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Start looking for some delicious sounding nutritious recipes and try them out. Tons of sources on the internet. Find some that sound nice and try them out. If you like it, you can add it to your library. After the first one you keep looking for another meal. Keep going with that process and soon you'll have plenty of great vegan meals to choose from to build your weekly meal plans.

I ate a meal just like 30 minutes ago that's from the guy that @Michael569 recommended above. It was amazing and took less than an hour to make. It starts at 15:45 if you want to give it a try.

Stuff some of them seem to be longing for, for example stuff you just listed. Sure they matter to some, but it doesn't mean it's what they yearn for the most.

On the surface, anything. Fundamentally, Love. If the fundamental need is fulfilled, it will wave over all the surface shit.

Yeah, hire a PT, or do your own research into the subject. There are tons of material. A friendly warning: If you don't have motivation to do your own research and start creating your own routine, then you probably don't have motivation to stick to aroutine that would get you the result you desire. In that case you are going to need that PT to regularly kick your ass. You need some David Goggins to get you into that beast mode

I've had few cars. My previous one was 7000 euro Skoda. In paper it was a great deal, but I ended up wasting over 2k in repairing expenses over 1 year of using it... My ex boss used to have a couple of years old fancy Mercedes that kept having issues. So many times he called me to pick him up because his car was broken. Last summer I decided to turn some material into cash for my business, so I sold the Skoda and bought an -97 Audi A4 from auction for 800 euros, and that car has been the most reliable one that I've had with low fuel consumption and low taxes. I'm loving it and gonna drive it to the grave. If you want to save money with cars, then it's important to know a little bit about car mechanics and repair costs, so that you can hustle in used car market and spot the ones that has relatively best repair history. That will save you so much money in the long run if you are a regular car user. A car dealer can sell you a shiny 20k car that you will end up fixing for 5k in the next couple of years, if you don't know what to look for.

Been there too. You have awakened to the shallowness of gym rat life, good. But next you need to overcome that concept. Gym rat shit is probably something you're just used to, but that doesn't mean it has to be that. Gym can be about whatever you want it be. There are people there who have diverse and different motives but you can't see that cause you are used to look through only one lens. Crucial is to be clear about your motives. Why are you doing it specifically? If it's health, then you come up with a strong conclusion that you want to go to the gym because you want to remain healthy, and that should motivate you if you want it enough. By contemplating that, you might also find out a sneaky lurking motive, that has something to do with the old life and your old motives that you want to get rid of.

In tomorrow news: Curt: WOW! Leo Gura just smacked the shit out of me. Leo: Keep my name out of your fucking jokes!

Great one! That mental bandwidth stuff at 10min mark is really the key to diving into flow whatever you do.

From what I've learned through my own life and studying others, I've come to a conclusion that the greatest gratification in life comes through suffering. When you're in the deepest end, it's obviously hard to see. If you can't let go of the suffering, try letting go the need to feel positive. If you can't let go of that need, try letting go in just general. Drop it all and be in the present moment for a while and see how that feels like. Contemplate the suffering. Think about it. Where is it? How does it feel? What does it mean to you? Maybe you can realise something of its nature that will change the way you deal with it or how it affects you.

My friend had acne worse than yours. He stopped eating wheat and his skin came almost 100% normal. I’ve also heard cases of dairy causing acne. I personally have no such problems with my skin but I notice random pimples arising when I have periods of less healthy diet. Diet should be the first thing to rule out.

Humankind by Rutger Bregman. Through clear examples and research in this book Rutger reveals the goodness in people's hearts, including (and especially) of those who are there with the guns. That book will shine light to the darkness for sure.

In most alcohol included social situations there unfortunately isn't much room for expressing any anti-alcohol attitude. So better just crack some jokes or use some good sarcasm suitable for the situation. Just keep it cool and stay social. People usually don't REALLY want to know your reasons. They will usually give a laugh and ignore the fact that you're not drinking, IF you can make fun of it and show them that you're enjoying your time. Maybe something like ''I'm fucked up enough while sober'' with an honest smile on your face, or if you want to make it flirty; ''You don't want to see me drunk'' (with proper body language)...

There is something to those thoughts that pop into my mind when I'm thinking about whether I could accept or not. By genuinely contemplating those thoughts I can't really come up with an honest argument for not being able to. I figure out that those thoughts are self-made, like a house or cards. I can blow it down or imagine it's real and unbreakable. When I decide to let the house stand, I'm aware of the fact that I'm causing myself suffering. But it doesn't have to be that way, I can also break the house down and see what it's really worth. I'm aware that I sometimes tend to enjoy getting myself emerged into the illusion of the house, but there's nothing fundamentally wrong or bad with that either. It's just part of the game I'm playing here. A thought scan as feedback to your pointing practise. Hope it makes sense

