live, it's about how you live...

Hi everyone What are the best foods to buy in supermarket which do not need to be cooked? I come home too late so sometimes I don't have time to cook, (it takes me about 45 minutes and its too much for me.) So, do you have any alternative ways? Can I buy something in supermarket which is healthy and which is not a junk food? what are these kind of products? P.S. I'm doing fitness...

@Neill @Epiphany_Inspired Thank you

you're right, I'll stop saying good/bad/positive/negative about anything. Let's see if it helps..

@MartineF yes! It does make sense my friend. So basically we are on the same point, you admit that there are positive and negative thoughts, but you think it's better to call them thoughs which make us feel uncomfortable or good. The main point is that It's better not to use positive or negative on anything, even on thoughts. These 2 words, positive and negative limit our opportunities. Did I understand it well?

@charlie2dogs Music was a really good way today, I took control on myself, Thanks for your advice. @MartineF I'll definitely meditate about this topic this evening. It's also a very good advice, thanks for that Answer of PS : In real life, there are no positive or negative things, I got it, But thoughts can be negative and positive , it maybe limits me, I don't know, but what I know is that thoughts really exist both positive and negative. That's why I wanted to stop worrying about yesterday's accident...

@charlie2dogs I know that thinking about it destroys my mind by creating so many negative thoughts. So, do you recommend me using some mp3 to stop worrying about it? cause when something like it happens to you, you automatically stop positive thinking and start negative thinking which is a regress for self-actualization. That's why I have a feeling like my psychological trip is regressing...

@JevinR I just saw it Thanks ...

I don't know what to tell you. I have fights since my early childhood all I can say is to stand your ground man. Just start a fight if you think there is a neediness of it in the situation. don't be pussy, you're a man. it isn't about who fights better ,it's about being a man.