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My Hero Academia, cos i watched it with some bros of mine

If you're persuaded by my idea around at least getting a career, then how to cope is by having the vision of this new career and taking consistent steps towards making it a reality. That would probably make your job easier, as your job is no longer your life, but instead a stepping stone. For example, lets say you pick web design career. You could start doing a google web design training certificate in the evenings and weekends whilst not working.

I get and respect your ambitions. However, its important we understand correct how best to bring about the outcomes we want. Its important to rely on things like theories derives from of what has worked in the past. That way we can better avoid well-meaning hypotheses leading to unwanted outcomes. Not saying your idea won't work, just that its important we use to evidence to support it.

@No1Here2c I'd say at least try and get a career. That way becoming more skilled at your work at least leads to increasingly better work, opportunities, finances. Rather than a job where its more dead-ended. To keep it a buck, I'm in my twenties with limited work experience. So, I'm mainly just theorising here. Cal Newport's So Good they can't ignore you book is something I've found interesting re career stuff. All best bro.

You have brought up a taboo topic bro. And, for better or worse, taboo topics attract more intense reactions.

I get where you're coming from re lacking the lived experience. But i think its a mistake to think you have little authority to argue on it because of that alone. If a dude researches the subject then they can be an authority. Its just psychology/ sociology at the end of the day.

Thing is though, we need to know stats for the previous generation to know if anything has significantly changed.

To be fair to you, i missed that at first. That does strike me as something that could reasonably be expected to be a misogynistic video. I will try to watch the videos and see the video's intentions.

Bro come on you are jumping to very negative conclusions about Miguel's intentions. That isn't fair.

I get the scepticism. A fair amount of gender specific analysis online, and in history is driven by emotional and hateful biases. I have scepticism when I see posts on this topic too. For me though, as long as its in good faith, I just see it as a cultural analysis of a societal demographic. The type of men and women a society creates is an important subject, and I see this post as just addressing some negative issues with the type of adult women that western societies tend to produce.

Tbf i only found out about that rule when I was talking about psychedelics in the HG voice chat and got politely told off by an HG mod hahaha

I get you for sure. I see so your issue here is that you aren't sure about how to strike the right balance regarding being heard out by friends, and dealing with things on your own. And what even the healthy balance is. I wish I had more to say on this but I'm not so sure of what to recommend myself. I struggle with emotional regulation myself. Perhaps you could experiment with talking to your friends about it. Maybe they will be honest with you about what their preferences and limits are. Btw, I think its great that you have friends who you are able to be open with and who help you deal with emotions! I would like to have more friendships like that! And even if you choose to lessen how much you lean on friends for emotional support, you don't have to stop completely.

@Judy2 I'd say a mature person would seek mentorship from the top tier of the list in the following short. Then if top tier mentor not available, then seek mentorship from 2nd top tier. And so on. So, in your case, this would mean prioritising finding someone who has had issues with talking about their mental illness and symptoms. Then overcome that. And then they have also helped many others with their issues around talking about their mental illness. So, i would look for books, or videos, or coaching/ therapy from people who fit that criteria. Patrick Teahan on Youtube comes to mind.

I get you disliked the post. What specifically do you take you issue with? If its because the post is talking around making generalised claims about women, then I can understand where you're coming from. But every culture/ society has a somewhat unique socialisation process that lends itself to specific demographics, i.e. women, developing general characteristics/ traits at a specific time.

@Miguel1 What are your views on modern dating? I'd be interested to hear.