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@Eva I'd say actively listen to him, help him identify his emotions, and validate them. Then give your guidance or set boundaries if you want. I think Brazillian Jiu Jitsu could be a useful thing to encourage him into at this point of his life too. From my experience, they are a respectful community but also help young dude's develop that inner warrior and can develop healthy masculine qualities in the young dude. Will be some further role models there for your boy too to model.

Lmao what did you say exactly to make those implications?

I think this whole demonizing 'nice guys' is very misleading. The real issue is with guys with unconscious shame, and narcissistic traits. And I only really see the latter as worthy of criticism. Though I get sometimes these sorts of guys can put the 'nice guy' label on themselves.

I sorta have a theory that some types of ocd are actually ptsd symptoms, i.e. pure ocd

ptsd

@Enlightement Moderate-to-severe disintegration/ fragmentation of the mind.

That's great dude. But where is the growth with that route? For me and many others, cold approach is so prized because of the character it builds

@charlie cho To be fair mate, I note you did talk in your original post about it seeming like a joke, but it being serious for you. I also didn't read the title of your post properly before commenting. My mistake. Death threats are a serious situation. So, I get how my jokes could come across as trivializing your situation dude. On reflection, I would have been more sincere in my reply or not commented at all.

@charlie cho Maybe she just has a dark sense of humor. But she also might be an unhinged maniac lmao. Does sound like she might have a few screws loose upstairs ahaha. If you do end up dating her again I'd do a restaurant dinner. That way she is well fed and doesn't try to eat you. Sincerely tho, blocking probs was the right move imo.

bro is tempting fate lmao

Probs getting gang raped whilst being laughed at by my school bullies. That would not be fun.

@tesseract 369 Yoga nidra, somatic descent https://www.shambhala.com/somaticdescent/

@The Redeemer If you want a recommendation, maybe try: and/or https://www.shambhala.com/somaticdescent/ and/or https://www.choosingtherapy.com/54321-method/

@The Redeemer Hey dude, Sorry to hear this. Sounds to me like dissociation.

@Leo Gura Bit of a naive take imo. There are so many reasons why they might lie about it. For example, they wanted to study some sort of captured technology and not alert rivals to it. And there are numerous instances of guys with top level security clearance lying under oath in american history. Just looking at the NSA spying example from a few years ago.

@Holymoly Here's my take on it. Valid point about many leftists lacking systemic thinking. Though ironic coming from a right winger. Then the writer makes various unevidenced claims, i.e. detroit, voter movement. Pretty childish first paragraph on the last side. Final paragraph on the last side is pretty valid.

@bensenbiz You're welcome mate.

https://www.shambhala.com/somaticdescent/ Somatic meditations, with nuanced instructions on how to get really deep into the felt sense.

@Someone here Mostly owing to my being persuaded by the epistemic regress argument. I.e. every argument works using the premise-premise-conclusion structure. So, for any claim (conclusion) to be sound (true) it must have sound premises. But every premise itself can be seen as making its own claim. So, for any premise to be sound it must have sound sub-premises. Then the same is true for the sub-premises, and the sub-sub premises, and so on forever. The result is that no premise can ever be deemed sound, and consequently no conclusion/ claim can be either. Meaning that any truth claim is essentially arbitrary. Consequently, although I get the irony of making my own truth claim here, any claim to an objective meaningfulness of life is arbitrary. Which is a claim which i think would put me in the camp of nihilism.

@Someone here Imo, awakening and nihilism are very different. Nihilism is the place of the intellect. Awakening, to my understanding, has to be directly experienced I disagree with that. I'd class myself as a nihilist. However, I don't believe human existence is a mistake or something that ought not to be. I'd class those kind of views as more coming under pessimism or anti-natalism categories of thinking. ---- That said, I like your thinking about surrendering as a path to the good life. Interesting thoughts dude.

@Someone here I dunno dude. It just sounds like nihilism in fancy language to me if you don't have the direct experience.

http://thehamiltonproject.blogspot.com/2011/02/yogi-toolbox-detailed-noting.html?m=1

@Someone here Your views expressed in your original post. Are you intellectually theorizing about what you think is the case? Or have you had a direct experience which inspires your views?

@CARDOZZO What is taught in that book? i.e. noting meditation, concentration etc

@CARDOZZO Ye me too. I think there is actually a comparison between Ingram's approach and Kenneth's in the linked article. Seems Ingrams is more about speedy labelling, and Kenneth's more about more complex labelling.