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We had a chat about this topic a while back, if you're interested.

The vision might be too high up in the clouds so that the contrast between the vision and your current life is too big. Sounds to me like you are trying to take too big of a bit at once. Make your time horizon longer. Acknowledge the amount of work that is needed and the time it will take. Cut the vision in smaller, more practical goals, which are easier to accomplish, but are still aligned with your values.

You will always do what you find most effective, and what you find most effective is relative to your level of consciousness, and also in that regard, to your understanding of other human beings. Start studying human behavior, and you will soon realize the reason why they act the way they do, and that way find compassion for them, and ofc you will also realize the reasons you act the way you do, which might surprisingly not differ from theirs. Adding spiritual practices to raise your consciousness, you will find out more efficient and authentic ways to act for yourself, and that could include helping others.

Not arguing against that. I just don't find it wise to include that ''truth'' when giving advice on how to lose weight, especially for someone who's been struggling with junk food. It's too easy to misinterpret. But I do agree with the point of eating healthy carbs for performance (when exercising hard and frequently).

That's a good video to start with! It gives you nice frames to start working on your diet. Also, do your own research and keep trying different options and see how your body reacts.

That's the little devil on your shoulder whispering to your ear. That's a a common rule of thumb, but a naive one. You should also not forget the damage you create in the long run by eating shit. Figuratively, every hot dog and cheese burger will add to your toxicity container, and when your container can't take anymore, it will explode and result in different health problems, such as auto-immune diseases, which will cause you even more problems.

Start with making a commitment to stay away from those. Exercise is important, but your diet is the foundation you start building strong habits and practices on. If you want your body to work correctly and play in your favor for you to lose weight, then you need to start paying careful attention to your diet to make it cleaner. Processed food is poison to your body and will basically make your body work against your well-being.

It's personal, so it depends. Mostly being horny constantly of course. But it usually adds other negative emotions to the side. For me it's lack of creativity and focus and I see it affecting my general mood as well. Sometimes I sense stupid kind of worry, which I can already see through. By what I've heard it can be something like anger, fear, restlessness, worry. Whatever your system finds most effective

Of course we do. It's a strong biological need. It can manifest many ways. It can be physical or mental or both. It really much depends on what your preferences are and where you're at with women and your sexuality in general. Some men may want a girl while others are fine with porn. For some going to gym lifting weights might relieve that very same energy/feeling. A strong factor in mainstream Western culture is of course social pressure as well. Some men take responsibility for their own sexuality and find ways to fulfill their needs in healthy ways, while others do not, and end up jerking off to porn for the rest of their lives in bitterness.

YT is not very trustworthy business idea. Of course it can create lots of wealth, but I wouldn't count all on that. Maybe you have a killer idea that is already doing fine and looks promising signs for the future, I don't know. But quitting a decent job without promising and tangible signs would be foolish. It's also good to remember that quitting that job would create financial pressure and stress, that you probably wouldn't want to have when doing artistic work. Your life purpose is not going anywhere, so maybe keep working on your day job while at the same time strengthening your LP idea. By the time you are done with your day job, you have a strong foundation for your LP so that you are ready to kick some serious ass. Anyway, listen to your higher self, while also not denying some crude facts about life and finance, and you will make the right choice for yourself.

The realization to how finite and limited human thinking ability is.

Haha I was like that too. Even today I sometimes tend to get into that kind of states, when I'm in the nature or deeply present. Afterwards I always notice that I was completely emerged into flow state where I had zero mental chatter going on in my brain. It's all the seriousness that we've adopted through societal obligations that prevent us still being like that. Too much stuff to be worried about for the ego. When I was a kid I was fascinated by space. I asked my parents where does space end, and they answered that it ends nowhere, that it's infinite. They didn't deeply understand what that means but I started to contemplate that a lot. Every time I was in bed and couldn't fall asleep. I look at the ceiling and contemplated: ''If space is infinite, what does it really mean..?''. I didn't have to contemplate that for long until something hit me and I had a really strange feeling. The feeling repeated every time I contemplated that matter, and every time the feeling hit me, the ''thought process'' ended. There was like nowhere further to go with thinking. I knew I can't crack that one deeper. Today I have strong clue of why that was the case.

