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@Oppositionless I get you. Thank you for your response.

I would potentially be prepared to lay down my life for values I believe in. That may coincide with fighting for my country. But I wouldn't fight for my country because of the fact that its my country. Though its easy to say now. I imagine my country would put use all manners of manipulation to get me to join. My country is more developed than Ukraine in terms of its dominant ideologies but just look at what they did there in Ukraine to get men to join the military. They restricted any guy from like 18 - something like 60 (not sure exact age) from leaving the country. And forced many to join the army. To me that ought to be a war crime. To enslave your citizen population to fight for you is barbaric. I don't care how it affects the likelihood of military victory.

I would say that it can make someone stronger but it is really a result of the context in which the trauma occurs. There is indeed such a thing as post-traumatic growth, where people can grow from experiencing trauma. However, I would argue that only occurs if the trauma occurs in a certain context and/ or the aggrieved person has certain corrective life experiences. However, its important to look at how demographics tend to respond to things. And the ACE (Adverse childhood studies) consistently point to the conclusion that the more traumas a kid goes through the more likely they are to die significantly younger, have more diseases, worse mental health and health outcomes. Imo, this does not mean that an individual is doomed to a worse outcome. They might get lucky and have corrective life experiences. For example, they make friends with the kid of a trauma therapist who gives them recommendation that put them on a path with much better outcomes.

Haven't seen the video but wouldn't be surprised. Some of these guys have seemingly really min-maxed on what works on apps. I only have nominal experience with min-maxing on dating apps (sorta makes me uncomfortable to just min-max, but am unsure where i stand still on it), and i noticed clear results from it. That nominal experience just involved using a recommended opener.

With pickup I've always found most of the teachers to be corrupt. Not necessarily in terms of the effectiveness of what they teach, but the ethicalness. I really value Leo's How to get Laid series because of this. It helps me how to think about pickup in a conscious way. However, with online dating, I'm not aware of Leo producing content on this. I understand one way to get good would be to buy a product from someone who has studied the percentages of what gets results. However, again they don't talk about what is ethical, or a healthy way to approach it, its just seemingly "DO WHAT WORKS". So, I'd like some perspectives on how to approach online dating consciously. (I want to do it alongside irl stuff)

LOOL Intense pulse light would be an interesting hobby ahahahaha. Nice tho! I like soccer too. My team is Chelsea.

Haha its Indian cricket league! Best cricket league in the world.

I eat snack bar, and some chicken bites for breakfast, with a coffee. For lunch, I am trying to have a chocolate Huel drink, and a relaxing drink. Dinner maybe a sandwich from the shop. Weekends I am a bit of a degenerate when it comes to my diet though hahaha. I laugh but it is important that i get a handle on it.

My team are RCB. Am curious if anyone else follows lol?

I get what you're saying bro. Makes sense. But I really want to make clear that I'm not suggesting you do that. I really don't have the success in this area to be giving out advice, besides some very basic stuff. Makes sense to me logically tho what you say. Wings REALLY helped me get started approaching too. Though, I was watching Leo's how to get laid video last night. And he did advise that if you are someone who is socially anxious, like with most people, that basic social stuff should be the first step. Rather than going from basementmaxxing to some club haha!

Haha fairs. I guess I was being too generalised in my comment. I might try that out actually. I've been struggling to get myself to give it another go. I tried one of Todd V's challenges around not being the first to break eye contact if you lock eyes with a girl when out and about. But have struggled to find a next step that isn't too daunting. But i dunno, i probably just need to get wings lol.

I get you. I was just making the argument that pickup is useful advice for a minority of men. But is too difficult to be a solution for most men.

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I'd say yes, but with two exceptions. Firstly, it just sort of skips the beginner social skills stage. For example, most pickup doesn't start with you going to the local meetup and just practising making friends with others who are also there to make friends. It starts with you going to some bar that can be hella intimidating as a noob lol. And the social skills needed to have good interactions are higher. Its like learning swimming by your dad chucking you into the deep end of the swimming pool lol. Secondly, its all fixated around making you have social skills that help make sex from cold approach more likely. Things like relationships and friendship social skills are not included much. But i dont want to speak too much on this subject. I have struggled a lot with pickup in the past, have done maybe 10 months total of it consistently and am still low on the skill tree. So i dont want to mislead.