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I wouldn't go for that. Too much gray area in terms of law and responsibility that can backfire. I would stick to emphasizing the general principles of the process.

Made me feel loved: All the funny stuff and activities we did together as a family My mom telling me she loves me and often singing me to sleep In the summers at out cottage, my dad waking me up early in the morning to pull up the fishing nets (just the two of us) Getting Christmas gifts. I loved toys as a little kid. Later I started loving video games. I genuinely loved games, but also they helped me to cope through periods when things at home didn't go so well. My mom buying me games I told I'd love to have made me feel loved My oldest sister caring for me and my younger sister when it was tough at home My foster mom reading me bed stories and petting my head till I fell asleep Spending time in nature, taking care of the farm and the animals with my foster mom My foster mom constantly telling me how proud of me she is. I could see it in her eyes how much she meant it. Also all the unconditional emotional support I got from her and the wisdom she shared with me. Even at her deathbed she kept encouraging me Made me feel unloved: All the instability at home, all the fighting and arguments between my parents that were occasionally directed to me too. Also all the ignorance that was connected to that My family not being particularly interested in my dreams and not really supporting my eagerness to thrive, or appreciating my results (especially in sports and school) Now that I can introspect and understand my childhood, even though I used to have resentment towards my family, I really can't hold stuff against them, especially my mother. Considering all the struggle she went through herself. She did great, and couldn't have done any better. Damn this brought up emotions. Have had to take distance from my family for years now and my dear foster mom died from cancer little over a year ago. Miss her a lot.

A solid idea, to have a place for more relaxed socialisation with like-minded people, who are already into personal development and spirituality. I actually love the idea. But I don't know, shit talking and hardcore spirituality in the same forum, that's quite a contrast. Would it attract more new members who come here to just talk shit? Would it lead to more misinterpretation and confusion on the more serious sections? I guess it boils down to what sort of forum is this place to be, how hardcore of a place should this be? Is this place focused more towards socialisation or improvement. Can't have it all. Or could adding socialisation here lead to better personal improvement? Simple idea, but quite a big structural change in my opinion. However, seems like this forum could use some refreshment or change. Would be interesting to see how it turns to go.

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Start looking for some delicious sounding nutritious recipes and try them out. Tons of sources on the internet. Find some that sound nice and try them out. If you like it, you can add it to your library. After the first one you keep looking for another meal. Keep going with that process and soon you'll have plenty of great vegan meals to choose from to build your weekly meal plans.

I ate a meal just like 30 minutes ago that's from the guy that @Michael569 recommended above. It was amazing and took less than an hour to make. It starts at 15:45 if you want to give it a try.

Stuff some of them seem to be longing for, for example stuff you just listed. Sure they matter to some, but it doesn't mean it's what they yearn for the most.

On the surface, anything. Fundamentally, Love. If the fundamental need is fulfilled, it will wave over all the surface shit.

Yeah, hire a PT, or do your own research into the subject. There are tons of material. A friendly warning: If you don't have motivation to do your own research and start creating your own routine, then you probably don't have motivation to stick to aroutine that would get you the result you desire. In that case you are going to need that PT to regularly kick your ass. You need some David Goggins to get you into that beast mode

I've had few cars. My previous one was 7000 euro Skoda. In paper it was a great deal, but I ended up wasting over 2k in repairing expenses over 1 year of using it... My ex boss used to have a couple of years old fancy Mercedes that kept having issues. So many times he called me to pick him up because his car was broken. Last summer I decided to turn some material into cash for my business, so I sold the Skoda and bought an -97 Audi A4 from auction for 800 euros, and that car has been the most reliable one that I've had with low fuel consumption and low taxes. I'm loving it and gonna drive it to the grave. If you want to save money with cars, then it's important to know a little bit about car mechanics and repair costs, so that you can hustle in used car market and spot the ones that has relatively best repair history. That will save you so much money in the long run if you are a regular car user. A car dealer can sell you a shiny 20k car that you will end up fixing for 5k in the next couple of years, if you don't know what to look for.

Been there too. You have awakened to the shallowness of gym rat life, good. But next you need to overcome that concept. Gym rat shit is probably something you're just used to, but that doesn't mean it has to be that. Gym can be about whatever you want it be. There are people there who have diverse and different motives but you can't see that cause you are used to look through only one lens. Crucial is to be clear about your motives. Why are you doing it specifically? If it's health, then you come up with a strong conclusion that you want to go to the gym because you want to remain healthy, and that should motivate you if you want it enough. By contemplating that, you might also find out a sneaky lurking motive, that has something to do with the old life and your old motives that you want to get rid of.

In tomorrow news: Curt: WOW! Leo Gura just smacked the shit out of me. Leo: Keep my name out of your fucking jokes!

Great one! That mental bandwidth stuff at 10min mark is really the key to diving into flow whatever you do.

From what I've learned through my own life and studying others, I've come to a conclusion that the greatest gratification in life comes through suffering. When you're in the deepest end, it's obviously hard to see. If you can't let go of the suffering, try letting go the need to feel positive. If you can't let go of that need, try letting go in just general. Drop it all and be in the present moment for a while and see how that feels like. Contemplate the suffering. Think about it. Where is it? How does it feel? What does it mean to you? Maybe you can realise something of its nature that will change the way you deal with it or how it affects you.

My friend had acne worse than yours. He stopped eating wheat and his skin came almost 100% normal. I’ve also heard cases of dairy causing acne. I personally have no such problems with my skin but I notice random pimples arising when I have periods of less healthy diet. Diet should be the first thing to rule out.