@Andrew John I became more and more aware of what drinking does to me and the reason why I'm doing it, and so I decided to minimize it, as I really realized it doesn't serve me in the long run. There was few crucial points that affected my decision to stop the habit of occasional drinking: 1) I read some literature to understand the damage alcohol does to your body, especially to your dreaming, which has a great part in your mental AND physical well being. 2) I noticed I drink alcohol, because it made some things mentally much easier. Some things that I've noticed I am able to achieve sober as well, but is much harder that way. So for that reason I wanted to get rid of that habit, so I can practice myself achieving those things without any cheat codes that do me mental and physical damage. 3) By becoming more conscious, I also noticed that I didn't really genuinely want some of those things that I thought I want and found alcohol making easier to get. 4) After I started valuing Truth and dedicating my life more towards gaining wisdom about life, I found that alcohol is not contributing into that agenda. It's been a multi-year project to minimize alcohol, because it's a norm in my culture and society. Been forced to hit my head against the wall over and over again to see the nuanced structures I have in my mind to allow myself drinking. That has also helped me to understand people who do drink occasionally and that way can't blame or judge them. I think it's important to understand, that in many cases, it's not just as simple as just quitting. There are lot's of aspects connected to it. Friendships might need to be ended, personal values and life habits re-organized, etc. Even though I know alcohol doesn't serve any positive function in my life, I haven't made any hard commitments to not drink alcohol ever again. I tried that and it only resulted in ego backlashes. I haven't drunk at all for months and don't see any reason to do in the near future, but I might -- in the name of balance -- drink a class of wine or couple of beers some day without any judgment. The first step in quitting alcohol, in my opinion, is to ask yourself: ''Why do I drink and does it really serve me in the long run?'' That of course requires you know what you want out of life. Enough analyzing and story telling... I think you shouldn't be too judgmental about it. The social conditioning creates pressure and in your case it's showing as a worry of other people's opinions and a thought of maybe you're being boring. 8 months is already hell of a long time being fully sober and it shows you already have at least a sense of your values and direction. Bring some understanding into it. Do it once in a while in the necessity of how much drifting from the gravity point you are able to do. You can make a list of different situations that create the urge or ''the need'' to drink, and then contemplate, whether you are ready to make the shift of not going into those situations anymore. If not, keep drinking when you're part of those situations, as you are aware that it's required to keep up the balance. Usually those situations are connected to life-style that promote drinking, and if you keep being part of those life-styles, you will feel social pressure to drink. I once had a romance with a girl who was amazing in many ways, but she promoted really toxic life style, which was against my values, and so I had to make the decision to cut ties with her, as the pressure was too much and I was left with 2 options, whether I go down her way, or I respect my values and get the fuck away from her. I feel you brother, it's same here

I feel you my man. I went through the same stuff when I was younger. Dreamed about moving away for years. Outgrowing your parents developmentally is kinda shit from the perspective you're at right now, but let me tell you, it's also a blessing and you will realize that later. It's important to remember, that they are still legally responsible for you. I think it would be really hard to get them to really understand you, but of course that's possible and you can try that. Otherwise just go through the next 2 years trying to come up with coping mechanisms that give you more flexibility. I didn't have the financial capacities to move out at 16, so that's what I did. It's not wise to go full on rebel against them. Try to overcome this obstacle with understanding. Understand, that they might have different values than you do, and that's why they act the way they do. And also know that your life must be unraveling to other direction, which means that you need to grow apart from them, but you still have 2 years to go through, and that's okay. When I was your age, I knew nothing about development and was just so confused about everything. You're at a position to bring wisdom into how you go about it

I'm really sorry to hear that, must be very hard time for him, and also for you. You've already done tremendously for him by your benevolent support, being there for him and providing trust and understanding. After all, it's his personal battle, so there are limits to how much you can do, and to me it sounds like those limits are met. The situation requires a twist in his inner world. What Roy suggested with trying to find the right kind of therapist, sounds reasonable. Someone professional, who really has interest in understanding him as a whole person and willing to genuinely understand his situation. Being there for him is the key. That way he will have at least one reason to fight for. You have his trust, so you can maybe with your positive, understanding and non-judgmental attitude, gently guide him to be active in life to possibly find more reasons to not give up. Although I think that's what you've been doing all along. I can imagine the responsibility you might feel you have for him and how hard it is to shake that off. But you've already done so much, that you can't blame yourself for anything that might result. Not every sick person has the privilege to have someone who loves and supports them like that. I really feel for you and your brother and I hope the situations gets better.

Go give it a try! Maybe few times and then contemplate whether it's something you like and find useful. I tried it some years ago and liked it, but couldn't keep doing it due to a previous shoulder injury.

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You don't want to count 100% on the plans you have right now. They may change. Only you can say what's necessary for you, but if you have a genuine interest in marketing, I say you should definitely keep that up. You might be thankful for the knowledge later. In overall it's a pretty essential skill in today's society.

Hey man! Looks like you've really had some rough time... But without that suffering you would still be stuck with the cul de sac way of living. This story of yours sound like development to me. Life is clearly forcing a new chapter upon you and sometimes the phase of transition can be bumpy. You've noticed that the old patterns don't work anymore, and the more you keep holding on to them, the worse the suffering gets. I feel you man, I know the feeling of pointlessness, but I also know it's not permanent. Try experimenting with new stuff, try to move yourself towards more genuine relationships, think about all the aspects that's gone south in the past and try to do those a different way, spend time in nature to gain inspiration. That way you can start building your new more authentic values and a new sense of purpose upon those values. Maybe try Leo's life purpose course, if you haven't already. The excitement phase will eventually come, where you feel enthusiastic about your new way of living. Start slowly pushing towards the will of development and change, and you will start seeing a whole new life with new opportunities opening for you. Setbacks are there for a reason, to fine tune your direction.

