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You've probably gone on with the issue already, but I'll leave a reply anyway because the topic is personal and I've kinda gone through that. Considering how low job satisfaction can affect your life quality in general and through that even to your possibilities to maintain a secure job, I would almost always advice towards an option that has potential to increase your job satisfaction - especially if your situation is crucial. Even if you have a family, it might be worth a shot, as low satisfaction can greatly impact you in how you relate to your family as well. Although I don't know if startup is the best solution for you as it can lead to similar negative outcomes, such as burnout and also financial crisis, or if you have a family that depends on your income. It also requires tons of time, which can lead to burnout, although the propensity for that is vastly reduced if you really like what you're doing. Even if the startup fails, it can take you to new interesting places workwise and lifewise, which you've never even thought of, and so can be taken as an adventure. It gives you valuable experience and possibility to learn more about life and yourself. It all depends on your personal preferences and personality. Maybe finding another job could brighten your work life, as you clearly have a speciality you like and could put in use.

I feel you. I've been (and in a way still am) in same kind of situation, where building my life demands detachment from my family, while my sense of morality and responsibility makes me feel bad about it. Even though I can see the situation as it is, it still doesn't stop me feeling sad and shit from time to time. I'm really short on advices here. One way is to do as your psychiatrist told you to and leave. You can focus on doing personal development to increase your ability to understand the situation and accept the emotional suffering that comes with it. For me that decision was a double-edged sword emotion wise, as while I became more understanding, I also became more sensitive to my feelings. Anyway, that has been really transformative and I don't regret it. Another option is to stay until your grandmother passes away and the situation settles. Considering her age, it wouldn't break your life to stay there for few more years. At least you would have less guilt to deal with and cleaner conscience. Also it might give you more energy to know that you've decided to stay for a while longer, knowing that you soon get to live your life with no regret. I know it can be really hard, especially if you are attached and strongly bonded to your family, especially in your situation where there might be no half way option, only all in or all out. Anyway, it will get better eventually, don't let the desperation eat you alive!

The most effective way to cure the loneliness and hopelessness in general is to engage yourself with a purpose or a project. It's like magic. According to my own life and people I've observed, it tends to lead to other great things as well, including relationships. 1) It's not the loneliness that makes you feel inadequate, its the aimlessness. 2) Those instagram updates are only facades. It's not as you imagine it to be in your mind. They also have problems no matter how deeply in love and happy they seem to be. 3) Trust me, having all those relationships in itself doesn't make your friends' lives great. It's not about what you eliminate in your life, but more about what you build. I know it's hard to build a purpose and find direction to stick to, but it's definitely the best way. No relationships will work or last anyway until you get your own inner game together. It's all worth it.

I feel you. I enjoy staying up late but often need to fix my schedule by force. I mainly just make a strict schedule for my next day and wake up early no matter how bad I slept. The first day is usually pretty shit, but the tiredness gets me to sleep earlier that night. Sometimes I'm just too restless to sleep at 10 or 11 PM no matter how little I slept last nigh, so I might power that routine change phase with some melatonin. If you want to optimize your biological wiring for a new sleeping routine, this video from Huberman might come in handy:

That's a great point! For many people their childhood home has a very special place in their heart

Congrats man! I don't know which reference rates your banks are basing their interests on, but for example in Finland you pay so much interest at the moment that many of my friends have decided to rent instead of buying. It doesn't seem to be a good investment at the moment and people tend to prefer putting money monthly into stocks and other investments instead, to be able to invest into housing later, when economy is more stable. Of course there are stuff like interest rate cap you could be able to negotiate to your loan, but I wouldn't count on that. In terms of investment you could also think about the area/(s) in which you are planning to buy. If the area has potential to grow in the future, then it might tip the scale towards buying, as the house will rise in value. Also if you are handy or you have friends or relatives that are, you might consider buying a house in a bit worse condition, so you could slowly renovate it and increase the value in a long run. I would be more concerned about the area; Is it safe, is there possibilities for hobbies, good schools and other important services? The form of living doesn't affect a child per se, unless there are some status indicators at play. For example if there is an area that only has rental houses, then it might be labeled as something like ''the place where the poor people live'', as an exaggerated example. At least in Scandinavia there is this mixing housing policy used where urban areas and housing is being planned in a way to mix people from different social classes and different living forms into same buildings and areas to decrease segregation, so there is very little status difference between owning and renting. In Finland at least, many rich people are starting to rent more, instead of owning, which seems to be losing its place as a status symbol. It's also really handy to be able to move without too much of a hassle, if you feel like it for one reason to another. It all depends on where you live, what values are shared in your living area and social circles, what do you value yourself, what's the housing policy and urban development in the area like, etc.? What are your thoughts on the matter, do you have some specific (for example personal) insecurities around the subject of renting vs owning? Getting a child is huge, as well as buying your first own apartment. If there are no hard reasons, then maybe it wouldn't hurt to first go through the first phases of parenting to see how it feels in terms of housing, and after that make the next possible move to considering buying an own house.

At the end every explanation is made up. Sure. But yeah, the question of what makes someone more conscious than others in the first place is a tough one with plenty of possibliities.

With conscientiousness I refer to the personality trait presented in the Big Five Model. But low-ego people are not born that way, they also have had to work for decades to wash themselves of themselves in the process of life. Don't you think genetics are involved in that process? I agree that luck is HUGE. It's crazy how little it really seems to depends on to make or break a life. People often recall having that one video or that one conversation or that one book that started their journey. Like Ram Dass, used to be hooked to pursuing power and prestige till he luckily stumbled upon LSD. Or some poor drug addict who went out with the boys and ended up trying meth in the heat of the moment. I say he has good genetics in that regard. Yeah, there could be something like reincarnation deeper there beyond science and human comprehension, but from my human perspective, genetics make a very strong argument.

