PepperBlossoms

Everything is learning/changing. Could say bugs and rocks aren't super wise relative to humans. Is that okay? Okay for a human but not for the rock/bug? If AI is more wise than us and we are to AI like AI is to a rock, is that okay? Okay for the AI and not for the human? If everything is programming, then you need more complex programming to handle more programming - which involves getting more info/skills/experiences.

In general, you tend to be the wisest version of you that exists. We keep on getting more and more wise because we keep on getting more and more experiences. Same as being "nice". The definition of wise is based on how one compares to others and kinda always will. All definitions are based on the relation to other definitions. Sure others could get faster/slower at getting wise which could make you increase or decrease in wisdom compared to them based on skill and your rate of change compared to theirs. Every moment is an opportunity to learn. We all notice things differently and notice different things. A test may test for ABC and say that if you don't have ABC you are not wise - but yet it is not testing for DEFG which could also represent it too. I guess it also just depends on society's definition of wise of what bullet points it is requiring and ask yourself, does it matter if one meets those bullet points or not.

I guess one thing I failed to mention is sure - a sports coach could revolutionize the sport and change the way it is played. An architect could come up with totally new ways for houses to be built which changes the way future homes could be built. Yes could find ways to revolutionize anything. A car mechanic could revolutionize the way cars are fixed. However - a car designer will be in an easier position to change stuff because it involves redesign whereas a car mechanic may be stuck doing more fixing within the same system that is already there. Some parts of programming is just debugging the code but other parts will be making up new software. Maintenance comes with most things. The debugging could be fun in its own sense. I admire all the thinking that programming requires. It can kinda humble you with how challenging and how much thinking and creativity it requires. Some stuff that is too easy may make the mind not be challenged enough and it may just create its own problems because it doesn't have any - hence people complaining about say politics or their neighbors because they have nothing else to do with their mind.

My brother was teaching me some programming stuff yesterday, Go to w3schools.com. Press the tutorials drop down and it has tons of stuff. He said python is the easiest one to learn so yeah I suggest starting with that one. The cool thing about programming is that you can make something that doesn't exist exist... or at least it could lead to that - lots of other jobs are just allowing the stuff that already exists to continue existing. But I guess also depends on what one is okay with. Like I've been doing Civil Engineering but the problem is - okay sure I can fix roads but they will just have to be fixed again in 20 years and sure I can fix pipes but they will just have to be fixed again in 50 years and sure I can develop infrastructure in a city but that city may be underwater and no longer habitable. How is that any different from then just being a janitor and picking up trash when stuff gets dirty? Or sure I can be a doctor/nurse/sports coach but my patients will just die in 100 years. Sure I can design homes but those homes will get torn down or destroyed by mother nature within 2000 years. It's cool to think of something that will be part of the evolution of life rather than the stagnation of just keeping stuff alive - BUT keeping stuff alive is a pretty significant need too - so either way as you have to keep stuff alive and evolution just happens in a slow way. So yeah if that sounds cool at all - something related to computer science or mechanical engineering that is revolutionizing stuff. Or making movies/being a therapist/teacher that changes the way people think which then changes the way their offspring think which then changes the way their offspring think which then keeps on changing stuff. But sure everything we do regardless of change or not could just get wiped out even if it is 10 million or a trillion years from now or tomorrow or today. There is actively just keeping stuff the same versus actively trying to change what currently exists. But to even change stuff, does it matter? Not really. Could say that keeping stuff the same versus changing stuff - doesn't matter. So whatever you want to do while you exist in the form you exist as... We won't stay as we are now forever.

Also I'm sorry to hear about the exam. There are like 1000s of exams we take and 100s of classes so it is okay even if you fail every once in awhile. Failure is painful but can also be helpful. 30 years from now, that failed test today may not really matter. 1000000 years from now it may not matter either. So it is okay! You identified some good tips for next time!

TBH there is just so many distractions it is so hard to focus.

I think we got an addiction to youtube, the internet, reddit, self help, whatever - and it gets in the way of taking care of other needs like school/work/etc. All the businesses want us to be addicted because they get more money. It was easier to be a student when there was no internet to browse, no weed to smoke, no whatever but one can still opt out of whatever they want.