Hello and welcome to the forum! No worries there, you're still young and have enough time to create the life you want. The most important thing is that you're motivated to do that. I wouldn't worry about describing personal development to people, because most of that stuff is held within your intuition and intuition can be hard to express via words. 1) People have different opinions and perspectives, but IMO one of the most important cornerstones for personal development is understanding practical developmental psychology. Spiral Dynamics is a great model and Leo has a series on that. It gives you context on what is going on with your life and helps you understand the world around you. In case you are already familiar with it, I suggest refreshing your mind on that from time to time. 2) You should focus on the basic social skills you're lacking. No amount of self-inquiry will solve that for you. You will need those skills in the future and when you really roll up your sleeves and start working on them, you get to see improvements pretty quickly. First move could be pushing yourself into social situations. It is out of your comfort zone, but that's where you really want to go. That way you really become better. 3) Leo's products. His book list has a huge amount of quality books with great practises from many different categories. Those books there about basic psychology are really top notch and I myself used them to improve many aspects of my life such as confidence, self-esteem, overall attitude towards life and other social skills. He also have the life purpose course that help you find direction in life. 4) This forum. Don't know if you've been passively active already, but this forum is a quality source of personal development material and also like-minded people you can socialise with. 5) Oh yeah, and diet! I'm myself becoming more and more conscious on the importance of what I put into my body. Many people don't appreciate it, but your diet really is by big part responsible for your energy and ability to focus. If you're into spirituality as well, it's smart to keep some practices in place, but I wouldn't focus too seriously on spirituality at this point. Meditation is a great practise to have and some contemplation and self-inquiry for sure, but try to put your main attention into developing basic skills and becoming a functional human being. Hope that gave some ideas for the future. Anyways you're on the right track

Simple and powerful!

@Alex bAlex To me it sounds like you take your spiritual life and ''ordinary'' life as two completely separate things, and maybe you feel you can't have them both at the same time. If you live with your spirit, today's world most likely forces you to also involve some Stage Orange stuff matters into in. I think it's also a part of development of some sort, because that happened to me and ultimately it changed my life big time. When I got into personal development and some spirituality, I really wanted to leave all the toxic Orange shit behind and hold onto my new ''more spiritual'' identity. FORTUNATELY I couldn't afford a hippie bus to start living life in a free world as a free soul, so I had to focus on working and making money. After some suffering and trial and error I learned to live more of a hybrid life, to forget identities and focus finding out what works, enriching both sides with each other. I slowly started moving towards the middle ground, and I still do constant adjustment with that. Since then life's been so much better with so many possibilities open. My point is that I think there is a phase of integration that life forces on some people on a certain path, and you might be in the middle of that process. There is plenty of beautiful things for you in life and they will reveal themselves when the time is right.

Whether you drink alcohol or not is up to you, but it's good to understand what alcohol actually does. It makes your brain release more dopamine and it basically ''paralyses'' the part of your brain responsible for reasoning. That's why you feel so good and authentic. Putting those positive ends on a scale with the means among all the other negative health effects, I wouldn't replace my faucets with beer taps just yet.

I agree, but that's something to really work on, because no teacher will sound 100% sane and reasonable to you after certain point. There will always be disagreements and big differences in perspective. If you want to benefit from the teacher, you need to develop filters and flexibility of mind. Maybe consider giving him the benefit of doubt. Keep possibilities open. Maybe he's fucked up, or maybe there is something in his speech that you don't quite get yet, or maybe whatever. There is no need to be certain about everything right off the bat. You can put stuff on hold, and keep living your life.

Just take the portion of his teachings that you find most useful and resonate with. Ignore the rest.

You could try starting from your diet, contemplating about it, why you've given in. Because it's obvious that your meditation might not be so ''clear'' when you put garbage in your body. Although your diet and your meditation habit for example might go hand in hand, whereas it would be wise to contemplate whether there is an external (or internal) change or turbulence in your life, that is causing the backlash. You're probably not quite sure about your motives around motivation and what the practice really means to you. That process of slipping off and getting back again and again and again will enhance your relationship with it and make it clearer to you what place it has in your life. That way the causes behind changes in life circumstances and habits for example - such as meditation - become clearer and easier to understand. In a way your situation is a good thing, because it clearly tells you something. You just have to observe it, listen to it, understand it, embrace it.

No matter whether you keep teaching or retire and become a monk, u'll have my support The least I can do to express my gratitude. Stuff you talk about in your lates blog post sound amazing thou!

When you talk about work I assume you mean personal development, because that's what Actualized.org is about. It's not only philosphy or spirituality, but also very practical and ''normal'' stuff that every person who want's to live good life can learn and apply into his basic everyday life. Forget the deep topics for now if they don't feel authentic and you can't apply them into your life any good way. At that age you have lots of basic survival challenges ahead and that's where your main focuse should be. Enjoy and LIVE life and see where it takes you. The same wisdom that brought you here will move you to right direction.

How I see it is that it's pretty much a combination of 3 factors: personality, personal values and the social aspect. Those factors determine the thing/(s) you are authentically good at, you want, and that are suitable for you, mostly in terms of paying the bills. They affect seperately, but also affect each other, for example your personality might require you to lean more towards your values, or the social aspect. Whether you call it a career, life purpose or both, is up to you. You can have projects or a day job that isn't your life purpose, while you're slowly and carefully building your life purpose elsewhere. You can also make the projects or the job part of your life purpose by noting how they are contributing to it. Even working at a McDonald's can be a big part for someone starting or living their purpose. Even with a little hunch of your true calling, you can start building your life around that purpose and magically start seeing the ''irrelevant'' parts of your life more relevant. That's why it's important to be aware of your personal values. That's very likely to happen, but also very desirable. If you keep living consciously and developing yourself, that means your values will also change/evolve through the process, which will move you to another (or the next) thing. And if you are living consciously, that propably means that your next life purpose will add up to the previous one, and the new (the more authentic one) wouldn't have revealed itself, if it wasn't for the previous one. I used to fear that too, only to realize that there is nothing to fear about that. Only excitement and thrill that rise from unknowing. As long as your honoring your values, you can't really go wrong. So if you have some career or life purpose ideas in your mind and your feeling fear or nervousness, maybe contemplate how much that idea is aligned with your values. If you can't figure that out, then it's maybe time to take a deeper look at your core values.