You can practice love in many ways. Sometimes you need to make a compromise where you sacrifice a little to gain (or create) more. Like in a case where your system has limits with vegan food; playing your role in meat industry by eating meat, so that you can be able to do your conscious work for society, which will increase love in in the long run and so eventually maybe even reduce meat industry in a bigger scale. Of course it's a responsibility of a conscious human being to minimize global unnecessary harm and suffering, but to an extend you're capable in the frames of your limits and balance, like Max_V implied.

Embodying something deeply usually requires direct experience, but you can still choose what you want to embody, and that's where relativism comes into play. So that advice I think assumes you have some sort of goal and end in your mind. So you can do research on what's been efficient on the way there according to history, and also what haven't been. As an example the famous book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is about 7 habits that have been researched to be the best habits to live by, IF accomplishing goals and being efficient in life is what you want. Those wouldn't work of course if you didn't want that life. And of course whatever already researched you learn from someone else, it's not 100% solid, but it's base on odds. You can achieve your goals and be efficient even without applying the 7 habits into your life, and it's even favorable, if you want to let's say come up with even better habits. Or if you wanted to create something totally new, then there wouldn't be much well maintained road for you to use, instead you would have to make your own road through the unknown and you could only learn through direct experience. And it very well depends on the goal, that how much you really need the feeling of making a mistake.

I thought about that too, but I think this simply goes into the category of not being able to suit answers for everybody. I actually think that most of the people benefit from that answers as they are familiar with Leo's style and attitude, which goes along the lines of giving a harsh fact and letting people's curiosity encourage them to seek for the understanding behind those words by themselves. I think it's actually a really small percentage of people reading his advice, who play that follow the leader game, and most of those like to comment and show how obedient students they are. Yes, his answer are usually short and concise and doesn't necessarily help directly, but what's the alternative? Of course he could be more inclusive and emphasize lots of different points and give more abundant answers and guidance, but I don't think he is willing to but in the time himself. And in the long run, for those who parrot him, if they are to develop and able/willing to expand their understanding in the first place, they will eventually learn the limitations of their parroting act and work it out. Leo won't teach them that. I agree with that, but can't really say how it is from the perspective of a person who's supposedly had super human level awakenings and obviously possesses a nice amount of knowledge and wisdom. Maybe it's not about most people understanding. Maybe even 1% understanding is enough, idk. From what I've come to understand through my own experience, some spiritual phenomenon can't be communicated through language, and when I look at some of the questions Leo receives, I see there is no way that can be explained, and sometimes I feel like the questioner already knows that. I mean there is lots of mental masturbation going on on the spirituality section. And what I've noticed, Leo advocates direct experience quite a lot. So again, I think if he can get his message (to go for direct experience) through to 1% of his audience, it's already a triumph. And if the questioner don't get that, then it's time for him to get back to work. Maybe it's just his style, maybe he thinks that his way is the most efficient way, maybe there is frustration involved sometimes, or maybe he really should work on his way of giving advice, idk. But I personally wouldn't know how to make it better. There is definitely style involved, and I must parrot his words with this: If his style doesn't resonate, then you really shouldn't follow his work.

Haha yeah! Take your time. Polish the armor. Train your horse. Eat well. Drink wine. Enjoy women. Rest. You're the warlord, you decide the pace. See you when you're ready!

Yeah tell me about it... Spiritual people are not usually given too much space to advertise themselves even in this highly developed society we tend to be, so they like to stay quietly in the backseats. I'm a youngster too, still in my energetic 20's! Yeah feel free to PM if you feel so! No pressure though. I wish you luck in your dark times. Kick the devil's ass!

I know the feeling man. During the few last years I've hit quite few of those moments too, which have led to backlashes, from which I've realized that the balance was insufficient. It's important to start appreciating the balance and how nuanced and hard development really is. It's possible to get to a point where backlashes are predictable and you can sense the backlash effect creeping in, and instead of reacting with unbearable fear, you can learn to suffer through it with embrace and understanding, while fine-tuning your action of development in the process. I would firstly suggest you to do something familiar, something you enjoy, maybe a sport or something? Or go do something with a friend/(s) you haven't seen for a while? Or hell, go play a round of Call of Duty with a good conscience. Give yourself a break from the usual development action, it's not going anywhere. Anyway, if you want to have a chat about that or any other matter, feel free to PM me. I'm a Finn dude too, so with me you can chat with a comfortable native language