How I see it, is that for example a person with more preferable traits (in relation to labor market), such as high intelligence and conscientiousness is probably more likely to land a job that grants him more money and autonomy to pursue other interests and not born himself out. Although there probably is the tradeoff that such people might be carried away by materialistic desires, so obviously it's not that simple and I can't really say what is the optimal genetic cocktail for what. But It's starting to make sense to me that even the capability to not get hooked into materialist desires is somewhat genetic, while containing many other factors as well. What do you consider to be the determinants in one's capability to live ''normal life'' while also pursuing spiritual goals? According to his videos, he was already into spirituality while recording videos on basic self-help. I also remember him telling a story in which he was cracking jokes about enlightenment in a strip club. If there is any authenticity in his videos and stuff he shares, then he definitely was doing business and hardcore spiritual work at the same time. But what I don't know thou is how developed and conscious he really was back then.

@puporing Exactly. Although, some people can play with those two spheres better than others. It’s really much up to genetics and your level of development which is also higly dependent on your genetics. It’s super rare to be able to do 5-MeO one day and do pickup (or even have a mondaying conversarion with a co-worker at work) the next day. I hate giving so much weight to genetics, as I’ve seen Leo explaning almost every human difference that way and also because I’ve personally used to emphasize more social factors as determinants of human capability. But man, the gene lottory really seems to get an upper hand there.

I think you underestimate how hard it can be to most people to ''just do it and turn off the mind''. Most people are not genetically wired that way, and that fact is illustrated by the trend of hugely increasing ADHD diagnosis in highly demanding and competitive capitalist societies. Also, what I think is a big challenge in your teachings is the amalgamation of spirituality and basic self-help. Yes, a conscious person knows the power of life purpose and it's place in human life, and can build his life according to that realization. But it's not that easy, is it? There is a lot of work to do to get to a point - if seriously exploring reality - where you can sit down for hours and focus on mondaying stuff in day-to-day basis. You could say, that for a conscious person the stuff he does for his life purpose is not mondaying at all, but deeply spiritual and meaningful, but to have that reality, is a result of years of work, which many people here seem to be currently struggling with. I mean, I use that "just sit down and do the work" advice everyday to motivate myself and I tend to give that advice to others as well, especially if they are NOT into spirituality. But here, as your channel is guiding people to construct and deconstruct their lives at the same time (which makes your teachings unique btw), I think the challenges in reconciling those two domains should be more considered in your teaching.

I've heard the criteria for green light on euthanasia is pretty strict and requires a tangible terminal diagnosis from a doctor/(s). Is it really, that such a statement as "no can do, you're a lost cause'' from a psychiatrist is enough?

Thanks! Seems like there's a lot of potential for creative work.

@erik8lrl I'm interested, have you been using the plugin and what are your experiences using it?

Obviously we have our biology and brain chemistry. There are also psychological and social factors that interplay with the process. To some degree, you can change how you relate to situations which cause your emotions, and better, you can change how you view your emotions, especially the negative ones. Contemplating the duality of positive and negative emotion helps with that, as you might come to see that there wouldn't be happiness without sadness (considering we are talking about happiness as a positive human emotion).

Increasing dose might not solve your problem, especially when it comes to mushrooms. They can get weird pretty quick. Remember the deep understanding comes with time, after serious contemplation. It should not be forced.

Of course you wish you could do without medication, as everyone who has a medical condition wishes. For you it seems to be a life quality med, so I wouldn’t worry too much about using it regularly, if it really helps your everyday life. Maybe consider it as an investment for the future, as using it helps you build resources you’re gonna need, including the ones that might eventually replace the meds in some degree.

I agree that to expect one to master all the basic human level areas and still dive deep into the deep end of the spiritual sphere is in itself an overkill. But a bit like @universe already sided, it’s a lot about your own perception. Perfect life doesn’t have to look specific. You make it yourself and you evaluate it by yourself. The skill that becomes central is your capacity to not give a fuck, to not take the metrics for good life from anywhere else but from whithin. It really is hard, but it becomes easier as you become more conscious and learn to make sense of everything - the meaningless and the meaningful aspect of life and your existance. That’s what the process of working on yourself is about. But I understand. It’s messy, hard and frustrating. A really small portion of the work we do on ourselves becomes concretely visible and sometimes it fools us. Hang in there my friend!

Definitely! Although those moments tend to be rare. People are so often occupied with different survival shit that they are totally stuck on their heads and unable to surrender to the moment.

Yeah, it’s amazing how much more enjoyable relationships can be when you can approach them more consciously. But sometimes it’s hard, especially if you are constantly forced to be social e.g. in your job.

Living healthly in the meantime sounds like a good investment for those days.

One interesting thing is that when you look at people who are interested in exploring their true essence and question reality, they have spent some real quiet time with their suffering. Instead of running away from it, they have sat down with it and contemplated the nature of it. The capacity of a person to confront one’s suffering, probably depends on many things; genes, life situation and environment being some to start with.

I guess I'm kind of a hybrid by going through public schooling and playing smackdown vs. raw on a PS

The face of the kid in the front row at 6:49. How the heck is this shit allowed for kids?

It could be. Maybe I was just projecting my own behavior That's what happens when you let your primitive needs run your action. Don't be The Donkey. Be a man and you'll get The Princess, just like Shrek.