Humankind by Rutger Bregman. Through clear examples and research in this book Rutger reveals the goodness in people's hearts, including (and especially) of those who are there with the guns. That book will shine light to the darkness for sure.

In most alcohol included social situations there unfortunately isn't much room for expressing any anti-alcohol attitude. So better just crack some jokes or use some good sarcasm suitable for the situation. Just keep it cool and stay social. People usually don't REALLY want to know your reasons. They will usually give a laugh and ignore the fact that you're not drinking, IF you can make fun of it and show them that you're enjoying your time. Maybe something like ''I'm fucked up enough while sober'' with an honest smile on your face, or if you want to make it flirty; ''You don't want to see me drunk'' (with proper body language)...

There is something to those thoughts that pop into my mind when I'm thinking about whether I could accept or not. By genuinely contemplating those thoughts I can't really come up with an honest argument for not being able to. I figure out that those thoughts are self-made, like a house or cards. I can blow it down or imagine it's real and unbreakable. When I decide to let the house stand, I'm aware of the fact that I'm causing myself suffering. But it doesn't have to be that way, I can also break the house down and see what it's really worth. I'm aware that I sometimes tend to enjoy getting myself emerged into the illusion of the house, but there's nothing fundamentally wrong or bad with that either. It's just part of the game I'm playing here. A thought scan as feedback to your pointing practise. Hope it makes sense

Hello and welcome to the forum! No worries there, you're still young and have enough time to create the life you want. The most important thing is that you're motivated to do that. I wouldn't worry about describing personal development to people, because most of that stuff is held within your intuition and intuition can be hard to express via words. 1) People have different opinions and perspectives, but IMO one of the most important cornerstones for personal development is understanding practical developmental psychology. Spiral Dynamics is a great model and Leo has a series on that. It gives you context on what is going on with your life and helps you understand the world around you. In case you are already familiar with it, I suggest refreshing your mind on that from time to time. 2) You should focus on the basic social skills you're lacking. No amount of self-inquiry will solve that for you. You will need those skills in the future and when you really roll up your sleeves and start working on them, you get to see improvements pretty quickly. First move could be pushing yourself into social situations. It is out of your comfort zone, but that's where you really want to go. That way you really become better. 3) Leo's products. His book list has a huge amount of quality books with great practises from many different categories. Those books there about basic psychology are really top notch and I myself used them to improve many aspects of my life such as confidence, self-esteem, overall attitude towards life and other social skills. He also have the life purpose course that help you find direction in life. 4) This forum. Don't know if you've been passively active already, but this forum is a quality source of personal development material and also like-minded people you can socialise with. 5) Oh yeah, and diet! I'm myself becoming more and more conscious on the importance of what I put into my body. Many people don't appreciate it, but your diet really is by big part responsible for your energy and ability to focus. If you're into spirituality as well, it's smart to keep some practices in place, but I wouldn't focus too seriously on spirituality at this point. Meditation is a great practise to have and some contemplation and self-inquiry for sure, but try to put your main attention into developing basic skills and becoming a functional human being. Hope that gave some ideas for the future. Anyways you're on the right track

Simple and powerful!

@Alex bAlex To me it sounds like you take your spiritual life and ''ordinary'' life as two completely separate things, and maybe you feel you can't have them both at the same time. If you live with your spirit, today's world most likely forces you to also involve some Stage Orange stuff matters into in. I think it's also a part of development of some sort, because that happened to me and ultimately it changed my life big time. When I got into personal development and some spirituality, I really wanted to leave all the toxic Orange shit behind and hold onto my new ''more spiritual'' identity. FORTUNATELY I couldn't afford a hippie bus to start living life in a free world as a free soul, so I had to focus on working and making money. After some suffering and trial and error I learned to live more of a hybrid life, to forget identities and focus finding out what works, enriching both sides with each other. I slowly started moving towards the middle ground, and I still do constant adjustment with that. Since then life's been so much better with so many possibilities open. My point is that I think there is a phase of integration that life forces on some people on a certain path, and you might be in the middle of that process. There is plenty of beautiful things for you in life and they will reveal themselves when the time is right.

Whether you drink alcohol or not is up to you, but it's good to understand what alcohol actually does. It makes your brain release more dopamine and it basically ''paralyses'' the part of your brain responsible for reasoning. That's why you feel so good and authentic. Putting those positive ends on a scale with the means among all the other negative health effects, I wouldn't replace my faucets with beer taps just yet.

I agree, but that's something to really work on, because no teacher will sound 100% sane and reasonable to you after certain point. There will always be disagreements and big differences in perspective. If you want to benefit from the teacher, you need to develop filters and flexibility of mind. Maybe consider giving him the benefit of doubt. Keep possibilities open. Maybe he's fucked up, or maybe there is something in his speech that you don't quite get yet, or maybe whatever. There is no need to be certain about everything right off the bat. You can put stuff on hold, and keep living your life.

Just take the portion of his teachings that you find most useful and resonate with. Ignore the rest.

You could try starting from your diet, contemplating about it, why you've given in. Because it's obvious that your meditation might not be so ''clear'' when you put garbage in your body. Although your diet and your meditation habit for example might go hand in hand, whereas it would be wise to contemplate whether there is an external (or internal) change or turbulence in your life, that is causing the backlash. You're probably not quite sure about your motives around motivation and what the practice really means to you. That process of slipping off and getting back again and again and again will enhance your relationship with it and make it clearer to you what place it has in your life. That way the causes behind changes in life circumstances and habits for example - such as meditation - become clearer and easier to understand. In a way your situation is a good thing, because it clearly tells you something. You just have to observe it, listen to it, understand it, embrace it.