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Yet every claim you make here in criticism also relies on further justifications ad infinitum.

@Oppositionless Also, just remembering some other tips. 1. You can practice warming up each time you want to approach. I.e. start by asking for directions, then ask for directions and a personal question, then approach indirectly, then approach directly. So, instead of going for 0 fear to 10 fear, you go from 0 fear to 1 fear, then 1 to 3, then 4 to 6. More likely you'll stick to it imo, and burns you out less. 2. When I started my last cold approach period, i literally had the following goal. To travel a couple hours to a city, went to where i wanted to approach and then went straight back home. I did that once a week for a few weeks. Because I knew it was easy to do, so i was likely to do it. And, it would build the habit of me showing up in the place i wanted to approach. It was a 0 - 0.5 step. Then I gradually introduced things like asking for directions (.5 - 2), then indirect (2- 5), and then direct (5-8).

My advice is about in the moment. I think listening to self talk audio is also useful. And yeah, negative people will disrupt your self talk. But, in my opinion, its just about tipping the scales in your favor. Just outweigh the bad external talk with the good external talk.

I was giving serious replies. But to put it in another way. You are claiming i contradicted myself. In claiming this, you believe your claim "you contradicted yourself" is in some way justified. However, I will just say that whatever justification you have for this claim relies on another justification, which itself relies on another. And so on. Meaning that your justification is arbitrary, and hence your claim is arbitrary. Any challenge you make to my argument I will make this argument in response. And, any challenge you make to any of these sub-point can be met by this response. Because any argument you make pre-supposes that one argument can be more justified than another. I am saying it cannot. When I was asking those questions I was essentially just pointing out that every claim you made relied on a justification, which itself relied on a justification.

What is your justification for this claim?

@Thought Art You're welcome bro. Been really working on my conscious leadership skills lately, so means a lot to get appreciated.

"If its known then you just contradicted yourself". What is your justification for that? (Tee-Hee)

I see. The 'Wait in my mum's basement and let the girls come to me' technique lol

I don't understand

@r0ckyreed You can never know anything definitively. Anytime someone claims something to be true, they try to justify it in some way. But that justification relies on another justification, and so on, and on, and on.... and on.... So, nothing can be known definitively.

@NoSelfSelf What is your actual experience in game? How many approaches have you done?

Work on your self talk. Just experiment and reflect. Try out saying different things to yourself in the moment and see what helps you to approach. Experiment with saying a variety of things to say for yourself. For example, i know 1) "I get to" or "She gets to" thinking helps me. I.e. "She gets to meet me". Or "I get to approach her". 2) "Who the fuck would have the ball to do that?" helps me too.

Someone will ask why their mum died, and noself will says it because they didn't have game

You have my permission

#IStandWithForumLeo

Main reason I use forum is for sense of community. AI can't grant that, at least now.

*Panics in Baghdad*

Religion can be very helpful for red to blue. Just look at violent prisoners who convert to a religion.

Well I guess, in Spiral Dynamics, the idea would be that you focus on all these stage orange successes for a while. Until you hit the limitations of the stage, and start moving more strongly into Green. Main limitations are lack of connection to others, and just overall emptiness of orange success.

I can understand rationality and being scientific as being at yellow and orange. However, I don't understand how you are fitting personal responsibility at yellow.

That sounds like classic orange, not yellow. Though I guess would depend on what you mean by personal responsibility.

@El Rio https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0qh5erbSmk&t=562s&pp=ygUYYWN0dWFsaXplZC5vcmcgdHVycXVvaXNl

I think my dad was pretty emotionally unavailable. Had some positive traits for sure but also was/is a bit f*cked in the head too lmao.

When post long videos, would request we, at least, post a summary of the main argument we are trying to make please.

@QandC Congrats on the addiction progress dude. Sounds like it was a very tough place to be.