We keep on eating chocolate even after it is giving us zits and making us fat. Can always give up the chocolate "for lent" like the Catholics do knowing that "lent" is temporary.

It sounds like being in easy mode bothers you. To get out of easy mode, I suggest completely dropping the weed/alcohol/etc. Focus on something that is a challenge. Stop spending time learning and start doing (which yes will require some learning but the intent is to do rather than having the intent just to learn but no doing.) Learning is easy mode. Doing is hard mode. Get off of youtube, off of books, off netflix, off whatever it is you are doing that is enabling you to do easy mode.

I have an obsession with knowledge/learning. How does one let go and break free of this? How does one just accept that they will never know everything and there isn't anything to "know" as nothing can be absolutely verified? I guess one just stops learning. But then what else is there to do all day? Just exist? What about the thoughts in the head that keep on going all day? I have high ideaphoria so they don't stop. There is so much to read, so many videos to watch, so many people to discuss with - but not enough time - time is the worst enemy. There's like 100 things to read and watch and more keep on getting added. It is futile and we will die without the info anyway but yet it will continue through the others who are still alive - but even then all life could die anyway - so why? It is like the dangled carrot of - oh here is another golden nugget (of epiphany/info/new experience) - come and get it.

Wow.

@Zion Thanks. Well said.

I guess this goes along with just letting go of attachment, desires, outcomes, results, obsessions.. all of that - and work on just being okay with everything.

@Zion yeah lol true - like I am asking for more info on how to not go get more info... good point.

Wow. So my therapist introduced the idea to me that telling someone good job or bad job is more hurtful than helpful (even though many of us have found it a common automatic response). It takes away from intrinsic motivation. Examples from my therapist: It is better to tell a child - "I see that you worked for 2 minutes. What would it look like if you worked for 10 more?" Instead of saying that they are lazy. It is better to tell a child - "Wow. Why did you select purple?" or "Wow. Where did you get the idea for that?" instead of saying good job. I found an article on it here: https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/ The same could relate to how you talk to yourself and instead of telling yourself that something is good/bad/whatever - comment on the effort/situation and see how it could be elaborated/changed. She emphasized to comment on effort (she said that this also had to do with talking to children but I feel like it could also refer to adults as well). It's better to say nothing or make a comment than it is to say good job or provide a compliment.

Taking action without caring about the results - complete detachment from what imagination could become or could be gained Ah that is so mature and I am so immature - but yet anything gained is for all and self is temporary so yes results are not kept forever by relative self but gained for all - which relative self can appreciate that its other selves (which is also itself) can bask in How does one plan for the future if the results are not considered? Is there no future plan? What about wanting to evolve to have change move in a specific direction? But yeah what direction would that be? How would one float about directionless??

escorts are basically the same as chefs. chefs provide the needs of food. escorts provide the needs of sex. they are the most basic needs there are. one could look deeper and find problems with both if they wanted - the food involves the death of an animal/vegetable for the life of the person. the sex is all dandy when there is no bond but it is hard for there to not be some sort of bond in some fashion - which then causes havoc when other partners are involved the chef must lack empathy for the stuff it is killing to make a meal. the escort must lack connection and lack creating a bond with clients in order to keep on going from client to client. the customer must too lack empathy for the meal it has been given by the chef. the customer must too lack the bond creation for the escort it is interacting with. all parties involved have to cut off this empathy/bond/connection thing and that can be hard as we are all connected and search for connections

one just needs one partner. when one goes beyond that and gets many, it is like being greedy if the one partner isn't fulfilling one's needs and they feel the need to get other partners, they may have to do that or may just drop the first partner and find a different one that meets more needs

there are so many things that we do to fulfill stage beige of getting the basic needs and we don't always realize the impacts (stage red) until later. when stage red shows itself, it hurts and then we don't even want to get the basic need met anymore or immediately look for stage blue/green/yellow ways to get the stage beige need

having multiple partners - it is considered okay when we say it is okay and not when we say it is not short term perspective: considered stage beige - getting a basic need met in the now (no long term thinking) long term perspective - considered stage red - will end in pain, not good long term solution, someone will get hurt, not sustainable long term solution - stage blue - one partner only

