Ulax

What are a set of questions that help you get a picture of who someone is? For example, not just deep questions, where you don't even know what job they do. I get frustrated talking to people sometimes because I ask them questions but I come away thinking I don't really understand who that person is still or what archetype or personality type they are. And, PLEASE, no responses of 'just follow your curiosity' or I will roll my eyes so hard they pop out my head ;). Bonus points if you have a question set that escalates nicely in conversation :). For example, starting light, and then getting progressively deeper.

I get what you're saying for sure. You go on social media and you see so many comments around X being a dysfunction or Y requiring healing. As though a healthy human just rides through life on some magic carpet of ease and good vibes. But there are many dumb charismatic people with strong frame. So, these views get perpetuated. At the same time though, there is a fair amount of normalised behaviour that is dysfunctional. But most people aren't being nuanced in their thinking.

I agree with that. I've been really disillusioned by therapy. The profession has a slick culture of avoiding accountability. You criticise a therapist and often "it just takes time" or "The model isn't a fit" or "You have to take responsibility for your own healing". Its a real shame. But at the same time, the profession attracts the more artsy creative feely types. Which has its positives, i.e. empathy. But these are not your star athelete types who constantly iterate on their performance levels, so they continuously get better. And so the standard stays low. I love the competent ones tho. They're stars.

Ok I understand what you're saying now. And my mistake you were giving a perspective more than advice. Though with severe disorders, multiple years of therapy doesn't seem unexpected.

I hate how therapy has become this sort of magical remedy for all emotional problems people experience. Especially in dating. So much advice about how if you're a dude who struggles with women you need therapy. And its mostly nonsense advice.

Dude I get you're coming from a good place and i agree shrooms can be helpful. But you gotta watch it giving advice like that. Taking shrooms whilst having bad mental health issues can be a fucking disaster.

LMAO this chick crazy af... and apparently... incredibly dyslexic. Also why not do what girls do to recognise the crazy dudes

Cybersecurity, Dating, Siege 6. Might go back to Piano

Bro is dating on veteran mode

Yes, being called bad in the life purpose section of actualized.org is my no.1 kink

Appreciate it *Forgives*

Glad you see me as in touch with my feminine side

Tell me again how bad I am 😈

Well... that was quite something to read

That makes some sense to me. For example, in 2000s a girl had the options of her social circle or whoever approached her. But now she has that plus the whole of fucking instagram. So, her options are much higher. However, if it is harder to get hotter girls via cold approach today, I suspect another likely reason is due to where a lot of game is today. Nowadays a lot of game is more natural and less technical. But I suspect the technical game was helpful with the hottest girls because it would allow for value adjusters like dis-qualifiers. Said value adjusters could switch the balance of perceived value in the interaction better.