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Can be useful to do trial sessions with therapists before committing to working with them imo. Find a set of therapists you like from initial consultations. Then do a session or two with each. That way you can get a better understanding of each therapist. Just deciding based off an initial consultation can be pretty challenging imo.

When dealing with a suicidal person I think it’s useful to try and guide them towards seeing a trauma therapist. A therapist who works with modalities like EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, somatic experiencing, hakomi. I also think psychodynamic and gestalt therapists can be useful. But importantly puts on their psych profile that they work with things like CPTSD. ———- I think there are also resources online (you can Google), regarding how to more effectively dialogue with people who express suicidal attitudes. ——- Finally, you are a good guy mate and your friend reaching out to you is a sign of that. But don’t feel you need to pressure yourself to be the one person to lead him out of the darkness. A trained expert is what he needs. All the best mate 👍

I find that an interesting idea. Richard Schwartz (the founder of IFS) was originally a family systems therapist. Which works by doing sessions with whole families. He then created IFS by applying family systems therapy onto the mind.

@jacknine119 Bro I swear this is the biggest life hack. Just active listen to people. In other words just repeat back what they say back to them in order to show understanding. ie say ‘so if I’m understanding you correctly you want xyz’. And keep doing it throughout difficult conversations. I got it from Stephen Covey’s book ‘7 habits of highly effective people’. It’s the 2nd habit ‘Seek first to understand then be understood’. I think it works because it sets an underlying collaborative frame.

@Javfly33 You could do the unified mindfulness (UM) training and the you become a certified UM teacher. UM is Shinzen Youngs organisation. They’ll then advertise you on their website. Then you can get clients and do say hourly sessions with them. You could set limits on your client numbers as you start out and do it part time. That way you can gain experience teaching meditation but with less extreme demands that going full time would entail. Then later down the road you can setup your own full time gig from a place of better experience and understanding.

Nah, still a way off for me. Congrats on the progress though 🥳. It’s a beautiful thing. Maybe you could do with some meditation coaching. If you look up unified mindfulness teachers I think some of them could help you. It’s Shinzen youngs organisation. I’d just recommend voicing what specifically you want help with so you can get a coach with suitable experience. Either way all the best mate

There is too much bs in this world 😂😂😂 ”I believe we are entering a new era of honesty” 😂gtfo of here.

The limit is calling Sadhguru stage blue? If that’s the limit there’d only be like 20 people left on the forum lol

As in through meditation?

Can start a solo hobby like painting, drawing, learn an instrument, reading fiction. Whatever takes your fancy.

Yes I would agree it is hard to understand their lives. And that people are often uncharitable in their arguments about how easy it is to be them.

Not sure how I was trying to sound smart, it wasn't a deep point I was making lol. But if you took it as a sign of me being smart then sure, thank you. Nonetheless, I disagree with your points here. Your argument is too absolute. People could put a lot of effort into a book and not much effort into the summary.

Okay I think I get you. I think when you say 'there is no credibility to our judgment' that is too absolute of a claim. I think that it would be more accurate to argue that there is doubt over the credibility of our judgment regarding some aspects of their lives. Like if you saw Elon Musk dropkick a baby, you wouldn't need to understand what it means to be rich to be able to credibly judge him.

I see. So you are essentially arguing that these sorts of public figures are easily misjudged?

Your earlier argument: “because You have no Idea what they are really like, who they are, what they stand for and what it means to be them and live their daily lives, all You have is information that is biased one way or the other telling You stories about them, there is no credibility.“ That argument would still mean you can’t judge isis for chopping off peoples heads.

I dunno from what I’m seeing the key reason trump won was because of high inflation. Which many blamed on the current presidential party. And the idea that Harris wasn’t seen as a candidate that could enact necessary change.

You could make the same argument for not being able to judge ISIS for judging peoples heads off. Your argument leads to absurdity

I guess my point was that it doesn't matter if the summary is low effort. You can have a book that you put a lot of effort into, and make a low effort into/ summary. A low effort summary isn't a reflection on the effort put into the book.

Oh my mistake. I misread your original comment. I thought you were saying something about him not perhaps speaking from experience regarding his advice. That’s what I was saying I thought similarly on. If it’s all chatgpt then that’s not as much action taken… but still some action taken lol. I say taking action is a positive here because publishing a book is something quite a few people might feel fearful about. Or might want it to be perfect before putting out there. So OP has displayed some courage in putting a book of his out there imo. And also started to build the identity of someone who is courageous and puts himself out there. Which is a positive thing going forward.

Having an AI write you a summary intro of your book isn’t a bad thing. I had some similar reservations but I think it is good to highlight that he has taken action. And that is certainly a positive in my book.

I swear we're living in an Onion video

@Yimpa various places. Mostly from Dan Ingram and Kenneth Folk I think

Can you do a vid on the 16 stages of insight please.

Nice bro

Yeah tbf there are many socially uncalibrated people calling out others for being socially uncalibrated imo. A clear one is when someone calls someone else boring. I think not uncommonly the accusing person is also playing a key part in the interaction not being fun.