in absolute terms - it could have been any way - but it is seemed to be so Trust, reliability/stability of other person always being there, not having to compete for attention, health for avoidance of transferring disease, creation of family unit to raise children, more attention to one person so know them better and better able to assist them, easier to make a partnership and have each person take care of their share of contribution, fulfill the need of needing to be listened, guaranteed sexual needs met It just makes it easier. I guess that is why the bible promotes the idea of "marriage" or union between 2 people - as having multiple sexual partners usually doesn't work out ever.. but yet so many people still go for the multiple sexual partners anyway the jealousy and pain of your partner going for someone else and making you not want to be with them anymore - again we could have been programmed to be okay with that but we are not as it is more beneficial (in today's society) to not each person having 1 partner allows more people to have a partner (instead of 1 person getting a lot of the people to themselves) - it is like hogging the resources/money to yourself

agreed. the pain from the consequences of red is could be what it takes to fully be like - no I do not want to be part of this. kinda like how - to avoid eating xyz food - you may have to eat lots of it to see how much it hurts red can have a wild, free, fun, high energy side - but keep it healthy when red activity is the status quo, it can be hard to question yourself and feel guilty because it is so common - but if you are willing to look head on at the guilt that is there and the pain you are causing others, you will feel that pain yourself and use that as a motivator for change red is barbaric, less conscious, less holistic. look at wolves and how they treat their prey - you are a wolf when you are red. red will cause pain every time. if one doesn't notice the pain, they may be in so much pain already that they can't notice it. if your whole society is basically red, assume that everyone is taking advantage of you and look at the ways that you will/can be taken advantage of; assume that none of your secrets are safe; assume that they will turn against you; become as self reliant as you can; be an example for others; try to befriend the stage blue; watch out for lack of honesty; people will not necessarily be stage red in every aspect of their life - it could only be certain slices of the pie

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yeah speaking from my stage redness - it can be best to avoid it as much as possible as it is self destructive and destroys stuff around it. the person may or may not learn eventually - they could keep on making the same mistakes over and over and and still not learn however, everyone has to learn how to get past their own stage red depending on your relationship to the person - you could point out their flaws - but they may blow up at you for pointing it out - but maybe they need that. if you want them to not do stage red stuff - you have to make it clear that you won't let it slide. in the end, they will have to learn on their own that what they are doing is wrong and will have to give it up themselves need firmness but also some consideration for their feelings so that they will feel okay enough to appreciate your input. stage red is very sensitive - it will respect the firmness and cry like a baby when you call it out on stuff.

contemplating stage red stuff from my own personal stage red me - cheating, lying, stealing, destroying, killing, trespassing, hiding, war, egotistical selfishness, narcissists, bullying, some gossiping all the stuff that the bible says not to do anger, wrath shortsighted personal victory at the expense of hurting others and long term negative consequences; lack of consideration for others; impulsive doing without thinking; thinking you won't get caught; not considering/realizing that bad things will happen to you based on your actions (see that bad things happen to others but do not connect the dots that it can happen to them); lack of guilt; have angelic like view of self and does not consider/realize self's bad actions and instead justifies the actions; doesn't question that self should stop doing the bad stuff; gets upset when bad stuff happens to self but not when self does bad stuff to others; lack of responsibility/immature; judges others more than judges self (lack of self awareness) have probably not had enough bad consequences - once the person does - they won't want to be in stage red anymore as it will be too painful to stay there; have not fully acknowledged the pain that they have caused others which then pains themselves - have not fully recognized that their situation would bring them massive guilt (if they see that they are hurting themselves by hurting others); lack of remorse/empathy for others take for granted how much others do for them and don't consider what it would be like if they lost those people lack of gratitude/appreciation feel that self is special and deserves whatever self wants; does not play fair; does not do fair share of work; gets upset when things does not go one's own way; lack of patience and long term thinking and goals feel important. needs a mirror. will suffer from stage red eventually (karma). obsessed with self, power, fame, winning. doesn't feel the need to follow the rules. okay with cheating/lying/etc. to get what one wants.